My current bf broke my heart once before and later, we got back together.Of course all my friends (and maybe some of you too) think I'm nuts, but I'm not particularly sorry I did. You see. aside from being a hopeless romantic, I do kinda have this thing about giving people second chances.
So, here's the question, would you give your ex a second chance?

I'm not very good at giving second chances.
I have to know someone a very very long time before I'll consider them 'family'. I'm talking knowing them for 10 years plus. For me, the only ones who get second chances (and thirds, fourths and fifths...) are family.
I have a bit of a terrible attitude in that I figure everyone else in life is replaceable. I've never let a partner get close enough for me to consider them family. So I've never really hesitated in walking away from them and not looking back when something goes wrong.
I am incredibly choosy when it comes to people I'll share my life with.
It's not that I think I'm particularly deserving of a Mr. Wonderful, no more so than anyone else I guess, but it's more that I'm perfectly content on my own. I'd rather be single than put up with anything less than exactly what I want.

I'm also not really romantic at all. I tend to find romantic gestures cringeworthy. A few years back, I was dating this guy and we arranged to meet in a restaurant in town. I got there first and was sitting at the back. He walked in with this massive bunch of flowers in his hands. I took one look at them, and everyone staring at him carrying the flowers and starting to look around and see who the 'lucky' person was, and I just wanted the ground to open up and swallow me.
Then after a few seconds, I got some perspective and then wanted the ground to open up and swallow him ...and his stupid flowers.
I mean they were white lillies. Things you take to funerals! Plus they were way over the top huge. More a "Look at me! Look at me and my stupidly large bunch of flowers! I'm carrying them so that everyone can see! Yay! LOOK AT MEEEEEE!" >.<
I just found the whole thing uncomfortable, awkward and attention seeking.
I'm assuming most romantic people would have taken one look at that and swooned. For me, I just thought "It's definitely time we split up".

Honestly, it depends on the reason we broke up. If we broke up because he cheated on me and went to another girl...then no. I would never go back to him even if he begged me. I don't tolerate things like cheating. But if we broke up because of a petty argument or we just needed a break or something, then I would consider it depending on how I felt for him at the time.

I agree with Maria, it really depends on why we broke up.
I CAN actually forgive cheating, to some degree. If its a first time offense and my significant other tells me they made a mistake, well talk about it and Ill hopefully be able to let it slide. I understand that we all have urges, and make mistakes. I can forgive human mistakes like that, but I cant stand dishonesty. Lie to me, and you get the boot!
My girlfriend and I, on the other hand, broke up mostly because we found out that we just weren't compatible as a couple after the initial burst of hormones. When I was with her she was very dishonest to me as far as how she was acting, she would create a sort of false persona around me because she thought that that was the person that I wanted. I hated that, I was dating her not some...weird over the top girly girl. She was also a genuine fan of all that mushy stuff, which my cold and prickly heart CANNOT STAND! XD
So, would i give her a second chance? Uh, no. Not because she did something unforgivable or anything, because i have forgiven her and shes hopefully forgiven me for all my stupid mistakes, its just that we are still very good friends and we know very, very well that we are not romantically compatible. If we were, i would be open to it, but were just friends now and wed both prefer it to stay that way.

No. They are exes for a reason. If I'm going to break up with someone then it means we are not compatible so why would I give them a second chance? There are other people in the world and I don't need to waste my time on someone who leaves me or who I left. Plus the fact that I do not fall in love with people easily so I don't really care most the time with break ups since I know it's not going to last. I'm friends with a lot of my exes but it does not go beyond that.

It all depends on the reason you broke up in the first place.

I personally would not give a second chance to a cheater or an abusive person.

But if the relationship ended for a certain reason other than that, then I think that there's always room to work things out.

I did. Now he's changes and we are engaged.

As Kya Katsumi: said in another thread, there's a reason it's called a breakup. It's a breakup because it's broken.

