@The_Good_Kid_13: Your logic is flawed, thusly your theory is defunct.

@Cash: I think the psycological world is leaning toward a mixture of both genetics and environment... just like pretty much everything else about us, it isn't a battle of nature and nurture, but rather a melding of them. Human beings are generally never STRAIGHT or GAY, but rather most people have at least one exception, whether they admit it or not. (My husband's, I think, is Captain Jack Harkness from Torchwood...) Some people, generally labled as bisexual, just have more exceptions than most.

And I'm okay with that. =3

Originally Posted by cashuea

I don't think my case is environmental considering i live with a highly homophobic family. Even my workplace frowns on it. Can a person be born with both attractions? (considering if it is genetic). Sometimes i just don't know. I still believe a person has the right to love whomever they damn well please, forget the naysayers!

Genetic bisexuality doesn't make sense to me, but it's more than possible. Like I said, I'm not a professional, and this is just a theory.

Also, a highly repressive situation may lead to an attraction towards the contrary. I mean, there are kids that never drink, do drugs, have sex, or even have relationships until they hit college because their parents frown upon it, and once they hit college they go wild.

@Sen Lee Please explain how my logic is flawed.

I'm happy to say that I'm a heterosexual and content with it. I have not had feelings for a woman, and am completely fine with it. I am a Gay-rights supporter all-the-way, and hate when people say, ''thats so gay.'' Seriously, people, ''that's so gay'' would be like gay people saying, ''thats so straight.'' Its wrong. Don't say it.

GO GAYS AND BIS. YOU GUYS ROCK. ;D

I am bisexual and have had boyfriends, but have also had 2 girlfriends (not at the same time, lol). The hardest part was coming out to my parents. My mom doesn't agree that it's right bc she is Christian and my Dad just considers it a "phase" bc the last person I was with was a guy. My sister was the most supportive one. Though she said she could never be anything but straight, she just went on as normal and our relationship as sisters has remained the same. That means a lot to me. My mom has asked me if I was just "confused" or "just curious", but that wasn't/isn't the case. I've known I was bi for years before I ever said anything to my family or dated a girl. I was afraid to say anything bc my family is religious. I was never sexually abused or anything. I just knew I had a huge attraction to girls as well as guys. There are people that have known me for year that don't know I'm bi and some family members who don't know. But if it came up or they found out, that would be fine with me. They could accept me or not.

i THINK im a lesbian. 99% sure.
i believe you are born that way, just as a part of who you are. it just can take a while to realise...

im definetely not a steriotype lesbian. my hair goes to my shoulders, and is curly. my nails are long, my voice high pitch, i hate sports...i most likely hold the world record for saying "aaawww, its so cute!" the most times in a day. (everything is cute to me, according to my friends) i adore stuffed animals, my room is Hello Kitty- ified to perfection. XD i am the girliest person of all my friends...but i like girls, not guys. *shrug* you definetly would not guess at first glance my sexual orientation.

also i was never sexually abused. i dont see how that is connected at all.

idont see any reason to come out to dad...hes not homophobic or a hater, buut i dont think he would be very understanding. and i dont date, not yet. so, until i meet an awesome girl, i'll just keep this to only me myself and I.

Im bi but I like boys a little more then girls.My mom's husband wont even let homos in because he hates them which is why they don't know really. It's messed up. I hope we get to a place where we don't have to hides to protect ourself from others. Bisexual are not that accepting in groups cuz they think we are confuze or we are sluts.

That pool shocked me. O__O';;

I am completely straight. I used to be bi-curious but I realized I just couldnt be with a guy romantically. I also used to absolutely hate gays and I had no idea why, until I found out that my favourite aunt was lesbian and I realized that there was nothing wrong with it cus she was such an awesome person. Another aunt is bisexual and my half brother is gay. It took me awhile on my half brother but I accept him now. Also one of my very good friends turned out to be gay and nothing has changed between us, I still even sleep over without any weirdness but his best friend is still kind of coping. I usually seem to befriend bisexual women as well. Which I have no problem with (not in a 'sweet two chicks!' way).
But after coming to terms with gays I have been incredibly tolerant and understanding of pretty much everyone's lifestyle. Unless its based on hate. Them I would like to murder x)

