I sort of feel that way about someone. I get a little depressed when I don't talk to them for a long period of time. Our relationship has just grown so much that I've become attached. I mean, we're just friends and I'm totally cool with that. But I feel if we ever stopped talking, there would be something missing completely from my life that would keep me wondering and worrying. This person means more to me than they even know. And it would break my heart if we ever stopped talking. :gonk: It would just take forever to get over. I may not get over it at all.

*hugs Suona* :gonk:

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I totally agree about most Mormon girls. I mean, not all are like that, but they pretty much end up as wild people after high school and whatnot. It's probably because of the intensive religious sheltering that they grow up with.

I don't think the church can actually separate a couple though. They can threaten excommunication though. The values the church practices are not bad. They strongly advice families to practice family values. But the foundation of the church and everything else is just...very cultish.

atm.... am this church which the leaders believe that once you can speak in tongue you are practically a fully christian :roll: I have been a christian ever since i was born and both of my grandparents from my dad's and mum's side are pastors and of course i would not believe what that church said
kinda hate the way they teach D<

Mhmm. If I didn't let them slip away already. lol
I'm not in a rush, really. Just missing him.

Yeah, thats never good. Another reason why I hate religion.

@ Nifer - Thats exactly how it is with him. He pratically became a part of me and I feel at a loss without him around. I use to smile when I got up to see our conversations from when we fell asleep. And I'd text him "Good morning, sunshine" all the time in the mornings and what not. He just kind of brightened up my life a little and made it a lot more bearable when I was going through a rough time. Nothing really mattered because I'd still have him there to cheer me up.

*clings* T^T

OMG YES. *points to you and then to me with a sad look on her face* That is how I feel about my friend. :gonk: :cry: I am so sorry that he hasn't contacted you though, I really am. I definitely understand how you feel right now. I would assume that my relationship with my friend is like yours is now, I'd be too afraid to try and contact him for fear he might ignore me. Perhaps he'd think I'm annoying or something. I already worry about that already, so I try and give him his space.

I cannot tell him he means so much to me, because then he'd probably just stop talking immediately.

Oh boy. I'm not hear to turn your problems into mine. But just know, I can relate to how you must feel right now. And I honestly, REALLY hope things turn out well for you and him. :heart:

Lisa, you're not alone. Although, the part about speaking in tongue is just weird. o___O

@Jen - Yeah i was stalking the mene FB page and realized you had posted on there. And i was like [email protected]#$%^&*!! Jenjen! ^^

@Su - OHHH that's right lol. Sorry for the confusion.
Ahh i see ... Well fair enough Su. I dunno, i guess if he doesn't reply and stuff then all you can do is let him go. I know it's tough. Have you tryed apologizing over the stuff that happened?

Awesome, Roachi! I need more friends on there. I have like...eight or so? :lol:

Lols ... i don't have many friends either, i always get randoms trying to add me that i don't know, it's weird 0____o. There must be another me out there xD.

roachi lea just commented on jen's fb status :XD
add lea? D:

gah i dont understand how to do this assignment :gonk:

I actually have two FB accounts. One for rl friends and family and my secondary one (the one you added) for my online buddies and to play the game application thingymabobs. :lol:

What is your assignment, Lisa?

@ Nifer - I think what gets me the most is that feeling of abandonment. I think i'll probably have issues for the rest of my life because of those two. Haha. It just that they say so many good things and how much they care and everything, but they seem to let me go so easily. Just really makes me sit down and wonder if any of it means anything, you know?

And thats totally what its like! @[email protected];;
I want so bad to chat with him, but I dont want to annoy him or anything. He says that I could never annoy him or bug him, but it doesn't make me feel any better. And I always feel like saying that I miss him, but then I feel like that makes me sound desperate. Uugh. D:

@ Roachi - Yeah, I tried to talk it over with him once a long while back, but I think that didn't end well either.

Aah. In fact, I saved the first conversation that we had after our fight.

