this is where if you feel bad about your life you can come and tell it here and hope you feel better but you know things really suck some times and we just have to tell someone anyone that will listen so here is the place to do it

okay so the thing is i just found that most of my friends are in the navy and almost the rest of them are getting married and having kids and are in college......well me my fiance let me for jailbait and is joining the navy now and i am a high school drop out....live with my parents, don't have a ged and no job so i guess it is pretty obvious where i went wrong in my life......

i haven't thought about where i went wrong,however, i have thought wondered what i did in a past life to deserve the hand i've been dealt in this one

well that does make sense i think i did very bad things in all my past lives to get a life like this one right now

I don't exactly wonder where I went wrong in my life because I know exactly where it all started. After I graduated High School I got into drugs and started ditching my friends to go get high. Eventually, it go to the point where all my closest friends from Highschool ditched me and the only friends I had were the people who I did drugs with. And all they did was pull me further and further into it. But, I eventually started to get my life straight again. I met a nice guy, although he's not exactly my boyfriend, and I'm gonna finally start college.

Wondering where things went wrong in your life won't fix anything. But, you can pick up the pieces that're still there and use those pieces to get everything straight. :3 You don't have your GED? You could maybe start by getting it. I know how it feels to sit there and watch your friends run off, get married, have kids, and join the Military. I've always lived in Military towns to I was forced to watch my closest friends sign their souls away to the government. And I hate it most because the guy I care about did the same thing. I rarely see him.

But, none of that's gonna keep me from staying clean and getting my life straight. I'm not saying that it's easy or anything but, I know for sure it'll be worth it in the end. :]]

I always wondering about what would be different if I chose to do some things diffirently. And if I did do things differently, how drastic would the changes be?

thank you so much for sharing with me i am glad that you are doing so well and i know how hard it was on your family and i am glad that you are able to get out of it and i am working on my ged but writting dosen't seem to be my stronge suit right now and that is all i have left to get and your a really good person i wish my Aunt could have found her man in time like you did the bad thing about it is she is slowly dying and the doctors can't do nothing for her heart but then again she has been doing for years and then there is my grandma she dissappeared after her ex/my grandfather died but i am So happy that you are doing so good with your LIfe now and I hope you keep up what you are doing and thank you for your words of wisdom they are really helpful and that is why i made this thread so poeple can find the help and words that they need

When I got obsessed with the internet.
That is where I went wrong.

Some times I wonder if I should have followed my heart from the beginning. I keep rethinking, backing out, changing plans, giving in, and I wonder where I could be right now had I set a straight arrow path and never looked back. I also think I am getting stuck in the same path as my father. He always obsessed over money and told me that I would never be happy unless I was making enough money. I used to think I was so different, I told him I would only be happy if I was living the job of my dreams. My dream job was so simple, I wouldn't have to worry about money but I would be happy. Now I am looking at an unknown future with the stakes aimed higher than I can reach, to a location where I am sure I won't belong, because of the dreams of my relationship. I love him and I will always be by his side and him by mine, but I am not cut out for the city or high social life, its going to break me.

well you know the saying follow your heart.....it is true you should follow your heart but you should think about what type of situatuion your going to get into when your deciding i have followed my heart most of my life and i am glad i did but then i started thinking with my brians (sp?) and that is why i am where i am now

Originally Posted by Ameika

well you know the saying follow your heart.....it is true you should follow your heart but you should think about what type of situatuion your going to get into when your deciding i have followed my heart most of my life and i am glad i did but then i started thinking with my brians (sp?) and that is why i am where i am now

I added more above XP, I think my heart is trying to tear me in half.

