Everyone here knows about hormones, right? They're especially common among young people in male gender. Although, everyone has them. My issue here is about helping someone who wants to deal with his hormones...
WITHOUT screwing anyone or playing with himself. -.-
Personal reasons making his decision stronger, he's keen on not making any mistakes upon the venture to live with... well, one of his girlfriends and myself (the other). ((We agreed mutually and it's working well. We all are happier with it like this..)) but the point is.. he wants to find a way to deal with this issue.. again W/O making any mistakes that are too physically intimate and W/O ...er... don't like saying this word, but masturbation..

**If there is anyone who can help by finding another way, preferably proven successful, that he can use? If so, plz speak up! ^^" We would like to find a solution for this.

Why does he want to avoid masturbation? Just wondering. Most people do it and I've actually heard that it's healthy to do it every once in awhile. It would probably be a good idea if he feels tempted so he doesn't make any poor decisions with other people...

@Striped Socks`: lol well it's because he wants to be spending his time with us instead. I don't really think I should say more than that though.. I don't want my sweetie getting too embarrassed haha. But hmm.. does that mean that stopping would also make it easier to make a mistake?

I didn't mean that he would be more likely to make a mistake that way, but I know that it might make him less tempted in other situations. Guys can still masturbate and hold a sexual relationship. One doesn't necessarily cancel out the other.

Ok but see the thing is -.- none of us (atm) want kids so should be abstinent. Does the same thing still apply?

You can still have a sex life without getting pregnant. Easily. Condoms are a really good idea, seriously. D: Not only do they prevent pregnancy, but STD's and whatnot, too! And there's always birth control and such. (Which also apparently reduces the amount of periods a girl gets in a year ;D)

Idk how else he could do that, but as for striped, idk if that's the advice she's looking for.

I think all 3 of them are trying to stick to abstinence. He may have personal reasons why he wants to avoid it. Plus she refers to the fact that they are his girlfriends. Some people are set on waiting until marriage.
Also, I quote from her first post

WITHOUT screwing anyone or playing with himself.

These three are asking for information on how to reduce his hormones other than to have a sex life or by masturbating.

I hope you find the answers you need =)

Interpreting things, I often fail at it. xD

Ah well thanks for trying...
But ya anyone else who comes and has a suggestion following the question, please say something about it...? =) There are more than 2 options in considering such, aren't there?

With these boiling hormones, the only way would be to satisfy one-self. Watching porn is only going to make him more eager to do it XD I'd say, either keep it as it's going or find a hobby he loves he could do anytime he feels the need to masturbate but doesn't want to.

[But, srsly, masturbating every now and then is healthy...]

sports, activities, anything where he gets to kind of use those hormones.. xD
I'm not sure what you feel about video games such as tekken, but they are a good adrenaline release atleast >:)

I still don't see what the hangup with masturbation is - it's completely healthy, normal, and really nothing you should get hung up on. That's the only real reason I could think that you'd not want him to masturbate or watch porn.

The only 100% way to insure you don't get pregnant is abstinence...there are some highly effective birth control methods out there that if used properly and I would highly suggest using a condom and some other form like birth control. You can use more than one and it helps give you a greater chance at not becoming pregnant. Condoms are one of the only ways to protect yourself against STDs as well.

Unfortunately, I don't have anything else to suggest as those are the tried and tested ways and I doubt a doctor is going to give you something to curb his natural hormones.

That's a complex relationship you have. If you're engaging in sexual activities of any nature, you can look at alternative sexual experiences, in the end the experience is similar enough. For clarification, I'm referring to oral sex.

It sounds like you all are young enough that by common conception you shouldn't be engaging in such things anyway.. that's silly, of course, with raging hormones you'll get in more of a mess if you make a complex thing out of it. Nevertheless, I will recommend you approach your situation with caution: It's easy to make mistakes when you're young. Also, make no mistake, girls are as hormone-driven as guys, and by current studies, actually are more so- years of repression simply hid that fact. It's something my personal experiences have validated. That is to say: If you make it out that the hormones are all his, and you're repressing the truth of your own needs, you create unnecessary complexities to the situation. And if you truly don't have the needs, then you'll want to take it easy. Yes, it's hard to not engage in sex, and yes, things can get daunting in certain relationships if you withhold. At the same time, there is no need to get yourself in too much drama over the situation- a relationship is about mutual respect, pleasure, and desire. So in the end, it's important to strike a good balance.

As for alternatives to masturbation, alternative sexual activities, and abstinence? He'll need to distance himself from you both and distract himself thoroughly.
Most people don't realize it, but sexually awakened, and especially sexually active people all release tons of pheromones- these hormones act as a trigger and will slowly get people around the person more and more sexually interested. The more people you have involved in this, the more overpowering it gets. Hence why I mentioned earlier: It's stupid for anyone to try and inhibit your sexual explorations as you'll be drawn to it regardless.

