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Rufus Xavier
rufus xavier
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09-01-2009, 08:10 AM
I am starting this so anyone who wants to earn gold can just talk about whatever you want. You can talk with your friends through the posts to earn more gold.
Also, I have experience in, let us call it counseling. So if anyone needs an outsiders perspective I would be glad to help if I can, or if you just want to let off some steam.
See the post titled Ask Mr. Xavier.
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Mistress Medeval
Lady of the Night
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09-01-2009, 08:23 AM
OK. Me and my boyfriend are both 14, been going on for 9 months and we really actually do love eachother. He's the guy who walked into my life and made me see why it never worked with anyone else. But recently my parents have gotten hostile towards our relationship. They think we are too young and that I dont deserve the verbal abuse I get from his mother behind my back, (she dislikes me just because I was loud in the library...shes really odd.) but recently shes had a change of heart. Do you think my parents are being unreasonable? Im just now going into highschool and if i couldnt handle his mom then we woulda been over a LONG time ago. but about a week ago, he proposed. No ring, we are keeping it low key, but I said yes and ive been super happy ever since. I just dont know what to do about my parents though. should i let them think we are broken up or not? they said that i can still hang out with him but as friends so basically they just gave me the easiest way to still be with him.
THANK YOUU!!
Edit: How are you?
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misfittbaby
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09-01-2009, 09:00 AM
Hey! You finally made your board. C': Mistress I actually have some advice to give you with that, but not sure if I should take the OP's board. :C
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Mistress Medeval
Lady of the Night
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09-01-2009, 09:08 AM
OP? and plllleaaase help mee?
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misfittbaby
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09-01-2009, 09:17 AM
The board maker. C':
But since he hasn't replied yet, I'll give you my pick and than if he gets back, he can help you!
But due to experience, I must ask - is he your first boyfriend, is your his first girlfriend? If not, is this your first real relationship? The truth is, you are pretty young and yes, love does not have an age, but love does have a mature side to it, and maybe you guys will last but the point is, you shouldn't take it to the level you are - I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now, and I do love him, it's not just a mind trick.. but I remember when I was your age and I had my first boyfriend - we talked just like that and I thought it was going to last forever, but of course, it didn't. The thing is with love, is that you may love them but when you are young, things change all the time.
Needless, no I do not think your Ma is acting out ; in fact, you're lucky - your Ma is looking out for you, and listen to what she has to say. Keep her up to date with your relationship and all that. And no, don't let them no that, it is wrong to lie to someone whom loves you, in fact - she gave you life, respect her and tell her the truth. You should think about just like sitting down with your Ma and tell her about your boyfriend, and everything.. have him come over and you all can get to know each other really well. C':
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Rufus Xavier
rufus xavier
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09-01-2009, 09:25 AM
Honestly, I am a little older so what I say might not be what you want to hear but at 14 you don't really want a commitment like that it brings on untold pressures that you may not be able to deal with. Its always nice to hear someone who has found someone they care about that much. But your question wasn't about you and your boyfriend so lets talk about what to do with your parents. To give you good advice I'd need to know if there are any other reasons they don't want you to be together. But if its just that they don't like his parents then it seems to me you should sit your parents down and explain hoe your feeling. It seems its the his parents they have a problem with and you should tell them that you don't appreciate them trying to break you two up just because they don't like his parents. If talking to your parents doesn't help try talking to his parents and try to get both sets of parents to sit and work out their problems with each other. This is just my advice though take it and do with it what you will. You should also ask misfit to tell you her idea. I'm quite interested in hearing her opinion on how to deal with it.
That is also great advice misfit good judgement.
And I don't mind others posting thier opinions on the situations.
The best path to clarity is to see the world from all angles.
