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#51
Old 04-13-2009, 03:09 AM

I think that it depends on the stage of the relationship. If you are acting like that in the begining it could be acceptable, but more likely than not its kinda stalker creepy. however if you have been together for a while an dyou live together for instance at this point your lives are pretty much revolving around one another. So at that point I would say no its not too sweet more showing that maybe your ready to move to the next level of your relationship, like perhaps marriage.

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#52
Old 04-13-2009, 04:15 AM

What you described actually reminds me of my ex- boyfriend. All the girls he's dated consider him too "Clingy". I thought it was nice foe the first few months then every time we kissed he would say it after wards. It got annoying so I had to end it.
It kinda makes me sound like an ass the way I put it.

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#53
Old 04-13-2009, 06:03 PM

Well, to me, if you get pass a certain point, it's not "sweet" anymore. D:
Note, I think sweetness is of essence, but pass that "point", it's just like.. ehr.. can I help you?
Anyways, being "sweet".. it's not everything. ._.
So.. I think I'm more in the middle, but.. sure, you could be too "sweet"..
(Or obsessed? O-O)

..and yes, Pixore, I agree.. Edward Cullen.. ._.

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#54
Old 04-13-2009, 06:09 PM

Yes, a guy can be too sweet. Because honestly hearing it every single day, the same thing, in the same way...well you're gonna stop and think...woah does this guy really mean it??? Some guys show their feelings in different ways...some guys tend to say it more, and other guys don't say it all and show it. But i do think...if the samething is said, everyday...well you're gonna have doubts. A guy can mean it completly...but you know. But he does seem sweet, girls like that...but not too much of it.

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#55
Old 04-14-2009, 03:00 AM

Guys can be TOO sweet; especially in the situation you described. It does lose meaning after awhile if you end up finding it annoying and somewhat nonfeeling. But maybe if you are still in your honeymoon mood with your husband or whatever, it may not seem that way because you may be doing it too.

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#56
Old 04-14-2009, 07:14 AM

Wow, OP, that description reminded me of my ex. O.O
But to answer your question, yes, a guy can be too sweet. Although every girl wants a guy who is honest, loving, and committed, there is a downside.
For one, that guy could turn your relationship into an obsession. He may feel the constant need to contact you as well as check up to see if you're not with another guy.
It could also lead to insecurities within the relationship.
This happened within my last relationship. My ex was so wonderful to me. But when I talked to another guy (who's JUST a friend by the way), he starts believing that I got bored with him and was seeing other men.
That hurt and that was our one of our downfalls.
The other was the fact that he wanted to see me EVERYDAY. I'm a college student. I want to go to med school so I need as much time as I can to study. He doesn't understand this and expects me to put him as a priority over school.

So can a guy be too sweet? Yes to the point where you want space.

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#57
Old 04-16-2009, 08:07 PM

I think there is such a thing as too sweet.

However, I don't think the things mentioned in the first post are what I would consider too sweet.

Cheating being out of the question is definitely a good thing. Telling you he loves you and reminding you that he thinks you're beautiful? Also a good thing. The only part about the first post that seems a little strange is that he comes home every day, sometimes early, because he wants to be with you so much. So...Does he stay with you every second of the day afterward, or does he just come home, make sure everything is okay, and then go hang out with the guys?

If as soon as he is off work, he's all over you and only you, yeah that can be a little creepy. Okay, maybe more than a little. xD However, I don't see how it's too sweet, or creepy, if he wants to see you for a while before going to see friends/family/whatever.

My husband and I have been together about 4 and a half years. (Haven't been married that long though. xP ) Before he joined the Marines, we said 'I love you,' to each other at least once a day. It wasn't annoying, it wasn't creepy, it wasn't too sweet. I don't understand how someone can think that just because it's said often, it's not genuine. =/ I'd rather let him know every day than have something happen to one of us and then regret not telling him and showing him enough.

Anyway, this post is getting long enough so I'll explain what I think to be too sweet. One example would be someone who feels the need to take care of you constantly. You can't buy your own clothes, dinner, furniture, movie ticket, anything. He pays for it all. Opening doors and pulling out chairs are nice on occasion, but if he never lets you so much as touch the handle of a door, it gets to be too much. When something that started as sweet and loving turns into something that makes you feel like you can't do anything for yourself, that's where I think the problem begins.

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#58
Old 04-17-2009, 07:03 PM

well, if he sais the same thing over and over again, yeah, you deffinetely get bored of it
but if he changes phrases such as today you're told 'you're my sunshine', next day he gets you a rose, the other day he sais 'can't live without you', you never get bored, at least i'm like that
i just don't want them to say the same thing over and over again
and also, i like them to be a little more... crazy, like me
not like angels

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#59
Old 04-17-2009, 07:11 PM

My GF,And some other friends say I'm to nice O_o,Sometimes people try to take advantage of it...
Not sure if I'm sweet...But I think Guyz Can be sweet O_o

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#60
Old 04-17-2009, 10:42 PM

What someone said about how girls can sometimes be scared of their own happiness can be true for some. Where do you think the cliche "good girls like bad boys" comes from? Ironically though, the bad girls in turn do the vice-versa and go for the good guys. It's the standard "I want what I haven't got" situation.

Looking at your situation though, it depends: has he always been like that 24/7? How long have you known the guy? Maybe you haven't known him deep enough to decide that you're not into the cloyingly sweet guys? To be honest, I see nothing wrong with constant i-love-yous and stuff. It's a normal couple thing. I know that much. But I also know that if it were me, I don't prefer guys who are like this sweet either. It's my preference and not his fault.

