So today one of my friends, who had no bloody right in the world, or any reason whatsoever to do so, asked me if I was a virgin. I was like, excuse me? You are not my boyfriend, you don't even know me that well, what gives you the right? So that you can have the secret perverted pleasure of knowing either way???

That just grinds my gears. I'm still kinda PO'd over it.

So, with that vented, what's a question you hate for people to ask you? And what's some general stuff that tweaks you off?

At the zoo where i work i'm based in the education department. Outside the building is a massive long enclosure with waterfowl at one end and penguins at the other. You can't really find the door to our building without seeing them.
Yet people are frequently ask 'Where are the penguins?'. Really?

I also don't like people asking if i have a boyfriend. It just really annoys me for some reason. If i talk about him then yes, ask about him then if you really must and i'll gladly divulge, but why do people feel the pressing need to know sometimes?

@Elysium: I'm guessing this wasn't a very good friend! While I would never tell a casual acquaintance, Misao262 (my bestie) knows pretty much everything intimate about me :D. To me, that's... comforting, having someone I can talk to about all of it without judgment. But I can see how it could totally grind someone elses' gears!

People calling me sweetie, sweetheart, honey, or darling. Best way to IMMEDIATELY get on my bad side, and actually there was a certain deal of drama involved in losing someone who had (up until that point) been a very close friend of mine on Gaia. The first time, you'll get a polite but firm warning. After that, all hell breaks loose: particularly if you're younger than me or my peer. Those words are condescending. The only people who could ever call me that and get away with that are a.) my boyfriend, and he better be a good, LONG-TERM boyfriend, or b.) an elder whom I know very, very well, like my grandmother.

Originally Posted by anaxilea

@Elysium: I'm guessing this wasn't a very good friend! While I would never tell a casual acquaintance, Misao262 (my bestie) knows pretty much everything intimate about me :D. To me, that's... comforting, having someone I can talk to about all of it without judgment. But I can see how it could totally grind someone elses' gears!

People calling me sweetie, sweetheart, honey, or darling. Best way to IMMEDIATELY get on my bad side, and actually there was a certain deal of drama involved in losing someone who had (up until that point) been a very close friend of mine on Gaia. The first time, you'll get a polite but firm warning. After that, all hell breaks loose: particularly if you're younger than me or my peer. Those words are condescending. The only people who could ever call me that and get away with that are a.) my boyfriend, and he better be a good, LONG-TERM boyfriend, or b.) an elder whom I know very, very well, like my grandmother.

Well, yeah, no. HE isn't. He doesn't know anything about me besides the fantasies he makes up about my personality and life in his head. And he's been claiming that he's been in love with me for the last three years despite knowing nothing about me and my never doing anything to deserve it.

My best friend knows the answer to that question, lol. And I wouldn't think twice about telling her just about anything...but him...he was way out of place.

I also agree with every word of your second paragraph, lol.

YEEEEEOUCH! He, say no more! What an ass.

Ugh, I know, it drives me crazy.

Lol. Yupppp. Told him straight up (the second after my mind stopped screaming, "gawd what is wrong with you???"), "I refuse to answer that question." It was like he was gathering information in his mind for whether or not I was worth continuing to annoy the hell out of and asking out. >.>

My best friend calls me "hun" and "sweetie" when I tell her things, or she thinks she knows something better than I do, or I go to her for advice...it's a great deal of the reason I don't ask her for advice very often.

I usually use those terms while mocking guys over XBox Live. Usually the ones that complain because they cant seem to spawn without me running into them a few seconds later.

And, seriously, he asked you that? Even the dimwits that I used to hang out with had better sense than to ask a girl that. Hell, Im an idiot through and through(if you want clarification on this, check under Life Issues -> Things You Wish You Said... , which will have clarifications tomorrow night sometime) and I know better than to ask someone that unless Ive been dating them a long time.

