What are your opinions?
I have heard both extremes to "No way you could get raped!" to, "If it's true love it's completely fine!".
I'm just wondering, what's your say on it?
Do you think it's dumb?
Just another way of dating?
I'm in a relationship that's over the internet. (:
But, don't let that be nice or try to support online dating, just give an honest opinion.
I'm honestly pretty curious about this. (x =3

Really online dating is no more dangerous than trying to pick somebody up at the bar, when you think about it.

Personally I wouldn't do it. Online I'm more me than I could ever be talking to someone, so people would get confused as to why I'm so different in person.

If your happy with it, go for it. Life is about experimentation and trial-and-error. So go out, have fun, don't stop until life's done.

It has the same risks as many other forms of dating, so I don't think that's an issue.. If it had a face-to-face live chat thingy (so you can make sure that the pictures people have posted are really them) I don't see the problem.

I would never do it myself, but I have heard so many success stories that I don't understand why some people are against it.. My mother is a matchmaker as a profession, and even though she has a dating website people have to call her and set up a webcam interview so she can be sure her clients are legit and that their info is real. That way she weeds out all the fakes, and can make matches with people who are fit for each other. (however this is becoming quite tedious as she has nearly 1000 clients now haha)

Originally Posted by Syraannabelle

Really online dating is no more dangerous than trying to pick somebody up at the bar, when you think about it.

Personally I wouldn't do it. Online I'm more me than I could ever be talking to someone, so people would get confused as to why I'm so different in person.

If your happy with it, go for it. Life is about experimentation and trial-and-error. So go out, have fun, don't stop until life's done.

Hmm I completely understand what you mean and where you're coming from. (: I mean, I never did like online dating lol! And the only way I met my boyfriend was through a friend who knew him. :P So I guess for me it's a bit safer then just flinging myself out there. (: But I know a lot of risks of things online not just dating and I guess I'm just used to them haha! ^_^ But yeah thank you for your opinion! :D

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Originally Posted by Suzhi Mix

It has the same risks as many other forms of dating, so I don't think that's an issue.. If it had a face-to-face live chat thingy (so you can make sure that the pictures people have posted are really them) I don't see the problem.

I would never do it myself, but I have heard so many success stories that I don't understand why some people are against it.. My mother is a matchmaker as a profession, and even though she has a dating website people have to call her and set up a webcam interview so she can be sure her clients are legit and that their info is real. That way she weeds out all the fakes, and can make matches with people who are fit for each other. (however this is becoming quite tedious as she has nearly 1000 clients now haha)

Lol! That's cool at least she's expanding. ^_^ But that's really good that she does do that (: that must really help out her clients a lot. But yeah I tend to agree, I don't know, I have never been on a dating website or anything. O: I know a friend who does it. (: And she likes it a lot. Personally, I think the distance or it is hard to do, I mean it's not at all easy haha. I don't even know if I'll ever do this again. (x

But I have heard my boyfriends voice, seen him on cam, etc. etc. (: I have taken every caution that he could possibly be a creep haha! But I'm pretty sure he's a normal teen like me because I've seen his friends too and I have him on Facebook, the pictures of him are constant and plus one of my friends knows him in person. (:

Just so no one is confused I didn't meet my boyfriend from like a random chat or like a dating website I met him through the friend who knows him lol. And him and I just haven't met face to face. But I don't know what I think about the whole online dating scene yet, I don't think I would go to a dating site after this relationship or anything just because the long distance part is really tough for me.

But anyway, thank you for you taking your time and giving your opinion I appreciate it. (:

There are two people who met on here, and fell in love. Not only was it an online thing, but really long distance - England to the US. But they're frigging amazing :3 Things seem awesome for them.

Dangerous yes, of course. It's easy for someone to lie on the internet, but it's easy to know when they're lying. Webcams, telephone calls, facebook profiles... If they don't want to show themselves on webcam or won't link you to their facebook, they aren't genuine.

There are people in the world who are genuine though.

Originally Posted by Kultura

There are two people who met on here, and fell in love. Not only was it an online thing, but really long distance - England to the US. But they're frigging amazing :3 Things seem awesome for them.

