As I posted in my Life Issues thread, I'm really interested in bisexuality and homosexuality. So I was wondering, Menewsha, if you're gay/bi/lesbian, what was your first experience? Or, failing that, when did you realize your sexuality? What kind of life experiences have you had with it?

I've never had an experience, and, since I am in a straight relationship, I don't plan to anytime soon. However, I do experience bi feelings. :)

I first realized it when I was little and I developed a major crush on my best guy friend. :)

I'm a bi-sexual female. I've only had relationships with men, but I if an opportunity arose, and I was no longer with my bf, I would absolutely date a woman.

I first realized I was bi, after a couple rounds of Truth-or-Dare with some friends during senior year of high school. The guys I hang out with had most of us girls do minor stripping and kiss another girl or one of the guys (as long as it was ok with her and her significant other). I slowly started to realize that I really liked kissing the girls. I loved the feel of a soft body against my own.... *blush*
You get the idea....

I'm a pretty awesome lesbian.
Closeted, but I'm 98% sure everyone knows.
Dude, I take wood shop for chrissakes.

Hey, just because you take woodshop and might be a bit tomboyish or even guyish doesn't mean you're a lesbian.

Or it might.

Lol.

I don't know.

oh I am a flaming lesbian, don't even worry about it.

I'm a bisexual female and my interest for females peaked before my interest for males did.

In middle school I can remember having feelings for my female best friend at the time, her hugs were so warm and comforting and guys my own age then were so lame.

I've never dated another female, and now that I'm engaged, I don't ever see it happening. Before, I was just way too shy around females. It always felt like they were a lot tougher to obtain, so I just never really tried. :cry:

hey Phrank, I'm about as girly a girl can be (I love lace, taffeta and crinoline on or under my dresses for crying out loud) yet even I found solace in the welding lab in high school. Nothing better than melted metal, sparks, and fire ^.^

I'm bi and I realised when I started looking at my friend a little differently, I was ten I think? It wasn't until I was 14 until it was admitted though

I consider myself pansexual, that is to say I find all genders and sexes attractive. I first realized I wasn't exactly straight when I was...hm, probably 14? I knew I wasn't a lesbian, though, so I assumed I was bisexual, until a few years later when I began to understand that there are more than just two genders, and as I found everyone I met at least somewhat attractive, "bisexual" was as much a misnomer as "lesbian". It was around that time that I met someone who considered herself pansexual, and since the title seemed a good fit for me, I began using it. I dated my first non-male at age 15.

My experiences have been a fair bit better than many non-heterosexuals I've met. My family does not know, but most of my friends do. The most common reaction to me telling someone I'm pansexual is them not knowing what it is, and when I explain it to them, them thinking I mean bisexual. This goes for straights, gays, and bisexuals alike. Asexuals tend to accept my explanation without a big fuss. I suppose they sympathize, being another group many don't believe exists.

During my high school career I went through a time that lasted a few years where I was definitely bisexual, and I even had a few relationships with girls.

During my senior year of high school I came to the conclusion that I am straight, while a few of my close friends are still bisexual.

I'm bisexual. I realized it next year while drawing. I found both men and women beautiful and appealing in their own way. I couldn't understand why I had to close my heart to someone that I could love, even if they were the same sex. So I decided that I could fall in love with whoever I feel in love with, and that's the end of that.

I haven't been with any other girls before, I'm way too shy to ask anyone out, guy or girl. ^^'''' Maybe in College...

I'm bisexual, something I noticed when I was in elementary school when I was having crushes on both genders. Of course, I had no clue what sexuality was. People were still in the "EW COOTIES!" stage and tended to keep any crushes they had to themselves or else they would be teased by their friends and classmates. I haven't really dated a girl, and the most I've done sexually is groping. I had my chance but I didn't want to be her one night stand, and I knew that's all I would be to her after that night.

I'm dating a guy though.

I've actually done a bit more research about it now, and I think that I would label myself more pansexual than bisexual...but not completely either or. >.> Somewhere in the middle.

