If you had the opportunity would you rather date the man or woman of your dreams, appearance wise and who has a great personality but is rash and unpredictable or would you rather date a man or woman who you know would never leave you, always be there for you, would be able to provide for you, but who was on the homely side?

Why?
What does your dream man or woman look and act like?

Dream man. I get bored with people too easily to date someone homely. My dream man is Patrick Bateman from American Psycho, as played by Christian Bale in the movie. :drool: :heart:

Hmm, this is a very interesting question. I obviously wouldn't want someone who cheated on me, because no one does. But for me I think that you can't exactly have a person who's appearance wise your dream. There's lots of different people in the world and sometimes I think that one person is that person but then I meet someone else and I wouldn't dream in a million years I'd like that kind of appearance. But when it's right in front of you then you find you might like it. For me I'd rather go with someone who I knew wouldn't leave me because I may have some jealousy issues and would probably go butcher knife if someone cheated on me.

Originally Posted by LunaLov

Hmm, this is a very interesting question. I obviously wouldn't want someone who cheated on me, because no one does. But for me I think that you can't exactly have a person who's appearance wise your dream. There's lots of different people in the world and sometimes I think that one person is that person but then I meet someone else and I wouldn't dream in a million years I'd like that kind of appearance. But when it's right in front of you then you find you might like it. For me I'd rather go with someone who I knew wouldn't leave me because I may have some jealousy issues and would probably go butcher knife if someone cheated on me.

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@Caroline:
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Ha, that's pretty funny. xP But most people know that I'd probably do something irrational like that, at the very least I'd have to get some kind of revenge. I'm probably a great friend but an awful girlfriend, my life just works like that.

I honestly think I've been lucky, and found the all awesome person of my life. Both my dream man, and I have a pretty good faith in that if our lives were brought together, he would never leave me. Though, right now things are tragically in the way of our relationship. Though, I do love him. :(

Well, you can't really base solely on those factors... But I think that when it all comes down to it, a relationship is based on trust. I am fully aware that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. But if someone is rash and unpredictable, how can you fully trust them? Taking into mind that life is not a shoujo manga (wish I'd learned that earlier in life, would've saved me some trouble), and that sparkly, save-the-day moments are few and far between (if they even exist at all). And as much as I love me a good-lookin' guy, I also am aware that it's what's on the inside that counts. If we were ONLY going by the factors you set up, I'd go with the guy I could depend on.

Of course, this is from the girl who's never had a date or even a serious crush in her entire life, and so maybe she hasn't got her preferences down pat yet. But for now, I'll go with this answer. ^__^;;

My dream man, a blonde boy with really -sink into me brown eyes, i could just melt, and i would probably go with the person who would never leave me because i could trust them more not to go wandering off i hate that in a boy thats why i have never had hardly any sucsessfull boyfriend... well if you approve 4 month as a sucsessfull boyfriend ^_^ i do, sorta.
But i have this guy friend and hes perfect (: we get along so well but i dont want to ruin it.
Any way i would totally go for the second one as a conclusion ... geez i rant :P

Well since I'm married, I think I'll pass. I would most definitely pick the more well rounded of the type. Looks aren't everything, you know...plus you didn't say he was butt ugly or anything. Hubby has his flaws in the looks department just like me, but we have an awesome relationship so we don't care we aren't physically perfect. :P

Definitely the loyal partner.

I could live with someone who wasn't drop dead gorgeous, I just hope they have some flaws.
I don't want anyone perfect, I'd be much happier having someone I know isn't going to move onto the next guy just because everyone's head over heels for them.

I don't want anyone too full of themselves either.

Of course beauty is in the eye of the beholders and I may think this homely person is kinda sexy. As long as they're not hideous.

I'm not sure I even have a man or woman of my dreams. Sure I find certain asthetics or qualities attractive but I can't imagine solely one person I could create a strong and intimate bond with.

That said, I'd rather date the rash and unpredictable 'person of my dreams', purely because I really dislike the idea of being with the same person forever.

