For me it was moving to St. Louis and leaving my friends and ex boyfriend behind. But it was my choice no one made it for me.

Probably the hardest thing I ever did was allow one of my ex's to break my heart twice. I thought I was so in love, that I started dating him for a second time. Then he dumped me again, and I thought he ripped out my heart... It was so hard letting him walk away and not fighting for him.....

But now my ex is single, a workaholic, and miserable, and I am in a happy and loving relationship with a boy I could spend the rest of my life with. So it all worked out ^.^

I'd say the hardest thing for me would of had to be, deciding which of my parents to live with. My parents went through a divorce, and my mom took my brother and I with her (without a choice). But years later I was left with the decision of who I wanted to live with, and I picked my dad. It's pretty much a lose lose situation. No matter how hard you try, one of your parents are going to be heartbroken.

Originally Posted by Syraannabelle

Probably the hardest thing I ever did was allow one of my ex's to break my heart twice. I thought I was so in love, that I started dating him for a second time. Then he dumped me again, and I thought he ripped out my heart... It was so hard letting him walk away and not fighting for him.....

But now my ex is single, a workaholic, and miserable, and I am in a happy and loving relationship with a boy I could spend the rest of my life with. So it all worked out ^.^

i understand how that is I kinda went through the same thing and a couple of days ago we only started talking again. I mean as two civil people because he was a real douche to me after the break up because of the new girl he was dating which all of this happened a year ago.

Possibly giving up my marine biology career after many years of fighting. Being an unemployed marine biologist got really old after a couple of years of fighting.

Originally Posted by Laila Izuka

I'd say the hardest thing for me would of had to be, deciding which of my parents to live with. My parents went through a divorce, and my mom took my brother and I with her (without a choice). But years later I was left with the decision of who I wanted to live with, and I picked my dad. It's pretty much a lose lose situation. No matter how hard you try, one of your parents are going to be heartbroken.

I understand I was picked to live with my mom because my dad wouldnt have been able to support three kids. But i mean we all go through stuff and it makes us the person we are today. I know that isnt the perfect thing to say but I dont want to leave you without saying anything. Just pm me if you ever want to talk about things.
=3

Off the top of my head one of the hardest things I've ever had to do was break up with my ex and accept the fact that my older sister was right about him. He seemed like the nicest person when we first started dating but then he showed how not nice he was. We fought over stupid things, he had a horrible temper and he showed his violent side by throwing things. He even shoved me against walls a few times.

Thankfully I got out of that bad situation and he is no longer in my life. However shortly after breaking up with him I found out I was pregnant. I may regret ever dating him because what he put me through, but I do not regret the fact that I will be a mommy in a few months. <3

Mine is kind of like Laila's. My parents divorced when I was 1 and 1/2, and that was really hard growing up. After a while I started to visit my dad every weekend. Both of my parents lived in North Carolina. My mom remarried a few times, but settled down with the step dad I have now, who I love very much. My real dad remarried too but, I extremely dislike his wife and step daughter. Anyways, one of my sisters went back and forth in between living with our mom and her dad (different dads, but we don't care about that). Two years ago we found out we had orders to Georgia. My mom gave me the choice of going to live with my real dad or moving with her and my step dad. That was so hard for me, especially the sad look my real dad gave me when I told him we were moving. He asked me if I would live with him. I was only 11 then (21 days until I'm 14 now) and it was the hardest choice I've ever made in my life. I chose to stay with my mom. I'm glad I did, because my step mother is abusive and her daughter is violent towards me. Plus, my real dad has changed. I'm glad I made the choice I did, because I met amazing people and my best friend. Now it's getting hard again because she is moving in 25 days.

