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Old 01-14-2012, 01:31 PM

i was diagnosed with MS (mulitple sclerosis) in 2009, and when people see me in my mobility scooter, they just laugh, or say i am too lazy to walk.
a lot of friends left me, and my guy broke up with me because of that.
i just dont understand, why people judge so easily, and dont understand the situation this gives, all they say, is that i should not use a mobility scooter, and just walk, or stay home during holiday events, just because they find it annoying, to walk around another, while they clearly see, that you cant turn around or anything.

its kinda sad, that some people cant understand such situations.

what would you do, if a friend would have the same situation??

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Old 01-14-2012, 01:52 PM

Aw, I'm so sorry to hear that. *snug* I think that's disgusting that people have left you because of something you have no control over, this includes both your ex and your so-called friends. I've had that happen to me before (not with anything as serious as what you have) but when I needed my boy and my friends more than anything else, they all abandoned me. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can send me a message, I'm always here. C:

If I had a friend in the same position as you're in, you can bet you're bottom dollar that I wouldn't abandon them. I would be right next to them the whole time, having their back if some jerk has the audacity to even try and say MS sufferers are lazy.

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Old 01-15-2012, 05:45 PM

I'm sorry to hear that. I've had people claim that I'm lazy or that I won't do things because I'm lazy when I have lupus and lymphoma. Sometimes people don't realize just because you don't look or act sick how sick you really are. Especially with an autoimmune disorder where there are periods of flare ups. Just try to stay positive and do what you can to stay as healthy as you can. People that abandon you aren't worth your time to be around anyway. Your real friends will stay by you. Those are the people worth keeping around.

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Old 01-15-2012, 07:38 PM

It is awful how some people can act. :(

My mom used to have to use a "scooter bug" as she called them because her knee was messed up from falling at her job and even after surgery, she had trouble walking. I know that some people would stare when we went to the store. My guess is they thought she was lazy and possibly would feel embarrassed if they had to hang around her. But you know... It never embarrassed me to be around her. Nor would I be embarrassed to be around a friend that needed to use one for whatever reason.

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Old 01-15-2012, 10:13 PM

People like that are asses and aren't worth it anyway. Do you still have friends/family who support you now at least.
And having one of those scooters is kind of awesome as far as I'm concerned.

I've never met a person who used those that were lazy.

You'll find better people to be around. Don't let it get to you.

I have this problem where I'm constantly tired due to blood issues. People tend to think I'm lazy and so on but there are understanding people out there who will be good to you.

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Old 01-16-2012, 05:36 AM

Situations like these will always cast a light of who truly cares for you or not. I feel horrible for your loss of people and I can't understand how they acted that way. Even if my friends turned deaf, blind, paralyzed and heavily brain damaged I would still still stay by their side for the rest of my life.. :( It makes me frustrated to hear about your situation but on the good side it might've saved you from false relationships with people?

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Old 01-18-2012, 11:11 PM

I am so sorry to hear that :(
People in this day an age disgust me.
My friends uncle has MS and he goes through alot of shit because of it. I have had many friends with many different problems and I treat them how I treat everyone else.
I cannot believe people make fun of you for it. You can't help it and people need to understand that.
Try and be positive, the people who left should be nobody to you. You will find good people who won't leave you over something like this.
This is just an obstacle and you just have to overcome it day by day hun.

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Old 01-28-2012, 04:13 PM

:hug: I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this. I don't understand why people just can't be more understanding in that you have to use the scooter. You cannot do all that you used to before the diagnosis. They should have been more understanding and spent the time to research the illness instead of just up and leaving you like that.
The sad truth is a lot of people are not very understanding that sometimes it's not the person's fault sometimes. Sometimes the person is unable to do anything about it and stuff just happens. But, the way a lot of people think, they think if someone hits a rough patch and it's taking the awhile, or if someone has a certain illness like you, they think it's the person's fault they have this problem, that there is an easy fix for it. And these are the people who won't understand until something similar happens to them, though some of those will just enter a "oh woe is me" attitude.
Anyway ^^" sorry bout the rant.

Things will get better for you. Keep positive and know this, you will be surrounded by those who do care, and who will understand much better than the ones who abandoned you. If you were my friend, I would stand by you and not judge you because you need a little scooter to go around. I know people who probably will need one of those sooner or later because of arthritis or anything else. Plus I'm understanding in that sometimes there are medical or other reasons why someone needs something. I hope the best for you and that you still have those around you who won't judge you. :)

 


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