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Old 10-02-2010, 09:43 PM

Oh Baby!



[IMGleft]http://i267.photobucket.com/albums/ii293/Nellysoup/babyboop_2.jpg[/IMGleft] Do you feel clucky, or have the baby blues?
Do you think about what your babies will look like?
Are you cradling pillows obsessively?
Just want to chat about kids and the future?
♥ ♥ ♥ ... if so, this is the place for you.

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Old 10-02-2010, 11:00 PM

Rules

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  • Respect others opinions
  • Mene TOS blah blah blah
  • Chat, make friends, have fun <333
  • Open for anybody, this is not an exclusive thread

Spoons
  • What are you looking forward too, when it comes to being a parent?
  • Scared or anxious about anything in particular?
  • What do you want your baby to look like?
  • Do you want a boy, or a girl - why?

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Old 10-02-2010, 11:01 PM

Competitions

[IMGleft]http://i267.photobucket.com/albums/ii293/Nellysoup/babyboop_2.jpg[/IMGleft] First post on Page 25, gets to choose one CI, Mene is selling at that time.
(May be a slight delay if it occurs, while I am moving house D: )
If I post first, that prize is void, page number will be changed

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Old 11-11-2010, 04:43 AM

About The Girl

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  • 25 year old fembot <3
  • Living in good old Aotearoa/New Zealand
  • Currently engaged, looking to wed in 2011
  • I've wanted a baby for donkeys years now
  • Interested in supporting those in my position
  • I'd like to have 3-5 children, whatever i'm blessed with i'm happy
  • I have little experience with babies, they make me nervous
  • Have 1 cat, and 1 dog who I love dearly
  • Would be happy to have a baby who toilet trains well lol!

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Old 11-11-2010, 09:31 PM

Aww what a cute thread dude! :)

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Old 11-12-2010, 12:16 AM

Hahaha thanks doodles, Baby Boop was just too cute to pass up <3 There was another image I asked an artist about, that I would like to use - but Baby Boop wins for now lols. Arghhh still got the baby brain happening >.>...

So annoying have this disk of baby images of Joe's niece in front of me, I keep going through it - and look at her little button nose <333

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Old 11-12-2010, 12:47 AM

It's awesome!! Aww, so are you's even gonna start planning now, or is it all about finding a job now?
She's soo cute! It's amazing something that beautiful can be made to an ugly b'arch xD.

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Old 11-12-2010, 01:12 AM

We'll have to see how it goes. In any case, we weren't going to start trying until March anyway. That's a few months away, and i'm still currently on the pill. So if things just turn to custard for us, and we're struggling in the new place then yeah. Those plans will definitely have to go on hold, and i'll have to look into getting into the police force a lot quicker X__x;; I'm pretty nervous about the future, it actually makes me feel sick at the moment xD!

Yeah it's crazy! Blonde hair, and blue/green eyes. What the heck is that about? From someone who has pitch black hair and eyes lols. She's a tiny little baby though, it looks weird when she walks around coz you'd think she wouldn't be able too - according to her size xD!! She's gonna be a shorty like her mama for sure. Barghh, I just hope she doesn't have her mother's ugly attitude X__x; Which it is likely she will have </3 Apparently ESIL is finally talking to Joe's neph! After four fricken years!! Sounds like she's snapping outta her bs all of a sudden.

Joe straight up told neph on the weekend, just get all up in ESIL's face, and talk to her hard out even if she doesn't reply lol. So neph must have listened to what Joe said after all.

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Old 11-12-2010, 07:24 AM

Really i thought you guys were gonna start trying in December? Seems like it keeps getting pushed back lol.
Hmm yeah, i'm sure it will become more clearer once your settled and over with school chick. :)

Yeah, does she look more like Matea? It's weird how ESIL's dominant jeans didn't come through eh. Kinda like Rob's daughter though, his ex is maori, brown hair, brown eyes. And his daughter has blonde hair, blue eyes. She's gorgeous. True, why is she so small? Ella is like that too, way to small for her age apparently. She should be like 10-15kgs heavier then she is. Well that's a good thing, maybe she's getting a clue?

LOLOL true. Does his nephew hate her? What's his take on her?

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Old 11-12-2010, 09:55 AM

Ohhh no, we were always gonna try in March/April. I am just going off the birth control pill in Dec, to let my system clear out. So i'll be fertile again lols. Trishy went onto the pill 10 weeks after having her daughter, and it dried up her breast milk. So i'm thinking i'm just gonna bottle feed from the start. Plus you know... boobs... 'you know' time hahahah - I dunno. I am still irked by that. Gosh I hope so dude, scary ass future! Why oh why didn't I study nursing xD!!

Ummmm... she looks more like her mother at the moment. Because of her eye shape mainly. She does have EBIL's nose, so I think as she grows up she'll look more like him. She has his genetics, and her mothers looks lol. Wooow!! That's sooo bizarre aye, just how the recessive genes come out. His ex must be totally stoked hehehe. I think ESIL is totally stoked with the way baby came out, coz it pops up in her comments on her FB. So weird that she got blonde hair, I reckon that comes from EBIL though, coz neph had a real light coloured hair. As he's grown up though, it's darkened a lot so I think the same will happen to baby.

She's small coz ESIL is small. That chick is like up to my shoulder I think? EBIL isn't really that big either, he's only just taller than me. I'm pretty sure Sarah would tower over EBIL xD!! Baby was a 5 pounder, where as EBIL was 10 pound, and Joe was 9 pounds lol.