I guess I just like who I like. It's as simple as that. That's all I really know right now. :)

Ive known i find the same sex irresistible since I was in middle school. I fell in love but was in denial and didn't date anyone until high school. Didn't work out but we're still friends. If you're curious, the best thing to do is explore. ;D

Honestly I wouldn't care if a person was male, female, hermphrodite, had a sex change, cross dressed, or whatever. Gender doesn't really matter when it comes to love. Unfortunately in my past relationships I've been cheated on twice(maybe three times, though I don't think it really counts as cheating if your boyfriend falls in love with someone else while they're dating you as long as they don't do anything). So pretty much that and how messed up both my parents relationships have been..have pretty much scared me off from all relationships whatsoever. I now refuse to date anyone, even if I am attracted to them and we get along very well. This goes for guys, girls, whatever.

As for my sexuality..well I'll be honest when I was in middle school I got on my older bro's computer and found some pictures on there that kinda shocked and excited me XD of females of course. Then I became very curious and found myself attracted to females. i also liked males too. Then I started liking shemales.. So overall it went down a very weird line after awhile. In the end though. Despite my continuing attraction to all genders, I have decided to not make my parents angry at me for choosing a woman..I've thought about it though(not to make my parents angry but yeah XD). My parents are very conservative. At the end of the day, I can't talk to them about anything because they'll just stop me after one sentence and say "I don't want to talk about this anymore"

I consider myself straight, although dating or even thinking about being a romantic/sexual relationship isn't in the question right now. Many would call me "asexual". However, even though I am very happy being single and wouldn't care if I died alone or not; if I ever find someone special enough, I might go for it.

I may find males and females attractive, but that doesn't mean I'd date them. I at one time though was curious about same gender relationships. That's all it was though, curiousity. I didn't call myself "bi-curoius". I was simply curious. So I thought into it some more and realized that I don't find myself attracted to females. In fact, if I were a guy, I'd probably be gay, haha.

this year in 11nth grade. I realized that i was bisexual. It was very differnet and not many people except tht kindve thng XP
Its really hard having your girlfrends parents hate for tht and try to destroy the relationship..im still dealing with it now even though we are in summer vacation at the moment. Its going to be hard to see her considering the fact that her parents made her leave me.....sux XP

This topic intrigues me a great deal. I am, technically, Mormon. I was raised Mormon, baptized, all that jazz. My parents still believe that I believe in it, but honestly, I'm quite doubtful. I actually consider myself to be agnostic.

Anyway, that aside, I used to be the biggest homophobe at my school. They just terrified me. So, karma decided to make about 90% of my friends gay. So, now, naturally, I am all for gay rights. I am kind of angry that people can't accept gays.

Anyway, because I have so many gay friends, I'm curious as to how you know that you are gay, and maybe why do you think you are gay. I have theories. And I plan on asking this one person about it, but I have yet to get around to it. Our last conversation was kind of weird. And we haven't had time lately.

More on topic, I'm not sure, but I might be bi. I mean, I've thought about kissing other girls a lot. I know for a fact that I am attracted to boys, but sometimes I look at a girl and...I don't know. I'm just all sorts of confused.

Anyway, because I have so many gay friends, I'm curious as to how you know that you are gay, and maybe why do you think you are gay. I have theories. And I plan on asking this one person about it, but I have yet to get around to it. Our last conversation was kind of weird. And we haven't had time lately.

More on topic, I'm not sure, but I might be bi. I mean, I've thought about kissing other girls a lot. I know for a fact that I am attracted to boys, but sometimes I look at a girl and...I don't know. I'm just all sorts of confused.

I think people overanalyze this question way too much and try to see it for much more than it is. I've stated somewhere or another that I'm very interested in sexuality. As such, I've read a lot about it, am bi (or maybe pansexual) myself, and have been able to formulate my own theories.

"How do I know my sexual orientation?" I think, as I've said, this question gets too overanalyzed. A lot of people say "Experiment, experiment! It's the only way to know!" but this argument has two flaws:

1: Not everyone interested in dating is interested in physical parts of it. I know I'm sure not. I've been with my girlfriend for two months and haven't even kissed her yet.

2: Quite often, these things can work on a case-by-case basis. I know several people who are straight, but have certain conditions in which case they'd date their own gender, or even certain people they'd "go bi" for. I think that this is because we are all different and like different things. Liking different things, we'll respond to them differently.

I think that when you get confused, you're starting to already realize something's off with you. Whether you're "situationally bi" or "completely bi" depends on who you are.

If you fantasize about kissing girls or something else like that, maybe you should experiment if you have a certain person who keeps appearing in your fantasies.

Originally Posted by khboy0

I think people overanalyze this question way too much and try to see it for much more than it is. I've stated somewhere or another that I'm very interested in sexuality. As such, I've read a lot about it, am bi (or maybe pansexual) myself, and have been able to formulate my own theories.