I'm straight but Many of my friends have turned out to be Bi. go figure they're great people ( the ones i've met) so what if a girl likes another girl? or a guy another guy? it's the personality that counts! i don't like people who will judge a person just because of their sexual preferences...it's just wrong. anyway sooo yeah intereting poll

I am straight but I have never understood why people feel the need to discriminate anyone. You don't choice who you love your heart is in control of that. I love diversity and what would the world be if we were all the same. Being raised in the south prejuidce and racism and all is so stong and so many people are so ignorate and hateful. I just can't understand how people can be that way. ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE! We are all humans and we are not robots so why do people try so hard to be the SAME

Originally Posted by The_Good_Kid_13

@Sen Lee Please explain how my logic is flawed.

I could be mistaken, but it seemed to me that you were basically saying that bisexual people are just confused, that they haven't yet figured out what sexual orientation they are. That their environment makes them uncertain about who they are attracted to, and thusly they can't choose a side of the fence to be on.

Genetics and environment aside, the human brain has the capacity for untold depths, including the higher function to discern love from the need to reproduce. Some people have the inclination to love their same sex, some the opposite sex, some include various gender identities, and some to not care if they are male or female.

Life isn't so black and white as to include only properly gay people or properly straight people. There are things inbetween.

Your teacher will probably appreciate some current events thrown into this essay, so Google Matthew Shephard. An act was recently passed that included gender identity in the protection provided by anti-hate crime laws, named after Matthew. He died after being beaten, dragged behind a truck and tied to a fence by two men who claimed they reacted to being hit on by Matthew. Melissa Etheridge, a lesbian singer/songwriter, wrote a song called Scarecrow about Matthew. Might include something about her as well. She's an outspoken advocate of equality and you can probably find lots of interviews where she discusses discrimination, especially concerning that stupid proposition that passed in California forbidding same-sex marriage.

Personally, I'm straight. My mother is a lesbian and my cousin, one of my favorite relatives, is a transvestite. I am somewhat active in the gay community and fight for equal rights for all GLBT/third gender people here and abroad.

im a bi crossdresser my gender is male even tho im bi i do prefer the girls a bit more than the guys

I like bioguys biogirls ftm mtf whathaveyous preopsomethings.
I'm attracted to humans is what I'm saying.
I uh, do have an attraction to people with the f factor the most, though.
Well, according to my track record.

I can never be completely honest with my family about who I am in terms of my sexuality. This makes me sad.

But I'd rather be happy and be with who I want to be with, so that's what I'm going to do.

I am bisexual, with no real preference for males or females. I like both. xD
I live in the Netherlands, which is usually fairly openminded. Yeah, I've had someone yelling 'lesbian' at me a few times, but I don't really care. Usually I reply with something like "No, I am bisexual. At least get your facts straight", at least, if it's someone I know. If it's some random person in the city, well, I just don't give a fuck.

At school there are some people spreading rumors about me - hey, they're always doing so - and what amused me last time I heard a few of the gossip was that according to one person I was both lesbian and in love with one of my (male) teachers. Pretty flawed logic there. xD

I also have had people simply walking towards me at school and asking me if I am a lesbian - probably due to the rumors - after which I tell them that no, I am not lesbian, I am bisexual. xD

I'm just bi, I prefer guys but there are times when i'm like "AWwwww she's so adorable!" For guys its more like someone I can relate to that i'd like when with girls I just like adorable and nice girls. XD I really don't talk about my tastes in people offline but online I tend to be more open about it. I think the thing is, is that i'm in highschool at the moment and the group of people that are in the same grade as me are just cruel so I would rather not tell them about if my bi or not.

My cousin is gay, girls are fine with it and are acually really good friends with him but alot of guys hate him and make fun of him, sadly. :/

I'm bi-sexual with a heavy preference for males. My family doesn't know, because I honestly don't think they'd understand. It's odd, because I've always been an advocate of "fuck it. They are your family, they should love you regardless. Go ahead and tell them who you are, and if they don't like it, go ahead and tell them to fuck off." I suppose it's just because I can't bring myself to do it that I'm passionate about getting others to do it....weird.

