Aww, down how? What's got you upset?

llonka I'm sorry you are feeling down.
for Falcon
for Star
I'm just in a really type mood right now.

hubby i guess. found out today we went through 600 dollars in a month. all our savings is gone. we aren't going to be able to give the boys a nice Christmas again without going in the hole. he blamed me for spending it all because i went to the dentist. it's not just my fault. he wants to go out to eat a lot, like we did again tonight. if he had a better job we would be in this mess. i know jobs are few and far between but he sure isn't trying very hard. he almost had a different job and let it slip away. that job had insurance, we have no insurance right now.

And the boys are driving me nuts. they are always fighting no matter how many times i ask, and yell at them to stop. i'm a my wit's end and have pretty much no help from hubby. he helps more than what he did, but not as much as I need.

Maybe i'm being selfish, but i feel like i deserve better.

Lol. *hugs on Damia and hugs on llonka*

I'm sorry llonka.
I can understand the strains that money problems can bring.
We also have months where we spend more than we should, like going out to eat when neither of us feel like cooking.
We tried working on that this weekend. We have been eating out way to much, so we went to the grocery store & got quick & easy meals for those days. I know they aren't as good for us as real home cooked food, but sometimes you just don't have the time or energy to do stuff. We even had cereal for dinner one night, bet the kids would have fun with that.

Truthfully it sounds like you need a day away from the kids & husband, I know you probably can't get away for a day, but maybe a few hours. When you get that far down & get to your wits end, it is best to step back & catch your breath for a few minutes. Maybe go for a walk without them.

but i do get away from them. when i go to school. i was away from them for about three hours last night at my english class.

i try to get easy to make food, but the boys see it in the freezer and ask their dad to make it for them. and guess what he does. so then we don't have anything for supper.

Originally Posted by llonka

hubby i guess. found out today we went through 600 dollars in a month. all our savings is gone. we aren't going to be able to give the boys a nice Christmas again without going in the hole. he blamed me for spending it all because i went to the dentist. it's not just my fault. he wants to go out to eat a lot, like we did again tonight. if he had a better job we would be in this mess. i know jobs are few and far between but he sure isn't trying very hard. he almost had a different job and let it slip away. that job had insurance, we have no insurance right now.

And the boys are driving me nuts. they are always fighting no matter how many times i ask, and yell at them to stop. i'm a my wit's end and have pretty much no help from hubby. he helps more than what he did, but not as much as I need.

Maybe i'm being selfish, but i feel like i deserve better.

It's not selfish to want a better life and it's not selfish to want to be happy. Why don't you put yourselves on a budget and say that you will only spend so much a week. And try to cook more often and tell your husband that you feel like you are at wits end. Tell him why your depressed. How old are your boys?

I would get more of those meals and tell your husband that those are for dinner. Tell him to make the kids a sandwich. If they aren't allergic to peanuts, peanut butter is really cheap and filling.

Jacob is six and kaleb is four.

like right now, guess what hubby is doing. he sleeping in the chair. i feel like i'm getting really resentful towards him lately. i try to talk to him about stuff but all he wants to talk about is work and he won't take any feedback, he just keeps talking and saying the same things over and over again like he doesn't care about my input.

Originally Posted by llonka

Jacob is six and kaleb is four.

like right now, guess what hubby is doing. he sleeping in the chair. i feel like i'm getting really resentful towards him lately. i try to talk to him about stuff but all he wants to talk about is work and he won't take any feedback, he just keeps talking and saying the same things over and over again like he doesn't care about my input.

When they fight, put them in time out and every time they disobey, add more time to their time out time. That always made me shut up and it will give you a few minutes to breathe too.

Ask him why he is being resentful and when he starts repeating himself tell him it's a two way street and he needs to hear your input too.

i tried telling him tonight that i feel like he's not even listening to me and he got really upset. so then i just shut up and sat here nodding, pretending i was listening.

=( Have you tired talking to him when he has a day off? Talk to him about it then because he might be less stressed and less likely to get upset.

ok i'll try. i guesss he's ready for bed. he's turning everything off. night girls.

Night llonka!! Hang in there!

Originally Posted by llonka

ok i'll try. i guesss he's ready for bed. he's turning everything off. night girls.

llonka:
Sorry I had to bail on you something came up.
Husband does know how to cook correct?
Next time you have something in the freezer for dinner leave him instructions on how to cook it. Make them exact, what temperature, how long to cook & how long to cool.
Tell the boys about the dinner in the freezer & give them a list of the instructions too. Especially if it is something that the boys like & then they can pester daddy about dinner.

Also when was the last time you & husband went out just the 2 of you? I mean when was the last time you had the house without the kids?

Time at school doesn't count as time away. Unless you goof off for an hour before class or an hour after. I really think you need some llokna time.

Originally Posted by llonka

but i do get away from them. when i go to school. i was away from them for about three hours last night at my english class.

i try to get easy to make food, but the boys see it in the freezer and ask their dad to make it for them. and guess what he does. so then we don't have anything for supper.

llonka.. not to be mean but that's not getting away. that's changeing one high pressure item for another. instead of worrieing about hom eand kids your worrieing about 'am i doing this right' 'will i get a good grade' 'do i know the material' and such. go to a movie..or even go tot he park and people watch fo ra few horus where th eonly thing you have to think about is nothing. I know i have to do that..when life gets to tough for me i go out and sit on the bench in the park by my house and just enjoy the air and sunshine.. it might not seem to help but believe me it does..you might still feel overwhelmed for a while but after you get used to the little breaks you'll find you consider things much easier..

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edit: or at least not want to throttle the kids >_>

When I get stressed I go to the local park too. I can sit on those swings & stay there for hours. It has always been a cheap therapy for me. I started it when I learned to drive. When school or parents or whatever teenage angst got to me I would go to that park. Only problem is now my husband knows where to find me at unlike my parents.
For me it just takes my mind off of stuff & gets me back to a happier place & time in my mind.

Okay, I'm back. I had to fix my computer.

Originally Posted by Damia Flagg

When I get stressed I go to the local park too. I can sit on those swings & stay there for hours. It has always been a cheap therapy for me. I started it when I learned to drive. When school or parents or whatever teenage angst got to me I would go to that park. Only problem is now my husband knows where to find me at unlike my parents.
For me it just takes my mind off of stuff & gets me back to a happier place & time in my mind.

When i had a YMCA Subscription i used to go and sit in the pool. just swimming.. nto doign any excercises for at elast an hour before I'd start the water excercises and stuff.. floating int he water just..relaxed me ..

Originally Posted by Falconwing

Okay, I'm back. I had to fix my computer.

Welcome back Falcon

Thank you, thank you!

ugh i'm so sick now. my stomach hurts.

i took a quiz this morning and it said i have Cyclothymia. :( it's form of bi polar. i've often wondered if i do have bi polar.

Originally Posted by llonka

ugh i'm so sick now. my stomach hurts.

i took a quiz this morning and it said i have Cyclothymia. :( it's form of bi polar. i've often wondered if i do have bi polar.

What type of quiz? An online quiz or an actual quiz from a psychologist who looked over the results.?

an online. i know it could be phoney.

Originally Posted by llonka

an online. i know it could be phoney.

Yeah, chances are that it is not accurate. Even if it is a good test, the results can be skewed so I would the results with a grain of salt.

i guess so. i'm just glad it's the weekend now.

Originally Posted by llonka

i guess so. i'm just glad it's the weekend now.

No kidding. I will be nice to finally relax. So are you doing anything fun this weekend?