I need help there is a scary person that attends my school he scares me cause he has sexually abused me in my past, I would tell but if I am not believed he won't go to jail or an asylum and he'll start treating me worse (or take it out on someone else), and also cos I need credibility for my mental conditions. (My parents already do not believe me about my conditions) He also said he wants to murder me. May I please get some help for what to do?
I am also scared that he might traumatize someone else.

Edit: Oh, and I think that you'll be able to find more ways to be able to tell me ways to protect myself from him if you were aware that he is a sociopath, wich is also known as sociopathic personality disturbance and anti-social personality disorder and sociopath personality disorder. Btw, you might think you know what anti-social personality disorder is, when you do not. anti-social personality disorder has NOTHING to do with the lack of speaking. And, btw check back for edits, cause when I learn more of the symptoms of anti-social personality disorder I'll list his symptoms. For now I'll link a website with information about his disorder. Link: http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html
His symptoms of sociopathicness & other things about him that may give you ideas on how to protect myself from him:
He feels absolutely NO guilt, he laughs at the suffering of the people he traumatizes cares so little about it, he does it over and over again.
He blames others for the things he commits even if he ends up rapeing someone his excuse is that they deserve it, when the most horrible thing they have done to him, is laugh at his misery, and that he that's what he wanted to do, is his other excuse (sometimes).
According to what he says he has been in juvies for a day before 12 yrs old, I forgot if he said it was for what he said to the cop, or for punching someone or a mixture of both. It seems like he enjoys being an abuser so much cause he loves feeling in control, and he says abusing pleasures him (that might just be something he says to make his victim(s) feel worse though). And maybe it has something to do with being the victim of abuse he said he was raped, the day he raped me. He also says that he got shot though when that clearly did not happen to him, cause if it did, I would be able to tell by looking at him (cause of how severe he claimed it was), so maybe it was a pathological lie. His mother said he was a survivor of a "car crash" he started abusing me before the "car crash" occurred though, I know this cause I was out on the night of the "car crash" occurring to him. If his rages towards me was not melodrama his temper has something to do with a disorder. He wanted me to please him every second it seemed like, if I did not meet up to at least almost all his wants he raged. He doesn't CARE about anyone else EXCEPT him self, for example he doesn't care how much he harms others he cares about getting his OWN way, no matter how bad it makes his victim feel. He "kills" frogs and lizards. He had a very difficult time in school, and still might. He feels the needs to punish others if they do not satisfy him and then sometimes if they do satisfy them will leave them alone. (He was and might still be) definitely irresponsible he had so little responsibilty he got in trouble by the teacher EVERYDAY on some of the school years I spent with him. Check back cause I'll edit this soon to add in more important info, and it may not say if the important info is being added in the reason for editing thingy.

There is only one thing you can do and that is report it to the police if you have proof he did it. Depending on how long ago it happened. The form of the abuse etc. There are tests that can be done for that sort of thing. On top of that if he has a history of violence etc then this will also make your story seem more favorable.

It's not like you can just go up and shoot him in the face so I feel that really is your only option in the matter is to get the law involved.

You should probably tell a school counselor or teacher. Make sure there is always another person you trust around at all times. That way you're safe in numbers. Those are two simple suggestions I think you should really take. Espcially if you're really this afraid of him.

Originally Posted by Gary Stargazer

There is only one thing you can do and that is report it to the police if you have proof he did it. Depending on how long ago it happened. The form of the abuse etc. There are tests that can be done for that sort of thing. On top of that if he has a history of violence etc then this will also make your story seem more favorable.

It's not like you can just go up and shoot him in the face so I feel that really is your only option in the matter is to get the law involved.

I feel the need to want to find another way, if I tell he'll get angry and then want to traumatize me more and probably will (he tends to traumatize me most often when he's angry) And I'll most likely not get believed.

Originally Posted by fuyumi_saito

You should probably tell a school counselor or teacher. Make sure there is always another person you trust around at all times. That way you're safe in numbers. Those are two simple suggestions I think you should really take. Espcially if you're really this afraid of him.

