Alright, so...
{Guys, look at it from your own point of view}
Let's say you've met the kind of guy that comes home on time {if not early} every day, because he wants to see you.

Cheating is out of the question

Every day he tells you he loves you, and every day he tells you you're beautiful. He looks you in the eyes and means it.

After so long, is it not as special anymore? Do you eventually stop believing him when he says all those wonderful things to you? Maybe not that you don't believe him any more, but that maybe it's just not as special? Can a guy be TO sweet?

Please feel free to post at will ^.^.... =/

Yes, a guy can be to sweet.

What you describe creeps me out a bit. I mean, it sounds like his whole life would be surrounding you if he acted like that.

Everyone needs to diversify a bit. Have other friends and hobbies. Being stuck on one person is kinda stalker-like.

I understand that there are stages where you're in total puppy-dog love but... being in it too long makes me wonder what a person is up to. Maybe they're trying to hide something or make up for something.

I also think it goes both ways. A girl can be to sweet too.

This reminds me of Edward Cullen.

I agree with Massage.

It's good for the guy to be sweet, but when it gets annoyingly sweet, it's time to hold back a little. Keep a little mystery. The same thing every day would get boring.

I also agree you should have some separate interests. You get at least a little tired of being with the same person 24/7, even if you love them.

I'd rather have sickeningly sweet than nasty and depressed.

Not only does that sound sickeningly sweet to me, it also sounds creepy. And, kind of pathetic. Just cause you love someone doesn't mean your life needs to revolve around them.

Hearing the same thing everyday would get boring, yeah.
And yes there is such thing as a guy being too sweet.
That's also like, too good to be true.
They always end up the opposite somehow.

Definitely. I'm all for the gentlemanly charm being employed for seduction, but that means there needs to be the seduction in the end. They need to have some other side to them or feels like they're... not necessarily fake but lacking. Seriously, no guy should be that devotedly sweet. It would drive me up the wall. I'd definitely get tired of it if he said and did the same things everyday. I'd wonder if he really meant it, and if he really did, how very small and sheltered his world was. As much as I love me, I do not think I should be the ENTIRE focus of someone's life. That stops becoming sweet and starts being creepy. <_<

No, but a lot of girls are scared to death of their own happiness... that is, of actually BEING happy. I speculate this is because they're made by society to feel like they're worthless unless they're militant career women or anorexic supermodels. But I've met a lot of "nice guys" ... those proverbial "prince charmings" (the kind who open doors for girls, and really, really do think of their woman like a princess to be honored and respected, etc)... and it seems like whenever they get into a relationship with a girl they'd love to marry, she runs off more or less "just because". Basically for no reason. It looks for all the world like they realized these guys were the real deal, and were so mortally afraid of being loved and respected for the rest of their lives, (probably because they feel they're not worth it,) that the moment they figure our those guys are genuinely not creeps or jerks, they get the heck away from them as fast as they possibly can.

I guess if you have self esteem issues, it's easier to spend life with a guy you can resent and complain about, and chew out when he's not everything you say you want him to be, than it is to face a guy who takes you more seriously, and respects you more, than you respect and take yourself. Unfortunately, because the girls behave that way, these nice guys usually end up with some mentally-ill half-wit, who likes their wallet best of all, who use them the way deadbeat guys usually use women, and who is determined to make these guys kiss their feet and play slave rather than knight.

Talk about messed up... That's a two-way tragedy.

There's a difference between sweet and smothering, and that guy definately is smothering. The loyalty, I can live with, but the overly affectionate nature, not so much. D;

It would not be sweet within 3 months, it becomes common and I don't find peopel to not have flaws or complaints so I start trying to find things they don't due or don't see that is a problem with them, and due to it I can find a person too sweet.

Originally Posted by Pixore

This reminds me of Edward Cullen.

Hah! But he can be quite the stalker indeed.

Hm, yes, too sweet can get a little out of hand. I mean, I'm sure there is a limit. I would find it a bit creepy if they continue that act and we never fought and he does everything for me.

A guy can be too sweet, yes. The example you gave doesn't seem like too sweet to me. I'll use some from situations I've been in. One guy I dated said he didn't want me to work in the future because he didn't think I should have to. Another guy told me how he wanted to be the breadwinner of the house because whoever he marries would have to experience the pain of childbirth, and he wanted to feel like he really was pulling his weight compared to that. I'm fiercely loyal to the one I date when I'm in a relationship, so I know that when I have a thought about how someone is the type of guy I'd cheat on (despite that I'd never do such a thing), he's not the right type/too sweet for me to date.

Please tell me he isn't wearing body glitter? Because I definitely smell Edward-like tendencies.

Anyway, it could be a bit suffocating if your better half is like that. Perhaps take him out to meet some of your friends so he can get other friends?

I'm not at all like that I'm more like "I love you" five seconds later "Now make me dinner" Lol jk I don't have a girlfriend. But maybe the person is just really in love with the lady. It's possible but I would get REALLY boring. I mean "I love you" would really lose it's meaning.

Originally Posted by Alexandrus Gambino

Please tell me he isn't wearing body glitter? Because I definitely smell Edward-like tendencies.

