I'm starting to wonder if this is just me, but I feel like my friends aren't actually my friends. I know that sounds strange but it all started when I moved. I made some really great friends, and we would hang out all the time. Then College came, and I took a year off to work, and they went on to college.

We didn't see each other for like a year, well, we saw each other at birthday's so like a couple times a year. Still they would throw Halloween, New year's parties all of those, and I never got invited. Only birthdays, and even then sometimes they didn't call.

Now I'm in college with them and we see each other more, and we talk about hanging out, but its the same thing. The have random parties, and never call. Then I applied for an Art modeling job at my college.

My friend asked if I got it, and I told her it hasn't been okayed through the school yet. Then she went on to rip into me about how I shouldn't do it because her boyfriend is in the class, and she doesn't want me naked in front of him.

(BTW her boyfriend told me to apply because he knows I need a job, and no one else has applied. He's a good art friend of mine, but he's always with her or working so I like never see him.)

I explained to her that all my poses will be implied so students have line& shadows and form to work off of. I'm completely professorial about my work. Anyway I went on to tell say that it would be better to do it with a friend than some stranger who might not care that he has a girlfriend.

I finally had it when she was like "I thought you were my best friend, and I trust him. It is YOU I don't trust."

That hurt the most, I love my boyfriend and I love them as a couple. (And her boyfriend is not my type, and I don't believe in taking taken people!)

So My last reply to her was "Well you're boyfriend lied to you because he's the one who told me go for the job. So now who do you trust?! I'm you're friend and I love you, but you have lost it. Yell at your boyfriend before yelling at me because of my job."



So now everyone is gone. I hardly see them, and she's yet to call me back or say anything. I love my friend, but a job is a job and I love art. I'm not going to not do something just because others don't agree with it. If i did that I would never leave my house. I'm really upset that she would ever think I would take her boyfriend, or do something "trashy". I just don't know what to do...i feel like I'm alone in my little world besides some acquaintances, and my boyfriend.

am I wrong for sticking up for myself, and going against my friends request? (well in the end she Demanded it of me, but still...)

Honestly, I don't think you were wrong in any way. She has no control over what you do. So what if her boyfriend is in the class? If it really bothers her that much, it's a discussion she should take up with him. Or she could join the class or sit in and watch.

She sounds like a jealous cunt.
You needed a job, so what if it's nude modeling for an ART CLASS? It's not her business. Its if you were being unprofessional about it that I would have the problem... :/
But from the sound of it, you know what you have to do, and you're gonna do it.

I know it sounds cold, but you should probably just let her go, she doesn't sound like she's worth your time at all. I understand wanting to hold onto friends, but if they're assholes why bother?

Yeah that is what I think, but I really don't have girlfriends, I have a hard time clicking for some reason. With her we actually clicked great in high school, and she's an amazing artist and so is her boyfriend. I just thought of all the people in the world she was understand where I'm coming from and what I'm doing.

I would never hurt my friends, but at the same time me doing this job is hurting her. I think I'm just so stuck with remembering how she was, and how close we were. I rarely ever end up being close with girls, and her friendship meant the world to me. It hurts when a friend doesn't trust you.


The worst part is her boyfriend is a great guy, I think sometimes he understands more than she does, and he doesn't do anything wrong, but she sees stuff as wrong. I feel bad for him some days, but other times she's so amazingly great I feel they belong together.

I can understand that she wouldn't be too comfortable with it, but it's also very immature not to be. If she was secure about herself then she wouldn't give a care if you were in that cljass. The problem isn't your action; it's how confident she is. If she is worried about her boyfriend seseing her best friend nake then she really needs a self help class.

Beside,s a true friend will suport you in your dreams and aspirations. You need a job, and the one you landed happens to be in a field you love. That is a win win situation for you. if she can't accept that she needs to support you as well then she might not be worth it. It seems she is only thinking about herself.