Thanks, for the advice. It is hard to always have someone around me though, even though I attempt to always have someone around me.

Do you have a cell phone or camera?
edit: I know that's a random questions, I'm asking because you can take one of those, and if you ever do get in a situation with him(make sure you have it at all times) then you can record his voice or record the scene on the camera (if it has video, or if the cell phone has video) or..well you know get proof that he's doing it that way. If it happens again though, dont' go putting yourself in danger just to get proof.

Originally Posted by fuyumi_saito

Do you have a cell phone or camera?
edit: I know that's a random questions, I'm asking because you can take one of those, and if you ever do get in a situation with him(make sure you have it at all times) then you can record his voice or record the scene on the camera (if it has video, or if the cell phone has video) or..well you know get proof that he's doing it that way. If it happens again though, dont' go putting yourself in danger just to get proof.

Yes, to both of those questions. thanks, for the advice!

w-what form of sexual abuse? not really important, but...? and also WHAT?! your parents..... d-dont believe you...when you say--you have a mental issue?! that is not good parenting! how ridiculous, what do you think your mental conditions are? why the hell wouldnt they believe you?!?!

Originally Posted by TheNavyBlueMoon

w-what form of sexual abuse? not really important, but...? and also WHAT?! your parents..... d-dont believe you...when you say--you have a mental issue?! that is not good parenting! how ridiculous, what do you think your mental conditions are? why the hell wouldnt they believe you?!?!

The reason to why they do not believe me about the mental illness I think I might have is so absurd I don't believe it, my dad says I am just attempting to scare. My mom says the reason to why she does not believe me is cause I study mental health and cause of the amount of times I asked for help from a proffessional. Just some of the things he did to me was rape me, he also made traumatizing remarks to me when he was aware of how much more younger I was than him (yeah, he failed grades more than once). Some of the disorders I think I have is PTSD a bipolar disorder, and phobias.

This will probably make me sound a little bad maybe... but I think you should tell someone. Maybe talk to the couselor, but don't say his name if your so scared.
Ease into the idea of reporting him by talking about what he's done to you and how you feel.

Never walk alone, remember safety in numbers. Is there a place where you could learn a bit of self-defense? Look into it.

Once you do find the courage to tell someone, get a restraining order, probably on him and anyone who might side with him.

And I hope this doesn't offend you, but I will pray for you. I understand that you may not believe in God, but it may help you feel better knowing someone cares. Just look at everyone giving you advice, they care.

God Bless.

Even if you have no proof, this guy needs to be reported to someone. As has been said, try not to travel anywhere by yourself. At least make sure teachers and monitors are constantly near by between classes and at lunch. If this guy is so dangerous, he really needs to be out of your school and probably in counseling.

As for your mental conditions, tell a school counselor and they can ask your parents to set up an appointment. What harm can a consultation do?

Originally Posted by KitsuchiTenu

This will probably make me sound a little bad maybe... but I think you should tell someone. Maybe talk to the couselor, but don't say his name if your so scared.
Ease into the idea of reporting him by talking about what he's done to you and how you feel.

Never walk alone, remember safety in numbers. Is there a place where you could learn a bit of self-defense? Look into it.

Once you do find the courage to tell someone, get a restraining order, probably on him and anyone who might side with him.

And I hope this doesn't offend you, but I will pray for you. I understand that you may not believe in God, but it may help you feel better knowing someone cares. Just look at everyone giving you advice, they care.

God Bless.

Thanks, so much for the advice!!!!

Originally Posted by PhantomLolita

Even if you have no proof, this guy needs to be reported to someone. As has been said, try not to travel anywhere by yourself. At least make sure teachers and monitors are constantly near by between classes and at lunch. If this guy is so dangerous, he really needs to be out of your school and probably in counseling.

As for your mental conditions, tell a school counselor and they can ask your parents to set up an appointment. What harm can a consultation do?

