Haha Elmira that is gold...

I honestly have never had a real "date" so wouldn't know how XD

Heck, I would need a girl who would whack me over the head... I am oblivious to all but the most blunt flirting

We need Elmira-25 years women

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And preferably someone who will smack his head, please.

I'm glad you trust your dad about your romantic interests. My dad would be in search of someone who had a job and was able to fix my dad's house for zero pay. He like my first husband, no idea what he thinks of current one, hated most of the guys I introduced him to (I didn't really date anyone until I was 18+ and lived far enough away to avoid parents). I think his interests would outweigh what would be best for me or any children I'd have.

Poet ~ I remember walking out of a store with a roommate and a guy walked passed us and was talking. He was saying something to me (complimentary) but I didn't even pay attention because I thought "surely he's not talking to me". It wasn't until he called me something awful because I didn't acknowledge him that I realized he was trying to strike up a conversation. I stood there staring at him completely dumb-struck - then thought if he was going to react that way to me at ALL, I wanted nothing to do with him.

Sometimes bluntness works, other times it can be a major turn off.

I'll admit... from what I've seen, aspies are far less difficult than the average girl

I once had a girl flirt with me in high school... it dawned on me 5 years later she was flirting
Yeah people who get offended if you don't react to flirting aren't worth the work you'd have to put into training them.

Bluntness can be nice... I mean like "Hey I think you're nice wanna go out sometime?" or something... rather than all that flirty voodoo stuff D:

*lurks, watching people*

Originally Posted by The Wandering Poet

I once had a girl flirt with me in high school... it dawned on me 5 years later she was flirting

What did I just read?

Hello cloud

Yeah Lex... I'm that oblivious to flirting...

Hey. I'm still not sure if I'm back or not. but I am loving being invisible. If only I could have the clouds around my feet without it giving the shape of my legs. Darn! :(

Cloud has clouds!
Poet, you're simple awesome XD

Cloud is a Cloud. I don't just have cloud, I am one.

Poet, if I had a nickel for every time someone said "didn't you KNOW I was interested in dating you?" I would be... well, not a whole lot better off than now, but it's happened.

But what do you mean by training them? Because that has never worked... you get what you get. Sometimes people are on their best behavior when you're dating, then BAM! the evil underbelly they were hiding under is suddenly stripped away and you see them as the craven weirdoes they truly are. Not always, but I've seen it happen more than once with people I know and experienced it a few times.

"Oh. Now that we're together, maybe I'll just stop picking up after myself" or my personal favorite "Deep down, I'm really a racist homophobe and had you fooled the whole time, so maybe you shouldn't introduce me to your friends".

A cloud named cloud holding 2 clouds

Haha... I get a hunch someone is crushing... but when it comes to flirting I'm totally oblivious XD

It's a reference to a joke Elmira:

Men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes, and it's up to women to stomp the #$%^ out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with.

So true... it's like once you're attached the evil part seeps in and causes tons of fighting.

What about this one? "Hey I'm still in love with my exbf, I'm going to go run off with him"

My mum says that lovers are only patient till they are requited, and once they do, all patience starts crumbling down I guess we can't help it, just live with it

I have a lot more patience than most. My first gf had Aspergers, so I quickly learned to be patient when working with her in most things
Especially since neither of us knew how to date XD

Oh :(
Patience is good~

Poet ... both of those mindsets are so painful! I consider situations like that as dodging the proverbial bullet though. I'd cite examples, but the exercise would be too much information for Soki to read about.

I will say my current partner (we've been together 7 years) really believed I wanted to change him because that's what he experienced in previous relationships. I figure he is who he is, not some moldable fixture in my home. I know, some people think it's okay to wail on someone until they are perfect for them, but I think that's absurd and destructive for both people. Although I see the man he could be, I am happy for the person he is, and it's taken me a while to reach this conclusion. I used to think it was okay to try to influence change when I was much younger, which makes me wonder if that sort of thinking is cultural or just a human thing.

Well to me it's not so much changing them so much as learning to work better with them as they are.
The only "changes" I can think of is helping them to overcome their fears. That is partly because I understand how fears work.
Granted fear of clowns? That's a valid fear

Perfect people are boring... I want someone who is like a puzzle to figure out, learning about them. That's why I like studying Aspergers so much. It's so much deeper than people think it is. I once watched a client with Autism flipping through a phone book. Nobody would think much more than that of a child flipping through a picture book... but I noticed he stopped at certain entries, and read them before moving on. He was showing signs of intelligence which he wasn't able to communicate to anyone because they were too busy staring at their phones.

I agree about the puzzle aspect of getting to know someone!

One of the things I loved about studying anthropology and history were meeting the other students and really getting to know many of them. The anthropology students loved learning about people and were very prone to looking past behavior others found unusual. I think it was at that point I stopped worrying about being normal and started embracing who I really am - for better or worse! The history students were - and I hate slamming them with a stereotype - very awkward socially. Some of them anyway. It was very cool to sit in a room full of students all geeked out over historic objects.

Poet: Yes, that exactly.
I got pulled off and then ended up at a friend's place, and was there longer than expected, but it's ok. It was a good break away from home for a bit. :)

Glad you could get out a little cloud :)

I found anthropology fun too. It helped me learn to read and observe body language way more

Yeah, it was nice. We did a bit of painting - and trying to paint things, in the wind, is not fun. We were sitting out and the wind kept on trying to play tricks with us. It's VERY windy here today. Yay southern California! XD

I wish I could paint. I tried and I don't have the eye for it.

Mmm, we weren't painting anything super hard. Just painting letters that she had bought (wooden letters) because she needed them a different color. Nothing super hard, although with the wind, it made it harder than it should have been.

Oh that sounds fun.

Yeah. :D I managed to paint my fingertips white. xD Thankfully it was easily washable paint. :)