Recently, there's been a lot of drama within my group of friends.
One of my best friends just broke up with her boyfriend of 5 months last Tuesday (Aug. 30th).
She's heartbroken and she's constantly freaking out about little things because she's under a lot of stress. I understand where she's coming from and everything, and I get that she's hurting...but I just got INTO a new, healthy relationship with a new guy and she's bringing me down.

Now, involving this girl ^ (I'll refer to her as Lana) is apart of a bigger issue, concerning another one of my best friends....Haley. Haley is dating Lana's ex. They have been broken up for over a year so it shouldn't matter right? On Wednesday, Lana told me and Casey (another one of my best friends) that she and Haley's boyfriend had been all cuddly and such when they hung out over the weekend. I told Haley because she deserved to know then Haley's boyfriend got mad and accused ME of making things up.

Long story short, it's a cluster f**k.

QUESTIONS!
1. Do you have a lot of drama in your life that you're getting fed up with?
2. How do you deal with it?

I had a group of friends that started in middle school and grew in high school. Eventually there was so much drama between certain members we split up. We managed to be friends until we graduated but after that we split into tiny groups. I'm still best friends with two of those people...don't talk to two others...and only talk to two more like once a year. It sucks but I'm glad I got away from all of it. It brought me down. I'm so empathetic that even if I wasn't part of the drama...it upset me mentally and physically. I have so much more confidence in myself now and I love it. I'm not saying dump all your friends...but if this keeps up it's only going to wear you down.

Yeah its beginning to get to me I guess, and I'm starting to question whether or not they are worth my time and energy.
It's nice to know someone else went through something like this too, even though its not a pleasant situation.

Try talking to them about it? We tried talking about it...in person...over notes...or chats...it just didn't work for us. But maybe they need a reminder that they are friends and that they shouldn't hurt each other. Girls get really territorial...that's part of what broke my group....a guy. Just remind them that you will always be friends but boys will come and go. If that doesn't work...then maybe it IS time to move on...and it's okay...I agree...it IS nice to find someone who has been through what you go through because you have advice and similar stories to help :) It used to hurt thinking of them but I feel like I've grown from the situation and can talk about it without pain.

1.
No, I don't. I avoid it whenever possible. Unfortunately, that means I do very little with the few friends I have but I'm the kind of person that enjoys being at home with my husband and dog. <.< sounds like I am a shut in, old person.
2.
Dealing with drama is simple... don't get into it. Other people can bla, bla, bla all they want. Don't try to fix it! It always makes things so much worse. You have to let people work out their own shit unless it directly affects you and your relationship. Friend's boyfriend cheating on them and you know... sucks for your friend but opening your mouth will only pull you into the mess he has created. Most of the time the person who breaks the news is as bad off as the cheater him/herself.

Who cares if they're dating? It happened over a year ago, not a big deal.

Yes, tons of drama. One word to explain it too. Parents.

They act like immature little toddlers that always want their way.

Solution? Move out of state then move out of the country later making contact really hard =)

My life tends to be a dramapile at times. Crap always comes from somewhere, whether it's family or otherwise. XD

I do the following:

1. Go outside of the situation.
2. Calm down and decide calmly what to do.
3. Go back, maybe the time calmed the other side down too, try to discuss it rationally.

After all, normal drama is nothing to yell and scream and be angry about. XD

I don't have drama in my life anymore now that I'm a grown up, but I'll tell you I sure do miss it.
Yes, I miss it. You read that correctly. I LOVED other people's drama... I loved poking at it like you do with a blazing fire. You just can't stop watching! I never said anything, I always kept quiet, I never took sides... I simply spectated the entire thing. And it. was. awesome. I was in the popular crowd when I was in high school, so you can only imagine the inner workings of these shallow meaningless people.

The drama I was involved in... hmm let's see... it usually has to do with stealing someone else's guy. I was always unaffectionately coined as "the other woman" in many cases. I didn't really care though, I never dated the guys and at best I would only flirt with them. I probably could've prevented that, but it sure was fun when I was younger. Older gents were the best, simply because of their maturity, their words... and they would buy me things! :ninja:

But now I've grown up. I'm out of those silly old habits, I settled down with a nice man, and all my friends are far too polite and kind to start anything. I surround myself with warm and loving people, and life is pretty okay at the moment. I'm fine with it.

Still though, there are those times where I think back high school and sort of kind of miss it. It added a dynamic to my life that I don't have anymore. It made things interesting!

Two words: High School.
Yeah, everyone knows how that goes, right?
Beginning of HS year and I had lost my best friend because 2 chicks began
to say even more shit about me, and she believed them over me. Not only that but
I have a horrid teacher, who's a total dick. He doesn't accept
late work, he doesn't give a chance to do late work then he goes back
on his words, and accept people's late work, after he told me he would not
accept late work.

Not gonna mention the summer... Overall, 2011 has SUCKED for me.
How I deal with it? I rant to good friends of mine, I ask for advice from them,
I ask myself advice... And I put that advice to work, and remind myself of the good
things. Because, with the bad.. comes the good, and vice-versa. You're always gonna
be dealt a plate of shit.

My friend always tells me that I should write a book about all the drama that goes on around me. You'd think that people would learn to grow up and stop childish games but that's not the case. I honestly don't understand the whole relationship games thing.

I've never had to deal with this sort of thing. I never was the type to befriend the sorts of people who do these things and have this kind of drama surrounding them. I don't like it and I don't like them. If the people I know are going through drama, I don't know about it and I'm not a part of it.

High school was not drama central for me, growing up. Home was.

My high school was special. There were no cliques or gangs. Rich and poor got along, white and black, asians, artsy people, gamers, you name it. I'm just putting labels to mean that there were none. XD That none of that mattered. I saw the difference when I transferred to live with my mom. Eeesh, it can get bad! I'm glad that my 'home' high school was so accepting. ^^;

Home... That has so many stories, I don't even know where to begin. There's a lot of history there that I will never forget. A lot of homelessness, running away, drugs, violence, mixed ideas on religion.. you name it. Things have cooled down since then (which was not that long ago!). I think my mom's kind heart has helped really put a mark on what is important. ^_^# She would be proud.

I just ignore the drama that comes. People are psychotic, nuff said :|

I'm glad I didn't have to go through that. Finding food was more of an issue for us...

i personally think no matter how long ago a true friend broke up with their significant other,
they are HANDS OFF~!
and i will tell you why.
if they are a good friend than no other person is worth losing or hurting your friend.
but that's just my opinion and how i feel toward my friends.

drama stinks to high heaven!

Ive spent the last 3 years cleaning out all the drama from my life. As is, I only have 2 friends I hang out with that Ive known for 9+ years, the rest Ive met along the way since then. The only other few friends I have from more than 9 years ago I talk to regularly, but know to leave their drama FAR away from me. And anyone that causes drama gets cut from my life. My life is meant to be enjoyed, not dramatized!

I'm actually starting to get some heavy duty drama right now from a friend... hope she never reads this >.>" she used to chat on mene...

But anyways... we helped her with moving a very long way to start her life over, payed for a hotel, helped her find a place to stay, hung out with her, payed for her bus money ($80 or so worth), and we even scheduled a ride for her from the airport. We also use up our personal space to store some of her bulkier items, and fed her 2 times a day most days for a few months.

Now drama starts here: She acts like we barely do anything for her, and is thinking of taking "drastic" measures to get a place to live. Not giving details for her personal privacy, but it's annoying hearing her say "I have no friends" with all we do for her on a regular basis. All of this because we don't hang out every day.

Me and my wife feel very used by her right now, and she's lately become 60-70% of my daily stress.

*fumefume*