Well interestingly that story has taken a bloody twist! I told neph to add Skype which he did, and we got to chatting with him. He said he hasn't seen ESIL ever since last Friday. Joe said... "Has ESIL talked to you?" and he said... "Nah, I haven't seen her for ages i've been back with nan since we got back from Auckland." So I guess Joe's ma is tryna keep the peace by bullshitting to us and making out that everything is okay. Talk about caught in the lie. Neph said ESIL's mother has been staying there for a week, so neph got kicked out - and she sleeps on his mattress in the living room. Joe reckons they should purchase another mattress so neph can just stay there, and he said they do have another mattress. She just doesn't use it. So that's pretty bullshit as well. I think it is just a sneaky way of getting neph back over to his grandparents place.

I read an interesting quote that said "If your relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it". - I also believe that goes for anything in the relationship, especially something as huge as not liking the child of your spouse... This kinda shit is just doing my head in. I think neph is just going along with the shit to be honest. I don't think we've ever asked him if he even likes her, there are definitely things he doesn't like about her though. Like he isn't comfortable around her coz she isn't very nice to him just ignores him.

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Old 11-15-2010, 09:03 AM

Sorry dude, i read it and then forgot to reply lol. I had Rob over my shoulder at the time and didn't want him seein what i had to type lol.

Ahh okay, i dunno where i got that idea from then lol. True that, yeah i know breast milk is the best, but to be honest i can't be bothered with the transition from boob to bottle. Some babys just don't have a bar of that. And i'd rather not have to go through that with so many other things to worry about. And it's especially better for you, if you plan on returning to work.

She looks like her? But baby is pretty, i don't think her mother is lol. Yeah well it's the same with Rob, those recessive genes coming through more then the dominant ones, totally weird. But i guess they're strong genes eh?

Ohh true that. Oh no baby is gonna be a short ass xD. Was she premature?

True that, wow that's just bullshit aye. Why is his mum lying to you guys? I don't understand why she covers up for ESIL & EBIL. Just call it how you see it aye. Some people will never get a frekkin backbone. I reckon dude, that's just plain old nasty, she totally needs to get over herself and build a relationship with him before he's a teen and really turns against her. It will be too late to have a bond with him then.

That's very true dude, i believe that too. If someone goes out of their way to hide certain things, then it's obviously not a good relationship to be in. I mean i guess Rob and i took off with a bumpy start. But we know things about each other, that are hard to tell another person, especially in a intimate relationship. So at least that's a start eh? Cause if you don't feel comfortable enough telling someone something like that, then your right - You shouldn't be in that relationship. Your never gonna feel completely happy.

I just feel so sorry for him. You guys should have him for a few days over the holidays. Take him out let him enjoy himself. Then he'll really resent ESIL. It's what she deserves for bein so selfish lol.

Back to babies ... OMG totally thinking about them recently. I'm no where near ready to have em. But it's nice having secret baby thoughts :P.

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Old 11-15-2010, 07:01 PM

Hahahah that's okay. I told Joe to go away coz I was typing comments about babies xD!!!

Yeah that's true. I have seen so many people struggle through that period too. It looks like a nightmare @[email protected];; I think that's what gave stupid ESIL her post natal depression, coz she seemed real happy when she was breast feeding the baby. Then she went back to work and it was all over from there. EBIL is saying they're still having problems with baby now. I don't have the time for that sort of thing unfortunately.

Yup baby is gonna be quite tiny I think. ESIL I honestly think is only just (for lack of a better word) normal. Coz she has a real thick bottom half - it's almost out of proportion with the rest of her. I think its lucky she isn't any shorter, coz she'd really look like she has dwarfism X__x. Yup baby was three weeks early. She was a five pounder.

I don't know why Joe's mother is lying aye, I just asked Joe and even he doesn't know. I guess Joe's mum is falling into that habit, where she thinks she's defending things and making peace...etc. I just asked Joe if he's gonna hit his mum up about lying about it - and I think if he puts the heat on neph by saying "Why is T lying to me?" - then Joe's mum will have to decide if she should come clean about it, or get neph into trouble. Plus she won't feel like she's being attacked lol.

Yeah I feel sorry for the kid too. It's just beyond stupid now. He's always wanting to come up to us, one of the last things he said to me was "So when will I see you two again?" He's hoping to come up in Dec, and if I can get onto the unemployment for a bit I plan on bringing him and my sister up to do stuff together. It's likely we won't be able to have him up after the baby comes though. Things will just be a bit hectic, but i'm sure he'll understand.

Does Rob have a relationship with his daughter? Or does she mostly stay with her mother?

Arghhh! Same here >.<;; My friend Justin just had his baby! He is so adorable!! <3 I'll take this image down when you see it ^^. That's Abby, his lovely partner and their son Arian <3 The caption he put with this image was "Natural beauty" How lovely <333 His messages to her FB were very sweet too ^____^

I also found out yesterday, that a couple who we're good friends with back in Vegas have just found out they're pregnant with their second @[email protected];;!! We've known them for years, and they had their first baby last year, also suffered a miscarriage in the start unfortunately... but they're hoping this baby gets past the first trimester then they'll announce this baby officially to their fams. Gosh babies everywhere!!!! I've had bubby brain all night myself ;_;

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Old 11-16-2010, 09:29 AM

Lols we're funny.

Yeah, Rob and i were talking about post natal depression tonight. I mean i understand that some people get it, but i dunno it just doesn't sound right to me. But i think thats because i believe in the fact that woman are natural mothers, they shouldn't be acting like they wanna murder their baby lol. But who knows i ain't a doctor, i can't tell you what's going on there. I think some people just need some harden up juice lol. It's called tough love, even babys need tough love, just not to the point where you flip out or hurt them lol, coz that's not love that's abuse xDD.

