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03-20-2009, 08:07 AM
I don't mind being sweet so much as I do being obsessively clingy.
Being a person with nonexistent self-worth, I like being told that I'm loved/pretty a lot. But not too much; it stops being special then. Not every two seconds, but still frequently. I probably say I love you too much.
But I don't want to talk to you on the phone for six hours every night, and I do need some personal space sometimes, and I really hate it when guys buy me expensive things. I had a boyfriend who would buy me tons of expensive stuff, and it was honestly just awkward.
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03-20-2009, 08:36 AM
anyone can be "to sweet" it doesn't matter on what sex they are, but it is always really cute when guys are extremely sweet :) but then again you should be careful of "sweet" guys because most of them are normally only after that 1 thing!
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03-20-2009, 09:36 AM
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but then again you should be careful of "sweet" guys because most of them are normally only after that 1 thing!
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03-20-2009, 10:07 PM
YES! n it gets disgusting. i know this guy who goes out with this girl that my freinds know but i don't rly know her& so he's like so "romanticy" because he usually when she's talking with her friends, he'd just put his head on her shoulder, kiss her on the cheek and always hold hands.
it gets so cheesy&disgusting to watch. i know some ppl may like these type of "sweet" guys but he's taking it too far ;o
but that girl must feel very LOVED
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03-20-2009, 10:59 PM
I'm I one of the few girls in the world who actually likes those kinds of things? It makes me wondering seeing as most girls go on and on about wanting a prince charming kind of guy and when they get it they don't want it anymore. Now I see why guys can get so fed up with women. Lol. I actually don't think there can be such thing as too sweet. I love the attention and affection. Besides my boyfriend is my best friend so I do want to hang out with him all the time. Of course everyone needs alone time every once and a while, but you are talking about the all time sweetest guy and not someone just crazy clingy. That person usually understands and will give you space as need. Personally I love doing sweet things for people, and when my partner does those things in return it makes it even more pleasing to try and make something even more special for him.
AcidDrop I don't think that's the case with everyone. :S I mean my boyfriend and I do those kinds of things and he's still sweet. Even if we weren't to do those things he still would be so... o_O;
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03-20-2009, 11:15 PM
He sounds clingy. I had a boyfriend who was clingy... didn't end well.
It was nice, but yeah. Got old, didn't mean anything after awhile.
It's not that they were too nice, it's just that they were... annoyingly selfconscious? XD
Your boyfriend sounds very nice. It'd better than having a jerk for a boyfriend. Being so nice, if you talk to him about it, I'm positive he'll understand and use the extra nice stuff sparingly. ^^
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03-21-2009, 03:47 AM
It's always creepy to have a lover who is obsessed and clingy, regardless of gender.
But personally, I sorta like hearing all that lovey-dovey stuff, my boyfriend does it to me all the time, and the flattery is nice. :sweat:
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03-21-2009, 04:23 AM
Yes, a guy can be toooo sweet.
There's gentlemanly, and then there's just too sweet.
I like gentlemanly, but then there's those terribly, sickly sweet boys that are just like, "oh you's so beautiful awwh I love you squishy gooey spineless awww" and it just sucks. I need a man with some backbone. X3
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03-21-2009, 01:43 PM
Well, it seems that a general concensus would agree that a guy practically defining the fairy tale description is simply to hard to believe. So hard to believe, it verges on the point of creepy.
A couple of people have commented that it is ironic that so many girls say that this AMAZING guy is what they're looking for, then don't know what to do with it when they get it.
So often, amazing chances at quality relationships are lost due to awkwardness, how to understand one another... communication. There are so many @ss holes that really are only trying to get into a woman's pants, there really is no point trying to argue that.... but it doesn't mean that it's all EVERY guy is after.
Keep posting, I'll have more later =/
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03-21-2009, 02:51 PM
I don't know guys...there's not a whole lot of information given here to really say whether or not I'd be creeped out or not. I'd take the situation as a whole and if it feels like he's not being totally honest with you or holding back some information maybe it's time to have a talk.
My boyfriend tells me on nearly a daily basis he loves me, and gives me hugs and kisses. Sometimes he's more loveydovey one day then the next, but he always genuinely means it. He cooks for me on days he has off, and of course the first place he goes after work is home, and unless he is being held back for a meeting or other plans he tells me. I like things this way. I don't feel he's overly clingy. He lets me go and do things with friends if I want and doesn't think twice about it. We're just very homely people and we really enjoy eachother's company.
As time goes by maybe he doesn't tell me all the great things about me as much anymore, but he truly feels comfortable in his skin when he's around me and he knows that I know how he feels.
Maybe you should tell us more about your boyfriend. How long have you been together? I think we only have a very small snippet of information to really determine whether or not it's a good or bad thing.
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03-21-2009, 03:28 PM
My boyfriend is very sweet, in my opinion. We live together, and we say I love you to one another several times a day. We also do little things to show that we love each other. I don't think it's creepy at all. We are not overly clingy, and I trust him completely.
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04-09-2009, 04:22 AM
Depends on your preferences of "too sweet".
