|
prettygirl965
(-.-)zzZ
|
|

10-20-2009, 10:42 PM
ok so i have a school bully and she used to be nice but now she is mean :( i was just wondering how bad any body elses bully are. and what you do to avoid them.
|
|
|
|
|
Leilanie
⊙ω⊙
|
|

10-20-2009, 11:29 PM
Hm... back where I was studying, they weren't exactly bullies... though they did pick on kids. Just that everyone, including the one's that were picked on, recognized it as a joke. I guess I can't be of much help... Sorry.
|
|
|
|
|
cashuea
*^_^*
|
|

10-21-2009, 02:12 AM
I remember when i got into a fight with the school bully. He was stealing money from random people when he tried to target me. I fought him back and he stabbed me with a pocket knife. I went to the hospital while he went to jail. Thankfully he only got my arms and i was out in a week.
That was 4-5 years ago. He is still in prison for other things he's done.
|
|
|
|
|
Flowery Pit
Come fall into my abyss
☆
|
|

10-21-2009, 08:05 AM
How does she bully you? Like physically or verbally? But if you're not the strong type, like tell her to leave you alone, you should tell an adult if it's getting out of hand.
I have been bullied before, but I was timid and didn't have a voice, so I just went with it. But avoiding won't work, because that just makes her feel more powerful. It shows you're scared so that way she won't stop her doings.
So either you tell her to quit it and stop pestering you, which some cases won't work but somtimes if you stand up for yourself infront of them, they won't find it worth it. Or you can tell a parent, or a teacher, that she's really bothering you and won't leave you the hell alone.
|
|
|
|
|
CastellaStar
⊙ω⊙
|
|

10-21-2009, 11:46 PM
I was verbally bullied when I was in middle school. The best thing you can do is to stand up to them (unless you'd be putting yourself in harm's way). Honestly, I would avoid physically confronting them, but I definitely think the best thing to do is to stand up to them. Talk to them in a sensible manner, and basically show that there's nothing they can say that will really get to you.
I would laugh when they teased me sometimes. That always threw them off...they'd wind up confused by my reaction and eventually just left me alone.
Basically, what it comes down to...is you need to stand up for yourself. Don't just let them walk all over you, because then they'll only do it more. If you let them bully you, then that's exactly what they'll do. Don't allow them to make you their target.
And if you are in any danger, then definitely get the help of an adult. Even if you're threatened for doing so, you should definitely not be afraid of getting help. There are plenty of adults out there who should not only be willing to help, but will actually be able to do something about the problem. If you're not in any danger though, I think standing up for yourself is the best action you can possibly take.
|
|
|
|
|
Kokihi
\ (•◡•) /
|
|

10-22-2009, 12:07 AM
oh boy...
when ever someone would decide to pick on me, I would just ignore them. I didn't try to avoid them, and I didn't try to give them what they wanted.
of coarse, I am apparently scary myself (this coming from my boyfriend) and I always hung out with guys who were always willing to help me out.
so really, all I can say to help you with your bully is stick together with your friends, and the only thing that gives bullies power is the fact that they can bother you.
|
|
|
|
|
aino10shi
(-.-)zzZ
|
|

10-22-2009, 07:04 AM
I had a bully in elementary school..
but I did have someone who I sort of had a conflict with in high school.
She basically misunderstood me and I got so sensitive to it after ignoring it
I started crying during lunch time.
I don't get bullies often
only because I didn't do anything to anyone so they don't have a reason to.
But it when it does happen, I talked to a teacher or a counsellor.
The teacher or counsellor might have you and your bully talk to each other
or have a talk with your bully's parents.
I think it would be best to talk to the bully with the counsellor to monitor.
I did that and she and I finally ended the conflict.
The counsellor can get deeper into the problem rather than just blame
the bully for their behavior. Sometimes it's the bully who needed help.
Also with the parents getting involved, it might be likely the bully just get scolded
and the bully will only think it was your fault. If anything, it's best to talk it out with the bully.
|
|
|
|
|
Leenalia
⊙ω⊙
|
|

10-22-2009, 07:17 AM
Here's how I avoided my school bullies, I moved out of state.
I'm glad I did, but it got to the point where everyday my life was in danger, the teachers didn't help either, they were the bullies as well.
|
|
|
|
|
aino10shi
(-.-)zzZ
|
|

10-22-2009, 04:29 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Leenalia
Here's how I avoided my school bullies, I moved out of state.
I'm glad I did, but it got to the point where everyday my life was in danger, the teachers didn't help either, they were the bullies as well.
|
did your family agreed to move or were you living by yourself??
:shock:
Yeah, sometimes teachers don't help at all or making it worse
xD
but I still think maybe talking to the bully with the counsellor monitoring
would at least get into the problem (mentally).
IF you do have the money to move,
then go ahead if the bully is ruining your life rather just daily annoyance.
But it's best to at least try to talk to the bully before planing to move.
If the counseling didn't work (and the bully is still bothering you) and you can't
move away, next best thing is always be surrounded by friends
My boyfriend got attacked once because of the presidential election
(the group didn't like him voting Obama with the sticker on his bag)
Although he managed to get 2 of them knocked down and avoid the other 3,
I told him I want him to be with friends and go home with friends
(with his car near where his friends park).
People are less likely to attack when they are outnumbered.
No friends? Try following a group of people xD
*I usually do that!*
Make some friends while you're at it! :3
The bullying has to stop but sometimes it requires a psychologist to interfere.
Until then, stand up for yourself and do anything to avoid violence.
|
|
|
|
|
Leenalia
⊙ω⊙
|
|

