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Old 05-15-2013, 08:16 PM

Well, I get that it's something that it's something that comes natural to you, but they find that if they're not in a setting with a lot of people signing, it's considered rude to them. It's like someone listening to a verbal conversation over your shoulder. If that makes any sense?
They don't know that you don't know that you don't know. It's just that it's not something that's considered proper in their culture. Just saying that.

It's like she tells him to sit down, and he sits down on the ground, because he was standing up, and then she gets on his case for sitting on the floor. >.< Really. Talk about sending mixed messages! D:

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Old 05-15-2013, 09:12 PM

Well it's understandable. It's just like any other culture gap after all.
That's true... but I find most verbal conversations are loud enough that I can't really ignore them either... and same with movement. I dislike movement out of the corner of my eyes too... (yeah I have a ton of issues I know)

Yeah I know, I'm still working on what's "proper" in a speaking culture at the moment so I'm pretty used to awkward moments...

Wait what? No wonder he doesn't listen. That's even worse... telling him to do something and then getting mad at him for listening? Basically what the child is probably thinking is "She's dumb, she punishes me for following the rules so I wont follow her rules"... end result, he's pretty smart because if listening and not listening both give the same punishment... he's just going to do what is more fun.

That's like "Good kitty, have a bath" it never ends well...

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Old 05-15-2013, 09:20 PM

Which I can get - I don't handle parties for that reason. I do not like noise at all!

Exactly! I was there when she was doing it and I was like, instead of her getting mad at him as I pat the chair "Can you sit down over here with me?" Instead of confusing him. >.<

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Old 05-15-2013, 09:42 PM

Yeah the only thing I'll play loudly is very certain music or if I'm alone I'll play music a bit louder.
And anything on a vinyl record

That's cute and simple. Kids really like when you say "With me" I've noticed, so I find involving yourself in what you do and require of them it puts you at their level. Then when you make a demand they know you actually meat it.

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Old 05-15-2013, 09:47 PM

Oh, I can stand music if I have control over the volume, it's loud places with people talking too that I don't like.

Yeah, I try to get myself down to their level, and make it easier for them to get. And try to not send them mixed messages.

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Old 05-15-2013, 11:14 PM

Agreed... I don't like blasted music o.o

Yeah I know so many parents who say "I'm superior to my child, why should I put myself at their level when I'm the adult and they are not?"
I simply answer "He's picking your retirement home later"
But in all seriousness... I see a major intelligence jump when people are a peer instead of a superior. Sure they have to know your word is final, but if you're their friend they will look up to you later in life.

Like for example, as a kid I was raised with this "I'm superior" mindset. I wont go to my parents for advice, I wont go to them for questions, and I keep almost everything about my life private from them. If they had treated me like a friend instead of a child that only needed disciplined when needed I would have been far more willing to bring up problems I was having in school and such.

On the other side, if a parent says "Don't do drugs" who are they going to listen to during the rebellious stage? A peer? Or a superior?

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Old 05-16-2013, 01:19 AM

Wow this thread has sure been active.

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Old 05-16-2013, 02:26 AM

I remember posting in one of the event versions of this thread...I'm glad to see that it's public now.

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Old 05-16-2013, 03:18 AM

Ling:
Glad to see you to join us.

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Old 05-16-2013, 06:25 AM

Thanks for the kind welcome. ^_^

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Old 05-16-2013, 06:38 AM

Hello there Ling ^^

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Old 05-16-2013, 07:08 AM

No Problem Ling, how are you?

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Old 05-16-2013, 07:15 AM

I'm tired, had a long day. And I have a uni assignment that needs to be done.

How are you Demi?

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Old 05-16-2013, 07:21 AM


Not too great. Can't sleep, im nauseated so I am going to stay up and hopefully
my friend will hop online soon to talk.

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Old 05-16-2013, 07:29 AM

Aww, I'm sorry to hear that. It's hard to sleep when you're feeling nauseous.

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Old 05-16-2013, 07:32 AM


Yeah. And I seem to have a lot on my mind oddly.
So I am just going to stay up and catch up on some movies and shows.

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Old 05-16-2013, 08:01 AM

That's an idea, hopefully entertainment will distract you. :)

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Old 05-16-2013, 08:18 AM

Yeah. It's helping thus far.

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Old 05-16-2013, 03:05 PM

Poet: Gah! Sorry, I started spacing out yesterday and totally forgot to respond. xD

Yeah, you don't have to act like the bigger person for them to know that your word is final - well, you do, but not in a way that makes them not like you. Just don't send them mixed messages.

Ling: O.M.G. I LOOOOVE your avatar!!

Demi: I do hope that you are feeling better!

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Old 05-16-2013, 06:08 PM

Haha all good :)

That's true. I mean you have to be firm at times and gentle at times. Of course you wont be gentle the whole time cause they wont be an angel, but they wont be rowdy all the time so you can be gentle sometimes. Really it's just a matter of how well your kid behaves, and they will slowly come to find they like how you treat them when they behave.

So how are you today hope? ^^

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#2571
Old 05-16-2013, 06:11 PM

I totally do agree with that.

Eh... we'll see. The weather has turned bad again. D: Last time the weather turned bad, my mood turned bad too.

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Old 05-16-2013, 07:27 PM

Nemo;
My chest kind of hurts now. x.x

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#2573
Old 05-16-2013, 07:28 PM

Demi: That's not good!!

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Old 05-16-2013, 07:29 PM

Nemo;
I probably just need to eat.

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Old 05-16-2013, 07:31 PM

Hopefully that's all it is!

 



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