My boyfriend started talking to his ex 2 days ago. They where dating for 8 months and he thought they where going to get married and what not, then she broke up with him and never gave him a excuse. A few weeks later he asked me out, and about 2 months into our relationship he told me he asked me out be cause he didn't want to be a lone, but he is actually falling in love with me. Anyways, she texted him a few days ago saying, "Please convince me not to kill myself." then after he calmed her down they starting to talk and catching up. Then I called, and he ignored my call to talk to her. So I called back a few hours later and he answered, but constantly told me to wait though the conversation so he could talk to her. Our conversation was about her, how they used to have so much fun together, and how much he loved those memories. And at this point I was kinda agitated, but I just ignored it. He usually calls me, and wants to talk to me a long as possible, and now, I'm always calling him and we're not talking that long, because I get annoyed at him telling me to wait every 3 minutes so he can talk to his ex.

And I know his not cheating on me yet, because he just got back from his vacation, but I don't know if there going to turn out to be really good friends, or if he might cheat on me for his ex.

All I can think of that you can do is tell him how you feel. Tell him exactly what you told us about the change in your phone conversations and your uncertainty about whether he and his ex want to be friends or date. Ask him how he feels and go from there.

That's really the long and short of it. Problems can't be solved by simply worrying and doing nothing. You need to get your feelings out into the open and demand that he do the same, and take it from there.

I hate to sound like a doomsayer, but you should definitely start preparing yourself for the actuality that he may choose his ex over you. It won't take you by surprise that way.

I agree with Brinne Tanneson, here. It's a natural impulse to just cling closer when your boyfriend starts pulling away, but doing so while ignoring the problem is a recipe for disaster.

It's painful to have someone slowly start turning colder and colder toward you. It's even worse if they decide to break it off for someone else. If it happens to you, don't hold it against yourself or make it into your problem. This guy is obviously carrying emotional baggage, and if it gets the best of him, it's not your problem.

It's not so much I don't want to talk to him about it, but he can be so sensitive at times, and I don't want it to sound like I'm accusing him of something he may or may not be doing.

Everyone else is right, you need to sit him down and talk to him. It really sounds like he may be at least thinking about getting back with her, otherwise, why would he keep blowing you off to talk to her? You're not being fair to yourself by just letting things go. Maybe he just doesn't realize what he's doing and how he's making you feel. You really need to talk to him and tell him how you feel and then, go from there.

If you don't want to sound like you're accusing him, there's just a certain language you need to use. Don't say "I know you want to get back with your ex girlfriend" or even "you've been blowing my off to talk to your ex girlfriend". Instead you could say "I feel like we haven't been able to talk as much lately, and I really miss you. I know that you've started talking to your ex again lately and I want to know how you feel about the whole situation." That encourages him to talk about it without feeling like you're trying to corner him.

I know that using "I feel" instead of "you" sounds kind of lame, but the truth is, it works for me all the time. Using a calm tone really helps too. People automatically get defensive when people start to demand explainations from them in loud or extremely emotional way.

Well i'll talk to him tonight after he gets home from work. . But I think this is going to start a arguement, but i'll talk like juniper_silver said to talk and not say you. Thank you for helping =].

Good luck with your talk. Communication is key in any relationship, even if what you want to communicate might be a little upsetting at first.

Fiarra has it right. Often times the most difficult things to talk about are the most important because they deal with the fundamental issues that can make or break a relationship if left untended.

Be honest with him. Tell him you're getting concerned about his sudden infatuation with her.

TBH... from what it seems, she is using him for her convenience.. dumps him and doesn't provide a reason? (must have been for a dumb reason or for another guy). And then texts him asking him to convince her not to kill herself?

A lot of people might hate me for saying this, but people who say stuff like "Convince my not to kill myself" are just looking for attention, sympathy, and are least likely to kill themselves. She was playing damsel in distress. That was her reeling him in. And it seems like now shes almost got him back.

Just talk to him. But like the others have said, don't accuse or attack, but show your concern.

Tell him your concerns and ask how he feels about the situation.