"How do I know my sexual orientation?" I think, as I've said, this question gets too overanalyzed. A lot of people say "Experiment, experiment! It's the only way to know!" but this argument has two flaws:

1: Not everyone interested in dating is interested in physical parts of it. I know I'm sure not. I've been with my girlfriend for two months and haven't even kissed her yet.

2: Quite often, these things can work on a case-by-case basis. I know several people who are straight, but have certain conditions in which case they'd date their own gender, or even certain people they'd "go bi" for. I think that this is because we are all different and like different things. Liking different things, we'll respond to them differently.

I think that when you get confused, you're starting to already realize something's off with you. Whether you're "situationally bi" or "completely bi" depends on who you are.

If you fantasize about kissing girls or something else like that, maybe you should experiment if you have a certain person who keeps appearing in your fantasies.

I think I'd be more situationally bi. But, I'm not really asking how I would know my orientation. I'm just interested in how other people did. And why they are that way. I mean, all my life I've been bombarded with "Oh, they must have been sexually abused when they were younger. That caused some chemical change." That type of thing may have happened to some people, but I'm sure not all of them are gay because of that.

And, it's not really a specific person. It's just I'd look at a girl and be like, "Hmm...I think I might kiss her if I were gay."

Hm. Well, I really don't attribute sexual orientation to a chemical imbalance in the brain or any of that crap. I really don't think it's fair for them to say that if they can't read our thoughts. I know they have research as to how stimuli work in certain situations and all that, but it still doesn't make sense. I label this line of study as "homophobic." They can't rationally explain our behavior, and they refuse to believe it may just be how we are without it, so they come up with this and just say "Oh, well, they've got an anatomical problem that makes them this way." It's like half-assed acceptance, in my personal opinion.

Sorry. I know that wasn't the point.

Um...like I said, I don't think there's any one way to know. Everyone's different. For some people, I believe it could be love at first sight. For others, it could be choice. Others still might be sexually abused and have it affect them. Others might just simply BE that way from the get-go. Then there are those who "Kissed a girl and they liked it." :P Things happen. There's no set way anyone can find out.

Originally Posted by Sforzando

This topic intrigues me a great deal. I am, technically, Mormon. I was raised Mormon, baptized, all that jazz. My parents still believe that I believe in it, but honestly, I'm quite doubtful. I actually consider myself to be agnostic.

Anyway, that aside, I used to be the biggest homophobe at my school. They just terrified me. So, karma decided to make about 90% of my friends gay. So, now, naturally, I am all for gay rights. I am kind of angry that people can't accept gays.

Anyway, because I have so many gay friends, I'm curious as to how you know that you are gay, and maybe why do you think you are gay. I have theories. And I plan on asking this one person about it, but I have yet to get around to it. Our last conversation was kind of weird. And we haven't had time lately.

More on topic, I'm not sure, but I might be bi. I mean, I've thought about kissing other girls a lot. I know for a fact that I am attracted to boys, but sometimes I look at a girl and...I don't know. I'm just all sorts of confused.

I was also confused but I know that for my situation at frst we were just best freinds but than we kindve both starting having more of a physical attraction to each other like everytime we got near each other or the slightest touch, our bodys reacted towards one another and we kept analyzing everything and trying things out and realized that we were into each other and we kindve fell in love with each other during the process. idk if that helps but if you have any questions about it feel free to message me :p :]

Khboy0, I completely understand what you are saying. I hate people when they keep telling me that every gay person has something wrong with them because they don't know. That's why I'm so curious. I want to understand gays from a gay person's point of view, none of these straight people who think they understand.

I talked to my best friend last night, and she said that how she knew was that her girlfriend made her feel like no other boy had. Like the butterflies and all that. I don't really get butterflies, and I can't see myself marrying a girl, but I'm getting over the feeling that being with another girl would be wrong. I think I may not be bi, I may just be more accepting of the lifestyle than I used to be. I'm going to do some more asking around though, to be sure.

Well, I can tell you that I have several girl friends who say they are attracted to other girls, and may even be willing to fool around or have sex with them, but they wouldn't ever date them seriously. They said the idea just doesn't appeal to them, though they do think girls are sexy and can fantasize about them. :) It's possible you may be developing the same outlook.

I quite understand that outlook. I have several friends that have that same mentality. A lot of guy friends like that, too.