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#61
Old 04-17-2009, 11:33 PM

That would drive me insane. I'd hate for a guy to tell me that he loves me all the time and to be so cheesy.
I'd like someone who really cares about me, but doesn't have to tell me all the time.
I like guys with more punk attitudes. ^^;

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#62
Old 04-17-2009, 11:41 PM

they say im sweet..
(most girls )
but i dont think there is "too sweet"
i guess it more depends on you if you call it "too sweet"

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#63
Old 04-18-2009, 12:08 AM

I think so, it would be really annoying. :(

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Old 04-18-2009, 01:46 AM

he sounds kind of needy.... but if he wasn't needy and was just being sweet, then yeah, I'd totally dig an I love you every day, maybe not every 5 minutes >.>

I don't think it loses it's specialness, but that's just me. I'm a hopeless romantic so a guy like that would seem like a dream. XD

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#65
Old 04-18-2009, 02:12 AM

I think a guy can be sweet, say plenty of 'I love you's and treat his girl nice without automatically being too mushy, cheesy, or a pansy. They just have to figure out how to balance it out. ;)

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Old 04-18-2009, 05:26 AM

I'd rather a guy be too sweet than not sweet enough. I think a guy who comes right home and always wants to be with me would be ideal. But I could do without constant compliments. I think I'd feel awkward with too many compliments all the time. And it might get annoying. But I do like a guy to tell me he loves me frequently and actually mean it. And wanting to spend time with me is a big plus. I guess part of the reason I feel this way is that I'm in a long distance relationship. We spend nearly every minute that we are awake and at home talking to each other or doing something with each other over the internet or phone. We miss each other and always look forward to when we get to see each other, and I'm impatient for the day to come that we can live together and be with each other all the time. For me, spending time with him, in real life as well as online, never gets old. And we've been together for eight years so I think if I was going to get sick of his company it would have happened already. :) I think a lot of guys believe that girls like men who are jerks. I see guys complain about this all the time, how they feel that they are nice guys and girls pay no attention to them and date jerks instead. Well, I'd rather a guy be too sweet than to be a jerk. Admittedly, my boyfriend can be a bit of both at times, but no one is perfect. He is a lot sweeter and nicer than a lot of other guys out there and I'm just so happy that I have him.

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#67
Old 04-18-2009, 09:55 PM

yes they can be, and obnoxiously so.

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#68
Old 04-19-2009, 12:08 AM

I would think so. I would get bored most likely. It makes me sad to think I'd dump a guy because they were being too sweet and boring, but if that's all they did then I actually would. Meeting a "too sweet" guy and becoming friends wouldn't be so bad though! I could definately handle it if we were just friends. ^^

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Old 04-19-2009, 02:25 AM

yeah a guy can get too sweet. I have a guy friend who when he really likes someone he gets sweet which for him=clingy as heck! Which can be a real bad thing

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Old 04-19-2009, 02:54 AM

To be honest, it sounds like you've got a really good guy there. It wouldn't bother me at all, but it's probably just all personal preference. You've just got to feel that he means it. It's more of a feeling than a fact. Ya know?

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Old 04-20-2009, 08:19 PM

Well, a guy could perhaps be too sweet, because especially nowadays, usually when someone acts out in such a polite and sweet way, it usually means he or she wants something from you. However, it can't be said for sure... as far as I'm concerned, I think I'd try to be a little worried, but who knows, maybe he's genuinely sweet and really DOES care for you. So, I'm not sure... only time will tell what's really going through his mind.
And as it was said, if "I love you" is said too often, it usually does lose it's meaning/luster.
I have some friends that I could just sit there and say "I love you!" and they say I love you back with the knowledge that I mean no more than a friend... but because we've said it so often to one another. It's something you want to wait for, and not say it often so it seems more special in ways, I think. He sounds cool, if not a little creepy LOL. He could also just be really wanting attention from you, and may be rather clingy... who knows xD

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Old 04-20-2009, 08:50 PM

I think that if you really loved someone, you would definitely put them first. And that includes knowing enough about your partner to make them happy. I think that if I guy really liked me, he'd already know I'd find too much of that kind of stuff smothering and just wouldn't do it. Then I'd be able to tell if he really loved me, or was just obsessive.

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Old 04-20-2009, 09:42 PM

Yes, a guy can be to sweet, i couldnt stand it.I had a boyfriend back in high school that did that, bu he did it right off the bat, as soon as we started dating, so it was obviously fake.But yeah, to sweet is bad, causes cavities, lol.

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#74
Old 04-21-2009, 12:40 AM

That would annoy the shit out of me.

Like, jesus, get some flaws or we can't be friends/etc.

I'd probably punch him so that he'd have a flaw or a dent or something. Perfection is for statues, not for people.

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Old 04-21-2009, 12:56 AM

i feel like if you REALLy, TRULY click together, and you absolutely LOVE that person it would take a while to get tired of it, but i do believe it is possible to, i know i did... i love him so much, but it just got to tiresome, so now were just friends and i wasn't able to see him for a LONG time, and once i was able to... we both had new people

but the thing is, we still loved each other, maybe MORE then we had, i duno what to do.... kuz he says he loves me like madly yet he has someone new and he says he loves her too, yet he IS a sweet guy

oh and my bf i have now is like OMFG annoying sweet, i mean seriously, always calls me beautiful huggles WAY to much, touches me to much, doesn't LEAVE ME ALONE!! its like he stepped into my bubble and wont leave like a leach!!! ugh its irritating me, i don't like him anymore... >.< and i only liked him a little before he asked me out....

neways i'll stop rambling now XDD

 


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