So here's the dealio: I'm trying to figure out if this boy I'm sort of seeing thinks of me as just a hookup, or maybe someone that he can actually... yknow. see himself with. I need some opinions.

SIGNS THAT POINT TO JUST A HOOKUP:
1.) We met at a party. We were both duh-runk.
2.) Nearly every time I see him we end up doing... er... stuff.
3.) I've never been on a legit date with him. Tonight he was supposed to take me out for my birthday but then he asked if one of our other friends could come along. What was I supposed to say? I didn't want to look like a bitch.
4.) He asked if we were getting each other christmas presents. I want him to WANT to get me a christmas present. Not just get me one because I'm getting him one.
5.) He sometimes pesters me for naked pictures.

SINGS THAT MAYBE HE LEGIT LIKES ME:
1.) He's talked to me every day since we met. (usually via text.)
2.) He's driven home from college to see me. (Its a couple hours away)
3.) He pays for my food when we eat out together.
4.) He holds my hand/ puts his arm around me in public.
5.) He made out with another girl at a party once when I wasn't around, and actually told me about it, and told me how he felt like a total asshole about it.
6.) He asks my friends what I say about him.


WHAT THE HELL WHAT THE HELL WHAT THE HELL.

I really don't think he's being serious enough. Don't let my opinion sway you though, it's hard to judge people, especially with only so much info >.>

legit signs;
#1 and 2 and 4: I don't want to shoot him down, but, if someone's lonely, they can do all that, especially if you feed them the attention they want/need :\
# 5: If he made out with another girl, but told you about it later, that's great, he has a conscience! Somewhere. But it wasn't working when he was making out with her. Thats bad.
#3: Some guys just have this chivalrous attitude about them, it's a good thing. But more of a trait, than a sign I think.
#6: Curiosity is good, it means he cares. But we don't know how *much*

My signs point to -> Hookup.

Like Veris said, it's really hard to judge when we don't know him. I don't have a strong opinion on whether it's a hook up or not. One way to get a better idea is by considering what the subject matter is that he usually brings up in texts, on dates, etc. Is it all about sex, or does he seem to show a genuine interest in you besides in a sexual way?

And I think 1, 2, and 4 are good signs. Why does anyone ever talk to anyone else besides that they're lonely? In my opinion that's not a bad thing, it's normal.

How long have you been together? I mean, I would ask my boyfriend if we would exchange Christmas presents too if I'd only met him a week or two before, because I wouldn't want to make him feel embarrassed by giving him stuff when he hasn't gotten me anything. Besides, I wouldn't have a clue what to give after two weeks. >.>
For the rest, I agree with Veris. He doesn't really sound very serious to me.

I'm inclined to agree with the rest of them... thus far... he doesn't seem very serious. Now this MAY change. But honestly I'd just ask him upfront if he wants a real relationship or not. That's usually the best way to go about these things because it takes away any lingering doubt.

Thanks you guys. You're very helpful. You're right, he doesn't seem very serious. And Volucria, to answer your question, I met him about two months ago.

It's just weird having someone that you're not even dating to monopolize you attention and affection like he monopolizes mine. I guess I'll just do my best not to get too attatched and see how things go from here. I don't wanna be like "HEY BUSTER. BE MY BOYFRIEND OR NEVER TALK TO ME AGAIN. CHOOSE!" I think the only thing I can do is wait for further developments..

I kind of sounds like he likes you but, is more interested in hooking up than a relationship. He may also be trying to find out how much you like him to see what he can get away with. It's too hard to tell what he is really up to because, like everyone else said, we don't know him. If you want to keep seeing him, more power to you but, I wouldn't get too attached if I were you.

He seems a little unsure on how he feels.
I would give him time and wait it out for awhile.
By reading by hook-up and boyfriend parts.
It does seem like he may possibly want to go out with you, but it quite ready yet so he may be taking it slow.

You could talk to him or write a note about it and see what he may think of the situatiom. He may not know that you are thinking about this or may not realize that you feel confused. Atleast then if he knows then he can clear your mind of worry and doubt, also getting it out in the open.

Good luck.

Originally Posted by FeyonaSaibre

I'm inclined to agree with the rest of them... thus far... he doesn't seem very serious. Now this MAY change. But honestly I'd just ask him upfront if he wants a real relationship or not. That's usually the best way to go about these things because it takes away any lingering doubt.

YES! I cannot express enough how important communication is in ANY relationship. A simple conversation can alleviate so much doubt and answer soooo many questions in your mind. I totally agree with Feyona in this situation. There does seem to be some interest and you have known him for about 2 months now so go ahead girl. Time to clear the air and get those questions answered. You know what to do ;)

I'm with the rest of them on this one. You really really need to talk to him and get it out there. Nothing like misunderstanding to seriously turn things pear shaped!

I'm thinking people posting haven't had a relationship that only is sexual before.

To me it looks as if he likes you, but that the relationship (surprise, surprise) is unorthodox.

What it really boils down to is if you like the status of the relationship so far, and if you don't like these vagueries, if you like the guy. Then it would be worth feeling around for some sort of talk.

You don't really have ever needed to go out on a "legit" date. If he has paid for you, he probably considers that a date.