Body glitter? Hell no, that's so gay. [/joke]

Anything, and I mean, ANYTHING, that reaches an excess, a "too much", is bad. Even if it's being sweet.
If it were my partner being "too much sweet", I seriously would think either that person wants something from me, or that s/he is a damned obsessive psycho who thinks his/her life revolves around the object of their pervertions :shock:

Indeed reminds me of Edward Cullen :insane:

I had this problem with my last boyfriend. At first I loved all the compliments and affection but after while it got tiresome. He wanted to call me every single day. When we went out with our friends not just mine but ours he always had to be around. It was like his life revolved around me. I was getting frustrated to the point where I didn't want to be around him anymore. He was also very sensitive and emotional which didn't help. I don't resent him or anything but it felt like I couldn't breather and besides he wasn't doing much for himself and I couldn't deal with that.

Yes. that is way too sweet. Sometimes it just gets annoying, and it's like, alright I get it you love me now go away already. And to speak for the above statement, I too had a boyfriend who was too sensitive and emotional and annoying and always wanted to be around me, and no one else.

I don't think if they say it too much it loses it's meaning, but I do think if they say it too much you want to hear it less and then you just don't feel the same when you do hear it. I think that it's absolutely annoying when they are always home at the exact same time. It's nice to have someone all to yourself, but when they aren't spending any time with their own friends or away from you at all, then you feel like your not getting enough space, and all the positive things turn into negative things and eventually you will break up. Just for the sake of being by yourself. There isn't anything wrong with two people spending all the time in the world with just the two of those people, no one else, but sometimes I think it's natural for one of those people to want to do their own thing. Nothing is good in extremes and that is why if they are never around you, or always around you, chances are, your going to get a little annoyed :\ But of course this is only my opinion, I can't speak for everyone. But I know that when I'm dating someone, I want to have my own friends, and my own space, but yet still spend aLOT of time together C:

Yeah, a guy can be to sweet.
That would freak me out. I would want him to have some time with the guys, to stay out late every once in a while, and to just have alone time. If not, things would just get monotonous and boring.

The people I've dated have all been nice, but I've never dated anyone that sweet, so it's hard to say exactly how I'd react.

My current boyfriend calls me nearly every day, but he doesn't get upset if I'm busy and am not able to hang out. Sometimes he doesn't have time to hang out either. I think that's where the line is for me. It's OK if someone is very sweet, but when that's mixed with insanely possessive, like I'm not allowed to do anything on my own, that's where it gets annoying.

My boyfriend and I say "I love you" pretty much constantly, and it hasn't turned into a bad thing in my opinion.

And cheating better be out of the question for anyone I'm dating. I wouldn't even consider that an insanely sweet thing, I'd consider it a good morals thing. I wouldn't continue dating someone if they cheated on me and I found out about it.

You pretty much described the man I live with.
He is always excited to see me, always tells me that he loves me, always that he thinks i'm pretty, always that he wants to have a family with me.
Our relationship doesn't go stale or lose its luster, partly due to the fact that he's in this band... and they go on tour often.
He's currently on the home-stretch of an eight week tour (which is the longest he's been gone in our time together) and we are so excited that he's on his way home.
In only 5 more sleeps we will be together again.
Having the time apart that we do really helps us both to realize what we love about each other and how much we may take the little things for granted.
So, every time he comes home, our love for each other feels renewed and fresh and it's just so good to be reunited with your best friend.
However, I suppose that not every relationship has time apart...
and if they do, not everyone can trust that their significant other is not cheating.

Oh My God!
yes, i am kind of expiriencing this right now with my boyfriend....
it got boring....i am thinking of taking a break......

I'd come home early/on time if I lived with my girlfriend. I'd head straight home after work every day to spend as much time with her as I can. ^+^ She is one of my best friends after all.

If I were to even think of cheating on her, who the heck would be better than the angel I already fell in love with?
However, personally, I wouldn't mind if she cheated on me though, seeing as how I'm barely good enough to kiss her feet if that. She deserves a lot more, I'm just happy to be lucky enough that she picked me <3

I try to tell her I love her every single day, though I don't get to talk to her every day, but I tell her I love her because I want her to know that no matter what happens I will always love her.

Well of course I tell her she's beautiful... she looks like an angel... she's the absolute most beautiful girl I've ever met in my life...

Actually... special wise... I write/read her poetry every once and a while about how much I love her ^_^ helps her to cry... (happily of course =D)

Hmm... she always gets all "aww"ish whenever I say things about how cute she is and such =D

One thing to do is to make sure that you have special things that you can do for them maybe once a week or on a rare unexpected occasion. Like I play the piano for her every once and while ^_^ but not often... so it's a treat for her =D

A guy can only be too sweet if he has secret motives. Like if he's nice just to "get in her pants" as people call it...

Personally I don't care... I just love her smile and listening to the cute giggle she has =D

I plan to be sweet, and as kind as possible to this girl for the next 60+ years... =) or however long I live.

Wait... girls dont like that!?!?! no wonder I dont have a girlfriend anymore -.-

but no, im not completely serious when I say thats how I am...actually that describes me quite well =\

I didnt think it was possible to be too sweet, or kind, or anything like that, but I suppose this shows that I was wrong...

I think boys should hold back the sweetness and save it for special occassions so that way, it's extra special and the girl can appreciate it more when it's not every single day. :)

It's happened to me before when I was kind of new to the "boy" thing and I was totally creeped out! But then I realized," Wait... that's what couples do...?"