True, oh no she's gonna have a big ass xD. Ahh true, far out that's tiny eh?
Isn't like 7-8 pounds normal?

Ahh true, that's bizzare aye. Stupid woman. Is she all destiny churchy too?

Ahh that sounds good dude! Two neglectarinos hanging out together, will do them some good! :) Yeah better to get it in before bubba comes dude.

She lives in Australia dude, so no he doesn't. But you can mean tell that he's so cut up about it. He's hoping that his ex will get lazy (he said she's a lazy mofo) and send her over to him. But to be honest if she forced him into having a baby practically - there's no chance she's gonna give her up. Cause it sounds like she wanted that more then anything else. She came over not too long ago and stayed with him, but his ex's sister came with her - coz she hasn't seen her dad since she was a baby, so she had no idea who he was. He should just move on, he has a second chance to have a good relationship and start a family & do it right. It doesn't mean you forget her, but there's nothing that he can do, there's no way he'd get custody after he spun out and came running back home.

OMG that's justins baby, daaaw! Soo cute! They must be stoked! He's awesome eh? If only all guys could be like that guy lol. That's a nice name too i like it!

Aww well best of luck to them! I hope it works out well. :)

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Old 11-16-2010, 06:08 PM

Lol yeah, bubby brains!

I guess it's hard to understand post natal depression when you have never had it. But I feel the same way too, that females are natural mothers. Even when ESIL was at home on maternity leave, she was bored and shit. How could you not enjoy spending time with your baby? I can't help but think that's a bit weird. I'd spend most of my time taking photos of the baby xD!!! But in saying all that, my mother is an example of someone who isn't a motherly kind of person. She's just an a.hole through and through.

Yeah that is pretty tiny. I think that is the normal weight too, or average I guess.

Nah she's anti-Destiny hahaha. It's funny coz she always rolls her eyes when Joe's dad starts going on about stuff at the church.

Bahahah neglectarinos xD!!!!!! I hope they get along though coz they're both different genders, and I don't think neph hangs out with chicks that often. Jaz loves company though, so i'm sure she'll be okay. Hopefully she learns some common sense too, coz she has absolutely none she's a bit of a witless wonder like mum's whole friggen family are </3

Ohhh wow! That's so sad, especially when the daughter came over and she doesn't know her father. But yeah you're right, unfortunately he's got no choice but to let go - since it sounds like that ship as set sail. He should start thinking about the future and what he can change about it. I have a friend who had her daughter, and she wanted to move away from Vegas, and even though she and the father were separated he still said no, and the court issued an order that she has to live in Vegas until the child is 18, or until the father lets them go. Craaazy shiz. Did Rob lose that right?

Yeahhhh... I think he looks a bit tiny? but that's probably just me since i'm not used to seeing newborns lol. Ohh gosh they're totally over the moon about it, Justin has this album called "My Angel Son" hehehe. Yeah I reckon! He has just no shame in expressing how he feels about his son and partner. It's a nice refreshing change lols. The first name is okay, but it sounds like that Hitler race - the aryan race X__x;; I hope things go well for them too <3 I know it will though, Justin's entire family moved over to Australia from Vegas, to be with them for support after the baby came. How kewl is that? My mum and dad would never move over somewhere to support me :P

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Old 01-08-2011, 08:53 PM

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Yup, take it nice and slow with kids I say. You need to be in a position to enjoy them, and not fobbing them off coz you're stressing or whatever. It isn't fair on the children either, to be such a grouch that they've made life hard. They didn't choose for the parent to have them lol! The parents shoulda just kept their pants on, and done up nice and tight LMFAO! I know so many people who have had kids before their time, and they're suffering depression and all kinds of things. Although I know depression can come outta nowhere... I'm hoping there are steps you can take to ensure you lessen the chances of falling into depression @[email protected];;

One of our close friends, are currently going through a miscarriage. Veeeery sad, coz they're such beautiful people, and such gorgeous parents to their little son. They tried hard to have kids in the start, and lost the first one in the first trimester. They got pregnant again, and had their son - which they've utterly enjoyed. The male, who was a skanky pants player in the past settled right down with this chick - and has become the most smitten father ever. He even posted on his FB "Our son was born, and I absolutely lost control and started crying tears of joy! He's so precious!" I just couldn't believe a big guy, who seemed hard as nails was suddenly reduced to tears like that xD!

Anyways, they tried for their second baby - and announced it on the downlow to us, and asked that we didn't tell anyone until they were out of the first trimester. The mother just came out of her first trimester before Christmas, and posted up on her FB "Morning sickness is over, i'm through my first trimester, and am now enjoying being pregnant." She was due to have the baby in June this year. Then unfortunately a week later, we got a text saying she was going to have the baby 'removed'. Their new year scan showed that the baby wasn't responding to anything. She posted on her FB yesterday, that she's finally out of hospital... but at least she ended it by saying "I am enjoying all the cuddles from my wee man." So thank goodness she's keeping optimistic. I think they'll end up pregnant very soon though. Apparently the chances of another pregnancy are huge, after having a baby because of the hormones in the body. I just heard that from other people though, can't verify it myself lol.



@ Roach

You'll make a wonderful mother someday. That's awesome that you can say it's your life calling as well. That you truly want your children, and will give them the time and dedication they need to be raised in a loving and stable environment. See, I don't think my mother ever felt that way about us. That's why she's such a crap parent lols.