Dangerous yes, of course. It's easy for someone to lie on the internet, but it's easy to know when they're lying. Webcams, telephone calls, facebook profiles... If they don't want to show themselves on webcam or won't link you to their facebook, they aren't genuine.

There are people in the world who are genuine though.

Yeah! (: That's how I see it anyway ^_^ I mean, yes it's dangerous, but I think also there is risks in just even dating in general you know? You never really know if a person is genuine a 100% in person or online. So I believe in there will always be risks. (:

But I like your view on it, I guess because it matches how I see it most haha! But, I mean, I also know that to be aware of red flags you know? And I would never do anything stupid, I don't think anyone would. (:

Thank you for your opinion though, I enjoyed it. ^_^

i support online dating.My friends are online dating and they have visit each other and i think it is pretty cool to what just meeting online can do.Though for me i am bad with online dating.all of my boyfriends have treated me badly so yeah.But maybe i will find some guy out there you will understand me :lol:

Originally Posted by Maka-chan

i support online dating.My friends are online dating and they have visit each other and i think it is pretty cool to what just meeting online can do.Though for me i am bad with online dating.all of my boyfriends have treated me badly so yeah.But maybe i will find some guy out there you will understand me :lol:

Aww that's horrible! ): Those guys sucks! ):< Lol! (x I'm sure whether you meet someone through internet or in person you will find someone who's actually kind to you at least I hope! :D

But that's cool that you do. (: Thank you for your opinion! I appreciate it ^_^

I'm not a huge a fan of online dating, never have been, but sometimes life and love work in funny ways. After being single for three years, I met my boyfriend through one of my friends here on Menewsha and I am very much in love with the man. The guy who introduced us is one of my closest friends on the planet and I trust his judgment. Actually, I'm pretty sure not even he expected us to turn out so well matched in terms of personality and interests, haha. Wednesday will mark three months since we got together. We have yet to meet in person but we have high hopes for the future.

I wish you and your boyfriend all of the luck in the world <3

Wow that sounds so much like my boyfriend and I haha. (: We met through a friend who I was friends with on Youtube and we actually didn't like each other at all when we first met but then when we talked we kinda clicked. ^_^ And yeah him and I have been dating for three months too! :D And once him and we are planning to meet in person soon or as soon as possible anyway. (: But yeah him and I are going at a steady pace and hope to be with each other when we're adults but we are just taking it one day at a time and not doing anything ridiculous like planning every little detail of our wedding or something lol just because we don't know what tomorrow may hold.

I hope you two get to meet each other soon and your guys relationship lasts a long time.^^

Thank you so much for wishing us luck. (: <3 I hope all the same for you! :D

We didn't hate each other but we didn't realize who we were talking to at first :ninja: See, he had hopped on my friend's mule and was asking for music suggestions and me being the music junkie that I am, offered to help so we exchanged screen names and started talking on msn. After a bit, I noticed that his e-mail looked familiar and when I checked it out, he was the guy who had added me on facebook a week or two prior and we both hadn't noticed we were talking to each other :lol: But yeah, a conversation about music that lasted a few hours is what got our friendship going in the first place which is good in my book because music is a huge part of my life and I wouldn't be able to be with someone who couldn't understand that or share my passion :)

I'm curious as to why you and your guy butted heads in the beginning :ninja:

I don't have a problem with it, providing both people have actually seen each other (over webcam).

Reason I say about the webcam is because lots of people do lie about who they are online.

When I first started working, my 'mentor' at work was in the process of moving from England to Australia to be with some guy she'd met online. They'd only exchanged pictures and both of them had lied and sent pictures of other people! She told him she was in her 20's, slim and blonde. She was actually in her 40's, on the very large side and had brown hair. He sent a picture of someone who looked remarkably like Leonardo Di Caprio. They were both stupid, but she actually ended up leaving her husband, home and job and moving over to the other side of the world to be with this guy!
Turns out he was short, balding, in his 50's and treated her like dirt once she got there. Stupid really.

