-sigh- my bf did it again.. but this time was different. he cheated on me.. but this time it was a peck on roleplay kiss... on to my friend.. he did it once before but it was in real life.. he swore he would never cheat ever.. but he got horny and she was talking to her and he kissed horo, last time he had sex with a girl from his school and it broke him. (for real) he got put in the hospital cuz he was so scared and upset on cheating on me he tryed to kill himself... after he got out and he told me the trust on what really happened I got mad but I forgave him in about 3 months time... now its been 6 months since then and he kissed a girl on roleplaying. idk if I should count it as big time cheating or what? last time he cheated I said I would dump him if he ever cheated on me like that again, so is rp kissing (not like detailed kiss just a peck) is that big enough to dump him over or do I give him another chance? I really love him.. I dont really want to lose him over this but I dont know what to do, help?!


do I hold it aginst him and dump him?
do I take a brake from him?
do we stay together to try again?
other options?!

With role playing it is VERY hard to tell. If the characters are actually representations of the people in real life, it could mean something... On the other hand, it is role playing and completely fictional.
Just talk to him about it, tell him it made you uncomfortable and go from there.
The best way to solve a problem with a guy is to talk about it!

I have talked about it sadly.. I know where he stands on it I just dont know what to do about the trust thing. I dont want it to happen for a 3ed time you know? thats what im worried about.

IMO, it's just a roleplay. It's not a big deal. But if it upsets and makes you uncomfortable, then you should talk to him about it and make sure clear boundaries are set. If even then he breaks your trust and violates these boundaries...My advice is to forget him, he sounds like a player.

well we are roleplay dating and real life dating.. so yeah we have boundaries of thoughs kinds.
but we have been dating for 9months now and its happened 1 once in rl and 1 once in rp now..
so idk @_@
I see what your saying though. hm,, idk.. but thanks

How much time has passed between the irl kiss and the rp kiss?

EDIT: no sorry 5 months it was!

angelbabe1 dont know your are your bf age... but from my 25 years of living having heart ach and my heart broken and finding someone i want to be with forever.. roleplay or real life he should never any way be with other person.. for the simple reason that he knows how it makes you feel.. and its very disrespectful to you, anyone who trurtly care and loves you will never under any reason hurt you and if they did for some reason it would only happen that one time.. i at one time letted a guy treat me like this and i didnt break it off with him, he ended it with me, mostly because of the behavior that he said he would and waht he tried to do when i told him i would dump him, when it was all said and done i was the one hurt and alone and he found someone he would rather been with..

I'd say just talk to him about it. If the incidents were closer together, I'd be more concerned, but this sounds more like genuine rp'ing, and he might have even deliberately avoided doing an rp kiss because he thought it'd upset you, and perhaps now he feels like enough time has passed that it wouldn't bother you as much. Or maybe, by acting it out through rp, it gets rid of his real-life urges to cheat, so by doing that he's avoiding hurting you more.

Don't let other people dictate what you should value in your relationship though. Talk it through with him. Maybe he genuinely didn't think it would be considered cheating, since it is, after all, fiction.

Keyori I see what your saying.. I asked him and he said he knew it was cheating with that kiss to horo and he said he was sorry he said he stoped himself from doing anything else with her and deleted her..

well he knows what he did was wrong.. so I think I should give him another chance.. our stuation is very different from most peoples and I dont mean just the long distence thing. (yes we have met in rl before.) well I think given this info he has given me I can going to give him another chance. but just ONE! since this is the 2ed form of cheating he does done. and what strawberry said I agree with as well since it was so long apart from the last time. I feel this was a bad thought on his part and he is sinserly sorry for it. but I still have a few things to sort out but this is my desintion.

thank you everyone for the help and ideas!