I've been down for a bit since most of my friends are in relationships and such. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them, really I am. But I couldn't help to feel a bit jealous.
Of course I flirt around a bit with several different 'styled' guys. From metalheads to geeks and everything in between.

So since last month I got together with a..well, nerd.
I am safe to say that because in the beginning he seemed really nice and sporty.
I must add that I met him a year ago and he was a good friend.
But it appears that his social abilities suck. He isn't social, not to his parents or mine (which is kind of important at my place) He doesn't have a lot of friends and therefore has a hard time seeing and feeling obvious body language and other signs.
And don't start about spontaneous reactions, because he has none.

So I started to think about it and came to realize he's a kind of a loser, who is stuck behind his computer playing WoW and watching anime non stop.
And that's not really what I need.

I need a spontaneous outgoing guy, according to friends and relatives.

I am thinking of having a good chat with him about it, which will probably end in breaking up with him.

What do you guys think, should I just say it that he's not the one for me? Or should I just talk to him see how he reacts?

Sometimes we're not conscious of our own behaviors. Sometimes, the little eccentricities we have can be modified. Other times they really are part of our personalities, for better or for worse.

In short, if you'd like to see if this guy might try to be a bit more social, talk to him about it. If you feel it's who he is, I'd say gently break it off. Some people just don't mesh well, and that's perfectly OK. Changing important parts of ourselves, however, is not. (It goes both ways. If you're not into WoW or anime, don't force yourself as you'll eventually be unhappy. If these are his outlets and he needs them to feel balanced, it's not good for him to remove them, either.)

Sometimes you can prod them to change. My guy is very social with friends and family. I was the anti-social one. Now I go shopping with his female cousins and his sister and her friends. I hang out with his friends and their girlfriends. I'm much happier this way than I was when I was anti-social. I used to just surf the net all the time and watch food network. Not much of a difference between your man's WoW and anime there.... Except I actually put my food network obsession to work! I love cooking for my friends and family now. Before I was too nervous to do so. >_<

Well I think it should be completely up to you. I don't think that relatives and even close friends could judge you and say that you need this type of guy. Sometimes you never know who is the right one for you until you meet them. If you set your standards to only dating people who go out a lot and are very social you might not meet your perfect person. It would really surprise you, maybe one day you'll find a nerd who you really like. But as for the current situation, if you're not into the same stuff he is than it might be time to break it off. You shouldn't feel bad that your friends are in relationships, everyone meets their perfect person at a different time, there's no need to rush anything. And you shouldn't search for love, you have to let it find you, don't avidly go out dating tons of people just to see if any of them work. Chances are it won't. You should just wait until you find a person who you really seem to like and then go for that person.

I'd agree with Chi to let him down gently. You can't change someone's personality, so try to keep your friendship instead of dragging on the relationship and putting pressure on both of you.

I think you should just tell him he's not the one. It's easier that way, since I get the feeling you haven't been dating for too terribly long. Having no guy is better than having one that doesn't suit you. If you stay with him, and he continues to act the same, you will end up resenting him, and that's a horrible feeling.

Well...most people will say that if you think that he's not the right person for you, you should most probably break up! But it all goes back to you...its your own decision...
However, if you explain to him your opinion and what you're expecting, ie if you like him that much, he should understand and maybe, begin to change!
So you should talk to him, give him another chance...and if he doesnt try atleast to show some improvement, you can break up with him then!!!

If he isn't right for you, and you believe he isn't and it isn't your family who just think he isn't then I suggest you talk to him about it. There's nothing wrong with the way he acts, and really, it would be wrong of you to try to change him, not that any woman can make a man change. If playing Wow(which I have to say, I am also addicted to) is important to him, and not to you, then you don't have that much in common. And if you're afraid of hurting his feelings or anything like that don't be. He'll find someone else to sit beside him and watch anime with him, he'll find someone else to talk with via headset and fight Orcs. If you don't enjoy doing the things he does, then find someone who enjoys doing the things you like to do. Or be single, which is a great option. A lot less stressful and nothing to hold you back. No extra dates to remember or anything.

But darling, it's up to you.

Well since this seems like early days and a pretty young relationship to boot I'm going to play devil's advocate. Some people are naturally more extroverted and social butterflies, and some well are very much the opposite. I would be more wanting to talk to him about how you feel and see if he'd be willing to socialize with you on maybe an outing with friends or go out on a school dance or something. I think it's a bit harsh though to label the guy as a 'loser' because his interests aren't the same as yours, or if he's socially inept. (Of course you do realize you're describing me at that time in my life, right? :P) While I'm dead set against trying to force someone to change who they are for the sake of a relationship, at the same time trying something new is interesting and gives him a different take.