No no, I completely understand. Let it all out.

What makes you think he's seeing someone else? Not that I'm skeptical, just... wouldn't want to get angry until I got all the info, know?

I don't know... I just feel like something is wrong. *shrug* The fact that he's blown off our last 4 skype dates because 'something has come up with work'. He's not been sounding like himself the few rare times that we do talk on the phone, and it feels like he's avoiding me. :( It just makes me sad. But I really should talk to him, I just feel like I'm loosing him.

I can see where you'd get the feeling like he might be cheating on you. That behavior is kind of shifty, but I would say innocent until proven guilty in this case.

It could just be that he's feeling withdrawn. Men have hormonal shifts (like women, but not on a monthly basis) that vary throughout the day while at the same time having an overarching shift over a period of a few months. And when hormones are on the rise they feel like they want to rip your clothes off, but when they fall its like... they don't want to see anyone. Goes hand in hand with seasonal depression.

Not saying that he's not cheating on you. It could still be that. But there's always science.

There could be. I just need to try to keep an open mind. It's just hard now. :( I guess I just need to try to stop myself from jumping to conclusions.

Good. I would hate for something to come between you two that wasn't actually there. A lot of relationships never blossom because one of them isn't thinking clearly.

There are times when Liz is out on her adventures with her friend Cait that I wonder if she's cheating on me with her. But then I backtrack that and think... why would I even think that? She hates Cait.

And then its all better. xD

I'll give him a chance to explain himself. I don't want to have wasted years on him. Awe! But at least you know that now. :yes:

It doesn't help that my fiance is across the states from me and I know absolutely noone who he's with. :(

Hang in there Hope. Just remember to breath deeply, and think with an open mind before you let your fear convince your heart of anything. You guys have made it so far already, I truly believe you two can overcome the mountains you face. I've been trying my best to re-read the convo here, so I think I caught the gist of it. And no matter what, remember you have friends (online and real life) and family who love you and will back you through it all.

I can see where that would be a big problem. But its usually best to give him the benefit of the doubt. And call me old-fashioned, but I always feel better if I'm honest with my SO. I know that I'm a little spoiled because my relationship is kind of... well... unreal by standards of the rest of America, but being straightforward has always worked for me.

:hug: Swansie. I just need to stop myself from overthinking and we have come too far to let this come between us. I'm going to do what we can to get him on the phone over the weekend. And do what I can to not worry till then, not till I hear his side of the story. Of course all that I've been over thinking about, is just based on me probably over reacting.

Hyena: I agree that being honest is the best idea.

-hugs hopeh-

Paranoia is a horrible thing isn't it! But just think of all the possible outcomes of his lack of time to talk. Maybe something really did come up? Maybe he's stressed or ill and doesn't want you to worry? Or maybe he's just like hyena said, having a few down days where he's not up to talking much.

Im sure there will be an explanation next time you get chance. Don't worry too much. There were times before when you didnt hear from him for weeks at a time. Im sure it will blow over! -huggle-

*HUGGLES Lavi* It really is. *hugs* I'm sure there is, I really do. I just hate this distance. T-T It's totally messing with my mind - having him around for those 2 weeks, and now having to be apart for time that we don't even know how long it'll be. I don't know how long I can wait. Which I think is also fueling this... :headdesk: I do love him so much! Soooo much! And I really can't imagine life without him.... Probably doesn't help that I've been going on lack of sleep and stress over classes. I really just hope that he calls soon.

Heya everyone!

Hey Tai.

Hope: That's really shitty to hear :/ Hopefully its nothing bad?

Steve: I don't know. I'll def let y'all know more when I hopefully talk to him this weekend. *fingers crossed that it's nothing as bad as I fear*

Having read the previous posts to get up-to-date on the convo, I've got this to say; I'm completely clueless when it comes to boyfriends or/and girlfriends. Never had one and don't want one.

Hope: Me too you seemed really happy together so I hope its not all gone because of something stupid.

Tai: Prolly for the best all mine have ended poorly so I'm fairly clueless with em too.

Taio: Well we've had issues with distance in the past - but nothing major. I just feel like something is wrong. But I'm probably over reacting.

Steve: :hugs: I hope so too. Hopefully I'll be able to get him on the phone this weekend.

I'm a knight, I'm a knight, I'm a knight, and our only aim in life is too fight!

Hope: *hugs* heres hoping not being able to talk sucks D:

Cuppy: Woo?

watching BBC history thing and well its addictive

Ah that makes sense.

-pokes everybody- :ninja:

*is poked* GASP Hai Lavi

hi Laviia

steve yep

no word back from Fitzgerald humph

Hope everybody is ok!

Lavi ish posting in the event forum =3

But i have to go back to my slow netbook soon so im sorry if i don't answer straight away i have to restart it D=