View Poll Results: Which are you?
Sadistic. 22 15.28%
Masochistic. 31 21.53%
Both, my friend! ;D 48 33.33%
Neither .__. 43 29.86%
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#51
Old 02-13-2009, 12:44 PM

I'm sadistic without doubt. Even my teacher says so e<e

Me: *Pokes at something* Poke, poke poke. *Suddenly gets violent and stabs instead* Stab stab stab!
Teacher: *Laughing* I think we have a sadist in this class.

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#52
Old 02-15-2009, 03:16 PM

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Choose which questions you will answer wisely -__- <-- serious face.
Which side are you on, if any?
Have you ever admitted this to anyone and been horribly turned down?
Ever been embarrassed by this?
When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
What are your morals on this?
... anything else, you feel would make good conversation-matter ....

Answers (in order):
~ I am sado-masochistic... from personal experience, and from boyfriend's teachings... O________O
~ To my boyfriend, and good thing he said he was sadistic, so... XD
~ Well, sometimes, especially if being masochistic meant being inferior to others...
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~ When I was miserable and enjoyed hurting myself (emo?? O___O XD) and when I was angry at someone and fantasized hurting/torturing/kililing them... >:D
~ It's a psychological issue, and those with severe cases (like me, seriously...) should ask a psychiatrist for help... :|

~Elsa

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#53
Old 02-16-2009, 04:02 AM

I'm neither. Giving pain just I couldn't do it. I'd probably freak out or something. And I hate pain so I wouldn't like to receive it. I'm scared of needles for pete's sake! XD

Well I can see men being sadistic because they usually are the abusive ones in a relationship. They want to be in control, too much testosterone.... women are masochistic because they're stupid and put up with it, or at least the ones that don't come out and tell some one they're being abused....

to sum it up: men are pigs XD

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#54
Old 02-16-2009, 04:11 AM

I'm neither. Honestly, I was pretty ignorant about that whole world until I met my current roommate. I knew it existed before, but I really only knew a vanilla version of it.

Strictly speaking, I am neither, but I do toy with the idea of some of the general notions. There's just something about dominating and being dominated that I find appealing. Then, I do suppose that it does actually exist in most normal relationship to a certain degree. The ideas amuse me, but the practice doesn't.

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#55
Old 02-16-2009, 04:45 AM

join the dark side psyrien, we have cookies (and ropes and collars, and black leather).

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#56
Old 02-16-2009, 04:48 AM

........o_0 Never! ...I'll stay on the light side and just buy the cookies, collars, and leather from you guys. xD

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#57
Old 02-16-2009, 05:51 AM

This is definitely an interesting topic. I voted neither simply because...I don't think I go either way, but I do believe that I am definitely more sadistic than masochistic. I don't like pain, I hate it and I hate getting embarrassed. But, making others feel kind of inferior, I like it. And slapping people? I don't mind it at all. I have nothing against making people feel embarrassed or uncomfortable as long as I know it's within boundaries. I would never want to whip someone or destroy someone's self-esteem, but making people scream (like a girl) and twitch and stuff is fun.

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#58
Old 02-16-2009, 07:43 AM

I guess I'm a little more on the masochistic side. I've told a few guys I've been with some fantasies of mine. They tried to play along, but none of them were really into it. My current boyfriend said that he said he loved me too much to hurt me, and that he couldn't bring himself to hurt me while having sex, even if I asked to be hurt.

[MATURE STUFF] We were getting it on this one time, and I was having trouble getting off. So I asked him to put his hand around my neck. He obliged, but didn't get what I was aiming for, so I asked him to squeeze tighter. And he did, just slightly, but in no way did it block my air passage, because I could still breathe normally. It worked enough for me to get off, but in no way still in satisfy my desire for roughness. [/MATURE STUFF]

Afterwards, I did get embarrassed a bit, because he commented on it while we were cuddling, "What was with the hand around your neck? That was weird." It was like it completely flew over his head. Argh.