But if everyone's seen each other and knows for sure who they're dealing with, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Originally Posted by Vix Viral

We didn't hate each other but we didn't realize who we were talking to at first :ninja: See, he had hopped on my friend's mule and was asking for music suggestions and me being the music junkie that I am, offered to help so we exchanged screen names and started talking on msn. After a bit, I noticed that his e-mail looked familiar and when I checked it out, he was the guy who had added me on facebook a week or two prior and we both hadn't noticed we were talking to each other :lol: But yeah, a conversation about music that lasted a few hours is what got our friendship going in the first place which is good in my book because music is a huge part of my life and I wouldn't be able to be with someone who couldn't understand that or share my passion :)

I'm curious as to why you and your guy butted heads in the beginning :ninja:

Hahaha! Omg that's the best story I have heard of how two people got together that's seriously cute. (x

Haha well, we didn't hate each other, but, he was the type of guy who comes off as cold and kinda stand offish and rude. So, one day my friend stuck me, herself, her bf, and him (now my bf) into a group chat on msn. Him and my friend did NOT get along at all and they kinda teased each other like, jokingly said mean things. Then she introduced him and he had the same name as me x.x haha! Well nickname, since my nickname is a uni-sex kinda name. (: So anyway he started saying stupid things like it was his name cause he had it first and blahblahblah so we kinda told each other off in the beginning and I thought he was just a cold jerk who I would never talk to. Until my friend and her bf left me and him alone in the chat. Then we started talking and we just kinda clicked.. We liked the same music hobbies etc etc. And yeah haha I guess we butted heads cause I thought he was being mean to my friend. XD

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Originally Posted by Ebil

I don't have a problem with it, providing both people have actually seen each other (over webcam).

Reason I say about the webcam is because lots of people do lie about who they are online.

When I first started working, my 'mentor' at work was in the process of moving from England to Australia to be with some guy she'd met online. They'd only exchanged pictures and both of them had lied and sent pictures of other people! She told him she was in her 20's, slim and blonde. She was actually in her 40's, on the very large side and had brown hair. He sent a picture of someone who looked remarkably like Leonardo Di Caprio. They were both stupid, but she actually ended up leaving her husband, home and job and moving over to the other side of the world to be with this guy!
Turns out he was short, balding, in his 50's and treated her like dirt once she got there. Stupid really.

But if everyone's seen each other and knows for sure who they're dealing with, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Oh my dear God that's horrible! Yeah I agree, I wouldn't just leave everything like that though I mean wow. :l And I have known people who lie about how they look they give you some picture of someone that looks a heck of a lot like a model and ONLY one picture and never show you anything else haha! I guess it's pretty easy to know who they are. x.x And I still want to hang out with my boyfriend in person before I decide to stay with him for a very long time because there are so many different factors when you're face to face with a person. You may find out a certain habit of theirs ticks you off or idk it's much different. But yeah (: thanks for your opinion! ^.^ I'll make sure not to move to the other side of the world for a bald guy! :D LOL

Actually, that's just how we became friends. The cuteness doesn't kick in til what lead to us finally getting together :lol:

Hey, I like bald guys! Though my boyfriend has a full head of hair :P

I don't see anything wrong with it. I met my boyfriend online and we've been together for nine years now and he lives with me now. I'm glad I met him, since I never really met anyone close to me who I would consider serious relationship material. I think talking online actually gives you more time to get to know the person as well, without having to worry about other things that you would have to worry about in real life. And I actually think it's safer than how some people go about dating. I'd trust someone from the internet before I'd trust someone from a bar or other random place like that. Talking online helps you get to know the person long before either of you visit each other, meeting someone at some random place and then going to their house or something is really risky in my opinion.

Originally Posted by Vix Viral

Actually, that's just how we became friends. The cuteness doesn't kick in til what lead to us finally getting together :lol:

Hey, I like bald guys! Though my boyfriend has a full head of hair :P

Haha well of course :P

Haha! I meant like creepy 50 year old bald guys. Not just guys with no hair hahaha! XD

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Originally Posted by Vickicat

I don't see anything wrong with it. I met my boyfriend online and we've been together for nine years now and he lives with me now. I'm glad I met him, since I never really met anyone close to me who I would consider serious relationship material. I think talking online actually gives you more time to get to know the person as well, without having to worry about other things that you would have to worry about in real life. And I actually think it's safer than how some people go about dating. I'd trust someone from the internet before I'd trust someone from a bar or other random place like that. Talking online helps you get to know the person long before either of you visit each other, meeting someone at some random place and then going to their house or something is really risky in my opinion.