Yep, there's no point tryna keep up with other people. We're all just at different cycles in our lives. I've struggled with that too - especially with ESIL and EBIL. Coz they came together, rushed things, had a gorgeous baby and everything. But at the end of the day that's their life, not mine. They're struggling, and things have been a battle for them. Their kids only get to see them briefly in the morning, and at night time when they're all picked up from their various places. ESIL spends more time being snappy, and emotionally closed off than anything - coz she's stretched across so many things. She wants to work her ass off, but pump all these kids out too. I think you gotta set yourself up, in a way that ensures you don't burn yourself out and end up suffering because of it - and hating on your kids, and driving your partner away @[email protected];;

Sort yourself out first, and everything else will kinda just fall into your lap. Isn't it funny how relationships work that way too? xD!

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Yeah it's kinda weird just how much input he's offering o.o; lol! I'm like... D: - "That's the wedding planners job!" LOL. He's a fusspot though, i'm hoping he calms down when the wedding planner gets involved. I told him I found a dream wedding dress, (Sara) and he's all "Ohhh can I pleaaaase have a look!" It was so cute xD! I decided to let him see, since we're not having a traditional wedding. Although i'm only letting him see pictures online. I'm not going to allow him to see me in my dress, before the big day So at least there's a little bit of a surprise. He's probably already forgotten what the dress looks like anyway xD!

LMFAO! That makes things nice and straight forward! xD! That's cute too, he'll be all stepping off out the door, while you whip out a massive book of plans and ideas heheh. Is Josh the one you're gonna settle down with ya think? I kinda wish I had more time to think about this wedding, I was convinced we were getting married in 2010, not 2011 X_x;; Partner admitted he wants to get married earlier, coz he's going bald very slowly and he wants to have hair in his wedding photos >.>... Don't tell him I told ya that though... LMAO! (Not that you could) xD!

Yup, take it nice and slow with kids I say. You need to be in a position to enjoy them, and not fobbing them off coz you're stressing or whatever. It isn't fair on the children either, to be such a grouch that they've made life hard. They didn't choose for the parent to have them lol! The parents shoulda just kept their pants on, and done up nice and tight LMFAO! I know so many people who have had kids before their time, and they're suffering depression and all kinds of things. Although I know depression can come outta nowhere... I'm hoping there are steps you can take to ensure you lessen the chances of falling into depression @[email protected];;

One of our close friends, are currently going through a miscarriage. Veeeery sad, coz they're such beautiful people, and such gorgeous parents to their little son. They tried hard to have kids in the start, and lost the first one in the first trimester. They got pregnant again, and had their son - which they've utterly enjoyed. The male, who was a skanky pants player in the past settled right down with this chick - and has become the most smitten father ever. He even posted on his FB "Our son was born, and I absolutely lost control and started crying tears of joy! He's so precious!" I just couldn't believe a big guy, who seemed hard as nails was suddenly reduced to tears like that xD!

Anyways, they tried for their second baby - and announced it on the downlow to us, and asked that we didn't tell anyone until they were out of the first trimester. The mother just came out of her first trimester before Christmas, and posted up on her FB "Morning sickness is over, i'm through my first trimester, and am now enjoying being pregnant." She was due to have the baby in June this year. Then unfortunately a week later, we got a text saying she was going to have the baby 'removed'. Their new year scan showed that the baby wasn't responding to anything. She posted on her FB yesterday, that she's finally out of hospital... but at least she ended it by saying "I am enjoying all the cuddles from my wee man." So thank goodness she's keeping optimistic. I think they'll end up pregnant very soon though. Apparently the chances of another pregnancy are huge, after having a baby because of the hormones in the body. I just heard that from other people though, can't verify it myself lol.
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Rofl, yeah it is kind aweird when a guy puts in so much input, xD When it comes to weddings I think the guy should have choice in as few decorations as possible, maybe help choose a photographer. What he can help with is what flavor cake and perhaps what kind of booze to have at the reception, LOL. xDD That's just what their best at, picking food and booze, seeing as no guy I've ever dated has had a sense of style or fashion really, lmao. xD That sentence sounds SOOO sexist, but it's not meant to, >w< Lucky him though for seeing the dress! So few do really, but I'll imagine when I get married I'll want to show my dress off to him, haha. Not me in it, like you said, so yeah. :p I imagine he has forgotten though already, XD!

YESS!! Hahahaha, he just knows I'm more organized with stuff like that and I would NOT let anything go wrong, lmao. xD If anything went wrong that I didn't plan I would be so pissed, lmao. I really like to think he's the one I'll settle down with. :'3 I've been with him for over a year now, and so far he's gotten me an anniversary ring for our 6 months, a diamond (looking) bracelet for Christmas, and a GORGEOUS necklace for our 1 year. >w< I think it's safe to say he really cares about me, he treats me so nicely, and I never expect him to give me those things. Plus, his family pesters him about marriage, and they think we'll end up married, lmao. My mom's called him her son-in-law already, which I found freaky, but eh, that's my mother, xDD Plus, he dragged me by a jewelry place the other day and was having me show him things I liked? His reasoning "So I know what kind of ring you'll always want to wear". So cute. >w> If he did ask to marry me though, I'd want a long engagement, for the most part. I don't think I'd want to get married while I'm working at my current job, LOL. xD I hate it, I want to move on to better things before marriage. ^^

LMAO, Is that really why he wants to get married sooner? BAHAHAHA, XDD! That's so cute though! >w< He wants to look good for your wedding! <3

And yeah, it's what you just said about kids. They shouldn't have to feel responsible for their parents unhappiness. They may not fully understand when they're younger, but they will as they get older. And they'll feel responsible, when it was NOT their fault. >: It sucks how it works that way, I wish younger teens could realize it's not their fault, and that they had no part in it. They just need to realize how lucky they are to be alive, as so many others..don't get that chance.

