Ok, I don't really know how to explain this, but I have a feeling that there is an already existing thread like this...

I'm bisexual, but my mother is homophobic. She and I are really close and I tell her everything that happens in my life. However, this is not one of these things. I have tried explaining to her that I am bi, but she keeps telling me that since it is not genetically pre-disposed, it's all in the head, the person chooses to make themselves this way and she calls it disgusting. It's really dissapointed me since she doesn't even seem to get that this is the way I am. I don't think she gets it, or she just chooses not to understand.

I feel that if I tell her, she will be extremely dissapointed and love me less. The problem is, knowing her, this COULD be a possibility. I don't know how to get through to her, especially since her reactions are very predictable, and she might never look at me the same. The fact that I tell her so much does not help either. I want to be able to reach out and tell her, but I am being restrained.

Has this ever happened to anyone here?
I really don't know what to do.

I'm bisexual. Telling my mother was never really an issue for me as she was never really a constant in my life, she was there physically but not emotionally. It was more letting my sister know that was my problem. She was like a rock to me in many ways, but as she was still pretty young and uses 'gay' as a word of extreme annoyance I never knew whether or not she would accept me or understand.

What I did was I sat my sister down and explained everything to her, in depth and not rushed. I then let her have her say, and we discussed everything, how each of us felt, if anything would change, all that stuff. It worked and now we can just be us again.

Perhaps you could do the same to your mother? I'm sure if she really cares for you in the long run she won't love you any less. She may just need a little time to get used to it.

I just told my parents, and they pretty much just said, "hm, alright". But with your situation, I would sit down and think of what to tell her.

As for it being "all in your head", and "You made yourself that way", that's not always the case. Some people are just born that way and drawn a sexual attraction to someone of the same gender. That being said, I think you should explain that to her. Also that there is nothing wrong with someone being bi or gay. Love is love, and there isn't anything you can do about it. Times have changed and she should be living in the 21st century. There isn't anything disgusting about it, and if she says so, ask her why she thinks that, and she should have a reasonable explanation behind it.

Also she is your mother you should love you for who you are. If you are bi, there isn't anything she can do about that, and she should accept that that's who you are. If she can't accept you for you who are, then it should be the same with her. People are who they are, and there is nothing you can do to change that.

Hope that that helped a little bit :3

I consider myself bisexual as well. I haven't told my parents yet (frankly it's none of their business since I'm an adult) but since you are so close to your mom, and you do have this legitimate fear, it's a different story.

I genuinely hope that if you told her that hse would be a good mother and love you nonetheless. I know I wouldn't care of my kid were gay straight or bi.

My best advice I can give you is sort of ease her into the idea. Don't just come out an say it.
Since I don't know about how you guys communicate exactly, I can't give you exact instructions. Telling a family member is always the hardest part, though, and I know how terrifying it can be.

I really hope that you can deal with this, and hopefully the advice given in this thread will make you feel better, and perhaps give you the courage and support you need.

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