I pretty much had an awesome day today in florida on my spring break but I guess I should give you some background. I'm not exactly plus size but I've never been stick thin and my pants are about a 12/14 so I guess I am pushing plus but you know what? Today I realized I'm beautiful. I'm beautiful because I feel beautiful and don't need to be stick thin to be pretty.

And it all started with a bathing suit...I've worn tankinis with skirt bottoms for years cause I was insecure about my thighs and how big they are but today I put on my new, onepiece, swimsuit (no skirt might I add) and looked in the mirror. And it was perfect cause the first thing I thought was, "These legs are beautiful. What have I been ashamed of? I have no reason to hide myself." And it felt GREAT! Beyond great, amazing really. I just feel GOOD now. This is the first time I've ever felt truly confident in a bathing suit in a long time.

I just needed to share this....Any other positive stories for the day??

Thank you very much :)
I feel so good here on vacation. Maybe its too much sun :P

Your story just made my day, so I'm pretty sure yours is pretty much in and of itself my positive story for the day! :heart:

Kudos to you. ;) Honestly, I wish more women had your mindset! There's so much beauty to be had in this world... It can't be confined to being extremely tan, or being extremely thin, or being excessively skanky, etc.! Sometimes I just want to walk around and tell women they're beautiful. But realistically, I can only expect them thinking I'm making fun of them, or something else rather negative. Some women truly do not believe in their own beauty. :|

Thank you so much :)
I literally feel like I'm on cloud nine right now. It just feels good to know I look good. Does that make sense? Haha I don't know. I guess its just been an epic day. Maybe all I needed was a small change of scenery. :)

Yay! Yes your legs are sexy. Don't let anyone tell you different. I'm geeked, I found out I lost 5 pounds. Which is good enough for now.

Yes! Victory story!
Congrats Runes <3

Originally Posted by vomity

I think girls are too cynical of themselves. So many of us are so beautiful, but we let our insecurities drag us down. :C

This statement isnt the only reason that some girls dont find themselves beautiful(and this is from talking to girls Ive worked with, and even the girls Im friends with). Some girls dont think they're beautiful because the guys they like are idiots who only see girls for who they are on the outside. And thus, want to "maintain their image" by only dating girls that are practically "skin and bones". I do admit, I used to think that way, until I realized what I was doing, and who it was affecting(mostly me, because I was always single until I realized my mistake).

And good on you say-i-love-you, more girls need to come to the realization that not everyone is meant to be a stick. And that they should be happy with their body, and if not, to not go through drastic measures to change. Everyone has someone out there that will find them to be the most attractive person alive. All they need to do it wait. Plus, finding yourself beautiful is a step in the right direction.:P

Congrats. Now you just gotta find a guy who's man enough to think the same thing. Cause only real men (like me. heheh.. [/ego]) can love women the way that they are. Provided they aren't complete jerks that is.

So as long as you're not a complete jerk, Here's to you!

reading this actually made me smile. :] so happy for you.

i've always had this habit of comparing myself to my little sister. she's currently 14 and i am 18. we're the same height (4'11") and we've both always been tiny. i at times feel as if i was only a protoytype of what she has become. she has the amazingly stunning looks, she's very bright, and healthier than i am.

i every now and again think "wow, i wish i had that figure when i was that age too" or "i wish i had more muscle like her" (she's in ballet and she used to wrestle) but at this very moment as i witness you appreciate yourself just like all women should...i know i'm beautiful in my own way. :] i may not have developed like she has or be as athletic, but i do have my awing features that i know can turn a few heads. ^^ thank you for sharing your day and slapping me with a bit of sense.

Well duh!
x' D
No but really, I'm glad you're finally thinking that way.
Legs (and bodies) come in all shapes in sizes, some are twiggy, some are curvy, but they're all beautiful.

I lost some weight not to long ago, and for a while I was afraid to show my calves or anything, because I thought they were ugly because they were smaller, and didn't have the awesome curve that they used to, but I remembered I'm still be, no matter how my weight shifts, and I will ALWAYS be a snappy dresser, lol.
And it's spring time, so look out skirts here I come.
x' D

And you've got the beautiful mentality -the confidence- so I'm sure you'll look great no matter what (because you feel great).
:' D
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@ Vee ::

I kind of understand you.
My sister and I aren't the same height or anything, but some guys (as hats) used to try and compare us.
"Oh your big sister has this and looks like this, why don't you?" ANd stuff along those lines.
And I'm like, I'm not Big Sister the downgrade.
My birth certificate CLEARLY reads a different name, and that means we're two different people.
I'm like ::Maybe I don't look like her, so I won't attract the attention of worthless/unimportant people such as yourself.
Lol, but it's those outside voices that didn't matter, so I ignore them.

