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Old 08-21-2011, 03:46 AM

I had a family reunion today that I really didn't want to go to, I didn't have to go to, but I went because my mom wanted me to. It ended up being worth going to, but on the way back I asked my mom if she'd take me home. She instead drove me to her house. She told me that she'd take me home. I was there for over an hour and it was getting late. I was tired, getting a major headache, and I only wanted to go home. When I asked her to take me home she refused. My only other option was my sister but she is on her way home from vacation and it would have been at least another two hours and at that point it would be well past midnight(and I have to get up early tomorrow to run some errands). My mom got nasty first and it spiralled downhill from there. I was fairly calm at first but I eventually snapped that I'd just walk. It isn't a short walk, but I'd rather just do that than put up with her. I got a decent amount away before she sped up beside me and I stupidly got in. She took me home, but she preceeded to tell me how selfish I was and how she was afraid that I'd get raped to make me feel like shit. Fine. I was being selfish. She didn't have a right to then tell me how she was raped (which I do not believe, since she is a known liar about those kinds of things.) and how I would like to watch my mother being raped. I don't even know what to say there. Before she said that to me I gave her twenty dollars for the gas she just wasted on me. When she got to my house she threw it out the window and hit the gas when I tried to get out the first time. Then she sped off. I do not even know what to do about this. I already know that I was wrong for asking her to drive me home in the first place, my head hurt enough that I wasn't thinking clearly. What do I do about her?

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Old 08-21-2011, 05:24 AM

Your mom knew what she was doing when she asked you to join her. Knowing such things she should have not acted in such a way, but I'm glad you admitted that you knew what you were getting into once you got into that car. If she knew you had no other way home, she should have been responsible enough and took you home without acting in such a manner. Plus her lying about being rape is a bad thing. Considering there are a lot of rape victims out there not satisfy that they are living and are trying to get over the traumatizing event. About your mother, I'm pretty sure you should just leave her alone. If she's going to act the way she is acting, I would just leave her to think it over. If she approach you of wanting to talk, then I suggest talking.

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Old 08-21-2011, 10:23 PM

Lying about being raped and things like that just sounds like an attention or an attempt at control. the thing about not taking you home also sounds like a control thing. I don't know the whole situation so I can't really judge though.

I would try to avoid her for a while to let things cool down. I had a bad falling out with my mom and only talk to her when I need to. Even if they're family, there's a point where I won't tolerate being around someone if they're disrespectful towards me. If she knew you did not feel well then it was selfish of her to not take you home to begin with.

If she does have mental illness issues that might be something to be looked into as well. I don't mean to sound rude with that comment. Please don't take it offensively.

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Old 08-23-2011, 09:19 PM

@Mystic: I heard from her the next day and she acted like nothing happened. She is really controlling a lot of the time and she used to target my dad all the time. When he finally stood his ground she completely flipped because she wasn't in control, and they have stayed away from each other since then. I talked with my sister about what happened when she got home. She said mom's plan was probably to get me to sleep over, and when my sister came over the next day she'd find a way to keep her there all day when she came to get me.

I didn't take that offensively, I have sometimes wondered that myself but that is something I wouldn't dare bring up

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Old 08-29-2011, 12:13 PM

Has she been diagnosed with something? It sounds like she has either a mental illness, or serious control issues.

The only person I know that acted like that is a substance abuser (she told me I could move in for free as long as I cooked and cleaned, keeping my rent and stuff, but then as soon as I paid her rent [she would scream how she couldn't keep me living there for $250/month] she'd ask me for my rent, because I apparently just paid her for the food I ate [I didn't ask her to get take out every other day).

She did know what she was getting into when she drove you back to her house, and you were right to walk home. If she threw a temper tantrum after you got into the car, it's not your fault. She clearly feels that she needs to control you through any means (verbally).

 


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