...That, was so sad to read about your friend. ); It's sad how people who really make the best parents normally have the worst time having children, that they would love like no other. <3 The people who really deserve to have children, to nurture them, normally have to work to have children, while others who could care less about having children (I know a few people, friends of people I work with). One of my managers dated this girl forever, had 2 kids with her. He works all the time, closes constantly at work, and he has his (step)mom watch over the kids because the mother is too busy off stripping at a strip club. He gets out of work sometimes from midnight to one in the morning, and will pick them up. His (step) mom also works at the same place, and she opens in the morning. So she'll stay up watching their kids, then wake up around 4 am just to get to work on time to open at 5. She barely even goes and sees the kids (My manager and her are seperated, and have for awhile, but they still live in the same house). I know the other day for example, she'd been gone for 3 days straight. She came home while the kids were taking a bath, visited for 15-20 minutes and just left after she talked to them. It's absolutely pathetic... I hate mothers like that. -___-;

I hope your friends get pregnant soon though. They really seem like a nice couple, who love and care for their child already. <3 I love hearing stories about strong macho dudes breaking down when they see their child, it just shows how absolutely happy they are about bringing life into this world~ Couldn't ask for a better thing, seeing pictures later in life of your father crying over your birth, after growing up with him and knowing how he can be. Would be so sweet. c:

AND, DONE REPLYING. xDD I've wrote my own novel, rofl.
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Old 01-08-2011, 11:04 PM

What are you looking forward too, when it comes to being a parent? I'm not sure if I want kids... I am pretty scared.


Scared or anxious about anything in particular? hm.. meny things.. the money to pay for them. the idea of rasing them. if I will be a good mom or not..


What do you want your baby to look like? well if I do ever have kids I would hope like me and the father


Do you want a boy, or a girl - why? Girl, cuz everyone ssays they are more well behaved then the boys are. sides I have been more around girls anyways.

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Old 01-09-2011, 12:16 AM

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What are you looking forward too, when it comes to being a parent? I'm not sure if I want kids... I am pretty scared.


Scared or anxious about anything in particular? hm.. meny things.. the money to pay for them. the idea of rasing them. if I will be a good mom or not..


What do you want your baby to look like? well if I do ever have kids I would hope like me and the father


Do you want a boy, or a girl - why? Girl, cuz everyone ssays they are more well behaved then the boys are. sides I have been more around girls anyways.
Hiya angelbabe, welcome to the thread ^^! <3 It's always nice to have new posters pop by. I think you're the first newcomer to this particular thread outside of the people who regularly chat with me :D

I used to be scared of having kids too, I don't know what's going on though xD! The right person came along, and things have just changed for me. It's as though mother nature gets her hooks in, and suddenly you're finding yourself facing up to the fear :)

That's sooo true about being scared over whether or not you'll make a good parent X_x;; It's hard to tell, coz it's not as if babies are born with an instruction manual? Lol! The first one will always be a huge learning curve... eeeek. Possibly every child after that too, if their temperaments are all different.

Lols fair enough ^^! It would be strange if your first child was born, and looked nothing like you or the father haha. There are particular traits that I hope my children are born with, from my side of the family. Are there any desired traits on your side of the gene pool you'd like your children to have?

I'm in the same boat as you, been around girls more than boys. I find the boy children i've been exposed to creep me out more than the girl kids xD!! Boys are loud, and rough and awkward... at least the boys i've had to be around. It's not made for a very pleasant experience... </3


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Lets see, i'm starting this at 12.58pm lols...

Omg, that is so true xD!! Most guys I know don't really have a sense of style either. Hubby used to wear sports socks, that go up the leg - with his long shorts... he'd roll the socks down, so that they were bulky funny looking ankle socks. The first time he did it I was like... o.o;; 'I'm taking you to the store, to get some ankle fricken socks, that's just a bit ridiculous looking' xD!!!!! I wasn't sure how he was gonna take it. But thank goodness, he bought some damn ankle socks xD!

You know what's funny? Is partner's biggest concern is the quality of the food. How well it tastes... Geeze. It isn't 'where in Raro are we gonna get married?' 'Who are my Groomsmen?' 'What am I gonna wear?' It's all about the food. LMFAO! That's a good point you've raised though, what are we gonna do about booze? Lols... Might leave that part to the wedding planner X_x;;

I'm stoked it's not just me, who wants to show off her wedding dress to the hubby xD! It's sooo exciting looking at the dress, and picturing yourself in it. Can't help but show it off to as many people as possible LMAO.

That is soooo kewl! You sound like you have such a lovely partner. He's thinking about jewellery and stuff for you already - Awwweh <33 Very good that he's being proactive about it too, instead of just guessing x). At least you'll be able to sort your rings and stuff out nice and quick. That's cute about your mother calling him son in law too!! and the good old marriage pressure eh? I wished that worked on my partner a bit quicker lmao! Took six dang years, to get him just to propose the bloody shit. LMFAO! I completely understand about not wanting to get married in your current job though. I guess the reason we took so long was coz of my studies, and partner's old job was crap. You gotta be feeling happy about things in your life, before taking that step. You wanna enjoy the full package if possible.

I was expecting a longer engagement for us. But partner has never really wanted a long one. He was thinking along the lines of six months. I was like.. whoah... that's a bit soon. Basically for the same reasons as you stated X__x!

LMAO!!!! He doesn't wanna be a baldilocks XD! I guess so when our kids and stuff look through, they'll be all surprised like 'Daddy you have HAIR!!!!!' bahahahaha xD! I think it has to do with him feeling guilty too, about taking forever to propose.