I'll actually admit to being a bit bi-curious, but I don't think I could ever romantically be with another girl.

I guess i would be bi-curious. I had a freind back since middle school who always looked out for me, she beat up my boyfreinds when they broke my heart and such. One summer she told me that she was bi and it shocked me but soon I came to terms with it. When she told me I was like "do you like me?" and she was like "Omg, why it is whenever you come otu to people they think you like them!" after that she was more open with me and disscussed her girlfriends up to that point i didnt know she had.

About a year latter she and I whent up to my work and got drunk, I was there with my boyfreind and annother guy. She randomly groped me twice and supprised me. Then latter on she told me that she liked me. However i did not like her. I just was never attracted to her and only thought of her as my friend for so long that that couldnt change. We moved on.

A year or two later a girl gave me a note that said she liked me. I had only ever noticed her once at an event held by the school wich she had participated in. She was very cute and it turned out that she was acctualy in one of my classes. However, I pretty much skrewed it up. She and I went on a date, I asked her out. And we shared a kiss after wards. I was very unsure of myself at the time and told her that I was and that I couldnt be with her because of that. She also had a supper pissed off ex at the time that she told what happened and it was a mess. I fealt bad about myself, I hated her possesive ex, but I couldnt acctualy commit to her with out being sure of myself, also people were saying bad things about me at school becuase she passed around the notes i sent her. She belived that she couldnt trust me becasue her ex told her so. I only let one person read the notes she sent me tho. I wanted to get back at her but I never did, I was extremely hurt when she said she couldnt trust me. I still regret what happended between us. One of my freinds said that he thought that I genuinly did care for her. I tried to get back in touch with her a year later and she still wouldnt talk to me. So I decided to leave it alone and let us both move on.

Now I have a boyfreind, who I love. He met my friend from middle school and has been with me though a lot of things in my life. I've always thought that I wouldnt mind being with a girl but it had to be the right girl. I can see girls and think "oh thier cute" but I havent explored much farther than kissing that one girl. My boyfreind said that he could call up some of his friend that are girls and have them find someone for me, but I decied that I wanted to find someone on my own like I did with him, I didnt just want anyone to pick random girls for me. In addition to this, we whet to a party and this chick was majorly hitting on me, but i didnt want anything to do with her because she was too easy even though I was majorly drunk at the time I still didnt want to have anything to do with her. (she wasnt drunk because she was helping the ppl throw the party). So I've been on the lookout, but I dont get out that much.

I have recently found a girl who is beautiful, talented, and perfect. I havent talked to her much but I told her she was beautiful a while back. I havent seen her since tho.... I dont even know what her preferance is or if she has a significant other. But people have already spread rumors about me. One of my old accuaintances talked to me out of the blue and he said "so i heard your going out with this chick now..." which is totaly untrue. I havent seen her since that day. T_T


~as far as the paper goes, I told my mom when the thing with the second girl started. all she could say was that she was very sorry for me because I would have a hard time at life and that she'd pray for me. I havent told her that I'm gonna try and start over and give it another chance... She did know that my freind from middle school was bi because one time I told her how my freinds girlfriend broke up with her, and she was like "when did she get a girlfriend?" and i was like "didnt you know she was bi?" i guess i didnt tell her. i seem to forget things like that. my mom had a high oppinion of my friend even after that becuase of my friends horrible financal situation and having to support her family, my friend was also abused as a child and has a fear of men. my mom and i never minded about her spending the night, she was still my freind.

also on the paper you could think about what makes people decide to have alternative lifestyles? for me I dont think I would have considered it except for my childhood freind and the expreience I got with her, I would still think that bi-type people are people to if i hadnt met her but I dont think that I would have put as much consideration into being bi if it wasnt for her. She made me understand better. I also had a gay guy friend in HS but I wasnt that close to him. I had a friend find out that her brother was gay and she freaked out...

