Nope. I never have, but I'm not waiting until marriage either. I'm just waiting for the right guy.

Originally Posted by Deletris

PG 13 :x and no I'm still a virgin ^^

his comment wasn't so bad at all.. o.o

Yes, and it wasn't all that great. xD Now I'm just in a phase where I'm not all that interested in looking for a relationship period.

Have not.
Can't say if I'm waiting for marriage. What a horrible thing to say..
*shrugs*

I'm not a virgin but, I still set my standards high. I don't sleep with just any guy out there, only ones I really care about. And while I've made a few mistakes, considering I've been with more than one guy, I learn from my mistakes. NOT just guys I've dated but ones that I /really/ care about and I'm /hoping/ this will be the last guy. :]]

Abstinence, ftw. c:

Have it all you want within the boundaries of marriage. Outside of it, it's pretty discusting. P;

I've been married twice and have 2 kids. :angel:



I wish I would have waited for someone who really cared about me though. I lost my virginity at 16 and it was awful. High pressure, me giving in, and sticks poking me in the back the entire time. Weather you wait for marriage or not, you should make sure you wait for someone who will treat you with respect.

It's hard to express my opinion on the matter. I wasn't really waiting, but I knew I wasn't going to get into all of that when I was fifteen or sixteen. I'm eighteen now, in college, and in my first really serious relationship (my first two were with really good guy friends that I never even kissed) with an incredibly sweet and gentle boy; we've been together almost 13 months now.

I had sex for the first time just a couple months ago, because I decided I was ready for it. I don't agree with the young high school girls throwing their bodies around, but I don't run their lives, so it's their decision to make. The way I feel about it all is, like I said, really hard to describe.

I'm not all pro-abstinence or "wait until you're married!" but I think there are boundaries. I would, under no circumstances, ever even entertain the idea of just sleeping with some random person from a bar or club. (Especially since I don't plan on not being with my boyfriend any time soon, or ever.) I don't know if I think it really has to be between two people that REALLY love each other (because I have strong ideas on what true love is, as opposed to high school girls "loving" a boy they just met). I'd rather hear about two really good friends doing that sort of thing together because they're close, rather than hear about someone "hooking up" with some guy/girl for a night.

I have had sex. I prefer 'fucking' however though. Reason being its meaningless and fully dedicated to pleasure. For me to have 'sex' with someone is to establish a longer bond with someone. With that being said, I do not agree with random young girls/boys having 'sex' to be in the 'in-crowd.' It should be something you are ready for. Sitting down and thinking about it and contemplating. Not something that is "Oh fuck! I should go out and fuck tonight!" All that leads to is just awkwardness if it is a friend/good friend. Can lead to uncomfortable situations. Even STDs. So you must be ready and prepared for it. IMO.

Originally Posted by Shoplifter

I have had sex. I prefer 'fucking' however though. Reason being its meaningless and fully dedicated to pleasure. For me to have 'sex' with someone is to establish a longer bond with someone. With that being said, I do not agree with random young girls/boys having 'sex' to be in the 'in-crowd.' It should be something you are ready for. Sitting down and thinking about it and contemplating. Not something that is "Oh fuck! I should go out and fuck tonight!" All that leads to is just awkwardness if it is a friend/good friend. Can lead to uncomfortable situations. Even STDs. So you must be ready and prepared for it. IMO.

A very blunt opinion, but well stated. I like it.

Damn, since when did this site turn Christian?
Of course, "abstinence" makes me laugh, as those people are more likely to do other, sexual-but-not-sex stuff.

As for me, haven't yet, damn it all.

Originally Posted by Salad74

Damn, since when did this site turn Christian?
So many "abstinent" pillocks fluffing about here.
Of course, "abstinence" makes me laugh, as those people are more likely to do other, sexual-but-not-sex stuff.

As for me, haven't yet, damn it all.

