wow I am hopeless..I have never loved a girl in my whole life. I am 16 turning 17 in August and this is the first girl I have fallen for and I have no idea how to start a relationship, We have hardly talked and she goes to another school but I sent her a message on facebook wishing her a happy birthday and her mum gives me some cake at school the next day (Her mum works at my school). We have talked a few times but when ever we do she looks at me and I shy away because I have no idea how I should react or what I should do..

Eh. What's the big deal? Everyone starts somewhere.

If you like her... Ask her out? xD

That's one of the problems I'm shy around all girls and me liking her doesn't help with that

Whelp. Sometimes you gotta grow a pair and overcome the shyness.

Sometimes, angels drop from the sky and hit you in the face. Sometimes they don't. In fact, most of the time you don't. So take a chance.

Alright I'll give it a chance but it may take me a while to start a proper conversation, Thanks

Just go for it. I know, easier said than done, but at your age people move on quickly, and another guy'll ask her out tomorrow if you don't, I promise. The world works that way.

Don't worry about a proper conversation, just say, "hey, I like you/think you are cute (or whatever) and I was wondering if you'd like to get lunch with me sometime." Or coffee, or go bowling. Make it an easy date where you're in public so it's not too awkward, ne?

cool thanks Elysium, ha ha I hate coffee but I understand what you mean she is on holiday at the moment so I'm going to ask when she gets back, I'm just going to hope fro the best thanks for the support

Of course. You men have it tough--you almost always have to be the ones to pipe up, do the asking, and put yourselves on the proverbial chopping board. Nobody blames you for being shy...it's a scary thing.

Just give it a shot when you can, 'cause you pretty much only regret the things you didn't do, not the things you did, when it comes straight down to it. What ifs are much worse than a moment of embarrassment.

oooh she is on Facebook I'm going to try to talk to her

Good place to start. :)

Good luck bro, definitely do your best and just wing it. :)
Ask her about her hobbies and likes to see what would be a good first date. Just remember to have fun and do your best, girls dig guys who stutter at first anyway! Be gentle about it and just do general talking until you get somewhere. Let us know when you ask her and how it goes. Mene's here~.

Remember, just move it move it. ;D

Thanks everyone, you have all raised up my confidence to try to start a relationship, Now I'm just hoping that it I don't mess it up somehow..

Originally Posted by Ana_M

Just remember to have fun and do your best, girls dig guys who stutter at first anyway!

That right there---^ I have no idea why, but it's totally freaking true. XD

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Oh, and don't worry about messing it up. Give it your best shot. IF it doesn't work for ya, well, guess what? You'll never have to deal with the "first time asking a girl out" thing again. You'll know how it goes.

ha ha if a girl says it works it must

There's something more attractive about the honesty in it than a sleazy pickup line, I guess.

Whats the worst that could happen?
She says no?
Well, if she says no. You can find someone else, someone who will say yes. It sounds cheesey, but there are plenty of fish in the sea, and if she's not the right girl, or its not the right time...You'll find someone else.

Take the plunge! Shyness shouldn't matter, if she's interested it will be in spite of. Perhaps love will push you out of your shy shell! Perhaps it will not. c: It doesn't matter...but in order to get love, you have to try to give it first.
And it all starts with a few words--they're up to you, but my favorite way to express interest in a guy...is to just ask him to a movie. c:
Its subtle, sweet, and it doesn't put a ton of pressure on either of us!

I never had my first proper boyfriend until I was sixteen, so there's nothing wrong with that.

Being shy is a hurdle, but it doesn't have to be a barrier. If you like someone, you need to man up and tell them. It's a really satisfying feeling getting it off your chest. The worst that could happen is she says no. The minor disappointment doesn't last for that long, trust me. :)

Good luck.

I have talked to her a bit now but I'm wondering how soon should I tell her about my feeling towards her? and how I should go about it?

Well you shouldn't go about spewing your undying love for her. (Then again, I'm of the notion you can't actually love someone unless you're actually with them but whatever.)

Just tell her you think she's nice, you would like to hang out and get to know her more. If it sounds like simple advice that's because it is. You just need to take a chance sometimes.

Yeah. Never, ever, never, never, never, tell a girl that you're in love with her unless you've been in a serious relationship for awhile. It'll creep her out and she'll leave. If she doesn't, she's desperate to be loved, and could care less if you were you, or if you were a fly. She just wants to feel "special."

Tell her, "hey, I like you a lot, and I was wondering if you'd like to go on a date or hang out so we can get to know each other?"

Awesome thanks for advice!