I've always known I could be a bit of a pest and judgmental, but just now I've realized that I am actually obnoxious, and I think I have a bit of a problem.

It all started like a year ago when my former best friend begged me to join Vampirefreaks. I went on there, took one look, came to the conclusion that everyone there was a lunatic, and refused to even talk about it again*.

I'm not a prep or anything. I am generally pessimistic, I do have a mood disorder, and I do disagree with most of main stream's fads. I don't scream it to the world through thick eyeliner, straight black hair, and piercings. I'm all for being yourself and being a "non conformist", but ironically, they're nonconforming like everyone else.

I had left it at that. But then about a month ago my new ex tried to get me to join. I was bored, so this time I caved and made an account. My profile is white and pink, with an over all happy message applied to it. I'm depressed a lot, so I try to surround myself with happy things in an attempt to cheer myself up. My profiles reflect that.

Here's a taste of what I have written:

Likes
The color orange and yellow, lulz, smiling, upbeat happy inspiring music, cats, learning, genealogy, history, politics, medical science, comedy, colorful things, Christianity

Dislikes
The color black and purple, crying, blood, downers, sob stories, dark poetry, whiny music, eyeliner, drama, people who take the internet or themselves too seriously, loud music

And for favorite music, I start with Britney Spears. (Don't scoff. I KNOW you still have one of her first CD's in your closet. I see through your lies, you loved to sing "hit me baby one more time", don't lie. And you know at least the chorus to Womanizer and Circus. If you don't, you live under a rock.)

My current favorite guilty pleasure and pastime is to go onto the "classifieds" section and laugh at all the posts under "alternative lifestyles".


If I was a fan of Vampirefreaks, and I came across a profile like mine, I'd be a little annoyed. Some obnoxious person made a fake account to make fun of everything that makes me who I am? What a prick.


What about you? How you done anything obnoxious lately? Do you think I'm obnoxious and mean or closed minded?

*He knew that I knew that he was crazy (c'mon, pale skinny guy with eyeliner and hair past his waist-- it's not like it was a secret), but he knew I accepted him and loved him anyways. He bought me an engagement ring, and I honestly thought he was "the one". Later that year, he cheated on me twice, then he broke up with me and became a homeless schizophrenic. /: That really left a bad taste in my mouth as far as my feelings towards "goths" and "emos". Yeah yeah, don't judge a book by its cover. If you picked up a red book and the book bit you, you'd be wary about picking up another red book, shut up.

I spoke with him about a week ago. He's pretending to be an atheist just so he can be his own God. He also said he would kill himself if I did not get back together with him for a 4th time. I explained to him that we already played this game over the past two years, and I can't handle it anymore. I've already tried to fix him, and I can't handle being his doormat any longer.

I suppose i can be a little obnoxious about some things but nothing too big... cant think of anything i have done lately though....

Well I do live under a rock ^_^ its nice and mossy with just a few cracks in it, rents only 10$ a month! >.> I have never even heard of those songs i have only heard "hit me baby one more time" and that line is all i know is in it, not really the type of music i've ever listened to, Im more of a moldy peaches girl :P

Well reading through this whole post not once did i think you sounded obnoxious, mean, or close minded, i think its rather amusing that you put up a profile on that website, probably the most accurate and real profile even on that site =O

I used to dress "goth" in high school, back when life was "oh so horrible" but nowadays when i have real things to be depressed about and jobs, rent, and relationships to stress for, i find myself wearing brighter colors as they do lift my mood more, the colors I wear definently have an effect on my mood... I sometimes find myself laughing on the inside at some of the trends that are out now...

wow sorry im rambling :)

BE PROUD TO BE YOU!

I don't think your obnoxious! Eons ago I had a vampirefreaks account, and my background were all the Care Bears as babies. It was cute, bright, and colourful ^.^

But thats who I was, and you know what I'm 18 and I still watch the Care Bears. They made up who I was.

Like what you wanna like.

