Alright, so there's this guy..And I really like him..
But I like being his friend, more than anything! I don't want to really go into details but I don't want to mess up our friendship. He means so much to me...it's weird...

I need help D:

Aw...I hate crying! ;_____;

D: there there, take it slowly... deep breath. one step at a time. No need to rush it ^^; just wait for the moment, and see if he feels the same.

I suppose thats the sum of it in a nut shell. anything to prevent the tears from flowing Dx

Quick! THINK. HAPPY. THOUGHTS. :'D

well, I told him that I like him because he asked and he said it's really awkward because he doesn't want to mess up our friendship either..I just feel so stupid! I never really tell anyone how I feel because I'm so shy..I feel vulnerable..

Life is what it is. As you go through it there will people that come and go. Those who are your friends in elementary school are unlikely to be as close to you in high school, and even less likely to be close when you reach college. By the time you're past college years your high school friends are normally nothing more than distant memories, or people you catch up with every few years to fill yourself with nostalgia. Apart from your family and loved ones there are very few people in your life that will stay around. Your friend is more than likely one such person you will grow apart from, especially if you attempt to remain friends with a hidden desire. If he means a lot to you he will mean just as much to you as a partner. If he doesn't accept it then in the big schemes of things there is no real loss. You CAN go from friends, to love, and back again without ever dating. Go for it, chase him. If he rejects you then shut yourself off from him for a few weeks to a few months and then rekindle your friendship with him once the feeling of rejection is passed. What do you have to lose?

That's just it though, I don't want him to be just a memory. I want to be there for him when he needs me, and be a good friend to him. I really wish I didn't feel this way... D:

But you're right, I don't really have anything to lose..I've never felt this way before..

Hey, we're all only human... You're not alone in this. I'm generally shy as well. Or I don't show much of who I am at the beginning, but last year I told someone I liked him... but in a way, I sort of backed out on my own word. maybe out of fear. or maybe it was just the moment I felt like I really did care about him that way. I eventually realized I was just going by the feelings at the moment. we had a really good thing going too. And I'm not the type of person who betrays others, I prefer to stay loyal to those few individuals in my life that I choose to stick around.
But you can't rush these things. Thoughts and feelings can change, but words tend to stick around for a while. its what you say that people think about.

Maybe you can just tell him you were being honest with him. And if its going to make your relationship akward, try putting it behind you and say nevermind, lets just continuing with how things were going. ^^; just a suggestion.


Insomniac did a wonderful job explaining it. And as hard as it is to swallow, its the truth. :( as bitter as it sounds.

But I can see where you are coming from, because I'm sure everyone feels the need to want to be important to someone they truly care about. Who doesn't want to feel useful, and change someones life. "more than just a memory" ... I'm not sure how close I am to your situation, but I am pulling personal experience as well.

You're a beautiful and important person with or without him, because you have family and those closer to you that have been in your life for a much longer period of time.

Originally Posted by Pixels

That's just it though, I don't want him to be just a memory. I want to be there for him when he needs me, and be a good friend to him. I really wish I didn't feel this way... D:

You don't always get what you want. Let me tell you a little story.

There was a girl I saw at school when I was in grade three. She was two years younger than me, and I remember having thoughts of how ugly and naive she was. She had long red hair that just bugged the hell out of me.

Fast forward around five years, I was working on someone's computer, when a girl walked past with long red hair (coloured blood red) and I instantly recognized her and a memory of the old girl game to me. Somehow this time round I was instantly attracted to her. The computer at that place broke a few more times so I ended up being around there more often and slowly got to know her. We used to have these crazy long conversations about life and philosophy, we'd sit in her room for upwards of five hours chatting.

Eventually I asked her out after knowing her for a year or so, and long behold, I was rejected (the only time I've been rejected actually.) I wrote her a long letter, and she quite literally stopped talking to me - for six months.

When we started talking again neither of us had any real feelings for each other, so we got off on a fresh start. We stayed friends and I was there for her whenever she needed me. Now even though I moved countries, I'm still happy to talk to her, and I'm convinced we will stay in contact for a very long time. There is always going to be that special place in my mind for her, and it would have been good to have dated, but honestly, I'm happy she rejected me, it made me a stronger man and I've learnt a lot from her.

If you and your friends are meant to stay friends you will, no need to worry about it as worrying does nothing but hurt what you two have.

I'm glad everything worked out for you Insomniac... DO you ever wonder why she rejected a handsome fellow as yourself? xD I wonder if that girl's intuition told her that it was your male hormones kicking in.

I'm still in the process of wondering what in the world I'm doing with my life.. for what purpose or reason am I still here. And what use is it to even be in a relationship; ...I have no idea about that last part.

Do people really fear being alone, so badly? is it really so impossible to have people close in your life at the same time be alone... ><; why does any of this even matter.. (mainly criticizing and questioning my own selfish and ignorant thoughts) *sigh*

Originally Posted by ~Black Petals~

I'm glad everything worked out for you Insomniac... DO you ever wonder why she rejected a handsome fellow as yourself? xD I wonder if that girl's intuition told her that it was your male hormones kicking in.

It took me a while, but I eventually found out. No harm done, I learnt a lot from it :)

Originally Posted by ~Black Petals~

I'm still in the process of wondering what in the world I'm doing with my life.. for what purpose or reason am I still here. And what use is it to even be in a relationship; ...I have no idea about that last part.

Do people really fear being alone, so badly? is it really so impossible to have people close in your life at the same time be alone... ><; why does any of this even matter.. (mainly criticizing and questioning my own selfish and ignorant thoughts) *sigh*

People really do fear being alone. We are constantly entering and leaving each others lives, so we know deep down nothing is likely to last as long as we want.

Some people are selfish, they feel that by letting someone into their life that they are opening them selves up to heartbreak, confusion, sadness, and a general understanding that some day there might come a time when that person asks you to be there for them - but you can't, or simply don't want to. Then there are the people with self esteem issues that feel they need someone to be there for them, whether it's just a shoulder to cry on, or even a form of self restraint.

Even if you're selfish, relationships have their place. You might find you enjoy occasionally breaking down your inhibitions and just cuddling on a couch every once and a while. Or you just want someone there to hear your thoughts - if only so you aren't persecuted by a stranger.

Maybe you just need to find someone with as much of a casual feeling about relationships as you do. Who knows, you might eventually grow to enjoy having them in your life all the time? ;)