Basically the gist of the story is: After I split up from my ex I became really good friends with a few people in college. One of whom is a guy called Cameron. He said that he classes me as one of his best friends. He's so lovely and sweet and he always manages to cheer me up. I ended up starting to like him, obviously. So on Saturday when it was his birthday I told him just before he was leaving. He said that he liked me too, but I should tell him again when he's sober. So I did, and he completely ignored it and started a new conversation. However, on Facebook he changed his profile picture to one of us cuddled up together.

I'm so confused right now. Anyone else have any insight into what's going on? :/

Guys can be so lame. I have a friend who "dated" a guy for a while. They would go out to dinner together, go to concerts together, go to the park together, go to the beach together. The guy kissed her a couple of times. But he NEVERNEVERNEVER brought up the fact that they were officially together despite the fact that neither one of them was seeing other people. Anyway - this dragged on for almost a year before she got tired of the uncertainty and just stopped hanging out with him and he has still, to this day, never brought it up.

I think you just need to be straight forward with him. Sit him down, in person, and say, "Look - I confessed my feelings for you not once but twice now. You really haven't responded in a sober kind of way and I would really appreciate an answer"

I would tell him to stop being a jerk and be right up front with you. Tell him you're not playing and that he should be up front with you whether he likes you or not. I hate when people act like they like you then turn it around like that. I don't get why people can't just be honest with their feelings. =/

The fact that I've said it more than once is what's making me not want to say it again though. I don't want to come across as desperate. :/ I also really don't want to scare him off into not speaking to me, because he is such a wonderful friend.

I can see that. If you're okay with "It is what it is" type of thing then you could just leave it as it is but you also have to be careful about that because if he starts seeing other people it could, be kind of a slippery slope.

Well, that is really vague indeed.. It was proven though that most guys fancy their female best friends so there is a chance he likes you back, but judging by his reaction, I wouldn't bet on anything, assuming he's not means you can only get something positive out of it anyway.

Originally Posted by Bucket

Basically the gist of the story is: After I split up from my ex I became really good friends with a few people in college. One of whom is a guy called Cameron. He said that he classes me as one of his best friends. He's so lovely and sweet and he always manages to cheer me up. I ended up starting to like him, obviously. So on Saturday when it was his birthday I told him just before he was leaving. He said that he liked me too, but I should tell him again when he's sober. So I did, and he completely ignored it and started a new conversation. However, on Facebook he changed his profile picture to one of us cuddled up together.

I'm so confused right now. Anyone else have any insight into what's going on? :/

LOL. God, he is acting like a girl.

Don't tell him again. He got told twice. You can treat it as it is, or, you can find out the type of person he is. Too me he sounds like a guy who doesn't like confrontation (when he is sober.) Try seeing what he is doing one afternoon, see if he wants to go grab lunch and see how he reacts. If he avoids that question then he is probably just a guy who does the hookup-and-roll deal and would be better as a friend.

Just thought I might offer my two cents: He may be confused as well. Emotions are rather baffling things, especially when it comes to relationships. I think the fact that he put up the picture is a pretty good indicator that he's at least interested in you, but he may still be trying to work things out within himself before he says anything. Give it a bit of time before you bring it up again. Also, I agree with what Bartuc said, do it in a more casual manner like asking to get lunch some time.

I can only offer that Facebook isn't the best of deciphers.