So, I've never done whips or chains or masks or collars, I'm not into that side of masochism. I like the rough sex and serious RP non-con, name calling, marks on my body and the occasional tied to the headboard kind of thing.

I plan to stay with my current boyfriend for a long time, I think he's the one. Eventually he's going to break down and start playing the dominant one before I start beating his ass into cooperation. :sweat:


EDIT: OH, two more questions to be answered.

I'm a girl and I'm bisexual. I realized I was a bit masochistic when I was with my girlfriend at the age of 14. Though, of course, I didn't know at the time what to call it or what we were doing. So does that actually qualify for realizing? I dunno.

And morals! I think S&M and all of the activities are fine, even the super hardcore ones. However, you should have a safe word, or some other signal, and you must trust your partner/s to stop when needed. It shouldn't be used as a tool to mentally scar someone for life. I think the end result of S&M is pleasure and being sexually satisfied at the end of the giving and receiving of pain.

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#59
Old 02-16-2009, 04:02 PM

I personally find nothing morally wrong . . as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult :yes:


I've never played much either way- my sex life is actually pretty vanilla . . . but if it were to go any other way I think I would prefer to be dominated, which sucks because my fiance also prefers to be told what to do :XD

Sometimes he likes to pin me - and it's fun to fight back - but that doesn't get to happen often :(

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#60
Old 02-16-2009, 04:48 PM

Cemie wants to answer! <3

I'm the M to anyones S, Why? Because it's just the way i am and some under stand that. I show everyone someone whose powerful and strong willed, But get me alone and I'm as weak as any god could be. My nickname happens to be pitbull. ^^ Protective and willing to please, will always come back no matter how much you abuse me.

I have admitted this and had to explain it a few times, But no. No ones turned me away like some baby on prom night!

Embarassed? Sometimes.. It's kinda hard to explain how i got some of the marks, but luckily everyone knows i'm either wrestling or playing sports.

I relized i was an M at the age of fourteen. Back when i was still discovering who i was and learning more about myself.

Morals: Do what ye wants, Just don't cause perma damage. All wounds should heal.

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#61
Old 02-16-2009, 05:26 PM

I can understand the marks being a bit embarrassing, it took me a while to not care about mine, but slowly I got use to it.

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#62
Old 02-17-2009, 03:16 AM

CAN I JUST SAY, FIRST OF ALL, THAT I ABSOLUTELY ADORE THE DOMINATRIX GEAR IN THE EVENT STORE LOL.


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#63
Old 02-17-2009, 06:01 AM

yes you can. and the masocistic stuff is cool too

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#64
Old 02-17-2009, 07:00 AM

In Japan, they use the terms "S" and "M" without the sexual connotations.

For instance, an "S" is someone who would rather inconvenience others than themselves. For instance, if they forgot their pen, they might take their friend's, even if it's their friend's only pen.

An "M" is someone who would rather be inconvenienced themselves than inconvenience others. For instance, if their friend forgot their pen, but they only had one pen, they would give their only pen to their friend.

I'm an M to an extreme, in that situation.

But sexually, that sort of thing...I'm just not into it. I'm sorry. I don't have any problem with people who are into it, but the idea of participating myself creeps me out.

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Old 02-17-2009, 11:59 PM

I'm a bit of a masochist... Not much of one, but it's definitely there. Not that this has played any part in my relationship with my boyfriend, but... Yeah. :sweat:

As far as other people--as long as it's all consensual, it's their deal! Sure, if they like it, they should go for it.

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#66
Old 02-18-2009, 06:40 PM

I liek the japanaese version ,cause I still end up being M over S by those terms, I'd rather help others and hurt myself than the other way around.

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#67
Old 02-22-2009, 09:20 PM

XD Oh, I don't know. I think I find myself leaning towards masochist.