As for something that grinds my gears, is people asking ME if Im a virgin. Last person who asked me that, I just turned around and told them "You should know the answer to that.", even though we never slept together, and I never told her. She was confused for about a week, then dropped the subject all together.

Another thing that makes me want to strangle people, is when people can see that I dont have a handle on the orders coming from my station, and end up asking if I need help. I always want to just turn to them, and in the most sarcastic tone possible, say "Oh, no, Im just running my ass off, burning my fingers because I cant find a cloth that someone took from me, and waiting for all these 20 or so items to magically make themselves." REALLY pisses me off, since people dont even THINK about asking if they can help me in the morning with any prep, when every morning where I can, I ask them if they need help with anything. Like, seriously guys, I might be working on my own station, but Im also running around, doing some prep for each of you, and setting up my line. Hell, I even have to switch it over so that all the food on the line is ready for lunch, since noone does it at night. Yet, I switch it over for you guys before I even start doing prep after lunch service. Well, thats ANOTHER thing that pisses me off alot.



Now, before I keep ranting(which I notice I have done a little), Im going to get some sleep.

@Drac: I know, right? It pissed me off mostly because I was thinking: Why does it even matter? I've been asked that by more than one guy now (only one of which was a boyfriend, and I think even he asked too soon), mostly out of the blue, and I can't help wondering why the hell it should be a big deal anyway no matter what I am.

The curses of being a leader, right? Look responsible and nobody thinks you need a helping hand every once in awhile, too.

Also, your rants are entertaining, feel free to rant as much as you want. :lol:

I hate when people ask me if I have kids. I don't look like I've ever had kids in any way. I also can't have kids which is why it annoys me even more.

I got into a HUGE argument a few years ago with someone over the phrase "Oh My God". >__> It got really out of hand, and went too far, but at the very end this one guy said to me "I bet you're a JEW, aren't you!?". O__o Jeez, that was extreme, and quite stupid as the argument/debate had nothing to do with the Jewish Religion. That annoyed the hell out of me.

And not too long after this, I walked into my history class to see/hear a bunch of the other kids in my class (who were those stereotypical bratty "popular" kids) laughing about something a boy (who they CONSTANTLY were making fun of because he has a mental handicap) said earlier that day. When they saw me walk in, they started laughing harder and they called me over to talk to them. They then tried to get me to talk about what more I knew (about what the student had said) at which I asked: "Why would I know?" and they asked "Well, you're his friend aren't you?!". I told them I wasn't (which was true). I know I sounds awful, but I knew they wanted to make fun of me, too, so I got really angry. :(

yeah, I think that's nobodys business unless they are with you...

I can't stand stupid, obvious questions.

"what's that?" "It's an abstract drawing." "..Why is it all weird? and not realistic?" "Because it's ABSTRACT."
I get asked that daily...it just ticks me off.

Or when I'm eating something and it clearly says "food lable of said place." and they're like "where'd you get that?"
But that one doesn't really tick me off, just a bit annoying. xD

People should just really stop and think instead of just babbling on.

I don't like the "guess what's in the professor's head" types of games. Where you waste an entire class period guess what the professor is 'trying' to get you to say.

And, I don't like comments towards my appearance.

I'm "endowed," so the most popular question I get that I absolutely can't stand is how big my breasts are. It's just like... Really? Is it really any of your damn business?
It's irritating as hell.
And another thing that I hate is when I'm chatting online with a guy and I tell him I have a boyfriend (so he won't flirt) and he says, "Well... What would you think if I said "what he doesn't know, won't hurt him"? ;)"
Obviously, I'll think that block button looks beautiful and awfully tempting to press.
Seriously, if I wanted other men, I wouldn't be in a relationship with this one.

I once overheard a lady that said something like "At least I'm not a slut like my mom - she had me when she was 17!" It pisses me off because I'm far, far from slutty and was pregnant at 17. The father was the first person I'd even slept with. Word vomit is just irritating! Think before you speak, damnit!