I can't think of anything. Nothing has been overly difficult in my life because I'm easily adaptable to changes and whatnot, so it doesn't affect me. I'm kind of apathetic.
Some of the above posts make me feel robotic, though. :drool:

Originally Posted by JinxyKitty21

Off the top of my head one of the hardest things I've ever had to do was break up with my ex and accept the fact that my older sister was right about him. He seemed like the nicest person when we first started dating but then he showed how not nice he was. We fought over stupid things, he had a horrible temper and he showed his violent side by throwing things. He even shoved me against walls a few times.

Thankfully I got out of that bad situation and he is no longer in my life. However shortly after breaking up with him I found out I was pregnant. I may regret ever dating him because what he put me through, but I do not regret the fact that I will be a mommy in a few months. <3

oh my sorry to hear that unfortunately we all meet people who arent good for us. I wish you luck in the future and congrats on being a mommy!!

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Originally Posted by musikfreakx

Mine is kind of like Laila's. My parents divorced when I was 1 and 1/2, and that was really hard growing up. After a while I started to visit my dad every weekend. Both of my parents lived in North Carolina. My mom remarried a few times, but settled down with the step dad I have now, who I love very much. My real dad remarried too but, I extremely dislike his wife and step daughter. Anyways, one of my sisters went back and forth in between living with our mom and her dad (different dads, but we don't care about that). Two years ago we found out we had orders to Georgia. My mom gave me the choice of going to live with my real dad or moving with her and my step dad. That was so hard for me, especially the sad look my real dad gave me when I told him we were moving. He asked me if I would live with him. I was only 11 then (21 days until I'm 14 now) and it was the hardest choice I've ever made in my life. I chose to stay with my mom. I'm glad I did, because my step mother is abusive and her daughter is violent towards me. Plus, my real dad has changed. I'm glad I made the choice I did, because I met amazing people and my best friend. Now it's getting hard again because she is moving in 25 days.

wow that must have been hard. When my parents got divorced I would visit my dad on weekends but then we moved to VA. Im glad the chocie you made is making you happy although your friend is moving. Just keep in contact and maybe she can visit sometime.

Probably choosing what University and sticking with it. My first semester was horrible, away from home for the first time at 17, suddenly in a world where 1 in three is expected to drop within the first year. I was sick all the time, shingles, swine flu and the like, it felt like I could never catch a break. I dropped one class, and passed all the rest. The second semester wasn't much better, but I stuck it out and have been improving. And somewhere inbetween all of the stress and mental breakdowns and guilt over potential failing, I joined a fraternity, made true friends and fell in love for the first time. It was really hard, and will continue to be so, but it's my dream, and I'm not giving up on it.

Leaving the past behind.

the hardest thing that I ever do is, when I do my math test. I got a bad score on it :(

Well off the top of my head, recently I had to put my hand in the toilet to retrieve my hair brush. And it was small so I had to go all the way in. ;A;
It took so much courage to do that, I swear. I had to run around and scream at stuff and then go back and pretend that I wasn't putting my hand in the toilet.

And I know that sounds pathetic (especially compared with the above posts) but I focus more on the um, little things in life. When I'm faced with a incredibly hard decision it's so incomprehensible that I can't zoom out and tackle it / feel the same amount of fear that I would with something I could understand. (If that makes sense? Sorry lol.)

For example, four weeks ago I had to take my kitten to another home because I'm moving back to Scotland and can't take her with me. And it wasn't difficult, and I didn't cry; I just had to get her into her cat box (okay, that was hard), collect her things and get on the bus to the woman's house. It wasn't a difficult decision either, because the reasons were quite logical and it was the best for all of us. It was only when I came home (and since then) that it hit me that my baby, my only companion of a year (I'm homeschooled), the kitten I'd taken in who'd been incredibly small and clinically ill, who loved me like I was her mother, was gone. I know that's normal, to be completely apathetic when something devastating happens, but the decision and act itself wasn't difficult at all. And I'd do it again, even while knowing how awful it was going to feel. :S