10-23-2009, 03:07 AM
Our parents were planning to move to Arizona from New York City when both me and my brother were done with 6th grade.
My mother knew I was being bullied, but she didn't know to what extent. Only my brother knew because he was the one coming to my rescue ~ kind of sad that now when I recall those incidents, he doesn't remember what happened, and downplays the bullying...saying I was over-reacting.
|
|
|
|
|
aino10shi
(-.-)zzZ
|
|

10-23-2009, 11:16 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Leenalia
Our parents were planning to move to Arizona from New York City when both me and my brother were done with 6th grade.
My mother knew I was being bullied, but she didn't know to what extent. Only my brother knew because he was the one coming to my rescue ~ kind of sad that now when I recall those incidents, he doesn't remember what happened, and downplays the bullying...saying I was over-reacting.
|
Well I'm sure if he does remember, it will something to be proud of.
But at least you can live happier
(with or without your brother being aware that he helped you in the process!)
|
|
|
|
|
Leenalia
⊙ω⊙
|
|

10-23-2009, 11:54 PM
Yeah and now I'm slowly getting better, I no longer have nightmares about the bullyings, I used to have it frequently.
|
|
|
|
|
Ponta
One is never too early to monolo...
|
|

10-23-2009, 11:58 PM
I was targeted in middle school because of numerous things going against me. The worst incident was in gym class when some skinny girl jumped on my back and demanded a piggy back ride. At first I got so angry that I threw her off my back. I then went back into the locker room and cried because I felt so degraded. Nobody did anything as far as I remembered and I never told anyone about me being bullied until many years later.
I guess you could save I "survived" middle school by focusing my attention on school work and pretty much trying my hardest to become invisible. It was miserable but I managed. What worked wonders for me was building up my self esteem in high school. I felt like I was on top of the world 11-12th grade and started to show because a lot of people knew me and actually liked me. What happened is that I stopped being so timid and instead became more vocal and humorous.
|
|
|
|
|
Leenalia
⊙ω⊙
|
|

10-24-2009, 03:05 AM
Ponta, I used to be completely shy and timid. After I made some high school friends, they shocked the shyness out of me, even though I was still timid.
Now I'm out of college and I have the courage to say and do nearly anything. Mostly it's due to my new philosophy in life, "you only live as yourself once, what do you really lose by taking a risk?"
It seemed to work so far =) I regret being bullied though, I wished I had the confidence I have now back then to stand up for myself. Now it's too late to rectify the damages and bring those that did harm to justice.
Bummer though, I would've love to sue their pants off.
|
|
|
|
|
Ponta
One is never too early to monolo...
|
|

10-24-2009, 03:35 AM
While I'll never know if justice was served to those bullies, I'd like to think that me going to college on a full ride and all the accomplishments I had in high school (President of National Honor Society and various other organizations/clubs), made me come out on top.
|
|
|
|
|
Tenshi
(-.-)zzZ
|
|

10-28-2009, 06:05 AM
Bullies always suck, espically durring those akward teenage years. I had one all thought out my school years. He was relentless. It started when I moved here from my home town, her decied he was going to pick and me because I was the new kid, and then as we got older it was because of the clothing I wore. Which I didn't mind too much, I didn't want to be a sheep and wear A&E or Ambicrombie. Then when my grandma passed away in 7th grade he harassed me to the point of tears and laughed as I cried. When we entered high school it only got worse, he still made fun of me for my clothing, and my small size, and anything he could think of. It got so bad that when ever we had a class together if I Could swing it I would switch into another class. On time Sophmore year in our required speech class he was in the class, and he made my life hell, we had to do a speech on something important, and I did it on a photo of my grandma, even years later my grandmas death affected me. And he started laughing, I got so angry I was crying, and apparently the teacher was so worried I would do something that she called the school cop and had us both escorted down to the principals office. I have learned that people like that, who constantly put you down, only do it to make themselves feel better because they are insecure about who they are, so to compensate they hurt others.
|
|
|
|
|
neko xoxox
I REAALY regret my name :(
|
|

11-13-2009, 01:04 AM
we don't really have a school bully, i mean yeah there are people who are jerks now and then but no real bullies. There is only one kid who regularly gets picked on and the sad part is that i am pretty sure he is dislexic. I feel bad for anyone who anyone who is bullied for being themselves. Some people make fun of my shyness, i dont have many close friends because it takes my a while to actually open up and feel comfortable around someone, but i have never had any serious harassment.
|
|
|
|
| Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests) |
|
|
|