I also hate when people say "like" a lot when they talk. I'm guilty of it occasionally but some people can't say three words without a "like" shoved between it. Ugh.

@Elysium - That's so inappropriate. My ex-husband, while we were in the middle of the divorce, asked me "what do you do when you get turned on now?" [I rephrased it a bit to be more polite.] If it hadn't been over the phone, I would have slapped him. I flat out told him it was none of his business. But that started a bunch of other drama. xD [It was an awful divorce.]

Originally Posted by Missus Catastrophe

I'm "endowed," so the most popular question I get that I absolutely can't stand is how big my breasts are. It's just like... Really? Is it really any of your damn business?

Wow, seriously? I'm well-endowed as well. I must have my guyfriends so whipped they don't ask! They'll comment, mind you, just not ask. D:

Homg, I was asked the same thing by a stranger on this university chat site! I was POed too because he did not know who I was so that was so effing rude.

I'm not that tall, so I get wise-cracks about my hieght all the time. I'm finally to the point where I look at people and tell them to piss off about it.

Another one that's been getting on my nerves as of late is when people think I am not legal to drink. I am 27 years old and I've been escorted out of clubs for "underage" drinking until I tell them that it's perfectly legal for a person who is nearly 30 to drink if she wants. That's happened to me three times this month and it gets old when I am trying to just relax and a staff member comes to me telling me I have to leave.

I'm the opposite, Mystic, I'm 22 and only get carded like 50% of the time that I buy alcohol.
It ticks me off that their little sign says they "card anyone who looks under 35."
I know I don't look that old, dangit.

Most often, though, it's when I'm with my daughter (who is 3) that they don't card me.

I hate it when you are, for example, bleeding because of some accident, and the first question you get from some people are: "are you okay?" NO I'M BLOODY NOT OKAY! I'm bleeding all over the place, do I look all fine and dandy to you?

So yeah, stupid questions in general piss me off. If you can't ask or say something intellectual, don't open your mouth. (sorry if I'm sounding harsh, but I'm having a really bad day.. )

In my case it has to do with people who find out I'm Christian asking why I hate X group of people. I don't freaking hate anyone.

as for the earlier conversation about being called hon, or sweetie or whatever. It's a cultural thing. My family is mostly from the south, and we just call people that off hand. It's not condescending. It's idiomatic.

Originally Posted by Estrella

I'm the opposite, Mystic, I'm 22 and only get carded like 50% of the time that I buy alcohol.
It ticks me off that their little sign says they "card anyone who looks under 35."
I know I don't look that old, dangit.

Most often, though, it's when I'm with my daughter (who is 3) that they don't card me.

This! I'm 19, but because I choose not to wear make-up and try to act more mature than your average teen, I'm constantly offered wine. Of course, I don't get excited about it and give it away, either; I grew up in a European family where drinking a pint during dinner was perfectly okay, and I was always allowed to taste my mother's wine. c:

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Originally Posted by sarofset

In my case it has to do with people who find out I'm Christian asking why I hate X group of people. I don't freaking hate anyone.

as for the earlier conversation about being called hon, or sweetie or whatever. It's a cultural thing. My family is mostly from the south, and we just call people that off hand. It's not condescending. It's idiomatic.

You can tell, though. I don't mind if a waitress - who is older than me - calls me sweetie. But I'm 19 - I'm young, if you're younger than me, you have no right calling me anything "endearing," particularly since you don't know me! :)

I lived in the south for six years, so I can always tell. If it's a constant thing, and they say it to everyone, you'll see that. If they suddenly START calling you hon when you're in a heated conversation, it's condescending.

See if I'm being condescending the tone is completely different, and I have a certain stance about me. I believe anthropologists an psychologists refer to it as posturing. lol. The whole hands on your hips deal, and what not.

On a tangentially-related topic, I love that the tags for this whole thread are "not cool" 8D!