Wow! Ive never actually thought about that till now!

well my uncle lived for money and he wasn't married for years and me and my sibilings were the happiest things in his life then we moved out and he got lonly and married a woman who only wantted his money and now he isn't so rich well he is on paper but my point is the money didn't make him happy his family did and well i guess what i am saying is do your dream job it is what you want.....take my dad as an exsample he did what his parents wantted him to do and he was never happy until he went with what he wantted and what made him happy he married my mom and became a cop and had six kids......as long as your happy i don't care about the rest is what he tells us if it hurts your dad that you did your dream job oh well your happy that is what matters or you can do what some poeple do and do what there parents tell them and have you dream job as a back up if the job your pairents want you to do doesn't work out

Maybe I will still get the chance, but time will only tell at this point, a lot is going to happen in the next couple of months and there are a lot of different paths my life could end up taking.

very true but the only thing you can do according to my mother is to think and pray about and hope God guides your heart to the right path that is best for you

Thank you so much, Ameika. I appreciate that and I really do hope things go better for you. Time heals all wounds. :]] The funny thing about life is that you really never know where it's going to take you. But, in the end you end up exactly where you ought to be. Whether it's good or bad, there's a reason behind everything. I began to look at hard ships as learning experiences. You have to evaluate your mistakes, or even the mistakes of others, and learn from them. Learn what you shouldn't, or should do and go from there. In a twisted kind of way, I was lucky enough to make a whole lot of mistakes at once and know I have a pretty clear view on what I should do now to live a much better life. And another thing that I realized really does keep me out of A LOT of trouble is to stick to the truth. There's NOTHING I can't stand more than lying and being lied to. I've actually lost friends from sticking behind the truth. But, when you do that it also shows the kind of friend they were. Not a very good one if they ask you to lie or deceive someone else for them.

I think, I'll shut my mouth now. I feel like I'm going on a rambling tangent. xD

lol your welcome and thank you too because you helpped me also and i don't mind if you ramble it is kinda fun cause see i don't talk alot but i like to listen and say what is on my mind and i agree i don't like lying of being lied to one of my best friends was told to lie to me about my ex being with jailbait and she wouldn't do it and she told me and i was really glad she did cause at the time me and him were still together lol true friends will stick with you through thick and thin no matter what lol and it is true but they will also not lie to you unless they are not ready to talk about it lol it seems like i am rambleing also

Ramblers unite! 8D
A close friend once lied to her parents about going to a movie but never informed me of this. I went from my house to another friend's house and her dad was there. He asked me if she and I were still going to the movies and I thought for a second and said, "I don't know what you're talking about, I'm not going to the movies today." I had a lot of respect for her father because he helped me out of a lot of tight spaces. Fixed my car good as new for me and got the parts and such. I wasn't about to lie to the man after he did so much for me, she being my best friend or not. I was pretty upset about it because anyone that really knows me, knows that I don't like lying to people like that. She always had some sort of conflict going on around her. I just like to keep out of peoples business and to myself. I don't like dealing with problems that could so easily have been avoided.

Having friends like that really isn't worth it. She only caused more and more problems for me and I greatly enjoy keeping the peace.

lol yes we all should unite lol
i know how you feel i seem to just attract drama lol guess it is what poeple do with their problems around me is tell me and ask for advice then the don't even take and i am like whatever but my friend that i told you about who wouldn't lie to me well she like the song No more Drama and it is a really good song and she lives by it and i am going to try and live by it to i mean it seems like a good idea and i am going to try my best and let drama roll off of me like water on a duck's back lol and i i try really hard to live up to my blessing which is being a peace keeper and it is hard to do sometimes lol

Between the ages of 18 and 20 I managed to drop out of high school, whittle my college money down to nothing by buying drugs, and get married to a 17 year old because I was afraid of going through life alone. Then I figured out that none of these things were permanent. I got my GED, got a divorce from the abusive asshole, and got my life on track. I'm a very happy camper now. :D

I have sometimes, usually when I just start thinking or when something bad has happened I'll wonder "What did I do to deserve this?" and usually I can answer myself, but I know it's not REALLY my fault[[or well, not most of the time]].

Oh well, still got a long way to go.

I have not wondered per say where I went wrong but just why I am not lucky. Why I am delt no hand in my life. Why can't I find job, why do guys never seem attracted to me. Why does no one try to talk to me at college and make friends with me.