back on the alternative lifestyles, theyve always been around but nowdays people are becoming more accepting of them and are becomeing informed about the gay comunity. Thats why it is possible for gay rights to have so much posivite support. In additon to this straight people arent as in the dark as they used to be about gay people, and are considering them more as people instead of "eww weird".

also a theory of my dad's was that gay life styles are the result of influences and life experiences ( a learned behavior), instead of people being born that way. This is because a series of events or a certain event can make people into who they are. Even though my parrents are straight and never talked to me about the possibilites of an alternative lifestyle I have still considered it. This is becuase of my peer realtions,which according to psycology are stronger than parental influences.
(reference: The Nurture Assumption by Judith Rich Harris; "childrens genes and their peers are far more important than parents in children's development", "Although children imitate thier parents to learn how to behave at home, they imidate other people to learn how to behave outside the home") To me it is also considered a learned behavior because of how I have grown to condider it over time. Take alcohol for example, the first time I tased it I didnt like it. The last time I tasted it i did. This is becuase I have grown accustomed to it over time.

Another thing to consider is how much humans have evolved. At the begining of time we were basicaly using our survival insticts to reproduce find the best mate and such. Today surving means a much different thing. Women can now take on male roles in society and be accepted, some women make even more money than men do. This could redifine the qualities one would look for in a significant other (depending on the person). I dont realy have anything to back this one up but then again I havent looked. Its just something to think about.

You could also look for some correlation to the amount of gay awareness and the amount of gay disscrimination for your paper. Im a real fan of correltional data. But you have to make sure that there couldnt be another cause for the data to be correlated. Ex) ice cream sales and violence are positively correlated. but it doenst mean that ice cream sales cause violence. these things both happen in the sumer time. when the tempature goes up so does the sale of ice cream. however violence also increases when the tempature goes up. though research it has been determined that hotter tematures result in decreased patience and elevated emotions.

i hope some of this might help >.< good luck

Originally Posted by -Melody

I'm a gay guy who dresses like a girl, you honestly do not want to know what I've been through in the past. Those who do discriminate, bitch have you had a dick up your ass?! Have you been to heaven and back?! No, so shut the fuck up and let us live our merrily fucking peachy lives.

<--- this was inapporiate. I'm sorry but it's offense and there is a better way of saying it.

The thing that I dislike the most is that gays have to announce it. Other than that I don't have any problems. I never witnessed any real discrimination against them. I have gay friends and love them deeply. But I went to art school so there was array of acceptance there.

wow- finaly finished with the longest post ever, hello runes ^_^

i tried crossdressing but it i didnt like it. i like comfortable clothes and did spend part of my childhood on a farm but i like pretty clothes! >.<;;

i just overdid it when i tried to get my boobs to go down and it was very uncomfrtable... i put a lot of tight small fitting shirts on and then put a baggy one on top with some baggy pants.

i also tucked my shirts in one or twice with pants. one of my friends was like "why is your shirt tucked in? you look like a guy!"

when i went to catholic school and showed an interest in dating women i was called an attention seeking whore and for all intensive purposes shunned

ah, ppl at my school already thought i was basicaly a whore because of my bad choices in men... I cant seem to keep a guy for more than a year T_T

also i think it is important for people bi and such to have a good support system. I dont realy have one of those so I stress out a lot I dont realy have any close friends, the one from middle school moved and I havent heard from her since... I only realy trust my significant other.

i don't think ones ability to hold a relationship constitutes one as being or not being a whore

ah, well when I piss off all my "freinds" which were basicaly my bfs friends by dumping him and going out with another guy that makes me a hore. I didt realy have anyone to take my side T_T

as far as the dumping him and going out with another guy so quick, I found out a lot of things I didnt like about my bf during the time I spent with him and got to know him.

im more realaxed around guys because theres less drama, so I have a good amount of guy freinds now

also @ runes even tho shes not here right now >.<
I realy admire the guys who can go out of thier way to look and be different. Im a shy person and I dont have a lot of confidence so I wish I could do that sort of thing. I do dress kinda weird sometimes, but only on specail occaisions and 90% of the time its anime/manga related.