And to be honest, I loved Brittany's first 2 albums, but I don't know Womanizer or Circus, simply because the only time I hear modern music is on my way to school and back home, on the radio.

Let me put it this way . . . . . .

Arguing with people and telling them they are wrong is a complicated thing. Obviously there are moments when people ARE wrong and that they need someone to disagree with them and show them the right way to do things, but those moments aren't all the time.

We need people who challenge us and not agree with us sometimes. We'd all be stupid if there wasn't those people because we'd do everything by instinct and by what we feel we should do and never think about our actions and whether or not they could possibly be WRONG. We'd have no reason for anything we did and therefore wouldn't live the best life we possibly could.

But you have to analyze how important it is for you to be telling everyone that what they like is bad or wrong. Do you have good reasons for doing it or bad? Are you just trying to hurt those people and annoy them or trying to genuinely improve the quality of their lives by helping them? And do you really understand or know these people at all or are you judging them based on stereotypes and quick conclusions you came up with?

Because I notice that a lot of times when people are being genuinely obnoxious and unhelpful it's when they are trying to do these things.

I'm a big fan of Twilight and post on a Twilight forum. It's just a fun hobby for me, but there's actually people on it who think it's an IMPORTANT purpose and goal for them to join the site and argue with us and tell us how stupid Twilight is. Honestly, are they changing the world and improving all our lives by doing that? Is it really HARMING us to like Twilight? And do they really understand any of us or are they generalizing?

My Grandma nags me a lot, but she does it not only for her selfish desire to meddle in everyone's life, but also she doesn't know me at all, so it's not really fair for her to do so. She thinks she can tell me how to live my life without even knowing anything about it? I think not.

Just that kind of thing. It's really different if my Mom were to go,"I'm seriously concerned about Twilight and the affect that reading those books is having on you." Than for a random stranger online to go,"LOL. Twilight sucks and you are a loser for liking it."

If people had more pure purposes and wiser intents when delivering their criticisms of other people, then things would be a lot better. There would still be conflict. There has to be conflict as long as people aren't constantly nodding their heads yes and agreeing with one another all the time, but it would be more civil and intelligent conflict. Rather than ranting for the sake of ranting. Or making everyone around you feel miserable for entertainment.

I only criticize others when I have a good reason to because I don't ENJOY it when people get mad. It's not fun for me and I don't know how ruining the lives of everyone around someone could make anyone happy. It would make me hate myself and feel like a waste of a person, honestly.

But just know, I'm not accusing you of any of these things. If you made your profile that way with no intent of hurting others or genuinely had their well-being in mind by taking a stand, then good for you. I'm just expressing to you what I think the standard of whether or not you're being obnoxious in your actions is. And if you are, I'm by no means perfect either. It's easy to be selfish and critical of others for my own sake and I'm sure it's the same way for everyone else.

First off, can I give you a hug for the crap you're dealing with your ex? I'm having the same exact problem with my mine and I really thought I wouldn't have to deal with her again and all her lies but guess what? She moved back to town - right down the street from my home D:

And I don't think you're obnoxious - I'd find it highly entertaining. (But then again - I can be an asshole and might even do the same thing if I joined the website, lol.) The fact of that matter is, you can be a part of a community and still be different from them. Why should you deck your profile out in dark images when you opt out for the much happier colors? It makes you feel better - so screw the person who gets annoyed by it.

Sorry for the late response. x.x

@Synthetika- I'd live under a rock too if it was $10 a month!! @[email protected]
But I'd have to insist on keeping my music and knowledge of the outside world and culture. I'd be bored without it. X)

Thanks! ^^ And I'm SO so glad you're wearing bright colors. It's always encouraging to see others trying to be happier, even with basic things like colors.