Don't get me wrong, I don't have commitment issues - I just think there's alot you can learn from your partner and I want to experience as many human personalities as I can.

I also don't believe love is constant, I consider it fluid. Love and relationships can change into friendships, and vice versa.

Maybe some of you would consider it selfish of me, but I don't want to love one person for the rest of my life.

I want to love many. :)

FACT: "rash and unpredictable" enrages the daylights out of me. Given the two options, I'd go for the sane one.

Given full options, though, I'd take neither. I prefer living on my own. It keeps fingers off my money and means I never have to remember anniversaries or non-family birthdays. Being low on emotions due to having burned myself out through excessive wangsting in high school helps too.

Originally Posted by Caroline

Dream man. I get bored with people too easily to date someone homely. My dream man is Patrick Bateman from American Psycho, as played by Christian Bale in the movie. :drool: :heart:

I'm actually rather shocked that there aren't more completely shallow responses like this one. I would have to say that I would go with my fiancee. He has sandy-blonde hair, tan skin, a nice body, a deep voice, and dark brown eyes that have a faint ring of golden amber around them, soft lips, and a nice big *censored*. XD While he isn't the most handsome man on earth nor the most physically fit. I love him to death. So you see, the man that I have been with for the past four and a half years IS my dream man.

I think I am that unpredictable spouse.

I don't suppose I'd really mind either one at this point in time. I've always lived on my toes, flown by the seat of my pants, so it doesn't bother me that nothing is planned out or no one else but myself is taking care of me.

I'm promised to God for life, so... that's my "dream". It's nice to be able to end up with someone who really IS perfect, and in every way. Though I would recommend most people promise (if they want to promise) only "until they marry" even if they think they never will. Forever sounds dramatic and all, but breaking a promise to God Himself could mean Hell, and just imagine meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right after vowing not to marry, just because you thought you wouldn't. But for my part...

But I would have you to be without solicitude. He that is without a wife, is solicitous for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please God. But he that is with a wife, is solicitous for the things of the world, how he may please his wife: and he is divided. And the unmarried woman and the virgin thinketh on the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she that is married thinketh on the things of the world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your profit: not to cast a snare upon you; but for that which is decent, and which may give you power to attend upon the Lord, without impediment.

-The Bible

Originally Posted by HikariKuro

He has sandy-blonde hair, tan skin, a nice body, a deep voice, and dark brown eyes that have a faint ring of golden amber around them, soft lips, and a nice big *censored*. XD

:rofl:

Smile? :XD

Edit: I haven't any complaints about my man in bed either, other than he only likes to make love before bed...that's a whole different can of worms though! :XD

Yeah, "Rash and unpredictable" seems a bit intense. I've dated a lot of attractive people though, I can't imagine I'd start dating homely people now, though. Hmm. But sure, homely and stable but liveable vs "dream" person who is rash and unpredictable. I'm not great with surprises and I tend to be a little highstrung myself at times.

I don't really have a "dream" guy but I have two types of guys I normally date.

Which reminds me, I don't think homely guys are at a disadvantage with dating, but I think short guys are, lol. I don't mind short guys at all, and I don't mind dating a guy who is several inches shorter than me, but I can tell they get turned down a LOT.

Well, out of the two I'd choose the one who would be loyal and stay with me. I value loyalty in a partner and no matter how good looking or what kind of personality he may have, it's not worth the heartache. Not like I really have to worry about this any more, but meh. ^^

I don't deal well with unpredictability. I like to know where I stand, and I hate playing guessing games. I'm very up front and very easy to read. Even if I was knock dead gorgeous I would rather have someone who's in it for the long haul instead of some asshole who would potentially up and leave me.

I think the best way to put it there's always plastic surgery, but you can't get a personality implant. :lol: (Not that I'm endorsing plastic surgery either...I prefer natural features!)

The homey one. The saying goes that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Trust me you have to like them first. Beautiful people arent as beautiful inside. If you love someone the more you are with them the more attractive they are to you. You want to find someone you can see yourself having a conversation with in future years. Trust me the older you get the more you want someone to talk to you.