While you might not tell from my outgoing and loud personality, when it comes to sexuality I am far more submissive. I would very much enjoy to be subdued and controlled in the bedroom if it was the right kind of person. When I think about things like my first kiss, I always think I'll tell the other person: "If you try to get me head on, I'll resist. You'll have to be clever and surprise me." 8D

Heheh, I would love to have an assertive partner. Not in the bad way, just someone who could confidently lead.

EDIT: As for the Japanese thing, that's me as well. I have a tendency to give away things I need. Like... I give people my coat to wear, even if it's dead winter and my fingers are going numb. D:

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#68
Old 02-22-2009, 09:33 PM

aww, Merrow, you remind me of myself for a while. i was really head strong, but wanted a submissive relationship, I didn't get one for quite a while though.

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Old 02-22-2009, 09:39 PM

I don't have an opinion on any of this, But for me I think I would want someone more assertive in the bedroom than myself. the person would have to be willing to listen to me though.

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Old 02-22-2009, 09:42 PM

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aww, Merrow, you remind me of myself for a while. i was really head strong, but wanted a submissive relationship, I didn't get one for quite a while though.
If it's a good relationship, I can wait. <3

Looking for an assertive lady to occupy my time? I can only hope. X3

Oh but yeah, that's me to a T! I'm quite headstrong, and I like to be heard socially, but in private with another person, I'd rather just do what they want to do. I'd be completely content with that.

EDIT: Actually, a recent guilty pleasure has been reading this series. It's actually pretty good.

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Old 02-22-2009, 09:44 PM

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Which side are you on, if any?
Have you ever admitted this to anyone and been horribly turned down?
Ever been embarrassed by this?
When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
What are your morals on this?
Mostly Sadistic, but I sometimes turn to Masochism. It depends.
No I haven't, the only person I told is my lover, and we both enjoy it.
Nope.
When I became sexually active xD
To each their own, I see no harm if both people are enjoying it and not literally beating the hell out of each other.

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Old 02-22-2009, 09:57 PM

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Which side are you on, if any?
I'm a bit of both. I like to both dominate and to be submissive.
It depends on my mood to be honest, some days I want to be "beat" and others I want to control and be the assaulter.
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Have you ever admitted this to anyone and been horribly turned down?
Well, 'horribly' turned down isn't what exactly happened, it just caused an awkward silence.
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Ever been embarrassed by this?
When I was younger yes. Very. I used to keep my sexual turn ons to myself thinking that if any one found out I'd be outcast-ed.
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When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
I found out which one I was I think last year, my friend was talking about it with me on MSN and he explained to me what it was.
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What are your morals on this?
Dunno ellmo.

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#73
Old 02-22-2009, 10:09 PM

hmm, interesting link, I will be sure to check it out. and being patient is important in finding a good person, it is hard cuase sometimes you get really lonely.

I find this thread very amusng for stories too.

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#74
Old 02-22-2009, 10:49 PM

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Which side are you on, if any?
I suppose I'm neither but some nibbling and scratching is pretty nice. Maybe some spanking on the side ;D

But never enough to draw blood or leave a bruise.

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Have you ever admitted this to anyone and been horribly turned down?
I'm a cherry but in my dreams I'm NEVER turned down.

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Ever been embarrassed by this?
No. Its nothing extreme. I don't want to hang people from spiked things and beat them with blunt objects.

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When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
*blush * I was watching a movie ( not porn ) and it was soo hot and I bit down on my arm and I liked it.

The wave of pleasure that went through me was amazing. So...yes. I don't remember the movie but I always feel like ..."Biting my arm " when I watch Unfaithful.

I have a thing for accents.


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What are your morals on this?
Do it.

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... anything else, you feel would make good conversation-matter ....
I don't know how much more detail I could go into...

I like accents. Anyone ever watch the Series Rome? ...Good God.

I like Redheads too.

..ok...I'm stopping now....


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#75
Old 02-22-2009, 10:59 PM

What do you call a person who is nether submissive or dominant?. Just a person who likes to stand up for themselves and not control other people.

 



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