@Syraannabelle- I have Care Bear sheets. x) They're my favorite because they're not itchy like other sheets. I used to have a stuffed animal of one somewhere, I think. It actually might've been my cousin's. I forget. x.X

@The Enchanted Tiara- I can't stand the people who make fun of Twilight. >_e "VAMPYRES DONT SPARKLE NOOB". I myself don't like it (then again, I've just watched the first movie, and was freaked out by how much he stared at her), but it's Meyer's book, and if she wants her vampires to be that way, that's fine. Vampires were originally zombies. Historically, vampires are not sexy and drink blood. Historically vampires are rotting corpses that eat people.

I don't know exactly why I made the profile. I think it was just to annoy my ex. xP Nothing serious. But if someone comes across it and reads it, I hope they realize you don't have to be a snotty judgmental "prep" to like Britney Spears and the color pink.

@Ponta- -hugs- I'm sorry you're going through that. /: It really sucks.
Keep yourself distanced emotionally. If she wants to contact you and talk, limit it to email. That's what I do with my ex. He wants to talk to me, but I won't talk to him on the phone or face to face. I restrict our communications to short IM conversations. Even then, I don't put faces into it like "xP" and "x)" or anything. If it's just words it sounds very unemotional. And don't be the one to talk first. Keep answers short, if it's a yes or no question, don't eleborate, just say yes or no.
It'll feel cruel, it sounds cruel, but it really is for the best. You're still talking, still open to at least being friends, but still extremely distant.

I don't know if I am obnoxious but i am a little crazy(but in a good way), but alot of people hate me so maybe I am obnoxious...

Yeah I think I would be a little insulted if I saw something like that, but then again i'm not really into vampire sites. XD

I used to be really annoying in the past but i've calmed down a bit and just go along with what I like. I'm acually VERY two-faced, sometimes i'll be acting all cheery and colorful one day and the next day i'll be quiet and isolated. ( so I can be dark colored but neon colored at the same time ) But really you can't be happy all the time I just try to make sure that the people around me are happy, if I make them feel unhappy because of how I act i'll feel like its my fault.

Though everynow and then I just burst, some days I just get so stressed and how people treat and think of me that when I was online once and someone said I shouldn't believe in things like witch craft and magic I just bursted and started yelling at them ( I'm not Wiccan exactly, but i'm along those lines and most people don't accept that... )

I dont think you are obnoxious! ive done stuff like that, actually.
if you like that stuff, then thats your right. like what you want to, ya know? who cares what they think.

@Syraanabelle- LOL that reminds me of me! except that instead of Care Bears, it's Hello Kitty. XD my friend calls me lame because im so into Hello Kitty, but i dont care. I have a hello kitty alram clock/radio, hello kitty blanket, sheet, and pillow case, and a hello kitty phone (not a cell, its a home phone, plugs into the wall). XD Well, Hello Kitty is cute, and i love everything cute, hello kitty is just the cutest. :P

Originally Posted by Demoncat

Though everynow and then I just burst, some days I just get so stressed and how people treat and think of me that when I was online once and someone said I shouldn't believe in things like witch craft and magic I just bursted and started yelling at them ( I'm not Wiccan exactly, but i'm along those lines and most people don't accept that... )

I get like that sometimes.
I took crap from everyone I knew up till I was 10. I'm a nice person and try my best to be helpful. people knew this and took advantage of it. plus i hung out with some snobby people who were really bossy and kinda mean. they didnt treat me too well a lot of the time, but sometimes they were fun to be around. I was very shy and quiet and helpful, and easy to take advantage of. So i took crap from everyone, did anything they asked because i was too timid to say no. then when i was 10 i saw these people yelling at one of my really nice friends in a summer day camp i went to back then. she didnt do anything wrong, they were just jerks.
i just....snapped. i exploded and started screaming my head off at them, telling them to leave her alone, that she didnt do anything wrong, that they were being asses.....I feel bad about it now. but it worked and she said she was glad i did it.
now im 13, and very opinionated and open, while i do care what people think of me still, im not quite so self concious.
im still nice and friendly and shy....usually. just dont mess with me or my friends.