A medical release home came home from school, and can be used for a profffesional to make a diagnosis, my parent was also suppose to write down any condition a physician expects me to have she wrote down the word none, and none is not a condition she lied on it. Thanks, for the advice!

Originally Posted by Screams-Of-Death

The reason to why they do not believe me about the mental illness I think I might have is so absurd I don't believe it, my dad says I am just attempting to scare. My mom says the reason to why she does not believe me is cause I study mental health and cause of the amount of times I asked for help from a proffessional. Just some of the things he did to me was rape me, he also made traumatizing remarks to me when he was aware of how much more younger I was than him (yeah, he failed grades more than once). Some of the disorders I think I have is PTSD a bipolar disorder, and phobias.

oh. well, phobias are alright, everybody has one, i have a ton (and no, i dont just dislike a bunch of stuff. im terrified of it all) including fear of death, dying, dead things, hell, etc. and (a big one for some reason) bugs. especially fruitflies. yeah, i dunno. and sexual abuse and sex, which is really ironic at this moment. but a ton more as well.
sorry, sidetracked as usual.
but a bipolar disease you should check about with a doctor. i cannot believe your parents dont believe you...! if you are that convinced, they should at least have you checked out. and then you can rub it in when they find out you are right. but this...if they think you would make it up that theres some sexual predater threatening you....i dont even know.

The difficulty here is that it seems as if you don't have any evidence. If you're ever molested or abused by another person, you need to get yourself to a police station ASAP. Do not take a shower, do not change you clothes, do not straighten your hair. No matter how terrible you think you may look, they will be able to pull DNA off of your person and they will be able to use that to convict him. In the end, it will be your decision to press charges or not, but he will still be on the police's radar.

I honestly don't know what you can do at the moment. I'll tell you what though: If you have evidence of it, your parents will have no choice of what to believe. If you feel like they're not going to believe you, and if you feel like you truly have a disorder, try talking to a counselor or adviser around you. They're professionals and they have the education and standing to make any call if you do or do not have a condition.

um yeh maybe u should tell the police and the school just so they know

this happened to one of my female classmates. I had just moved in to her school, to which she moved in to 1 year ago, and she hates me because 2 years ago I had a mad crush on her. (I don't know why, but I seemed to be attracted to her because she was EFF-skinny with blonde hair and blue eyes. but she's a bitch. so, yeah, I beat her up and threatened to bash her head in with an axe. but I only beat her up because she came chargin' to me with a chair. and all because I got the best of her and got an A when she had the chance, but lost it 'cause of me.) I DON'T FEEL GUILTY

Originally Posted by TheNavyBlueMoon

oh. well, phobias are alright, everybody has one, i have a ton (and no, i dont just dislike a bunch of stuff. im terrified of it all) including fear of death, dying, dead things, hell, etc. and (a big one for some reason) bugs. especially fruitflies. yeah, i dunno. and sexual abuse and sex, which is really ironic at this moment. but a ton more as well.
sorry, sidetracked as usual.
but a bipolar disease you should check about with a doctor. i cannot believe your parents dont believe you...! if you are that convinced, they should at least have you checked out. and then you can rub it in when they find out you are right. but this...if they think you would make it up that theres some sexual predater threatening you....i dont even know.

Well, today while talking to my mother I asked her tons of questions about him to her, she says that she thinks he is harmless, I did not tell her about the abuse he has done, and she barely knows him.

@ TheNena- You are correct I don't have evidence. And thanks, for the advice.

@ o_pretty_o- Thank you, also for the advice I need to find another way other than telling though.

@ Thavian Kain-
she should not have beat you up for getting an A on a test.

i agree with the recording advice! u should record what happens so everyone will believe u

yeah, you should record it if it happens again. but how would she have a tape recorder on her, you guys? i mean, i dont exactly know anyone who always carries a tape recorder around, but you could do that...it does make sense.

Easiest, fastest, and least troublesome solution --> Can't you just switch schools and get out of the district? Like, a bit far away. Far enough he wouldn't want to stalk you anymore because it would be too hard to travel there.