But then I see my kid cousin and I know why. My mom did not push me, never. She is a single mom who works most of her life.
I was never pushed to do extracurricular activities and thus learn to be social, although I had plenty of friends in my childhood. I was never taught to take the initiative, to step forward and be the leader of my own life. So that is something I am trying to do now to the extent that is possible.

well Nissa i am happy you are getting your life on track and i am happy everyone here is doing something to move forward and i hope that it helps that you know some one is listening to your stories and i am really glad you guys listened to mine and thank you again you are all wonderful and stronge poeple i hope and pray for the best of each and everyone of you

The thought of what went wrong in my life floats through my mind at least once a week, and usually I feel really depressed about it. I have already graduated from high school already, and now I'm just sitting at home doing nothing really. I'm not sure what I want to do with my life still, and I turned 20 just about a month ago. I can't get a job because of where I live, and the economy as everyone knows, sucks, and people keep losing jobs. Though now I'm trying to get back in contact with Job Corps so that way I can study in culinary arts for free. I'll have room and board for free. They help you get a job, 'n all that. After that, I'm hoping to start college at a community college. But as for right now, I'm pretty much stuck :/. Seeing friends leave and take off, while I'm stuck makes me feel horrible. And that I'm not worth anything really.

Originally Posted by Antique Doll

Thank you so much, Ameika. I appreciate that and I really do hope things go better for you. Time heals all wounds. :]] The funny thing about life is that you really never know where it's going to take you. But, in the end you end up exactly where you ought to be. Whether it's good or bad, there's a reason behind everything. I began to look at hard ships as learning experiences. You have to evaluate your mistakes, or even the mistakes of others, and learn from them. Learn what you shouldn't, or should do and go from there. In a twisted kind of way, I was lucky enough to make a whole lot of mistakes at once and know I have a pretty clear view on what I should do now to live a much better life. And another thing that I realized really does keep me out of A LOT of trouble is to stick to the truth. There's NOTHING I can't stand more than lying and being lied to. I've actually lost friends from sticking behind the truth. But, when you do that it also shows the kind of friend they were. Not a very good one if they ask you to lie or deceive someone else for them.

I think, I'll shut my mouth now. I feel like I'm going on a rambling tangent. xD

Speak the gospel, my friend. If more people left lying behind the world would be a much better place.

I'm tired of being lied to, too.

@Nissa: You go, girl!

Anyway, I've always had a tendency to look at adversity as an opportunity to learn, though I do have to take a step back and pull myself together sometimes before I can move on with my life. I don't believe that anyone ever "goes wrong in their life." I believe that there are wrong decisions, but all wrong decisions can be made right, or at least be learned from. I believe that all of us have one path that will present us with several opportunities that come as forks in the road, but I also believe that all of those forks end up in the same place, eventually.

There are only wrong decisions if you keep making the same wrong decision over and over again. You make your own luck, there is no such thing as fate, or curses, just decisions. And, as a good friend once said to me: "you create your own reality."

Short blunt version: If your life sucks, you made it that way, not God or karmic penances from past lives. The past is the past, fix the mistakes that you can and make your future into your dreams.

It's never too late to do anything.

I agree with so many people here I hate getting lied to as well people like these aren't worth being with I used to lie alot in the past and since I've started saying the truth most of the time I've dodged so many problems that I would have had if I did lie, but going back on topic I've sometimes wondered where I've gone wrong in my life but I think every wrong decison you made you can learn from them and wrong decisons to me are challenge, a test to see if you can overcome them if you can good for you if you can't just keep on trying soon can you can do it don't lose hope.

I'm currently facing a struggle in school a couple of grades are falling and I'm very unsocial in school so I can't make friends easily and even when I do I'm too kind so I mostly say yes to most things they ask me to do I'm not very happy about that but I'm trying to stop being unsocial and too kind I'm sure that shortly I'll fix my problems but I guess it's nothing compared to the problems on the people here.

Another problem is that my mother refuses to let me to go on school trips or go outside hanging out with my friends or visit there house and she just sometimes let them visit me in our house but it's not alot she keeps on saying you see them at school but school is for studying not playing, I'm in the 9th grade by the way and I asked her if I could in the 12th grade she like maybe is being a control freak or am I just overreacting.

Oh no I rambled on too much ohcrap but here's my last words everybody believe in yourself and get that life on the track, goodluck everyone~