Him: my biggest thought was your happiness. i know that you wouldn't be happy with someone like me
Me: What do you mean by someone like you?
Him: like, my personality
Me: I love your personality :/
Him: and obviously, the religion gets in the way

Him: i had been thinking about things for a while. and all of the things we'd said. you never really like the idea of a younger guy, and hated the idea of being left alone while i went to church. and you never seemed to want kids, and it's something i've been planning on. i didn't think it's a relationship you could be happy with. i'd gladly make the sacrifices, but i wouldn't want you to do that for me
Me: If thats what you want. I'll respect your wishes
Him: but i want you to know that it had nothing to do with you being atheist. i just genuinly thought about our compatibility, and things just didn't seem to add up. you're an amazing girl, and you'll have a lot of other opportunities come along, and those guys will be able to make you a lot happier than i could, and that's all i hope for

And then he pulled the whole "its not you, its me" thing.

suo: OMG ... D< you should ask him straightforward if he actually using the religion and whatever excuse to just reject you? I just dislike him now... :?

jenni: its about a case for international marketing course am taking. I just dont understand why do we have to have a min of 10 references for this assignment as the case itself is from a textbook grrr

There was a lot more to the conversation, too, but it'd be long and some would probably be a bit confusing. He said that it had mainly to do with the fact that we live so far away. He decided to go into law, so he changed his mind about coming here and is going to do the 8 years of school, plus his mission, which adds on 2 years.

Him: i got extremely attached to you, and it really hurt when i thought about how incompatible we are
Suona: I'm sorry
Him: i tried my best to reason through things, but nothing seemed to work out. In the end, i figured it would be even harder if we continued with things. with every day, it would've only made it harder when things didn't work out. though it may not seem like it now, i think it's for the best. it's devastating right now, but it'll bring a whole lot more happiness in the end
Suona: Just as long as you're happy
Him: i'll try my best. i expect you to do the same. you'll just have to trust me, that it's for the best

Bah. I'm bawling now after reading back through the whole conversation. I keep forgetting that its there.
And I wasn't very kind to him. I think i'd been bawling through that whole conversation, too, and was just so angry about the whole thing. I wanted to explode and tell him off or tell him it'd all be okay or something. I just didn't want to let him go and wanted to make excuses for how it could work or anything, but it just all seemed like it was my fault and i'd ruined something special and lost someone close to me.

@Leasfy - LOLs i just realized your Australian ... :P

@Jen - Understandable lol. I can't be bothered with two accounts xD.

@Su - Well i can understand where he's coming from, and its quite good of him to be so open with you. Because in all honesty what is the point of being in a relationship that isn't going to make you completely happy? Esp if you want something the other person doesn't. You kinda have to be on the same page when it comes to the future and stuff. It's pretty much the reason why i gave this last guy i was with the flick. >< And a lot of people use the "its not you its me" thing genuinly lol. I mean just by what he's said, i feel like he's a pretty honest guy. I don't think he'd lie to you.

suo:-hugs- i dislike him now even more. sorry but in my opinion it just his another excuse to get out from the relationship with you D:

roachi: i thought you know? :gonk:

*hugs* Its okay. I'd think the same. Its always hard to like someone when all you know is a bit of a conversation from that part of them, you know?

Well, we weren't even in a relationship, so I honestly had no right to be upset at him. I really wish I would have handled it better. If I had, then we'd probably still be good friends.

I don't think it's an excuse. He was honest about what he wanted ... No point in being with someone who doesn't want what you want ya know?

