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#501
Old 01-13-2011, 08:47 AM

Hmm.. yeah the only crowns that I know about are the really expensive ones. LIke 60k each. O_O That's a bit extreme for a crown but I guess it is like an expensive piece in real life as well... hmmm....

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So are you sure that there isn't anything you'd like to talk about today? Anything in general as well ^^ I'm here for you :D

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#502
Old 01-13-2011, 08:55 AM

noo im good with my bow

i guess... have problems with people iif i feel like i upset them i will be depressed if they say mean things to me i get depressed i just dont know to be around people

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#503
Old 01-13-2011, 08:58 AM

It is pretty though. Kinda makes me wish that I could wear things like that with my uniform. But I guess it wouldn't be that professional or hmmm.... solid looking. Not like a soldier that's for sure. :(

Do you ever go out with friends in real life? Sometimes that helps. And people can be a bit insensetive at times. :( I'm sure that I've said somethings, jokingly of course, that might have hurt someone's feelings. I felt bad and appologized but I didn't mean it in a bad way. If I tease someone, that just means that I like them. I knwo it's childish but *shrugs* ouch.. that still hurts to do.

No one will be mad with you here Kiara ^^ This is a happy place :D And there's noon here butme right now. ^^

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#504
Old 01-13-2011, 09:07 AM

o have no rl friends thats why i dont know people well...

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#505
Old 01-13-2011, 09:09 AM

You know I hear a lot of people say that but I think that they maybe underestimate the bonds that they already have with people. I'm sure that there are a lot of people out there who consider you a friend. Maybe you just don't see them in the same light for some reason? Hmmm... Well it seems that the first step here would be to meet new people ^^ Are you terribly shy Kiara? :S

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Old 01-13-2011, 09:13 AM

in rl yes very

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#507
Old 01-13-2011, 09:18 AM

I know how you feel then. I used to be really, really shy in real life. I think probably after I had my daughter I stopped beign so shy, because as a mother you have to step up. But even now, I'm sometimes hit with a fit of shyness at meeting new people or going to new places. I actually found the best way to get over this (don't laugh!) is to drink something with a lot of caffeine in it. It makes me VERY outgoing. I can't but help to talk to people and be all over the place. And when I went on leave I tried out a new outlook, kinda like the "Yes, Man" look on life. Anytime someone suggest something, even things that I migt otherwise say no to I just shrugged my shoulders and said "why not?" I ended up having a lot more fun than I had even thought was possible and meeting some really nice people that I might not have otherwise. Any of that sounds like something that you'd be willing to try? :S

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Old 01-13-2011, 09:22 AM

i have a problem with people if i drink that who knows what i will do i just think people will hurt me and everyone hates me lol

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#509
Old 01-13-2011, 09:24 AM

Well you should get that silly idea out of your head first of all :hug: It's definitely not true in the least ^^ Maybe you should start with a small goal. Just saying "hello" to a stranger the next time that you go to a store. Or striking up a conversation with the cashier at the check out isle. Because, the cashiers, have no where to run. Muahahahah... :lol:

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Old 01-13-2011, 09:29 AM

I tryed talking to a casher saying have a nice day came up with uh.... XD

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#511
Old 01-13-2011, 09:32 AM

:lol: yeah. It's a lot harder than it sounds! Takes some practice. I know that something that I hate most of all is public speaking because I don't really like my voice but I just try to think that I'm just talking to an empty room... which kinda makes me feel even more silly :oops: And I tend to blush a lot! So... not so easy to talk to strangers. Especially if they are cute ;)

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#512
Old 01-13-2011, 09:34 AM

yea i can talk to older people a lot but cute boys and kids my age not so well...

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#513
Old 01-13-2011, 09:42 AM

I usually found that people my own age were really immature you know? :stare: But then again al itill like watching catroons and eating my cereal in the mornings, but I know when to be a mature adult. When I have to. You should give yourself a daily task. ^^ Something to work on your confidence talking to strangers maybe. Do you think that you'd want to do that? ^^

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Old 01-13-2011, 09:46 AM

no the stranger may be a rapest! of murderer 0-0!

yea but older people treat younger kids so nice

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#515
Old 01-13-2011, 09:51 AM

Well if you look at it like that anyone on mene could be as well :lol: But I'd tell you that most people are just normal everyday people. They have lives and families and jobs and interests and desires and they all aren't out to get you ^^ And as long as you strike up a conversation with someone in a public area, you are completely safe. I like to use McDonalds as an example a lot. I'll meet up with folks that I've only talked to online at a McDonalds because they are ALWAYS busy and full of people. You can even start conversations with random people there. If someone is sitting alone, you could politely ask to sit with them, or near them. And then tell them that you are a really shy person and you're trying to get over it by talking to new people. They will more than likely be very understanding of your situation. :) This is just one thing that you could try.