Don't have to be Christian to not want to have sex. You just have to be paranoid enough about AIDS and the handful of things you can get weather you wear a condom or not.:P

...and if they taught safe sex in school instead of no sex, you'd see a decline in this attitude. People would have sex if they wanted to and would do it safely, or they wouldn't if they didn't. Now it seems like the lion share don't do it simply because of fear, or do it out of rebellion.

Originally Posted by Kinmotsu

...and if they taught safe sex in school instead of no sex, you'd see a decline in this attitude. People would have sex if they wanted to and would do it safely, or they wouldn't if they didn't. Now it seems like the lion share don't do it simply because of fear, or do it out of rebellion.

True. I'm glad that in my country they really teach safe sex and leave the decision up to us.

i have many times, with one guy, my first boyfriend aka current boyfriend :) i love him so much

Abstinence is nothing to be ashamed of. After all, it's the only form of birth control that is 100% effective. :yes:

I have a great amount of respect for people who do not allow themselves to be pressured into acts that they are not ready for, especially if they do not feel safe. Being able to decline sex is actually a great show of maturity.

I work with urban high school kids and sometimes it makes me sad how much they all feel pressured to have sex, especially considering how little they actually know about it. They're stuck in a very difficult position: Do you say no and get ostracized? Or do you put yourself at risk and fit in, possibly getting pregnant/sick along the way?

I think that more kids actually feel pressured to have sex simply because they don't fully understand the risks that go along with it. After all, what's the harm if you can't get HIV from oral. :roll:

I'm still a virgin, and I'm not sure if I'm saving sex for marriage or not...

With my luck, I'll die a virgin, though. xD Of course, I'm only 15, so it's not as if I don't have plenty of time left {unless the end of the world is in 2012. >.>} to see what happens. Honestly, I haven't even met anyone who I would want to have sex with, let alone date them. Well, there are some I wouldn't mind, but they either don't like me, or I'm too shy to go and talk to them.

I've had sexual experiences before, I try not to think about that experience because it makes me sick.

I am waiting for marriage. Nothing else to say about that, other than sex should be special not something that you do everyday.

You don't have to believe that same things as me. :P

I have to respectfully disagree and say that, as someone who was trying to conceive a child, sex is something that can be done every day. (at least once) :)

It is really worth waiting for the right person, because it's your first time and you're not gonna forget it.
My friend had sex when she was 14 or something. Disgusting.

I'm saving for marriage, assuming I find a nice person who'll be the right partner for me; which'll be hard because I have a bit of a standard for them to reach >.> It's hard to sustain, especially in a world where you can't drive a single freeway without seeing a sign advertising some slut, and I hope I make it.

Originally Posted by Kinmotsu

I have to respectfully disagree and say that, as someone who was trying to conceive a child, sex is something that can be done every day. (at least once) :)

:XD

When my friend and his wife were trying to get pregnant he said that sex was like his job and had to happen every day - and previously he never thought he would get tired of sex - but then when it became his job he wasn't nearly as interested anymore.


As far as me - I'm surely no virgin - but I'm also married


Knerd - It's true there's a lot of pressure on people to go run out and start having sex with little to no real information on the risks and other things that are really involved with the choice.

Originally Posted by siaasgn

:XD

When my friend and his wife were trying to get pregnant he said that sex was like his job and had to happen every day - and previously he never thought he would get tired of sex - but then when it became his job he wasn't nearly as interested anymore.


As far as me - I'm surely no virgin - but I'm also married


Knerd - It's true there's a lot of pressure on people to go run out and start having sex with little to no real information on the risks and other things that are really involved with the choice.

I will never get tired of sex..... ever.....
Then again I only have it twice a year for a few months .___.
*loser*

I think teenagers should be taught about the risks in sex, but not like "Don't have sex, and you won't get HIV! Otherwise you do!" That won't help anyone to learn how to protect themselves in a real situtation =__=; I know a lot about brithcontrol and sexual diseases, thanks to our school system..