In the gay world its almost expected...lol but not always-- sometimes I've been able to restrain myself-- others not so much.

I haven't really dated so i obviously haven't. Too shy to date right now

In my very honest opinion, I think sleeping with someone on a first date makes one seem a little... 'loose', for the lack of a better word. However, I can see myself doing it if I was looking for a one night stand. But actually wanting a relationship and then giving it away on the first date... I wouldn't do that. Sleeping with someone before you know them can lead to bad consequences; one night stand or not.

I've only had sex on the first date once, and he ended up being the love of my life. I think it's hit or miss. Often times, people lose respect for each other when they sleep together so early.

I try not to go that far on a first date, I mean nowadays, we have to have a real connection for me to even kiss you on a first date.

I guess it depends on the other person. How long I've known them, how attractive they are, if they make a move, etc. But overall, I usually do ^^;

I have done it and don't mind it, as long as both/all are up for it, I see no reason why not. It all kinda depends on what you're looking for and feeling like at the time.

Haha, no way could Clair handle having sex, or kissing, or anything really intimate on a first date. :lol: But most people who know Clair well enough would understand why. :P

Sex on the first date? I had sex with someone and we didn't even get to go out on a date! It was a big mistake and I would never do it again... Sex with someone you love and care about is on a whole other level then when you have sex with someone that you think you might like, at least in my opinion.

I think sex on the first date is a no no, frankly I think sex before marriage is a no no. That's why I am remaining a virgin until I am married. If you have sex with someone on the first date then they have already gotten what they wanted. The only time they will ever call you after is for a "booty call." They won't want to actually be with you for you, they will be with you because they know they can get some from you at any time. Personally I see people who do such a thing as a loose individual with possibly low self-esteem or issues that have gone unresolved in their lives regarding love and matters of the heart.

I think sex on the first date is a horrible idea. Have people nothing better to do than have sex with each other? ಠ_ಠ

In my opinion, i would never do that.
but, really it depends on circumstances.

I mean, if you knew the guy/girl 3+ years, prior, are best friends, know each other really well, you'd probably be more comfortable with sex with that person more then someone you just met, and probably need to get to know more.

Only once, but it was with a friend that had started dating me...so I don't know if it counts.

I don't feel that sex on the fist date would be a particularly good idea...I've always been the sort that would rather get to know the woman in question first. I've never been one to consider the "hit-it-and-quit-it" as a viable option. Some might say I don't see this sort of thing in the same light as your average male...I'm not the sort just looking for a "piece of ass", I want a "real" relationship, not one based solely on sexual exchange, but rather on a deeper connection. One (in my opinion) can only learn so much about the person they sleep with if that's all they do...you can learn volumes more by spending time with them, getting to really understand the kind of person they are...

If you (the person reading this post at the moment) happen to be the sort that would rather "tap that" then get to know him/her, by all means...have at it. I however would prefer to engage in a sexual relationship after I learn the sort of person she is...I happen to be in a wonderful relationship with a spectacular woman, and I didn't get there by going straight to bed with her either.

If you ask me...there are certain things you should know about a person before you make the decision to sleep with him/her, for example...their sexual history, STDs and such...which isn't something you can neccessarily ask a random partner, if you know the person decently beforehand, you can work your way into such a conversation...

All in all, I'd have to say...Sex on the first date is a bad idea.