1) That better work, or else I think it's better not to detain him, unless if it was a for-life detainment in a cell. Because if he would stalk you to that degree, I'm pretty sure he can stalk you further. Which means that the whole "no more than ----km of distance between you and him" PROBABLY won't work. If he goes to jail, then when he gets out, he'll come for revenge.

2) Get enough evidence to detain him in a cell for life. If you can't do that move to step 3.

3) Someone mentioned getting an audio or audio-visual of him doing something right? Well, I doubt they would get sentenced to jail for life....WAIT!!! what country and state are you in? that changes A LOT of things!!!!! (I can't believe I forgot that part)

Originally Posted by LaVida

Easiest, fastest, and least troublesome solution --> Can't you just switch schools and get out of the district? Like, a bit far away. Far enough he wouldn't want to stalk you anymore because it would be too hard to travel there.

1) That better work, or else I think it's better not to detain him, unless if it was a for-life detainment in a cell. Because if he would stalk you to that degree, I'm pretty sure he can stalk you further. Which means that the whole "no more than ----km of distance between you and him" PROBABLY won't work. If he goes to jail, then when he gets out, he'll come for revenge.

2) Get enough evidence to detain him in a cell for life. If you can't do that move to step 3.

3) Someone mentioned getting an audio or audio-visual of him doing something right? Well, I doubt they would get sentenced to jail for life....WAIT!!! what country and state are you in? that changes A LOT of things!!!!! (I can't believe I forgot that part)

Mommy, won't let me change schools, and btw I live in Florida. Oh, and I do not think he would mind traveling for the purpose of stalking me out. And I tend to unintentionally come across him, at times.

@ TheNavyBlueMoon and RavyynRayne You are correct the recording idea is a good idea, I'll try to always have a recording device with me, I must make sure I record it fast enough though, and he is so scary my mind goes tottally blank when he is around me.

about the recording thing, when you see him, press the record button. I think that audio is better than video because you can record his voice without him seeing the device. Check if you have the recording application on your cell phone.

If its in the States, I think there's a bigger chance of getting him arrested for good, so collect as much evidence as possible.

If you really want a video, that would b harder because you would have to place it somewhere in a hidden place and let it record for a good period of time AND you have to actually know when and where he's going to harass you. So, that option has the least amount of possibilities, but it would be the hardest evidence you can come up with.

My suggestion would be trying to record an audio before a video. And the more the better.

Originally Posted by LaVida

about the recording thing, when you see him, press the record button. I think that audio is better than video because you can record his voice without him seeing the device. Check if you have the recording application on your cell phone.

If its in the States, I think there's a bigger chance of getting him arrested for good, so collect as much evidence as possible.

If you really want a video, that would b harder because you would have to place it somewhere in a hidden place and let it record for a good period of time AND you have to actually know when and where he's going to harass you. So, that option has the least amount of possibilities, but it would be the hardest evidence you can come up with.

My suggestion would be trying to record an audio before a video. And the more the better.

The recording feature on my cell phone does not always work though. And if I get caught with a video camera when video cameras are not allowed in school (idk for sure if they are not allowed in school) and it gets taken away I don't know if it will do any good. I think I might try to always keep the video camera on as much as possible cause he sneaks up on me and cause it's hard to always realize he is around me while walking in a crowd. I do tend to come across him at times while in school alone with him. Even in an art room full of people, when no one is looking he tends to traumatize me, cause that year our art teacher would turn off the lights and force us to watch movies about how to do certain artwork correctly so we know how to do certain artwork. Thanks, so much for the advice! When around him though my mind usually goes blank, hence I don't even know if I will be able to think up, using a recording device around him.

a recording device is safer than a video device because recording devices are easier to hide.

Good Luck with everything >.<

Originally Posted by LaVida

a recording device is safer than a video device because recording devices are easier to hide.

Good Luck with everything >.<

Thanks. And, that abuser I have been referring to will not stop insulting me!! It's good he has not been traumatizing me lately. he might start traumatizing me again, though.