I'm glad you had a great day!

wow thats so amazing to hear!! Recently I started going to the gym because I felt pressured to look thin, I'm not big but then again i'm not small. I'm 'medium normal' but I have the baby fat so anyway a couple of days ago I took a look at myself in the mirror, and I mean really look. It was like wow, I wonder why I've been so blind! I mean I know all my friends said I was skinny and stuff but compared to them I always felt kind of big and not so girlish around them. I feel better now that I'm going to the gym and I dont concentrate on weight or anything just on feeling good. I got my confidence up and will soon plan to hit the mall in hope of finding nice clothes. No more looking at those poster girls or those impossibly skinny mannequins! I learned to love my body for the way it is because I've read stories about girls who have lost legs and arms and I have family members who have literally scarred themselves because of the pressures of looking thin.
Its stories like these that really make me want to just go out and embrace the way I am, messy bed hair and all haha

Oh, my god, good for you! O: Aaah I wish I could do that!
Really, confidence and personality is all beauty boils down to. It's not weight at all. (Health, however, is slightly different.)
I'm really skinny, but I'm lanky and awkward. Or at least, that's how I always see myself.
And my sister is big, but she's bouncy and funny and she just exudes sexy. And yet she says she's jealous of me because I'm skinny and I can eat whatever I want.
It's a two way street, and I feel stupid for having this gift and still being so insecure. :S

Thats amazing! I'm glad you feel differently now.
I sometimes have moments like that, but out of the shadow of my own room, i revert to being insecure and thinking i look grotesque alongside my well dressed, skinnier, prettier companions. I don't really have any positive things to share today D:

Women just gotta remember that if you try hard enough you can turn any of our heads. xD. Any guys that just look skin-deep don't deserve women like you bunch, ya hear me?

They fail. Period. (My intel says that 80% of them will never be worth the trouble they are until waaaay later in their life when they get too old to be accepted as acting like a moron.)

I usually only wear my mini skirt around the house or if I had leggings under it, but I was doing laundry and my friends forced me to go get pizza with them. Since it was the only thing I could wear, I dared it and just prayed my fatass could pull it off and no one would see me.

But while I was waiting in line, my friend Miguel came up to me and told me that I had to sit down because there was a table of guys just staring at my ass. A guy even slipped while playing pool just to watch me walk by. I was so red all day, but I felt very pretty, y'know? My boyfriend is a twig (115lb wtf?) and I have a good few pounds on him. So I feel overweight around him A LOT.

Thank you every one ~
One of my best friends told me that confidence is a girl's best accessory and I guess he was right. I love feeling good and I hope you all feel as pretty as I know you all are :)

Yes, confidence is something I wish more girls these days would have. :)

I'm very happy you are finally realizing that you are beautiful the way you are. It's a wonderful thing to hear and see how people finally come to the conclusion that their bodies are perfect just how they are. Your size isn't big, it's average. And average is great. Plus, who needs the super skinnies anyway. Personally, I think they need more meat on their bones. I recently overcame a very bad eating disorder that I have had for years now, and although I'm still naturally struggling with it, I'm learning to love my body they way it is. I hope all people can make a body-peace-treaty with themselves. (:

congrats to you!!! i wish i was that confident... but i've had enough people put me down in my life that i've got no self esteem left... i try really hard!

But seriously! It's awesome that you can have that sort of feeling about yourself! Cause if you love yourself other will too :) :hug:

How great for you (: Good on ya'. I had a similar experience except with my hair. I have never liked my hair. I recently cut it short to make it easier to maintain. I was devistated because once I had the short hair for a while, I didn't like it. I didn't like it because I live in Florida and my hair is ULTRA curly. I was so mad at myself for cutting it on I almost gave up on it all together because no matter how many styles I tried I just couldn't get it to my liking. One day, I woke up, took a shower, and did my hair. After weeks of stratening it, I let it dry to my natural curly. Turns out, I LOVED it. I parted my hair to the side, giving myself punk side bangs and slapped on a bit of eyeliner. I loved myself. I realized then that I love myself the best natural (: The only part of my hair I straiten is the underneath and my bangs because my hair is still a bit short. But I love it.

Congrats to you <3

I used to be super self conscious about my body when I was younger. I would go around complaining about how fat I was all the time. Sigh.
But around when I turned sixteen my body rounded out quite nicely, partially because I actually started exercising on a regular basis and stuff. And eventually I figured out that yes, I am actually rather attractive and I have no reason to hide my body. : D
I still feel self conscious sometimes, but not at all like I used to. It's kind of nice. : )

That's greaaat, I am really insecure about myself.
Tis why I freak out everytime I have a breakout, which I seem to be having lately, I feel extremely ugly when I get them.

good for you XD, hope you have another great day

i'm glad you had a positive epiphany about yourself.. this thread reminded me of this picture that i absolutely loooove!!!