My story: I only had one real boyfriend, who broke me when he broke up with me. I've never asked a guy to be my boyfriend, just too darn scared, and I don't really know how. It's been a year since my first breakup, and boyfriend. And recently, I've met this guy who I think is just wonderful. And he seems like he might be interested...he talks to me, knows my name and he gave me his phone number. The problem? I don't even know if he dates, I don't know how to ask him if he'd like to, and if things don't work out, I really don't think I want to loose him from my life. Other than that, it seems like he's interested...or maybe he's just really friendly...

So my question is, what would you do?
Also, share any stories if you've got them, horror stories, happy ending stories, I'd kind of like to get both ends of advice...:sweat:

First of all, don't tell him you love him right off the bat! That might scare him away. Instead let him know that you have a lot of fun with him and that you like him. You don't have to say it seriously like a confession, either. Make it sound casual, it'll be easier for both of you that way.

You should tell him eventually no matter what. If you don't, you may just end up regretting it. I was in a very similar situation to yours a few years ago but I never got to tell my friend I really liked him. I was afraid of being awkward, afraid of messing up our friendship and all that jazz. I ended up pushing him away instead, and it put me into a bad depression.


Which ever way you approach it, whatever you do, don't put yourself in a position in which you'll regret something you didn't do. Try opening up to him more.

Hmm...That's pretty good advice! Thanks! :)

my first boyfriend broke up with me over the summer, and i decided i never wanted to be in a relationship again. but one of my best friends liked me, and since i had made the first move on the guy who broke up with me and yet it turned out he never liked me, i decided not to do anything about my crush on my friend who also liked me unless he flat out asked me out or something. Now we are going out, and it turns out that before we started going out and he liked me but i didn't respond when he flirted with me, it was hell for him because he really couldn't tell if I liked him or not.

So my advice is to not be too forward if you don't want to be. Don't be afraid to talk to him or anything. If he holds your hand, hold his hand. Don't make him think you're totally not interested. And don't worry about telling him how much you like him until after you're going out. Don't feel like you have to be the one to make a move, but don't be completely intimidated by the whole thing either. Just do what feels right to you.

Similar thing has happened to me recently...I've fallen in love with my best friend, but didn't know how to tell her and was also scared I might lose her as a friend if I did tell her. Anyways, I just layed it all out there. I told her that I liked as more than a friend that I also knew I wasn't completely the type of guy she was looking for, and I asked her if she'd give me the chance to try to be that guy. Well...she gave me an, "I don't know," as her response. *shrugs* Life goes on, I'll not bring the subject up again unless she does, and we're still the best of friends, lol! All you can do is try...and if you don't eventually you'll just drive yourself crazy wondering.

I doubt that helps, but that's all I have. *nodnod*

I think you should just bluntly say "Go out with me!"
Guys are... ummm dense. I am anyways. I don't understand that someone likes me until they say so, so I figure this guy is the same. He probably has no idea that you feel that way for him. I know girls assume that guys make the first move, but in reality, we don't... We usually let the woman decide whether they like us or not.... Soooo go for it!

All these stories are really helpful to read. And the advice is too. Thank you guys. :)

That's odd..how old are you?

if he gave you his phone number, then you should call him. he might ask you out over the phone. also, maybe mention something you like..like books, or coffee.. and if he likes it too, and if he doesn't ask you out, ask him out on a date, and say "date" when you talk to him to do something like that.

as for the love thing.. wait till after you two date for awhile to tell him that. that kinda freaks some guys out...

Originally Posted by fuyumi_saito

That's odd..how old are you?

if he gave you his phone number, then you should call him. he might ask you out over the phone. also, maybe mention something you like..like books, or coffee.. and if he likes it too, and if he doesn't ask you out, ask him out on a date, and say "date" when you talk to him to do something like that.

as for the love thing.. wait till after you two date for awhile to tell him that. that kinda freaks some guys out...

I am only 16.
Thanks. I will try that sometime. :)

I'd say just start asking him to hang out just the two of you more often. It's less risky than asking him out, but you're also showing a definite interest in being around him. That leaves you time to flirt and also get to know each other.

I don't know if you should be forward or not. I'd say it's whatever you're most comfortable with. Sometimes it really simplifies things when you're straightforward, because you don't miss out and you always know where you stand. Sometimes it scares guys off because he might feel that things are moving from friendship to relationship too quickly. It depends on the guy, how good of friends you two are, if he's ready for a relationship, how you approach him about it, etc. You just have to decide which you think is the best way knowing yourself and the guy you like.

Definitely don't tell him you love him - that IS way too serious too fast.

Good luck. :-)

First, ask if he'd like to hang out privately (if you guys know each other at school), like to a movie or to a game of bowling, whichever is more to you guys' interests.
OR, if you wanna try a more comfortable approach for yourself, tell your friends you have a crush and have them help you: Have a friend gathering at a public place and ask him if he wants to come tag along (so you're not alone with him and don't get too awkward).

If he seems to have fun and if you guys get along quite well, then ask him on a date. There's nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy! Men get shy too! :)

Yea I'm sure if you hang out with him more often or ask him to hangout then you will get to know each other better. Another thing that helps is if you say things like "that's really cool that you like that, I think your really neat." Etc, then see if he gives it back to you. If not then he might not be interested but if so, then ask him to go out somewhere and say it's a date or something. Sometimes taking the plunge isn't always so bad. I also found in my experience that sometimes boys like when a girl takes charge. Either their too scared to or their just odd. Lol. Hope that helps you.

did you ever?


did you ever love something or someone so much - you wanted to protect them from anything cruel in this world
have you ever held something so precious that souls connected and as they part you felt tears fall from your face
can you have so much love of another that in order to truly love them you must push them away cause that is where they are safe
do you believe that maybe,just maybe they want that love in return and it is you that is their saving grace
should a love be kept inside or will there be enough room to hold onto a piece of spirit to call your own
what if there is a person who cant love anyone but you and all you could give was love ,is it right to take her away from everything good in her life
did you ever love someone so much that in order to love them you had to give her away to someone else
even though it kills you inside to know it could be yours, happiness is the bottom line and i just want her to be happy.
i guess that whole love something set em free thing eats at me, cause thats where im at now.
i love her so much that i have to give her to another
funny thing though is that she was already his,but the one part he cant have is mine.
did you ever look for a pot of gold, well i heard once that a rainbow is better than the pot of gold- and now i get it now
just the thought of her love belongs to me, is enough to get me by
did you ever tell yourself that lie, i do, but my gift of love is for her to not be mine

not yet?

If you tell him straight off you love him, he'll be all freaked out like whoa, we haven't been on a first date yet! Or something.
If he gave you his number already, that probably means he's interested, just call him, ask him to hang out or something (not necessarily a date) and things might work out...that's how most of my relationships do!