The hardest thing I ever had to do was get past the extreme abuse I endured as a child. I'm still working on it and I'm not sure that I will ever be better. I want to be a normal, functioning adult, but dealing with my mental problems (which it feels like no one can relate to sometimes) on top of doing everything else that adults are supposed to do always feels impossible to me and there's very little sympathy for me in the world. Even though other people did not have the childhoods I did (and probably a lot because they didn't and therefore they can't sympathize with my situation at all), they expect me to be as good and as successful and as "normal" as they are. Even if I'm someday successful and all that, I know I will never be "normal." There's just some things you go through that change your view of the world forever and you can't just magically think and be like everyone else after you experience them. And in many ways, neither do I want to actually, but it makes me stand out all the time.

Everyone else's stuff sounds way harder than mine. D:
But it's really difficult leaving town every time I go to visit my girlfriend. I see her... once a month or less I believe, and it's never for more than about a day and a half, so leaving is always just painful.

Hmm...for me I think the hardest thing I've ever done would probably be admitting that I'm a man masquerading as a woman, in a woman's body. In other words, I'm transgendered. It took me 17 years, my entire life time, to be able to admit that to myself. ._.

When I was little, I had this obsession with becoming a boy. In fact, I had myself convinced that being a girl was only temporary, and that one day I'd wake up as a guy. Of course, that never happened. In fact, my body only continued to remind me I was female, which left me extremely depressed and uncomfortable with myself. I went to extremes so I could lose the femininity in myself. Like, I almost developed anorexia to lose my breasts and to stop having periods. For a long time I actually denied that I was human, but I was really an animal born human. I just did not want to be associated with being female. :/

But eventually I did come to terms with what I was feeling. It was so hard though, so freaking hard. >_< I have no idea why either!

Originally Posted by Firemare

Probably choosing what University and sticking with it. My first semester was horrible, away from home for the first time at 17, suddenly in a world where 1 in three is expected to drop within the first year. I was sick all the time, shingles, swine flu and the like, it felt like I could never catch a break. I dropped one class, and passed all the rest. The second semester wasn't much better, but I stuck it out and have been improving. And somewhere inbetween all of the stress and mental breakdowns and guilt over potential failing, I joined a fraternity, made true friends and fell in love for the first time. It was really hard, and will continue to be so, but it's my dream, and I'm not giving up on it.

at least you never gave up no matter what life threw at you. I will be attending college in the fall and I'm also 17. I hope I do well.

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Originally Posted by The Enchanted Tiara

The hardest thing I ever had to do was get past the extreme abuse I endured as a child. I'm still working on it and I'm not sure that I will ever be better. I want to be a normal, functioning adult, but dealing with my mental problems (which it feels like no one can relate to sometimes) on top of doing everything else that adults are supposed to do always feels impossible to me and there's very little sympathy for me in the world. Even though other people did not have the childhoods I did (and probably a lot because they didn't and therefore they can't sympathize with my situation at all), they expect me to be as good and as successful and as "normal" as they are. Even if I'm someday successful and all that, I know I will never be "normal." There's just some things you go through that change your view of the world forever and you can't just magically think and be like everyone else after you experience them. And in many ways, neither do I want to actually, but it makes me stand out all the time.

I actually can relate in a sense. I would love to pm you sometime and talk about it :)

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Originally Posted by Hermes

Everyone else's stuff sounds way harder than mine. D:
But it's really difficult leaving town every time I go to visit my girlfriend. I see her... once a month or less I believe, and it's never for more than about a day and a half, so leaving is always just painful.

I had to leave behind a really great guy when I moved and it was hard but I know I have to get over him because hes not the same guy as he use to be.

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Originally Posted by KaciCake

Hmm...for me I think the hardest thing I've ever done would probably be admitting that I'm a man masquerading as a woman, in a woman's body. In other words, I'm transgendered. It took me 17 years, my entire life time, to be able to admit that to myself. ._.

