Ok so ive been tlkin 2 this guy, i really liked him but he had a girlfriend. When i found out that he wasnt single i gave him all the abuse i could think of and told her, which i thought was the right thing to do (telling her i mean not the abuse thing, that was just for my satisfaction lmao) When all blew over he started saying he was gonna break up with her, not necessarily for me but because he didnt wanna b with her. (now i look back on it i dunno y i believed him lol)
So, because i was all infatuated and all i went along with it and carried on doing all the things 2 single people that fancy each other do. Now, hes decided its not such a gd idea for him to break up with her (no real suprise there right?!) and im left feeling not only like shit because hes just made a complete idiot out of me but guilty as well because hes gonna go back to this girl and not say a word about wat we did.
When i told her the first time she was really cool about it, she thanked me for being honest and all that. So i thought well she deserves to know (ok so there might have been a bit of spite there but really, i did think i was doing the right thing again) But this time she just said that she really doesnt care!
So im left feeling like shit because....well, who wouldnt! And i feel bad because ive obviously just made this girl feel like shit and all for nothing! She gonna stay with the scumbag and were both gonna look like total fools!

I know i probably deserve to feel like shit for a while, i mean i did go places with a guy that isnt single that not single guys shouldnt go. But really, he didnt say no or anything like that so it wasnt all me!
Theres really not much i can do now other than just leave them both the hell alone. What i want from you guys is reassurance that im not a complete fool and confirmation that leaving it alone is the right thing to do now!

Thanks in advance! All replys are greatly appreciated!

Wow .... all i can say is wow ...

Anyways yea lesson learned hopefully. never mess with people that are taken it never ends well, never trust them either if they say they are going to leave the other one.

Yes leaving them alone is your best option, save face and just dont talk to the little dumb ass or his brainless g/f, if she is ok with him messing around on her then they deserve each other.

Other than that just catalog this experience and next time you find yourself wanting a guy that's taken, just bring this back up and remind yourself of how well it ended.

Thats really true actually, never looked at it that way!
Still feel really bad tho.....i dunno maybe i shd just deal with feeling guilty. It is after all mainly my own fault!
Im just really impatient with these things, i want a quick fix that will make me feel better straight away. I know there isnt one, but i feel like if im not actively doing something to make me feel better i wont!

A rebound relationship is the worse thing you could possibly do if thats what is on your mind at this point. If not then prying into the matter more wont help either, he took you for a ride and your pissed about it with all right to be i am sure, but trying to get even wont solve the problem either.

The Beatles said it best, Let it be.

Well he was kind of a rebound anyway, so wont be doing that again lol! Im planning on seeing my friend today, hopefully talking about it with her will let some of it out so i can stop thinkin bout it!
I definitely wont b prying further, its bad enough that im gonna have 2 come in contact with him when i go out! He goes to the same club as me and its not exactly huge so were bound to bump into each other! But yeah if i pry more i know it wont go well....its just hard to not do it!

Ugh i just wanna beat them both over the head with a stick lmao!!

Revenge is a dish best served cold they say, give yourself time to simmer down and relax. then if your still feeling the urge you can plot something devious out without worrying about your passion and anger getting in the way. >:3

Lol i couldnt do that, i can get really evil when i want to! When it comes to revenge i am definitely better off just leaving it!

You are not the first person to go through this. Many a woman have fallen for the "I'm going to leave her..." line over the years.

It's understandable that you feel horrible about the situation. But you can't hold it against yourself forever.
You'll know better next time a guy tells you that he will leave his girlfriend; you'll know to wait and make sure that he does it first.

No matter how bad you feel about it, you have to remember that he has done so much worse than you. Think about it: you believed that he would break up with her, and avoided him until he told you that; he knew he wasn't going to break up with her. He used you and he's using her and the best thing for you to do is to separate yourself from all of it.

Yeah that very true! Thats also what i intend to do, its just really difficult to stop thinkin bout it! I keep replaying the moment that i read her reply to me and it makes me feel sick! I guess that will pass over time tho....

I'm really sorry that this d-bag manipulated you like that. What's even worse is that his girlfriend doesn't seem to give a rat's behind and so he can get away with treating you ladies like that. Not to turn you completely bitter, but let this be a learning experience that you should be more cautious around guys... Sometimes they suck. But sometimes they're wonderful and I hope you find one of the good ones. You deserve better!

I hate when guys use women for their own "needs"
its retarded
i've never been like that and trust me for every asshole out theres a prince waiting
personally you sound very mature about the situation minus the beating them with sticks lol
and you can do better
dervse better
so the hell with the idiot
he'll look back one day and regret it
while you smile thinking how lucky you were to have lost him