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04-09-2009, 04:31 AM
Sometimes guys think that woman don't think they're sincere so they think you'll understand if they repeat themselves... Personally, I rarely tell people I love them so when I say it I really mean it, but I suppose I know what you mean... A guy that says that constantly might sound loose, but you cannot tell whether he means it or not just based on that alone... Usually with turmoil you can learn if the person means it...
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04-09-2009, 04:54 AM
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Let's say you've met the kind of guy that comes home on time {if not early} every day, because he wants to see you.
Cheating is out of the question
Every day he tells you he loves you, and every day he tells you you're beautiful. He looks you in the eyes and means it.
After so long, is it not as special anymore? Do you eventually stop believing him when he says all those wonderful things to you? Maybe not that you don't believe him any more, but that maybe it's just not as special? Can a guy be TO sweet?
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Yes, a guy can be too sweet, but the telling me that he loves me, not cheating, telling me I'm beautiful, looking into my eyes, or coming home to see me; those are all things I'll never get tired of.
Being too sweet is more along the lines of spoiling me and taking care of my every whim. Don't get me wrong... I like being spoiled, every once in a while. Not every day. Gifts are nice every now and again, not every day, or they become expected, and I won't be as impressed.
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04-09-2009, 12:11 PM
Yea, too sweet can get sickening ><
my boyfriend right now is right on the edge of too sweet, but he goes out with friends a lot and hangs out with other people. . . and works, so it is ok.
The only realllly sweet things he does are he calls every day, if only for a minute or two to tell me he loves me, and when I see him I get massive hugs, he starts tickle fights, oh, and he likes to try to find things to say that make me squee!
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04-09-2009, 08:48 PM
I agree with allot of the people here. Yes, a guy can be too sweet and can push the borderline of creepiness then rather being sweet. And the words "I love you." and "Your beautiful." Do seem to lose the special magic they held at one point in time.
However some guys don't know what to do from their past experiences that they often try to be the "Prince Charming" hoping to keep the girl they care about from leaving like the rest. ( I know I went through this, and failed badly. )
Being loving and somewhat clingy is good but he seems to be over doing it, but he does seem on a good track with the loyalty part.
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04-09-2009, 09:07 PM
yes..... I'm realized this all too well right now
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04-09-2009, 10:22 PM
well yea sure some can be too sweet, but would it not be better to have a boyfriend that actually goes out of his way to make you feel special and treat you as if you where the only important person in the world rather than one that would be abusive, alcoholic, or a theif or maybe even all of the above?
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04-10-2009, 06:51 PM
I think guys can definitely be too sweet.
Especially if its the same sweetness all the time, the same with anything too much of anything is bad for you.
I prefer guys that are somewhat awkward, and so when try to be romantic or sweet it comes out somewhat comical.
I think that's sweet, and that's what I like.
If he's saying the same things all the time, its like its not from the heart anymore, its just from habit.
I'd rather him not say it all the time (even "I love you") so when he says it I know its genuine and more special.
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04-10-2009, 09:21 PM
Some guys can be too sweet, but not all. I've had a guy like that. It felt like he was smothering me with his sweetness. I needed space... so, I broke it off with him. >.< He was too clingy, and I'm a person who likes to have a personal bubble.
Though, with me, I'm happy with who I am with now. Yes, he's said many times how he loves me and that I'm the only girl for him, etc... but I never get tired of it. He doesn't say it every other word, but it's just wonderful... <3
But all in all, there are guys that can be too sweet lol. Either by saying the same things over again, buying unecessary gifts, or just being plain old clingy... XD
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04-12-2009, 01:37 AM
i think guys can be like that.
but i've haven't had a boyfriend who did that to me @[email protected]
i think i'd get a little annoyed with it hearing it all the time D:
but hey, some people enjoy it, music to their ears :P
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04-12-2009, 01:57 AM
Hell...yes.
If a guys too sweet, eventually it seems clingy and -sorry- unmasculine.
I have no problem with a guy with feelings- we're all human- but please don't be such a pansy that I am not attracted to you.
x' D
Man...I guess that sounds mean, but I never claimed to be nice.
>:' }
I know I can be, and often am, a difficult person.
So I want a guy that'll challenge me a bit.
I wear the pants, but it's cute and way more fun if you try and wear 'em.
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04-12-2009, 12:13 PM
Being obsessive is not a good thing. That's what that sounds like to me. It sounds like if you were to leave the said guy he'd go and kill you. That kind of things creeps me out.
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04-12-2009, 01:17 PM
Never. There's nothing like being told how special you are on a constant basis. It's when they stop staying it that the problems start. =P
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04-12-2009, 04:51 PM
I don't think I could encounter a guy that was too sweet. Everything that you said is what my fiancee does for the most part, and I really appreciate it.
I find it's when he has no backbone, or tries too hard. I want someone who will stand up for what they want, no just cave in to my every little whim. Especially since some of my whims should not be catered to.
And clinginess.....I know someone who was just dumped because of it. No matter how in love you are, you need time alone, or time with friends. Fondness makes the heart grow stronger. Someone who was desperate to be around you constantly would be frustrating.
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