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Mistress Medeval
Lady of the Night
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09-01-2009, 09:43 AM
Hm. I'll keep in mind what you guys have said:) his mom doesn't have a problem with my family, just me. And it's only his mom. My parents are ok they just don't like his mom treatin me like crap. I still am going to continue the relationship, because I think it's pointless to ruin a good thing and sitting down with my parents gets me no where. I don't know exactly what I'm going to do but thank you both for the advice:)
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Kyatto.chan
Kittenlicious
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09-01-2009, 10:09 AM
I'm a lot older like, 7 years lol ...but I was truely in love and my family hated him.... and it was because he never went to the time to talk to them or get to know them. His mother probably doesn't like you because you're taking her baby away. If you really want it to work, you're going to have to give a lot and talk to her, tell her you love her son and say that you want to talk to her about the problem she has with you because the fighting is affecting 'him' make it about making her boy happy and you'll get along fine ^^ and keep talking to him too... communication, honesty and trust are the key ^^
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Thavian Kain
(-.-)zzZ
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09-01-2009, 11:41 AM
II parts to the story:
1.I had a crush.
She was blonde with blue eyes and she was pretty smart.
There were multiple experiences concerning me dodging her and her being embarrassed by me.
So, 2 yrs after the biggest embarrassment, my whole family knew about her. My family and I went for a picnic-camp (we camped for 2 days, then made a big picnic).
Her family was a friend of my dad's.
We all had a fine jump on the trampoline by turns: boys, girls and me. I know, it pretty much sounded like I'm a whole new gender, but I just favourized being alone at the moment, as my back was in pain and she was there. My friends... whatever, my EX-friends ha to literally drag me so I can talk to her. By the time they succeeded, she was already doing something else.
Then, a sad newsflash came to my ears : she only ,,likes/diggs" guys like my friend, Andrew, which was part of a twinness with his bro Luke, who was also my friend. Or used to be. I'll explain later. That pretty much broke my heart, as I realized something is wrong with this world : since when do social butterflies fall for big hunks of muscles and no brain, and not for guys like me, who are average muscle, but big brains? (question nr. 1)
2. My friends... well, my EX-friends are actually 3, not 2. 2 of them are twins (which I know--KNEW for about 12 yrs, and the other one is a midget that we knew for 4 yrs). Why I broke up : nasty stuff they did in the past.
Such as :
I. One time it was an extremely hot day in town, and we left for Andrew's ,,girlfriend" which was a dumb, blonde gypsy. My friends wanted to play a prank on me because they thought it would be funny. I had no bus money; they did; they promised to give me bus money; and when I was on the bus with them I see them doing this : Ticketer : ,, Money, please." They pay their share and when I see that they DARE not pay money for ME ( ,,...guys? Hey, guys, you said you have money!" ,,...pfff-- bwahahaahha, look at his f***ing face, hahahahaha") Then I burst into tears right there. A few meters away the bus threw me out. And there I was, walking on the arid streets, crying, as my home was at a great distance. Then, I walked past the midget's sister (who is a sort of cool hippie girl) working at an ice-cream stand. She notices me and says : ,,Hey, ____, what's wrong?" Then I explain everything, with pauses in between. Then, she gives me bus money. I get home, and the next day they tease me, and, later on, Andrew decides to get back to being friends.
II. Camp. Midget convinces them I'm worthless. Andrew gets back with me again.
III. Home. Luke beats me up, though Andrew promises to protect me. Nevertheless, I caused injury to Luke.
IV. Roxanne Picnic Experience. OK, I guess.
V. Recent Camp Experience. All 3 mock me endlessly, even though I let Andrew waste all my MP3 batteries, even though I gave Eddy (the midget) important advice about how to stand strong when someone mocks him about his height. And I was all 3 of them's somebody-to-fall-back-on, and they expressed their feelings about the camp's quality. And, I must say, they had a lot of hate.
Then, I decided to tell them that I will definitely break contact with them.
Last edited by Thavian Kain; 09-01-2009 at 01:04 PM..
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Knerd
I put the K in "Misspelling"
☆☆ Assistant Administrator
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09-01-2009, 02:00 PM
Rufus Xavier, I've moved this hangout thread into Mene Nations, the place where users can relax a bit and chat with each other. Please be sure to read through the rules of the forum (double posting isn't allowed). :yes:
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