I don't believe in second chances in romantic relationships anymore. I don't even believe in friendships after breakups. To each their own, but I can not do it, and I have been SEVERELY taken advantage of by an ex in my lifetime. It's not worth me to keep them in my life after a breakup. Just isn't. They always end up using me as somebody to fall back on or emotional support for the shit girlfriends they replaced me with. OR they just lead me on in hopes that I'll come back to them after they're done with playing around.

I say go screw yourself if you break up with me. Always will, now.

However, if you just had a once in a lifetime squabble and like "sort of" broke up, then you get back together, that's okay. But after a serious breakup? Hell no.

Also, I don't believe in that "taking breaks" shit. There is no such thing as a break from life, nor should there be a break from the person you say you love as much as life.

In all honesty it depends on the situation. If you dated in middle school and are now in your twenties, that's a means for trying it again haha But if this guy broke your heart within the last year, or even the last couple of years, I don't think it's worth it. I do believe people can honestly be sorry for a mistake they have made, and learn from it, and grow and change. Unfortunately though, not many people do, and those who do, don't do it over night. I hope you don't end up hurt again, boys can be cruel.

I have never, and never will, date the same girl twice. Either I broke up with them for a good reason, or they broke up with me, and havent spoken since. So, there is never going to be a second chance. Even the last girl I dated in high school, we are still friends(both realised we werent right for each other) so we wont ever date again.

I don't feel like I have enough authority to speak on it, but I personally believe that there should be some sort of convincing change in either or both sides of the relationship before considering a second chance. Unless the two are willing to overlook their differences, make amends, and try their best to make the relationship that had not worked become successful, it's not worth the heartache. And after separating, neither side should assume that the other wants him or her back, and put effort into proving that the relationship was worth a second chance.

I hope that made a shred of sense, because it sounded better in my head. :gonk:

it depends how old you are too. if youre young then yes. but if your older than no

Coming from a bad situation where I gave someone WAY too many chances I would say No in that situation. I grew up being told when you find the one you do whatever you can to make it work well bad idea. I have been with the same guy for almost 4 years off and on and we always come back to each other even though he has cheated numerous times and left more times than I can count. I think in the end the things I was taught have been biting me in the butt because me trying to work this relationship is like running in circles going no where. There are some reasons to give someone another chance but I would say in all reality you need to sit and think about what happened with that relationship and is it worth it to try once again and worth being hurt again.

Honestly, I think it's the opposite with age, Angel. When you're young and stupid is when you should give the least amount of chances. Those are the relationships that don't last and won't matter to you worth anything in the long run anyway.

Wouldn't it all be so much easier if we were born knowing who we were meant to love for the rest of our lives? :lol:

Both of my exes I would not give a second chance to be with me.
The first one I would probably give a chance for being friends again, we broke up because communication broke down and he was gay anyways... so not all that into me. :P
Number two tried to rape me. So if I see him again (and I recognize him) I think I might try to beat his face in.
Besides I am happily engaged to the man who is best for me. :3

Depends on the ex.

I did it once. I took back an ex that broke up with me, and that was the worst thing I could do, when 2 months into dating he tries to get down my pants, and then breaks up with me because I said no. I found out a year later (he was drunk and spilling his soul to me) that I was just a rebound after his ex dumped him.

I was devastated after her told me this, I thought we were at least friends. I was so thankful that my current boyfriend was there to support me. My ex and me have had a strained relationship since, not that he remembers that night.

Originally Posted by Kya Katsumi

In all honesty it depends on the situation. If you dated in middle school and are now in your twenties, that's a means for trying it again haha

That's the story of my boyfriend and me.

We went out on a few dates when I was in 10th grade and stopped seeing each-other because of a stupid misunderstanding after a high school party where I got too drunk and he was too shy to say anything to change the situation.

After a couple of years of non-communication, I hit him up on facebook and we got together. We're both twenty now, have been together for over eight months, are getting along really well and he's even moving in with me in September.

So, in our situation, giving 'us' a second chance worked out really well :)