I needed to see if he had something of mine, and well we just talked forever.
Now let me say this, I have NO romantic feelings for him. I took care of him for years before I finally broke up with him.
He seems like he has changed... For the better. He almost has his life together. He apologized for everything he did to me.
Here is my question: Is it ok for me to be talking to him? We aren't talking about getting back together or anything like that.
My boyfriend doesn't mind... But my friends tell me its a big no no.

Honestly, if he's changed into a healthy person for you to be in contact with, then go right ahead. In the end, it's up to you and what you want. If you want to be friends with him, then who's to stop you?

As for everything he did to you... well... I suppose it depends on what he "did to you". If you see any of that being repeated, I'd highly suggest severing contact again the second it starts happening.

Basically, it's all about what you want... not what everyone else thinks.

I'm still close to my ex's. So who cares? It's alright to have friends. But if he starts getting really weird to be around, then just tell the guy that it's awkward to hang.

I have an ex that is suddenly in love with me again. (he cheated on me and dumped me very hard in public, so yeah, not the coolest cat) But anyways, I've told him a million times that we can never get back together. I'm happy with my current boyfriend and theres even talk of marriage. My boyfriend doesn't mind, but I do.

I know when guys are hitting on me.
And those are the guys you shouldn't hang around. Otherwise they are just friends. You can talk to friends. (:

I say if he's an ex he's an ex for a reason. Unless it was some kind of mutual breakup, just let the past stay there. Things will always seem fine at the beginning. It's like starting over. Everything is fresh and free of that nasty stench it once had, but eventually it'll stink just like before.

Of course there is an exception to every situation. He might of truly changed, but there is a chance he may not. It's all really a gamble when it comes down to it.

The thing I want to point out is your current boyfriend.
Unfortunately, most guys won't straight out tell you it bothers them when it truly does.
But as long as the one your with is secure and comfortable knowing you still have contact with an ex, then there is really no issue.

Although friends are always great to have around and are supposed to be there for advice, letting them decide what you do in your relationships is a very bad idea. A relationship is between two people, not between two people and all the friends of one or both people. If the boyfriend that you are with now is truly ok with you being in contact and possibly rebuilding a friendship, then there should be no problem with it. If he's so-so about it, have a chat with him and see what you can do about making him feel ok with it or about not having much if any contact with the ex anymore. If it turns out he's really not ok with the contact between you and the ex, you have a choice to make. Is talking with the ex worth risking having your current boyfriend upset and possibly him becoming an ex as well?

If the break up was over something bad that this guy did to you in the past, I would be very careful about talking to him. I have been in abusive relationships myself and have found that talking to them afterwards, even just on a friendly or less than that level is very difficult and causes a lot of emotions to come back to the surface. That's something you shouuld watch for.

What are your friends worried about with you being friends with him?