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Old 03-16-2010, 09:41 PM

Ok, so im 15, im 5'4 and about 175 pounds. I'm very self concious about my weight. When i make a joke about myself being fat, people tell me im not fat, that my boobs make up my extra weight, because there pretty big for my age. (size double d) but thats not it to me. I look in the mirror and see a cow staring back at me. I can almost hear the moo. Ive lowered myself to 1,200 calories a day, i used to starve myself, and i was balemic at one time. Ive been to the point of suicide over this issue.

I have been going to the gym every day 5 days out of the week. People tell me im Beautiful, and that my weight dosent matter, and dont get me wrong, I'm not doing this so boys will like me more. I'm doing this so i can feel better about myself. In 5th grade i wore a size 16 in Womens pants. and now im in 9th grade and im in a size 12. It is an accomplishment, and i always tell my self if i could make it to a size 13 id be happy, and I wasn't then it became a 12, and im still not happy. I don't know when this will end, but i hope it does soon.

I cant seem to like the way i look, no matter how many times i try. Boys tell me im beautiful, girls tell me that im not fat, Its just not working, and i dont know bhow to get my self esteem back up. I guess being so large at such a young age due to my parents being large and always giving me as much sugar as i wanted did that to me. I've never liked the way i looked. Sigh. This isn't going to stop.

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Old 03-16-2010, 10:11 PM

Woah! Let me back track a bit...you go to the gym five times a week? I've got to say babe, that extra poundage is probably muscle instead of fat, depending on how long you've been working out. Muscle weighs A LOT more than fat does. Consider that possibility. If that poundage is coming from muscle that's a good thing. Don't change your ways just to lose weight, if it is.

I'm afraid to say that I don't have any advice for your self-confidence issues. It really does come down to you working to build it back up. I won't say anything more than that, since someone else around here probably has more experience in this topic than I.

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Old 03-16-2010, 10:38 PM

You know what's great about being 15? Your body is going to grow and change so much in the coming years. If you take care of yourself and maintain a healthy lifestyle, then I bet that you'll slim down naturally by your early 20s. For girls, sometimes puberty just goes a little overboard: the extra fat you're gaining in your hips and chest is completely normal and will even out in time.

Everyone has body image issues to some extent. All you can do is stay aware. Is your self-image starting to make you hurt yourself? Are you literally starving your body? Does your constant exercise ever make you feel sick or weak? Are you often too tired to do the things you enjoy? Have you dropped more than 4-5 pounds in a single week? If you ever answer yes to one of these questions, then it's time to get some help. There are lots of counselors out there who can help you develop a better self-image. Trust me, there's no shame in reaching out to someone else. Just talking about it can help you feel better.

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Old 03-17-2010, 12:38 AM

No, its fine, im a very active person, i never feel weak, and i dont starve myself, it just never seems to go away =/

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Old 03-17-2010, 12:48 AM

When I turned twenty, I was horrified to find out that I nearly weighed 190 pounds, and I'm only 5'1''! I decided to do something about it, so I joined Weight Watchers. It's working really well so far, but what makes it work even better is my self-esteem. I know I'm not the skinniest person in the world, but I don't look bad at all. [I'm also in the D-range.] Nobody but you can push your self-esteem back up. What turns people off more is how low you think of yourself. If people are calling you beautiful and skinny, then what's stopping you from feeling that way? I also used to have low self-esteem, but I realized that my body is part of me, and I need to learn to love myself and my body. There is nothing wrong with me, and there is nothing wrong with you. You just need to learn to accept yourself.

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Old 03-17-2010, 12:54 AM

I agree with the muscle comment, my bf keeps saying he wants to gain wieght and turn it into muscle. You sound realy healthy and fit to me I dont see the problem, Its just your self esteem.

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Old 03-17-2010, 03:44 AM

Oh my. Please hear me out. Things will get better. Especially with the lifestyle you just described. You're making room for your body to grow, and it certainly will. You're only 15. You may still grow another inch or two over the next few years. And your body will fill itself out. Your friends are there to support you, so even if you don't believe them, understand that they're your friends partly because their opinions matter to you.