Without knowing the details of your situation, this is all the advice I can give.

Masturbation is not the answer. It can become an addictive habit that is not good for your soul, relationships, and it adds to guilt and etc.

I believe there are some simple Vitamins that help a little. (I don't remember which ones)

Also see if there are any triggers that he may be accidentally be looking at. Get rid of those. Anything that gets him excited in the wrong way.

Good luck!

Hmm thank you for replying thoroughly.. I must say though, yes we are still young.. I am the youngest at 16 and the two others are a bit older. But abstinence is really preferred for a long enough while more... and I'm not sure if it ever won't be. Truth be told yes I get sexually excited from him from time to time... but on the other hand, I'd really prefer not to express it through intercouse. Simple fact for ya: the three of us are virgins. I'm not really trying to stop him from anything. Instead it's his personal decision which I support.

@Sagitar:
What kind of sports/activities? I don't know a whole lot about it...

@Izumi:
._.;; Why don't you think a doctor could help? >< Do enough people not ask for something like this?

@Darkeyes:
Oh haha no I know I have hormones too. I generally have this thing for liking to hide if they bother too much. I find them quite embarrassing, actually. ^^' Part of that may be to blame on part of my family past where.. if you can understand what I mean, some bad things happened thanks to my dad. But then I am told I am innocent too... and Idk... engaging in too much makes me feel guilty. Idk if I'll ever be able to OR want to shake that off. But yes what you said is very true about a relationship. But hmm did you find that it was stronger after indulging in sexual activities? Because honestly, we've all been reclusive for most of our lives and haven't ever felt the need to explore in that sense.

well soccer, basketball, anything you get to use your force in...

Izumi means that, while a doctor may be able to give some suggestions, they won't give you a straight up hormone fix, since messing with hormones is a risky and unnecessary thing to do.

And yes- engaging in sexual activities increases production of the hormones tied to sexual activity. So long as you refrain from sexual stimulation, you'll likely find resisting it easier.

It seems that the concern is that things need necessarily get more intimate- I'll tell you this, it's hard for them not to. At the same time, it's not an inevitability.

We all have shit in our past, and you know what? It's fine to be screwed up from it. It's fine to want to escape it and find a route around it. I know. But don't let fear of the past overwhelm your view of the present.

However- you're all young, and still virgins. There shouldn't be too much pressure, just let yourselves have fun and grow up. Sex complicates things- you should just enjoy what you have and not take the risk till you're certain you're ready- and really, how can teenagers be certain about anything, mm? Too many stresses and hormones for that..

Yes, there are horomones- sexual activities of any sort are not a way to reduce them. If he's looking for an alternative- there aren't any. He can take some supplements and engage in ANY physical activity, and it will curb his desires (The basics boil down to: sexual hormones are related to aggression hormones, and those are expended through physical activity; Besides, exhaust him enough..). It will not, however, keep them from being a significant part of growing up. We all get crazy from hormones as teens- it's not an excuse to make mistakes, but it is an excuse to forgive yourself for the mistakes later on. That is to say.. take it responsibly, take it slow, and just don't focus on sex. The more you think about it, the more it'll tempt you. At the same time, however, if you do wind up engaging in it, don't worry overly much about it. You'll make it through.

Do make sure condoms are used, of course, and if it does get serious, look into birth control pills (which ARE expensive, so make sure you've got a job first..), spermicide creams, and the rest.

And hey..
Good luck.

Well, one option is to avoid situations where his mind moves to sexual stimulants if he wishes to have a mind over body balance.

Refrain from intimate acts, and situations. No dirty movies or porn. And always keep an active concentration on not getting aroused, it -is- possible.

Though masturbation is perfectly fine, it is not always satisfying. If he can maintain a close and loving relationship, to fill his needs to companionship, and perhaps an outlet for extra energy, sexual urges can be negated.

How about he get engaged in some aggressive sport that will make him sweat tons and be utterly destroyed by the end of the day, like soccer or boxing or basquetball or running. He could also become addicted to PIU or DDR, it seems to work on my friends that don't masturbate regularly and still manage to be quite calm.

Though I do admit those tend to sleep in class and not do homework... >__>

He is a gamer haha xD Wii came to mind just now.
But hmm it's interesting because we want to get closer as the years go on.. ^^" wish I knew more of what to say right now but I got distracted being ADD... hmmmm...

Hmm... for a gamer... maybe get him addicted to Wii sports? I hear that people loose weight and stuff off that so maybe that would help =)

Wii Sports.. Gah. The tennis is absolutely exhausting. xD

Hmmm does any one else have any other suggestions? We can try this out but I'm curious how much else is out there.

Anything physical, some aggression is recommended, that will make him work out until he can't get "Need sleep" out of his mind.

>> << Well what about if I'm a bit of an attention whore for him? I love being able to spend my time around him and stuff like talking or playing around is hard if he's completely exhausted, yknow? And eating habits would have to go up first too..hmm...