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Old 01-13-2011, 09:54 AM

Hello ^_^ It's about time that I show up, though I may be on here only briefly; I slept well the past evening though I could rest a little more before the next morning.

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#517
Old 01-13-2011, 09:57 AM

Hey Cherry! Long time no see ^^ kinda. Hey do you have any advice or tips for Kiara for getting over shyness?

Like:
Good conversationalists are rarely at a loss for words because: 1) they do so many things and go so many places that they have lots to talk about or 2) they prepare. Good conversationalists never leave home without something to say to the people they think they'll be seeing that day. If they're going to a party, they brush up on topics of interest to the people they know will be attending. Before returning to work on a Monday, they think about the activities their colleagues had planned for the weekend. They brush up on current events, the weather and anything else that might be the small-talk they need to get a conversation going or to keep it going. Never leave home without at least a half-dozen things to talk about.

This may seem like a lot of work at first, but you'll be surprised. As you get in the habit of preparing things to say each day, the preparation phase will become so automatic, you won't even notice you're doing it anymore. At least not until you do what most of us do. You get lazy. And you'll know when it happens, too. You'll start running out of things to say and it will be harder to carry on conversations with people---even people you know quite well. But don't despair. Just get back with the program and prepare!

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Old 01-13-2011, 10:01 AM

Zephi ;; Well.. I don't have much else besides what you mentioned in that post; it very much explains almost anything I can think of!
Often when I go into a public area I prefer to make my presence very obvious, and I think of what I did shortly before entry, such as what I saw on my way to the area and perhaps, if I was talking with others on my way, I could carry on the conversation to the area upon entry. ^^

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#519
Old 01-13-2011, 10:02 AM

I will try it!

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#520
Old 01-13-2011, 10:07 AM

Cool! And remember kiara, when you are trying to get over shhyness, it isnt really the outcome that you have to pay attention to, it's more the effort. Some people might not be really talkative, or might be shy themselves, but you reaching out and trying to have a conversation with them is progress! :D

The only thing we can control in our life is our self---and even that can be a stretch sometimes. We can't control other people and we certainly can't control how other people react to us and the things we do. Nevertheless, most of us define our successes and failures by the way other people relate to us. If we smile and they smile back, well good. But if we smile and they don't smile too, we see it as a failure. WRONG!!! You won't get very far that way.

You tried! ^^ You made an effort and that's all you can be responsible for. You can't control how other people respond to you. Sure, you can look back on your effort and speculate about things you can do to improve your performance next time, but at that very moment--at the precise time that you smiled, you made an effort and it's your effort that needs to be rewarded.

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And that's a good point Cherry! Notice things around you that you can talk about with others ^^

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Old 01-13-2011, 10:11 AM

thank you zephi:hug: i almost feel comfortable with talking to you about my deep personal problem

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Old 01-13-2011, 10:12 AM

Zephi ;; Ah, yes, that makes perfect sense. There are good reasons why I ignore direct peer pressure in many cases; if someone or some group attempts to manipulate with me into doing something stupid, then I won't do it; they don't have that control. I can think for myself and avoid falling for scams and delusions and such ;P

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Old 01-13-2011, 10:16 AM

No problem Kiara ^^ Remember, I made this thread to help everyone feel better about themselves and hopefully grow as a person this year. I've been super happy and I want to be able to share it with all of you. Especially since I know how most everyone feels when they are down, depressed or not loving themselves like they should be. I even went through a really bad point in my life where I was being abused. But no reason to get into that right now! Just know that I feel your pain! :hug:

That's the way to be Cherry. Peer pressure is so bad sometimes. I hate when people try to get me to smoke especially. Some people just need to learn to respect other peoples views and we;d all get along better.

Oh, Kiara, if you feel like you want to talk about it, but don't want to share it here in the thread, you can PM me or Easty or evan Pan, and we'd all be willing to listen and offer whatever help that we can ^^

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Old 01-13-2011, 10:21 AM

Alright night zephi :hug: gone for real this time lol

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#525
Old 01-13-2011, 10:22 AM

Ahh, smoking ;x.x I have coughing fits when standing nearby smokers. I would never start smoking for that reason alone, even without knowing all the health problems that result from smoking, including those second-hand smoke! And.. there are plenty of medical quacks who make money from so called 'alternative medicine' that either: has not been thoroughly tested by the scientific method, or has poor results from such tests. Richard Dawkins has an excellent documental about the 'Irrational Health Service' which I recommend that anyone with an open mind should watch!

 



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