If you have to, force yourself to stand in front of a mirror (full-length, preferably) and just tell yourself over and over "I am beautiful." It'll start to grow on you, and you'll see yourself differently. And, if you have the self-discipline for it, if you start having negative thoughts, give yourself some form of punishment that will aid your opinion of yourself. Things like "I'm fat" or "I'm ugly" you can punish with "I'll eat more vegetables today, even if I don't like them" or "No dessert if you think like that."

Haha I wish I had someone to tell me all sorts of things when I was 15. I had such a poor image of myself. So, coming from the other side without a hand to lead me through, believe me. You have people to tell you how beautiful you are. Just wait it out a few more years and see if things improve. Don't let it get you down. And, by the way, size 12 isn't a bad pant size. There's no need to fret over not being size 00 or whatever. The only people that get that are either born that way or turn themselves into skeletons to get there. You're a healthy size. And if you're really concerned about your weight, there are all sorts of ways to slim down. =]

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Old 03-17-2010, 06:22 PM

Okay, MY beautiful dearest friend of mine. I love you to pieces, you know that....I know how you feel seeing as how we are in the same boat. You have had 6 boyfriends....I am 17 and I have had roger and ummmm....another one that only lasted a day. You know I hate myself. I love you so much. We willl get through this difficult time in one piece...I promise. We can do it together.

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Old 03-17-2010, 09:48 PM

Listen, I'm 15, and in the same boat as you. I was huge until I turned 13, and very thin until I turned 15, and now I'm just bordering on overweight. I'm a distance runner (a slow one but still) and am surrounded by girls who are no bigger than my pinky finger on a daily basis. It gets to you, I understand completely. But the thing is, who gives a fuck how much you weight. Continue working out. Eat right (but don't deprive yourself of foods you love. MODERATION!). And most importantly, realize you're beautiful the way you are, and that everyone from a size 2 to a size 22 has insecurities about their body.

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Old 03-17-2010, 09:56 PM

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and that everyone from a size 2 to a size 22 has insecurities about their body.
How true! I have friends who are super thin. But they hate it. They hate being skinny. They get called anorexic and bulimic and such, and hated on by other girls because they're not as skinny as them and such. But they're not doing anything to stay skinny. I've heard them wish they could put on at least a few more pounds. They eat a ton, too. Their metabolisms are just good and fast.

Everyone's got insecurities. You just need to learn to love the body you're in. Obviously, not to say you shouldn't grow overly content with yourself and let yourself fall into bad habits. Keep up exercising and staying healthy. But don't overdo it. If you focus solely on losing weight, you're missing out on the rest of your life.

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Old 03-19-2010, 02:56 PM

Thank you guys. You have been helping me alot. I needed that

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Old 03-21-2010, 02:06 AM

You need to eat 1500 calories a day, that's the limit! You're exercising that much too, that you keep burning energy you don't have...that leads to point where your body doesn't want to lose fat, but starts to save it. That doesn't make you lose weight at all! You'll just starve and get sick. I know since I've been on that road too. Didn't lose any weight with that, and did it for many years..

I'm losing weight myself, and eating healthy+ exercise is the way to do it. Just make sure you eat enough protein and no white bread..I mean eat full corn bread with lots of fiber.

I've already lost 3 kilos in 3 months..and getting smaller as we speak. With over 1600 calories a day+ exercise 5 times a week. Also, losing way by jogging etc would be better than going to gym if you're using muscle exercise stuff. Since you'll just get bigger muscles..xD But gym is fun, and it could be a part of your exercise week. Like once a week or so? I'm losing weight since I'm overweight, been since I was..hmm..14? When I grew into woman, I got my fats too. =_=; Thanks mom..for your genes..

And you know, almost anyone I know wants someone elses body. I'd love to have your big boobs, since I have A or a small B cup. I've began to treat my body right and starting to feel really confident in it. It's much more attractive to others when you're acting as if you were thinking "Wow, I look SO GREAT in this top!"

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