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Raphael
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08-09-2009, 03:45 PM
So GD. I'm a little pissed this morning.
I was woken up about thirty minutes ago by my mom telling me my dad had something very important to tell me. I was like, "I don't want to go talk to that drunk."
You see. I'm very, very angry at my father for the last week. I said some unkind words to him, he replied with some unkind words back. Asshole.
But as he had to tell me the very important thing, which ended up being his sister's phone number (he didn't know if I knew he had a sister or not), we were talking about something else and I ended up saying sorry. He was like, "I accept your apology, and I apologize too."
My eyes got big and I threw my pen in hand down.
I'm freaking pissed.
He took the apology as if I was apologizing first.
I don't mean to sound like a baby, but I did not want to apologize first.
This man has already made my life more hectic then a deer trying to roller skate with one foot.
SO GD.
Has it happened to you?
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Apologizing to someone you didn't want too
Fights
Parents
Being immature about it (lol)
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Soul
So I heard you like mudkip?
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08-09-2009, 03:56 PM
I can't say that I've been "tricked" into apologizing to someone, but I have been forced.
I've got a lot of pride because of some things that happened in my childhood. When I get into a fight, I have too much pride to apologize if I feel that I'm right. Multiple times, thanks to that, I have had people force me to apologize even if I didn't want to do it. It's not very pleasant. I'm sorry this happened to you, and i'm sorry about your father. :)
EDIT: Uh, wow. I just noticed how bad, " I'm sorry about your father" sounded. I didn't mean it in a bad way, I just meant sorry about the event. x3
Last edited by Soul; 08-09-2009 at 04:04 PM..
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Raphael
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08-09-2009, 03:59 PM
@Soul: Oh yes, I can understand that completely! I feel like I'm right as well, I don't want to apologize even if I'm being forced. It's crappy.
And thanks.. I think. Lol.
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08-09-2009, 06:13 PM
Many times. My boyfriend is a bit of a manipulative control freak, and I always somehow end up apologizing to him for getting angry when he does something wrong. It's ridiculous.
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RetroTV
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08-09-2009, 07:52 PM
I've never been tricked into apologizing first, but whenever I get in a fight with someone I wub (Friend, family, boyfriend, ect.) I always apologize first.
But really, is it that bad? Swallow your pride, would you rather lose someone important? D: (No matter how hard it sucks?)
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Luzzy
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08-09-2009, 07:58 PM
I never say "sorry"
It's hard for me Dx
I always just let things cool over on their own, works most of the time. :3
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Masamune
The One Who Arranges the Blocks
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08-09-2009, 08:00 PM
Luckily I've never been tricked into apologizing for something, though that may be because I tend to apologize anyway.
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Miss Eevee
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08-09-2009, 11:00 PM
haha, i get that all the time.
or if someone starts crying i automatically apologise 23984276 times, even if it wasn't close to being my fault. D:
i'm weak. u.u
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Jack Friday
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08-09-2009, 11:05 PM
Maybe he thought that you wouldn't appologize and just wanted to make himself feel better by making it seem that you appologized first ya know? Personally I have a habit to appologize for stuff i don't have any part in but when it comes to stuff that i am absolutly hellbent on advoiding or being angry at, there is no possible way, made to or not, that it will happen.
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08-09-2009, 11:24 PM
No I don't think I've ever been tricked into apologizing (at least not that I can remember). Usually I'm made to apologize or I simply decide to be the better person. However, the latter only happens when I argue with my mom because she's too much of a baby to apologize first even though most of the time when we argue it's her fault. When I'm made to apologize though I never say it to my mother's/father's satisfaction. They want me to be nice about it but I really don't see why I should be nice about it if I'm being MADE to apologize.
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08-09-2009, 11:30 PM
I don't like saying "sorry". o: I have an issue with that word. Especially during serious situations. D: Plus when I say the word, I feel like washing my mouth or "bleh-ish". I never do say "sorry" often so I guess it's no big deal. I could probably never get tricked into apologizing just because I don't like saying the word. There's no need to say that word or phrase if the angry mood and tension is gone and the feeling becomes mutual understanding. (: Like whenever I argue with my parents and then we get pissed for like an hour or so with each other, but then after that, one of us speaks up about something random or about whatever, then we just talk normally like we never had an argument.
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CGSuperPanda
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08-10-2009, 05:05 PM
Well I've never been TRICKED into apologizing... But my dad does give me a guilt trip until I do. >.> I hate it. He ALWAYS does that. It pisses me off so much.
My mom even notices he does that but she doesn't say anything.... ugh
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PaintTheSkyRed
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08-10-2009, 05:08 PM
I have four parents and they all do the guilt trip to make me apologize.
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NorthEastFire
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08-10-2009, 06:17 PM
I haven't been tricked into apologizing, but I have been tricked into being friends with someone again.
It wasn't that we got into an argument or anything silly like that; it was just that one of my friends had basically stopped hanging out with the rest of us and started constantly coming up with excuses to avoid us. Needless to say, I was becoming annoyed with her, but I had basically decided that, if she didn't want to be friends anymore, I was just going to let her go. She was never that good of a friend to begin with, to be honest.
Well, one of my other friends ended up somehow making up with her, and one day that friend invited me to come and watch her play practice. When I got there, the friend that had been ignoring us was also there, and we ended up working on props backstage together.
It wasn't until a little later that I realized that it had all been planned.
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Nalah Sin
Mostly harmless
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08-10-2009, 06:33 PM
One thing I've learned over time is that saying sorry isn't a bad thing, not even when you're not/only partly at fault. It tends to take the edge out of a conversation, and in many cases will make the other party not only cool down a bit, but also make them realise that it was mainly/partly their own fault.
If he did apologise in the same breath and didn't mean it in a sarcastic way, maybe he just wanted the fighting to end? And maybe he is just a tad bit too weak to say sorry first.
For apologising (or getting "tricked into") is not a sign for weakness, not being able to is!
Just don't let others "win" - when they where (partly) wrong and they don't reply to your apology, don't just walk away but alert them of their own part in this whole mess. Else they will just use this seemingly "weak" behaviour of yours against you in future conflicts.
(Did that make any sense? It's so hard to find the small line between saying sorry too often and too rarely, and even harder to explain it. :( )
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