View Poll Results: Which are you?
Sadistic. 22 15.28%
Masochistic. 31 21.53%
Both, my friend! ;D 48 33.33%
Neither .__. 43 29.86%
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#101
Old 03-05-2009, 04:51 AM

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Unless enjoying being bitten counts as masochistic i don't think i'm either....


I am totally with you on that one. 100%

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#102
Old 03-05-2009, 08:42 AM

I agree with Uzura, it's kinda uncomfortable to share such things with my mother... we are close and all but... anything but that. XD

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#103
Old 03-05-2009, 08:54 AM

I'd have to say both, in a way. I'm a huge sadist, typically the pain of others doesn't bother me, and I'd prefer to be on the giving end if any. But I'm also a masochist in the sense that I really do desire to be beaten or humiliated in that way. Pretty odd, seeing as I shy away from pain in any other situation. Very afraid of it, you see.
But with the sadism itself, I don't mind at all, typically if the other party doesn't mind it, being a masochist themself. There are exceptions to that, however. Such as when I dislike a person. If I do, I will commit anything to see and hear them writhe in pain. I would quite enjoy it.

Hello Menewsha! You are the first to be graced with me admitting this. Though I have told some people about my sadistic side, I don't normally admit the masochistic part.

On the masochistic side, I am embarrassed. I tell people I know I am afraid of or dislike pain. Yet if you could get me alone, I would be like a starving dog wanting it. It really is an odd thing. I guess it's the voyeurism of being in public if/when it happens that bothers me. I'm not really an exhibitionist. Never really have been a show offy person. Especially around strangers. In public.
Online is a different story, but eh, we wont go there.

Not really sure on when I realized it. It's just something that's developed until now. I guess.

I don't really have any conflicts about it with my morals. I am the type of person who can let just about anything go if I want to. So if you're an S&M type person, and you were to admit it to me. I wouldn't hold a grudge or anything against you. I would just keep on with you as the way we would have.
Though I'm prone to asking tons of questions. Haaah.

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#104
Old 03-06-2009, 10:56 PM

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Which side are you on, if any?
I'm on both. I like recieving pain and causing it, lol.
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Have you ever admitted this to anyone and been horribly turned down?
Yes, I've admitted it to people, no turndowns. I hang out with a bunch of weirdos so that's nothing compared to them. Lol. My boyfriend is the same way so nothing to worry about there.
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Ever been embarrassed by this?
Yes, actually. Lol.
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When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
[COLOR="FF99CC"I read a violent fanfic of inuyasha and kagome wear inuyasha would beat and humiliate kagome and she'd enjoy it and the whole time i'm sitting there going wtf? And then at the end I erm..realized I liked it.

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What are your morals on this?
I think it's perfectly fine. It stays in the bedroom so I don't care. Heh.

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#105
Old 03-07-2009, 07:02 PM

Alot of people are willing to do lighter things in their mind, but not so happy with stuff that is heavier. though lighter versus heavier is determined by the person. for some, spanking is light., some consider chains to be light, some consider biting not part of this, some do, it is all an interpretation of how far someone is willing to go and consider light that determines how fine they are with it happening in a relationship that decides it.

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#106
Old 03-07-2009, 11:59 PM

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Which side are you on, if any?
I highly lean toward
masochistic but my boyfriend, although he is more sadistic, has a masochistic side. I can... help him with that a bit, which I owe to my submissive-ness, but it is a tad uncomfortable for me.
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Have you ever admitted this to anyone and been horribly turned down?
The only person who really knows about it is my boyfriend who embraced it totally and even explored it a bit himself. <3
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Ever been embarrassed by this?
Yes, when I first started talking to my boyfriend.
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When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
When I really started thinking about it, I thought I may be and then I knew when I tried a few things.
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What are your morals on this?
Morals? Like, how I justify it? It's all done in a safe, sane, and consensual manner.

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#107
Old 03-12-2009, 05:39 AM

so recently I've been having issues with my S and M relationship cause my muscles aren't at all relaxed cause I am having minor back problems. Anyway biting hurts, so just as I agree some pain like thing can be fun, it is dangerous cause jsut the difference of tense versus of pain and pleasure.

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#108
Old 03-14-2009, 03:41 AM

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Which side are you on, if any?
I am on neither side. If I had to pick either I would say I am a masochist Physically, I don't enjoy pain, I embrace it. A girl I once loved is a masochist and I couldn't put up with it so I left that shit.
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Have you ever admitted this to anyone and been horribly turned down?
Yes I admit it everyday. I am neither S or M
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Ever been embarrassed by this?
No..I'm like 90% of humans right?
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When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
Never
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What are your morals on this?
This one I can answer. I think they're both very odd.I had a masochist girlfriend and I am neither one so it was a big pain. I think a masochist can only be with a sadistic.

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#109
Old 03-18-2009, 01:02 AM

aww, I don't think masocist's can only be with sadists or the other way, butthat is cause I am a masocist and have been in normal relationships. yes there is stuff missing, yes i have to hold back from getting pain, but a regular person works well to.

