This girl (we'll call her M), I don't know why she hates me so much but every time an opportunity presents itself, she tries to make me look bad and takes cheap shots at me. Now I'm not the most patient of people and I'm even less patient when someone takes a cheap shot at me. I blow a fuse when my enemy tries to get someone else involved in our fight. And that was exactly what happened.

I walk in one day and suddenly my guy friend, we'll call him G, tells me 'Am I really that ugly Pacific?' and while I'm standing there, wondering what brought that on, M says 'Pacific called you ugly? She must be blind'.

In my mind I saw two things. Now take heed, I might be biased because I'm always expecting M to stab me in one way or another.

1. M is trying to recruit G.
2. M is taking another subtle a stab at me...again.

So I told her to 'stop putting words in my mouth please' and told G that he was gorgeous and to stop with the rubbish.

M responded by telling me 'I didn't imply anything. It was G who implied. You're such a troll'.

And I'm going, how did telling someone to back off and to stop making me look bad nicely considered trolling? I didn't know how to react so I just shrugged at her and concentrated on G.

I don't know. I just don't know. I probably shouldn't have reacted at all but well...does that make me a troll? I just want her to leave me alone and I've been doing fine ignoring her all this time but then she goes and takes a stab at me and I lose it. -sighs-

Anyone have any tips on how I can better my self control? And well...how to not get affected by her taunts?

I would just make her feel like a complete tool over the situations every time they arise.

For example whenever M does something underhanded or chimes in I would simply take the approach of pity. You know saying things like "sweetie you must have a sad little existence if you have to get your kicks by fucking with other people."

Also public humiliation is a wonderful deterrent. when she starts her crap up just announce it to everyone. "Hey everyone! M here has another petty issue that she feels warrants our time, so lets all stop what we are doing and listen to what she has to say!"

These are simple tactics to humiliate idiots and you know humility is a wonderful thing to learn sometimes. Every one has to choke down an extra large slice of humble pie now and then. :3

Or pull a Vix and just punch her in the throat. Bitch can't say shit if she breathe ;)

-giggles- Those are pretty nice advice but I don't really want to start a fight...at least not while someone is between us. If it was just the two of us then yeah, I'd definitely take either advice but then either G or someone else would be there and she'd make me look like the bad guy when it was her that's continuously egging me on.

And well...she flirts a lot with G. Like...telling him he's sexy and stuff. Psh!

Psh! Psh! Psh!

Sucking up much?

Holy hells! I just realized it! She's holding my friendships with other people hostage! o.o;

You gotta give her props for being so dedicated. -_-

The thing is, this happened before with my other friends who we'll call D and T. Now D and T are very nice people, especially D since he doesn't know how to get angry. T, however doesn't take crap from anybody and she calls people out on their BS. So that's essentially what happened. M was talking about stuff and T called her on her BS and the fight between them begun. And then D was pulled in to it and pretty soon, I was pulled in to it too. D and I were both trying to stop them but then, M started thinking that D and I were teaming with T and were ganging up on her.

And every time I try to talk to her, she assumes that I'm going to attack her or something. She says things like 'I'm sorry. I don't really want to have a 'talk' right now. I can only handle so many emotional abuse at a time'. So of course that ticked me off. I told her to stop assuming and then she rounded up on me...and focused everything on me. She even blamed R's (yeah, another friend of mine who doesn't know anything about what's going on (because D, T, and I decided not to tell her because we didn't want to involve her) invitation to go to an amusement park (and she thought that R was trying to get her and her kids alone someplace and have people attack them) on me. I told her to apologize to R for the assumption but she wouldn't and started telling me that she can get me arrested for harassment and such. And well...I've had all that I could take at this point so I told her and her assuming ways to go fuck a horse.

So now, she's following me around and making friends with people I know and probably telling them crap about me.

LE SIGH.

Seriously. How many people get stalkers as dedicated to destroying my relationships with people as this one? -facepalm, pinch bridge of nose- I'm at the end of rope. JESUS what a bitch.

o.o

Okay that turned in to a rant. xDDD

The solution is a simple one: get a restraining order. That way, she can't be within 500 feet of you.

Uhm well yeah but I'm looking for advice for the long run. Like...if it every happens again long run. I don't want to file a restraining order over every people that don't see eye to eye with me or really just want to fight with me. I mean, I can understand the restraining order over a stalker but what if next time, it's not as intense? What if someone just keeps egging me on and such but not really following me around?

The you tell them off, of course.

Or, you could do the opposite. Ignore them. Yes, these sort of people are annoying. And do I ever want to shove a brick in their mouth. But the best way to deal with them is to not. Sooner or later, they'll be out of your life. Engaging them will only prolong the experience. And, eventually, it'll become worse. Ignoring someone like "M" is my way of pushing them away.

I don't miss the drama that was attached to high school ... I would suggest you go speak to the counselor or one of your teachers and explain to them that if they don't get this girl off your ass she will be in serious risk of bodily injury.

We all have to deal with issues like this once in a while but it sounds like she is making this a daily harassment issue which means there can be legal actions taken if it's not resolved.

Okay. Got it. Thanks for the help everyone! I really feel better letting everything out here. I'll ignore her for now and I'll go to the councilor. I'll tell them what's been going on and if M doesn't stop, she's going to get either a restraining order or a physical injury.

...Personally I really want to pull a Vix on her. xD

Thanks again! <333