Leas - Maybe i did, but i forgot lol. Anyways howdy neighbour :D <3

He did what he felt was the best. I can see where he was coming from, but I think that he could have maybe tried a little harder, you know? But he was also only like 16 at the time, I think. I always told him he was too young to think that he loved me anyway. lol Stuff like this is the reason why I have such trouble trusting anyone. You just never know if its true or they're just saying it, or they'll just easily change their mind a bit later on.

roachi: :XD am good neighbour :XD

roachi and suo: am not sure D: but whenever i feel like running away from a relationship... even if its friendship i always make an excuse about something is wrong about me and ellaborate something D:

That's life Su unfortunately. You can only go with the flow and hope for the best. I've been broken hearted many times & i know the feeling. But as long as you learn from your mistakes eh? And yeah i prob wouldn't believe a 16 year old who told me they were in love. When i was 16 i thought i was in love ... Seriously as you get older you realize how stupid you are lol. But who knows that's just my opinion. But i do believe he did what was best. Cause if i felt the same way that someone didn't share my views of the future (having kids getting married blah blah blah). Then i probably would have done the same thing too. SOME things, like religion and silly deference's etc can be worked upon, but others just can't ya know?

@Leas - Lol *snugs*

Yeah, he's a very honest person. He said it was so that i'd be happy, but I'm more flexible than he seems to think. I'd be happy despite all those things. And you never know what might happen until you try it. And yeah, it seems that he would be the one that wouldn't be all too happy under the circumstances, so its better for him.

I would still like to keep his friendship, though. I dont expect anything from him, but it'd be nice to still get to chat with him.

Fair enough Su. You were really mature about it though i must say.
Yeah that would be cool ... i hope he comes to his senses.

Thanks. I guess it does seem like I was mature, but I feel like I was immature. I used my "i'm unhappy about this situation" kind of serious talk. Where I basically just put on a straight face and be devoid of emotion in my choice of words. Say what is best for the other person, rather than what i'm feeling. And yet still acted pretty put upon. I think I could have handled it all much better, but thats in the past.

Sometimes in our life
We all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there is always tomorrow

There is no point in staying mad and upset at someone, because you never know which day will be your last, or their last. You never want to have them or yourself leave this world with all that negativity left behind. To have someone die when you're angry or not talking must be a terrible thing. Its something that i've been thinking about lately. I am trying to keep it in mind to let things just pass by and let them go. No point in staying mad over some things, you know?

Yeah i agree Su. And i totally get what you mean. I had at talk with this guy that i've liked for awhile ... whose dad is really sick. And i told him straight up how i felt, and i'm just leaving it at that. Cause seriously what can i do? He knows how i feel now, so he either does something about it or he doesn't ... ya know? But i said that no matter what, we'd still be friends and that life goes on ... No point in dwelling on something that was never meant to be. :)

Yeah unfortunately that happened to my mum recently. Her brother passed away, and they had had a fight a few months previous. And she never settled the argument. So he died without them ever having peace between their relationship.

Mhmm. If something isn't going to work, then its best to accept that and still be friends. It sucks to have a friendship get ruined over feelings. Those are something that can be looked past, usually, but its much harder to not have that friend around. I've had some friends that I just see as friends that like me, but we still stay friends. I feel a bit bad, because I know it can be pretty hard on them sometimes, but its what is for the best. I know that once they find someone new, they'll get over it. :]

Yeah, and you never want to have that on your conscious. There is always that "what if" and what not. Always feeling bad that you didn't clear things up in time. You never know what to expect, so its better to keep things cleared up quickly, I think.

Originally Posted by Suona

Mhmm. If something isn't going to work, then its best to accept that and still be friends. It sucks to have a friendship get ruined over feelings. Those are something that can be looked past, usually, but its much harder to not have that friend around. I've had some friends that I just see as friends that like me, but we still stay friends. I feel a bit bad, because I know it can be pretty hard on them sometimes, but its what is for the best. I know that once they find someone new, they'll get over it. :]

Yeah, and you never want to have that on your conscious. There is always that "what if" and what not. Always feeling bad that you didn't clear things up in time. You never know what to expect, so its better to keep things cleared up quickly, I think.

Yes very true. Some people fall out over the most silliest things. If they're a good friend, you should let bygones be bygones really. Yeah that's true, time heals all wounds eh? Lol

Yeah i wouldn't want that on my mind, i know mum feels majorly guilty about it now.