My mother in law has three kids. One girl and two guys. My hubby is the youngest. She always calls him to do stuff while she lets the other two do what they want. My hubby can`t do what he wants, because she doesn`t allow him to. He`s only 23 years old and 1/4 of his hair is grey just because of how they treat him. We have a son together and it hurts him alot not spending enough time with him. And it hurts me to see him like that. We wanna get out, but finding a house here is hard And finding a good job isn`t easy either. Sigh..... Anyone have any suggetions?

I dunno. I have a mom that is like that to me, more or less. The best thing for me to do is move out. I'm going to be doing so during the summer. It's going to be extremely hard but I'll try anything as long as I can get away. Maybe just try and deal with it for now, until you can get a good job. Just try and ignore it for the most part. Then once you can move out, things will be much better.

Or he can try talking to her. But I know that it would never work with my mom. So I dunno.

I'm sorry! I hope things work out.

This is why it's often not a good idea to live with in-laws in my opinion. They won't let you be your own family and have your own life. They will try to control everything and it will turn into a lot of fight and stress. But I understand that it can be unavoidable at your guys' age and honestly, she might still try to treat him the same way even if he did move out if it wasn't far away enough.

What I suggest is that the two of you find as many support groups as you can to rant to (like you're doing here) and just get the stress off your chest. He needs to as well especially. And you just make the most of the time you do have together for now and do lots of relaxing activities together. She is wearing him out with chores and things, but you and him and your son can make up for all that by doing fun activities with him on a regular basis. It will make the time you guys have together with him feel like the good, quality time he gets in his life and make it really special to all of you because you're just having fun and loving each other during it.

My uncle was kind of in a similar situation as a kid, and even through a lot of his adult life. His younger twin brothers were just all-around terrible people, while my uncle was hardworking and responsible, but he got all the crap from his mom and they got away with everything.

He just dealt with it the best he could, and got out of it as soon as he was able. Granted, finding a job or two was probably a lot easier back then, as compared to the lack of them now, but it really comes down to dealing with your mother-in-law and trying your best to appease her for as long as it takes to save up some money, find a decent job, and get away.

It's going to be hard holding down your own place regardless of how long you wait, but the only advice I can really give is to just put up with her and then somewhat discreetly rub it in her face once you've gotten away. She'll probably still try to call your husband for all her whims, but he's got to draw a line somewhere or she'll do it until the day she dies.

uhmm - i guess you should just live with it for now .. but make sure you'll find a house as soon as possible - an appartment will do i guess .. :] and yea .. any job will do too ..

You have to work together - let yer child feel comfort from you and explain to him what his dad is doing at tell him that he will be there just for him ..

I am also experiencing that - my parents doesnt have time for me i guess :) sooo yea . :]