Yeah I understand your opinion completely. ^o^ Whoa that's so cool that you two have been together for so long. (: I think there is just a lot of pros and cons in dating whether online or not and I think there is risk in anything you do. I don't know, I see nothing wrong with it haha.

But I like older men too! My boy's seven and a half years older than me! :P

Not a fan for two reasons.

1- Distance relationship: Which is probably my biggest beef. I don't really support them. There is almost nothing I can think of to redeem it from being more than distant friends. You can't go do things together, can't physically touch (argue it's not important if you want but that's entirely personal), unless it's over the internet you don't get to see them, their facial expressions. All in all it just doesn't seem like it would be as fulfilling to me. I'm pretty physical though.

2- It's hard to trust someone online. Not impossible, I have several online friends that I've never met face to face but have known for going on 6 years now. Relationships can develop online. Hell, I bet you could even fall in love online if both parties were being genuine. As a long term relationship though? I peg them for temporary. Until you break up, or until you get together for real. xP

I've had one online relationship in the past, I have to admit that I was in 8th grade and didn't know a thing about relationships and I was a tad crazy about the guy. But things happen, and now him and I don't speak at all. [I'm a freshmen in college~] I've had another online relationship, but I knew the guy before hand, I moved, thus most of the relationship from there on was online. Now I'm a real life person, but I'm very picky.

I now found someone else, but I only see him once and awhile due to distance. [Not that much.] So we talk a lot online, but I don't think that counts as an online relationship.

But honestly, if both people are happy, and do what they can to make the relationship last, then the online situation is okay. But if it's just some young person going around asking for a bf/gf irks me because it has no real meaning behind it. I only support it under certain circumstances. I've heard successful stories and unsuccessful as well.

Online relationship is dangerous. Anything can happen to you. Okay, I'm not the best giving out these type of opinion, I never really dated before. I'm wayyy too young for that.
But from everything happening with online dating, that's just stupid. Someone's life got ruined from that, though it is from a game, really. He even got kicked off of his house and got fired from his job. He did everything the girl wanted him to, such as things that can really mix up your mind, such as change of religion, etc.
Okay personally, from those things I know about the happening of people going through online dating, it's been a really enjoyable time at first, but sooner or later they realize being tricked on to something.
If your a female, I 100% do not suggest meeting up with this guy your online dating with yet.
It can be dangerous, even if you think you know that person well enough, he may be hiding all those true fact about him. BAD things can happen to you.
Don't believe so easily on the picture this guy showed you. It could 99.99% chance be another person, this is common in online dating. You may not know you may be dating an alien.
This guy, for whatever he says to you, are always 99.99% true only. There is still a 0.01% he is lying, which the lying part usually happens. Look, if you really want a guy/girl, just find it in RL, love is easier said than done, really.
I may not know anything about this but still, love is essential to someone's life, and I doubt anyone can live without it, but if you gone far too desperate and did online dating that's just stupid. Unless you 100% trust that person, he can make you miserable forever.

@Riri: Okay well I see what you're saying. But I know that I didn't and a lot of people don't do online dating because of being desperate. I honestly didn't want a boyfriend my boyfriend and I happened from meeting through a friend. And yes, I know there is a huge danger factor in there that goes without saying. And I know that he could possibly be lying about every little thing. But, at the same time it's easy to know who those people are, they usually only show you one picture of themselves and never will go on cam add you on any personal websites and facts about them constantly change and never consistent. I'm not validating online dating to you or wanting you to think it's awesome now because of what I said lol I'm just saying my opinion.

But I see where you're coming from, and why you're saying that. But it's not exactly far to anyone to just say that they're desperate for love and so they turn to online dating, because most of the time that isn't the case.