When I was little, I had this obsession with becoming a boy. In fact, I had myself convinced that being a girl was only temporary, and that one day I'd wake up as a guy. Of course, that never happened. In fact, my body only continued to remind me I was female, which left me extremely depressed and uncomfortable with myself. I went to extremes so I could lose the femininity in myself. Like, I almost developed anorexia to lose my breasts and to stop having periods. For a long time I actually denied that I was human, but I was really an animal born human. I just did not want to be associated with being female. :/

But eventually I did come to terms with what I was feeling. It was so hard though, so freaking hard. >_< I have no idea why either!

wow that must have took a lot of courage just to type down and I really appericate you telling me and the whole menewsha community about yourself. Just know I wont judge you and we all have things that we regret right? Just know you can pm me anytime to talk. :)

Telling my best friend how i felt about him, his relationship with me, and our future together - or not, as it was - and having him throw in my face everything i've ever done for him, and retract all positive he'd ever said about me. I subsequently feel as though i've been removed from his life fully. Hard. Very hard. But i'm learning to cope, thanks to the help of my amazing uni friends.

Recently I've had to decide which school I'd like to go to for sixth form (optional studies from the age of 16-18). That was hard for everyone; not emotionally difficult, just the knowledge that the grades you get at the end of those years are going to influence university choices and therefore pretty much the rest of your life.

Emotionally, I went through a bad patch last year and decided to attempt suicide; that didn't work out, obviously. xD But that was a difficult decision.
Also, the choice of whether or not to just let someone go whom I adore. That's still in the process of being decided. I'm young, though, so I haven't had any huge decisions I've had to make.

Actually, I am moving to St. Louis, MO next month, as well. I am leaving my family and friends behind and taking a leap of faith to follow my boyfriend (we've been dating a long time) to a big city. He is going to attend graduate school at Washington University there and I'm hoping to find work. : / I am sure it will all work out in the end, but I am very nervous.

Originally Posted by Sun

Telling my best friend how i felt about him, his relationship with me, and our future together - or not, as it was - and having him throw in my face everything i've ever done for him, and retract all positive he'd ever said about me. I subsequently feel as though i've been removed from his life fully. Hard. Very hard. But i'm learning to cope, thanks to the help of my amazing uni friends.

sorry that happened to you.

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Originally Posted by Detrunorm

Recently I've had to decide which school I'd like to go to for sixth form (optional studies from the age of 16-18). That was hard for everyone; not emotionally difficult, just the knowledge that the grades you get at the end of those years are going to influence university choices and therefore pretty much the rest of your life.

Emotionally, I went through a bad patch last year and decided to attempt suicide; that didn't work out, obviously. xD But that was a difficult decision.
Also, the choice of whether or not to just let someone go whom I adore. That's still in the process of being decided. I'm young, though, so I haven't had any huge decisions I've had to make.

you do have your whole life ahead of you and it can get easy and it can get hard it all depends on you though.

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Originally Posted by gamer~goddess

Actually, I am moving to St. Louis, MO next month, as well. I am leaving my family and friends behind and taking a leap of faith to follow my boyfriend (we've been dating a long time) to a big city. He is going to attend graduate school at Washington University there and I'm hoping to find work. : / I am sure it will all work out in the end, but I am very nervous.

thats a big school but im sure you'll love it. Make sure to check out the loop. I only been there once and I thought it was awesome. Besides there are a lot of restaurants out there by Wash U.

I would say the same thing you did. Have to break up with someone I still cared deedply for. I was way too difficult. It brought new meaning to the saying "This is going to hurt me more than it is you" and that was definitely so true in my case.

@U-Sti: Thank you for your kind words. It makes me feel a bit better. : ) I have a brochure on the loop actually and was hoping to visit there sometime!

Originally Posted by gamer~goddess

@U-Sti: Thank you for your kind words. It makes me feel a bit better. : ) I have a brochure on the loop actually and was hoping to visit there sometime!

haha no prob. and thanks you too. ^^