Yeah, it must be terrible for those poor kids to think they're to blame, for their parents unhappiness or poverty or whatever. Can't blame them for growing up with issues about themselves, and it makes you think about how sad it is for the parents too. That they're not able to stand up and say 'It's okay it's not your fault.' Even those small words could make such a huge difference in that child's life. My mother is a very nasty person and has always said 'At least I got a house because you were born.' 'You shouldn't have been born.' Shit like that, not really necessary. It tore me apart at times, until I realised that I didn't choose to be there at all... So it's all just the way she thinks, and nothing to do with me being a shit kid or anything lols. I hope every kid out there who has a parent like that, gets the strength at some point to realise that too.

It is terrible when you think about the amount of people, who would give absolutely anything just to have a child of their own... and those kids would be absolutely cherished in every way and taken care of better than most other kids out there X_x! Awww.. that's so sad to read about the situation those poor children are in too. Poor babies. Being flung between homes can't be good, especially when they grow up and hit an age where puberty starts setting in. The last thing you wanna do, when you're freaking out about your changing 'bits' is be packed up and shipped off somewhere else lols. Do you think the father will change that situation at all? It sounds a wee bit like my partner's nephew and his situation...

I can't stand mothers who do that as well. Dunno how you can carry this child for 9 months, give birth to it, and then not bother to make that child your #1 priority. Sounds all too familiar. When I think about my mother's #1 priority I have memories of nothing but this sentence. 'I'm my #1 priority, it's all about me. Putting myself first.' - those are her exact words, and if I asked her today what her priority is, the same sentence would come out. People like that should be able to have some kind of free surgery, that'll prevent them from having children. Lol!

It's so cute when macho men break down, at the sight of their baby!!! I wish I could see something like that. I haven't been to any childbirths ever in my entire life. I think i've only been to see one child after it's birth and I was too young to even really care lols! I always wonder about what my friends will be like at the birth of their own children? (the males that is) I find it easier imagining what my female friends would be like LMAO! Aww that'd be so cool to watch a reaction recording of your father at your birth. Maybe I should get partner to do that... When we have our first baby, to go home and record his thoughts... i'd have to tell him though, no talking about random shit that doesn't matter though! It's gotta relate to the baby LMFAO!

and it is now... 1:17pm LMAO!!! 19 mins!

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Old 01-09-2011, 03:27 AM

I shall reply when i am not soo tired lol.

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Old 01-09-2011, 07:54 PM

Lol fair enough doodles. Joe was really knackered yesterday, he must have slept for like 2 and a half hours during the day. He's never a day sleeper so it came as a big surprise to see him zonked out lol! Must be this muggy weather or something.

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Old 01-10-2011, 01:04 AM

@Nivvy - In response to your post dated 17/11

It is very hard to understand post natal depression if you've never been in that situation, and i guess a lot of people are different. They're not all gonna go through the same problems and issues, and they're not all gonna feel the same way. I do however believe that a lot of woman use post natal depression as an excuse for their behavior though. I think Sash, used post natal depression as an excuse, and i immediately thought "bullshit". Cause she is a great mother and you can see loves her baby, and looks after him well. It's her attitude, that's her problem, she's angry over things in her past, not because of baby.

I guess that some woman like the idea of having children. Some just have them cause they know they'll always have that attachment to the father. Yeah i don't understand how woman could be so distant and hateful towards their children. Especially after the hard slog that goes into conceiving, carrying & giving birth. To me the child is like the reward, why would you give up on that? I will never understand that mentality.

I'm anti destiny. I don't know how that man can call himself a christian. He has that real smugness about him too. Does Joe's dad give 10% of his wages too the church?

I'm sure they will, when are they getting together??
Ahh yep, well i hope that you can teach her some valuable life lessons, or at least install some wisdom on her. In the hope that she makes wise decisions because of them when she's older. Your mother really does break my heart when it comes to your little sister. How could she do that to her? How could she do that to her parents of all things aswell. She was quite capable of looking after her own child.

He never filed for it. He's never gone for access to his child. He doesn't think he has the right too, especially since he was such a drunk at the time. I think he feels he has no legs to stand on. I wouldn't want her hanging around here anyway. It's much better this way. Even though that's sad for him coz i really do wish that he was closer to Dorothy. Yeah i know that he can do that, but i don't think he ever will. He's leaning on the hope that one day when she's a bit older, she'll want to know him and come and be with him.

Yeah he is tiny, but i bet he'll grown up nice and stong. He's got two wonderful parents that love him very much!! Lol, it is a refreshing change. But i guess we gotta roll with what we got, coz majority of men are not like woman, where they share their emotions & are not afraid of expressing their love in public and to everyone lol. And i guess we kinda have to deal with that lol, and just let them be men. Cause i guess we know that they love and care for us.
Really? I've never heard of it xD. I like it though!! Wow, he must have a very loving and caring family. Mine wouldn't either lol. Though my mum might, if she had the money to do so. I think she would.


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Aww thank you dude, that means a lot to me. I guess it's because i didn't have the greatest upbringing. Being abused as a child, been sent here and there. Even though i had a mother who loved me (this much i know), she was lost herself. In and out of bad relationships that had major effect on me as a teen. I just know that i don't want that for my child. And i've watched certain family members and friends have children and the mistakes that they've made, and i like to think that i've taken valuable lessons from these mistakes, and i can apply these in my own life and perhaps not make the same mistakes.
It just sounds like your mother was never meant to have children. She's kinda like a vessel, and that's it. But i'm thankful that she did keep you. :)

Ahh, i wish i hada read this earlier. I know we're all at different places in our lives, and it is a struggle to see someone so far ahead, and you get left behind. I'm struggling with this so much right now. Especially after seeing Zane and Tom being expectant parents. It's heartbreaking. But i know that, i cannot judge my life on theirs. Everything happens for a reason, and good things come to those who wait. I know that God has a plan for me, and i really cling too that belief. I have faith that things will happen in due time. It's just trying to get rid of the depressed feeling that's deep inside.