But, thanks for your opinion. (: and I understand where you're coming from.

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Originally Posted by Vix Viral

But I like older men too! My boy's seven and a half years older than me! :P

I don't know then! >< lol

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Originally Posted by Gynne

Not a fan for two reasons.

1- Distance relationship: Which is probably my biggest beef. I don't really support them. There is almost nothing I can think of to redeem it from being more than distant friends. You can't go do things together, can't physically touch (argue it's not important if you want but that's entirely personal), unless it's over the internet you don't get to see them, their facial expressions. All in all it just doesn't seem like it would be as fulfilling to me. I'm pretty physical though.

2- It's hard to trust someone online. Not impossible, I have several online friends that I've never met face to face but have known for going on 6 years now. Relationships can develop online. Hell, I bet you could even fall in love online if both parties were being genuine. As a long term relationship though? I peg them for temporary. Until you break up, or until you get together for real. xP

I understand, distant relationships are usually what keeps a lot of people from it and yeah the trust issue. And yeah trust is hard but I guess it's how you go about it and everything. There is a lot of factors I suppose haha! Just like with anything, there are a lot of pros and cons.

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Originally Posted by Captain Pains

I've had one online relationship in the past, I have to admit that I was in 8th grade and didn't know a thing about relationships and I was a tad crazy about the guy. But things happen, and now him and I don't speak at all. [I'm a freshmen in college~] I've had another online relationship, but I knew the guy before hand, I moved, thus most of the relationship from there on was online. Now I'm a real life person, but I'm very picky.

I now found someone else, but I only see him once and awhile due to distance. [Not that much.] So we talk a lot online, but I don't think that counts as an online relationship.

But honestly, if both people are happy, and do what they can to make the relationship last, then the online situation is okay. But if it's just some young person going around asking for a bf/gf irks me because it has no real meaning behind it. I only support it under certain circumstances. I've heard successful stories and unsuccessful as well.

Ah, yeah I understand what you mean too. And I've heard both good and bad stories lol. And kids just running around trying to find someone to date is rather annoying and stupid. But then again, it's the same irl. :l I've seen a lot of kids my age just run around asking for a bf/gf. But yeah, it guess you gotta like really know the persons situation and every factor in the relationship before knowing what to think about it. Or not just online relationships that really goes for everything in that matter.

But, thanks for your opinion. (:

I don't think desperation differentiates between the online community and the physical one. Everywhere you go, you'll always find people who are lonely and desperate for some kind of affection. However, in my opinion, this stems from an inability find independence and be at peace with the single life. I don't see much of a point in rushing into a relationship with anyone who might take a second look at you just because you're lonely. I don't think that anyone who isn't comfortable with being on their own is in any position to seek out a partner. If you can't take care of yourself, no one else will.

I've had an online relationship, but the reason it went bad was because the guy was a total jerkoff, not because it was an online relationship. I craved the attention, so I dated him against my better judgement. Online attention was enough for me at the time, so I "settled" for an online boyfriend. The worst part was him calling my house when I dumped him, since he had my contact information and I kept the relationship secret from my parents (even though he did visit me... twice).

Now though, I prefer face-to-face contact. Though, for the next year or so, my fiance will be my "online husband" when I move out of the state for a work program. So I guess I'm going to have one anyway! Lol!

I'm currently in a relationship with someone I met online through a forum for bored geeks that are into things like movies and video games.
I met him this past summer and I can honestly say I have never before met someone as sweet, kind, and fun to be around.
We have been together, well, it will be 8 months this month on the 18th and have been planning to move in together when funds allow.

I think online dating is in some ways better, and in some ways more taxing. As was pointed out before, you get to know the person more before you actually meet them. Though it does have its risks when you actually meet them, its the same kind of risks as if you were to meet someone in a bar, or somewhere like that. As for the taxing part of it, it takes more trust in the person to not be with others while you are dating them online. And speaking from experience, it can get hard, especially when your best friend, notices that they are talking about dating other guys when you arent online.

But I think that since the world is evolving to include more and more internet, why not date online? It has the same risk factors as dating anywhere else.