Now, I know you cant ignore your best friend and 'break up' with your best friend because you love her, but sometimes it is more important to look out for you. You need to keep your dreams and aspirations first. If she really cares about you she will get over it. If she doesn't, then she never had much put into the relationship in the first place.

Overall, you've done your part already, and the rest is up to her. You are not at fault.

It is good to know people think I haven't done anything wrong, because I have been so conflicted with everything lately. I felt like I was contradicting myself by saying I wouldn't hurt her, but then going through with the job as well.

The worst part is she's freaking out over me doing this, and I would never go after her boyfriend, and he's hasn't been honest with her. I have! I told her the truth about everything, and he's only kept it from her because she freaks out all the time.

The art school he's transferring to is really big into traditional art, and he hasn't even told her about how that school is run. The main art department has nude models all over the place, at times they will simply walk through the halls in a bathrobe because they are going from one job to another. HE HASN'T TOLD HER! He doesn't tell her much of anything because she freaks out!

I think you are right, she needs to help herself get over this. I would try, but she doesn't want to talk to me. I guess I just have to start looking for new friends....but it's so hard starting over ~_~

Well, that's their problem, not yours.
If he can't be honest with her, it's not your fault and you shouldn't feel like it is.
You didn't do anything wrong.

This isn't your problem.
Your friend acting vindictive because her boyfriend might possibly see you naked on an educational basis is not your fault nor your problem.
She can't expect you to change your lifestyle just because she isn't comfortable with it. She's being irrational, and obviously doesn't trust her boyfriend.
She's taking much of her shit and insecurities out on you.

Don't feel bad.
I'm sure with the way she's acting her boyfriend will probably wind up dumping her for acting like a manipulative psycho. Maybe she'll learn a lesson.

And don't think losing "friends" like this isn't okay. Sometimes you're better off. I myself have had troubles finding girlfriends that I can actually click with. But it's better to find a few close friends that you actually like than being swamped by a bunch of people who would stab you in the back over a crumb.

uh ya

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how do i get gold?

yeah thinking on it that way does make everything so much easier. I really need like one solid chick friend so when the guys have guy night, they don't feel bad for excluding me lol. Or maybe I should just stick to hanging out with the guys and taking guy night as my night to actually get ot bed at a decent hour lol.

Yeah, they might break up, but they might not. They have been together for 4 years and no matter the fights they never leave each other, or even go on break. Maybe they will just fight themselves to death....Idk.

You are right I am completely better off. I'm so glad to know it wasn't me crossing a line in this situation.

All of you are great, and I really appreciate it.

I have/had a lot of those. Not really friends, still close enough to be more than acquaintances, and at times so annoying they are almost frenemies.... I stopped hanging out with most of them, actually. I'd rather be alone than among contentious people.

I don't think you did anything wrong at all. ^^ If your friend is an artist as well, I would have thought she'd understand that nude modelling/figure drawing isn't meant to be sexual in nature. The fact that you know her boyfriend doesn't make any difference, and as you're both comfortable with it, well, there we go!

And yes, "friends who arent friends" are basically a fact of life... I personally like making friends, but I only have a handful of real friends, if you know what I mean. Only about four or five.

And I agree with Explodey, it's better to be alone than to have crappy friends who let you down. =D If you cut yourself off from people who aren't good for you, things can only improve, right?

Originally Posted by Explodey

I have/had a lot of those. Not really friends, still close enough to be more than acquaintances, and at times so annoying they are almost frenemies.... I stopped hanging out with most of them, actually. I'd rather be alone than among contentious people.

Frenemies is a word that needs to be taken out back and shot.
They're not frenemies, they're assholes. >:C

yeah, I actually saw her boyfriend today and he looked so down so I asked if he got ripped a new one like I did. and he was just like
"I think you got it worse..."

Then I asked him where the hell she got the idea that I was flirting with him and he laughed only to tell me.
"I told her that was the imagination of her crazy-ass female mind. I settled that one real quick"

I love him he's so funny lol. At least he can tell her like it is.

And thanks everyone.