Yeah that's true dude. You shouldn't have children if your main focus is a career. If you don't have quality time to spend with them and if you know all your gonna be is hateful, upset and angry. They're suppose to be miracles, and it's really sad to see how many people actually are on the same path as them. So filled with regret. They don't understand that their actions actually effect their children in major ways. I certainly don't want to be in this position when it's my turn. I guess that's why they say you shouldn't rush things, and that you should sort your own life out first.

Lol yeah that's true.
And that ends the rant. I've accomplished quite a few things today, despite my somber mood this morning lol.
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Old 01-10-2011, 04:44 AM

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Lets see, i'm starting this at 12.58pm lols...

Omg, that is so true xD!! Most guys I know don't really have a sense of style either. Hubby used to wear sports socks, that go up the leg - with his long shorts... he'd roll the socks down, so that they were bulky funny looking ankle socks. The first time he did it I was like... o.o;; 'I'm taking you to the store, to get some ankle fricken socks, that's just a bit ridiculous looking' xD!!!!! I wasn't sure how he was gonna take it. But thank goodness, he bought some damn ankle socks xD!

You know what's funny? Is partner's biggest concern is the quality of the food. How well it tastes... Geeze. It isn't 'where in Raro are we gonna get married?' 'Who are my Groomsmen?' 'What am I gonna wear?' It's all about the food. LMFAO! That's a good point you've raised though, what are we gonna do about booze? Lols... Might leave that part to the wedding planner X_x;;

I'm stoked it's not just me, who wants to show off her wedding dress to the hubby xD! It's sooo exciting looking at the dress, and picturing yourself in it. Can't help but show it off to as many people as possible LMAO.

That is soooo kewl! You sound like you have such a lovely partner. He's thinking about jewellery and stuff for you already - Awwweh <33 Very good that he's being proactive about it too, instead of just guessing x). At least you'll be able to sort your rings and stuff out nice and quick. That's cute about your mother calling him son in law too!! and the good old marriage pressure eh? I wished that worked on my partner a bit quicker lmao! Took six dang years, to get him just to propose the bloody shit. LMFAO! I completely understand about not wanting to get married in your current job though. I guess the reason we took so long was coz of my studies, and partner's old job was crap. You gotta be feeling happy about things in your life, before taking that step. You wanna enjoy the full package if possible.

I was expecting a longer engagement for us. But partner has never really wanted a long one. He was thinking along the lines of six months. I was like.. whoah... that's a bit soon. Basically for the same reasons as you stated X__x!

LMAO!!!! He doesn't wanna be a baldilocks XD! I guess so when our kids and stuff look through, they'll be all surprised like 'Daddy you have HAIR!!!!!' bahahahaha xD! I think it has to do with him feeling guilty too, about taking forever to propose.

Yeah, it must be terrible for those poor kids to think they're to blame, for their parents unhappiness or poverty or whatever. Can't blame them for growing up with issues about themselves, and it makes you think about how sad it is for the parents too. That they're not able to stand up and say 'It's okay it's not your fault.' Even those small words could make such a huge difference in that child's life. My mother is a very nasty person and has always said 'At least I got a house because you were born.' 'You shouldn't have been born.' Shit like that, not really necessary. It tore me apart at times, until I realised that I didn't choose to be there at all... So it's all just the way she thinks, and nothing to do with me being a shit kid or anything lols. I hope every kid out there who has a parent like that, gets the strength at some point to realise that too.

It is terrible when you think about the amount of people, who would give absolutely anything just to have a child of their own... and those kids would be absolutely cherished in every way and taken care of better than most other kids out there X_x! Awww.. that's so sad to read about the situation those poor children are in too. Poor babies. Being flung between homes can't be good, especially when they grow up and hit an age where puberty starts setting in. The last thing you wanna do, when you're freaking out about your changing 'bits' is be packed up and shipped off somewhere else lols. Do you think the father will change that situation at all? It sounds a wee bit like my partner's nephew and his situation...

I can't stand mothers who do that as well. Dunno how you can carry this child for 9 months, give birth to it, and then not bother to make that child your #1 priority. Sounds all too familiar. When I think about my mother's #1 priority I have memories of nothing but this sentence. 'I'm my #1 priority, it's all about me. Putting myself first.' - those are her exact words, and if I asked her today what her priority is, the same sentence would come out. People like that should be able to have some kind of free surgery, that'll prevent them from having children. Lol!