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#110
Old 03-26-2009, 04:32 AM

Sooo. Curious for advice--curious enough to ask. How would one recommend telling a person's significant other that they might, just might, have masochistic tendencies? (Without the person's not-at-all-sadistic significant other freaking out.)

In fact, would you say that it's even worth bringing up if you're fairly certain that the other person wouldn't take it well?

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#111
Old 03-29-2009, 05:43 AM

I would say bring it up casually, somehow but if they would not take well to it, it might be better off not being mentioned seriously at all.

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#112
Old 03-29-2009, 06:18 AM

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Sooo. Curious for advice--curious enough to ask. How would one recommend telling a person's significant other that they might, just might, have masochistic tendencies? (Without the person's not-at-all-sadistic significant other freaking out.)

In fact, would you say that it's even worth bringing up if you're fairly certain that the other person wouldn't take it well?
I'm going to presume you are a girl for the purpose of this response. For the most part my advice isn't suggestible if you are a guy. If you are a guy you should tread very lightly around the idea of admitting to a girl you are masochistic. Admitting you are sadistic is a different matter.

For a girl you have you realize most guys even if they are open to the idea simply don't get what your limits are. To get a guy to act more sadistic there are two paths I'd recommend taking. The first thing I'd suggest is to have a chat with him about his fantasies. You can pretty safely presume he will some sort of schoolgirl/cheerleader fantasy or some other vanilla rubbish. Do a trade with him, one of his fantasies for one of your own. One of the more commonly heard fantasies for a woman is the one where the girl is taken from behind without ever seeing her lovers face, done with a mild rape overtone to it. It shouldn't be too hard to get a guy to do something along those lines simply to get him to open up to how he feels about the situation. Make sure you both discuss how you felt about each others fantasies afterwards or there is no point.

The second suggestion to get a guy into it is to take the common spank and actually make him do it properly. He needs to realize that if he doesn't leave a mark he is doing it wrong and may as well not even spank you at all. After that making him bite you, or introducing him to mild choking will start to stir some thoughts.

To be honest most men are predisposed to be sadistic, but we are taught from a young age to cherish women, and hence the idea of causing them harm feels wrong and impossible to enjoy. Once your man realizes you are enjoying it his alpha male instincts should kick in and he should start to feel a sense of power from it. At that point you can push him further into what you truly want him to do - he might even get a little inventive himself.

If your guy still refuses to let out the alpha-male inside, then I very much doubt he ever will. Don't be afraid to try anyway.

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#113
Old 03-29-2009, 07:12 PM

Thanks for both of your responses. :O (I am a girl, for the record, and one of those sounds like it could work.)

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#114
Old 03-29-2009, 10:57 PM

Keep us updated if you have any success :)

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#115
Old 03-31-2009, 03:32 AM

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Which side are you on, if any?
Have you ever admitted this to anyone and been horribly turned down?
Ever been embarrassed by this?
When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
What are your morals on this?
I'm kinda wishy-washy. I love to bite, scratch, to see blood well on the skin of my lover. I also like it all done to me. Just as I am wishy-washy with submission and dominance. I enjoy either way and can take whichever side to please the one I am with.

Not really, since it's a common thing and my friends bite each other for fun. The loud moan kinda gave me away the first time one of my guy pals did it without warning. They already knew I was weird. What's one more piece?

I was never told it was wrong, and therefore it never occured to me that others might think it wrong.

I was reading and found a scene discussing it and realized "...Hey... that has a name...?"

I think every person has a right to be happy and that any part of society that discourages the path to happiness is just stupid and pointless.

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#116
Old 03-31-2009, 05:22 AM

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It really depends on who I'm with. When I'm with a guy I tend to be very massochistic.....although when I'm with a famale I tend to definately be very sadistic. Although my current relationship throws a loophole in that theory because my boyfriend makes me want to be sadistic.
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Well I'm used to being horribly turned down about my life choices. I am a Bi female.....and well this causes the straight people too look on me with contempt for the lesbian tendencies.......and the gay/lesbian race tend to think I'm insincere....and they also look at me in contempt.......throw my massochism/sadism into the mix and we have one hot mess.....
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Ever been embarrassed by this?
Embarressed no.....not at all but I have learned to keep my thoughts to myself.....it causes less problems that way.
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When/how did you realize that you were either S or M?
hmmmm....good question, different people have made me realie different things.
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What are your morals on this?
As long as its all in good fun and doesn't go further then that then no harm done right.

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#117
Old 03-31-2009, 05:26 AM

Thanks--it went very well. :O

*feels relieved*

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#118
Old 03-31-2009, 07:07 AM

I feel like I have posted here before....

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#119
Old 03-31-2009, 03:51 PM

Both, I'm a tool, and sometimes I don't mind being used, but sometimes this causes me to want to take control and reverse the roles.

Not in a sexual matter though, that's not applicable to me.

 



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