It's so cute when macho men break down, at the sight of their baby!!! I wish I could see something like that. I haven't been to any childbirths ever in my entire life. I think i've only been to see one child after it's birth and I was too young to even really care lols! I always wonder about what my friends will be like at the birth of their own children? (the males that is) I find it easier imagining what my female friends would be like LMAO! Aww that'd be so cool to watch a reaction recording of your father at your birth. Maybe I should get partner to do that... When we have our first baby, to go home and record his thoughts... i'd have to tell him though, no talking about random shit that doesn't matter though! It's gotta relate to the baby LMFAO!

and it is now... 1:17pm LMAO!!! 19 mins!
Okay, so I read this yesterday, now for the response. xD
Yay for timing ourselves, lmao! XDD I never thought it took that long to respond, lol. >w<

Okay, so I'm basing this off the picture that I recall seeing on your profile, and OMG, LMAO. I AM LAUGHING SO HARD AT THIS IMAGE!! I think I used to do that when I was young though, in Elementary school! xD Before anyone would buy me ankle socks, xD! I'd be soooo thankful he bought them! I'd laugh at him if I saw him in public, after he walked by of course, not gonna lie. :p <3

See! I knew it! XD Food and booze are their specialties (for the most part, rofl. :P) and they know what's good tastin'! Josh doesn't always have the best taste of food when he makes it, but he's still good enough that I'd trust him to choose the food and such. c: He knows what I like, dislike, and how I would like it to look to keep that in mind when he was picking, lol. :p

Yeah, I hope it'll be simple, I've always imagined it to be. xD He knows the kind of stuff I like, for the most part, and he knows what I think it ugly, rofl. So it shouldn't be hard for him, because if he ever does decide he wants to marry me, I want HIM to pick the ring, with no input from me really. c: I want him to pick my ring, the ring he wants me to have ^^ /lame, lolz.
Ahhhh, wow, that's a long time! O__O Didn't know it was that long of dating, rofl. But hey! At least you know if you can last 6 years, what's 6+ more? Lmao. xD Sucks the pressure thing didn't work on him, but I doubt it phases Josh either, rofl. They don't take hints well. :p Makes sense why he wanted to wait though, and probably is a reason why he wants a short engagement. He's possibly tired of waiting? :P <3 6 months isn't much planning time, and it can probably make things REALLY hectic, but...at least you'll be married soon. ^^ <3

And woah...that really stinks about your mom. >: My mom's never said that, but I know I wasn't planned and that I was an accident. I know this since she doesn't know my father, lmao. Sad, but true, can't do anything about it though.
I really wish parents wouldn't do that stuff though, that they wouldn't make their children feel unwanted. ): Like you said, I just hope they realize that it wasn't their fault and that there's nothing they can do about it. Just gotta live your life and do something great, and if you have kids, show them the love you never were shown. c: <3

Uhh...wtf... I don't think I'd like your mother very much Nivvy. >: </3 She sounds...very....into herself, as that quote made me think. And as you said, I don't see how someone who carries a child for 9 months, feel the childs heartbeat and movement inside her, can't feel an attachment of some sort. I feel attachments do people and I imagine if I had a baby, I'd feel a stronger attachment than anything, since I helped create them. And I AGREE. I'd happily pay taxes for that, lmao. xDD!! Sure they can get tubes tied, etc. but that costs money. :p

I can't help but wonder about my guy friends as well. xD I have a few macho ones, some not so macho ones, and some in-betweeners, and I think it'd be interesting to see their reaction. (: Girls' reactions are normally the same, but it's important to remember and talk about as well, xD A recording of that too! >w<
Ahhh, do it! :'D I'd feel like my idea was put to good use, LOL! Even though I'm sure others have done it before. xD I think whenever I'll have a baby, I'll have to do the same thing. Like you, I've never seen a childbirth, just photos and after photos.. I'v e never even been to one. D: I imagine it's a beautiful thing...even if it is painful as hell. o.e

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Old 06-18-2011, 09:11 PM

Ohh forgot about this thread - gives it a little poke. :D
Hows the baby thing coming along Niv's??

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Old 06-19-2011, 06:52 AM

Arghh I've been so busy @[email protected];; Haven't kept up to date with this thread either lols.

Welp... Where to start really... I'm charting like crazy, keeping track of temps, and taking ovulation predictors. I'm also taking stuff like folic acid, pre natal vitamins and fish oil. It's so complicated, it bums me out - coz in high school it's rammed down our throats, that sex instantly leads to pregnancy and blah blah blah. I can understand the STIs thing being bad, but it isn't as easy to get preggers as the teachers used to make out it is haha.

Last month it seemed like everything was on track. But still no positive. Last month I was really crazy about doing all the tests and stuff. This month I'm just like meh. Kinda over it already haha. Joe's finding it hard, coz he had to see his niece a few weekends back, and he gets really crazy clucky over her. He said it's the worst for him around her :P Trish also came two weeks ago with her baby, and Joe just wouldn't leave her alone. He said he started trying to get her attention all the time - and he was quite sad when she wouldn't notice him haha. I'm still really iffy about being around children, I still don't quite understand them :P

How are you feeling about the baby thing?

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Old 06-19-2011, 08:43 AM

Yeah i agree dude. You get people who really want kids and deserve them but can't have them or find it hard. And on the other hand you have ass wipes who get pregnant easy, abuse themselves by way of drugs and alcohol, and then abuse their children and they end up in hospital or dead. It really sucks!

I feel for ya dude. I think you and Joe really deserve this, and it will happen for ya. I just know it will. I will def pray for you. :)

Aww he's going to be a great daddy. That's soo cute! Don't worry dude, it will come so naturally once you have yours. It's different when it's someone elses kid, you just don't know what to do or say. But i think you'll be a natural. You'll be strict but fair, and you and Joe will love the crap outta that kid or kids lol :).

Ahh some days i really get clucky. Like today i spent some time looking at pictures of babies growing inside and stuff. I don't show it to Rob though. I feel like if i do i'm kinda being like Renee where he felt pressured. I'm okay for now to not have a kid coz i know i'm not ready physically or emotionally or financially for that. But i'm not gonna wait forever. I think if by 28, we aren't trying. Then it might be time to move on and fast lol. I don't wanna be too old and having my first. I think 30 is the limit. Then i might have to look for a sperm donor xDDD.

 


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