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01-12-2013, 03:16 PM
I've been up for a couple hours, I slept late though haha
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01-12-2013, 03:18 PM
I almost can't sleep late anymore. I'm always up around 7 or 8am... gah
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01-12-2013, 03:20 PM
I haven't sorted out my sleeping pattern after the holidays yet
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The Wandering Poet
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01-12-2013, 08:35 PM
Good morning, I slept in too
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01-12-2013, 08:39 PM
Well hiya Poet!! XD I have been bored alll day.... why is Mene dead today?? *cries*
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01-12-2013, 08:44 PM
Cause it's friday friday, run like hell while you can?
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01-12-2013, 08:47 PM
*scratches head* Isn't it Saturday? XD
Hate that song..
mmm blah, been struggling to not get bored and log off.. haha
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01-12-2013, 09:02 PM
Anyways while my bad joke blows over I'll reply to your question... "How to dominate"...
To be honest it's really simple. First, set a safe word before anything else. Don't pick "no" or "stop", that's a terrible safe word... pick something like "Waffles" "narwhals", something easy to remember but not likely to be said in that situation.
That way, if she's the type that likes to squeal "no" and "stop" without actually meaning that, then you don't have to worry about if it's real or not because stop would be the safe word instead.
Second, you need to get into the mindset of what you want to do.
If you want to do teasing you will want to have feathers and such. Additionally for something touch based, if you blindfold her it will enhance her other senses while making her guess what you are doing. Then you could use fingers, feathers and other things.
If you want to do bondage (basically it's just about being tied up), you would need rope, cloth and/or a blindfold. Make sure it's not something that can cut if strained like string can. Then basically tie her up in knots that you could easily get her out of if an emergency arose.
If you want to do Submissive/Master you will need her consent (as you would with all of these but this one is most important) and you would need to have more of a plan with this one. If she is "naughty" (keep in mind she might cross the line intentionally XD) then you should have some punishments prepared of some sort. Additionally you may want to have rewards prepared for if she doesn't cross the line.
As for how to be dominant in a more basic sense... well... to put it simply, pin her down and just do what YOU want. Give her as little control of the situation as possible so that the only choices she has are enjoy or use the safe word.
(Indeed it is saturday... wtf happened to friday?)
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01-12-2013, 09:09 PM
*starts jotting notes*
Hmm.. well, the good thing, she already has pretty much all of that stuff on hand! XD Including a silk rope, so it doesn't hurt or anything.
I do understand having to get into the mindset, and I think that's the hardest part for me... I'm not a dominant person, but I guess, if ever there's a time that your not going to be judged about things like that, with your partner is one of those times! Tee hee, thanks for all the tips! Only problem now is, I wish I got to stay over there more, but meh, what can ya do? Perhaps being forced to /only/ think about it, will make it better!! lol
Um, Friday died after a horrible song was written about it... it was ashamed!
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01-12-2013, 09:16 PM
Silk rope? Ooh... that sounds comfy :D
I was honestly in the same position you are in now. My exwife wanted to be "dominated" *cough*notreally*cough*, but she wanted me to be the dominant one (while she dominated from the background I guess), but anyways, I was very submissive at the time, so it took a lot for me, but really, just do some research, maybe watch some videos (I know there are a few knot typing videos), and there are tons of sites about domination ideas.
You have 2 options about the domination though, plan it by telling her you plan to be dominant and she knows to be submissive, or just act and let her know by how you are acting. (I'm pretty sure pinning her arms to the bed would be a pretty sure sign of your intentions. I mean hollywood does this all the time))
Yeah... that day of the week was sorta killed for me by that song...
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01-12-2013, 09:25 PM
Ugh I was supposed to be going out but my friend bailed on me >.>
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01-12-2013, 09:26 PM
XD "you be dominant, but only how I tell you too, and when I tell you too" Sounds super submissive! lol.
I have heard about some videos... just got sent quite a nice picture from my girlfriend with said rope... well, I won't say anything else.. but anyways, videos? yeah, um, my concentration is broken now by the way. XDD But, definitely gonna look up some stuff, I'm am wanted to be the dominant, so I guess I should be nice and do so... that way there can be turn taking and what not.
And I muchly think most people would kind of enjoy the surprise of it more than it being planned out, I don't know, maybe it's just me! But yeah, I'm pretty sure should would pick up on it were that the case! hehe
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Ugh I was supposed to be going out but my friend bailed on me >.>
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Gaw, I'm sorry Vinyl!
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01-12-2013, 09:27 PM
It's alright haha. It saves me spending money I guess xD
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01-12-2013, 09:28 PM
haha, well thats a good way to look at it!!
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01-12-2013, 09:32 PM
I'd still rather be out haha. I hate how all my friends have gone to uni xD
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01-12-2013, 09:33 PM
Just say something like "I'll be the dominant one this time" and that should work yes?
Well the trick is for YOU to plan it and her being left guessing what's next
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01-12-2013, 09:38 PM
True true... all fun thoughts!! XD
Now, I just plot, and wait for the moment to strike!! lol
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01-12-2013, 09:40 PM
Haha indeed... :) or if you want you can save up for a hotel room for one night :)
One night shouldn't be too expensive, and you could have a small "stay at home date" of some sort?
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01-12-2013, 09:43 PM
Why had I never thought about anything like that before?? XDD
Me saving the money would be hard, since I don't make money.. haha, but still. I have a birthday coming up real soon... >.>
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01-12-2013, 09:43 PM
Or you could save a little longer and get a really nice hotel room. Plus, they usually have free stuff you can take :)
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01-12-2013, 09:44 PM
XD I know they do have those "sexy time" hotel resort things around here... but I can imagine they are expensive as hell!!
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01-12-2013, 09:47 PM
Haha... careful of those Cross... >.>" I've seen some really weird hotels like that... like... *cough* a "Hello Kitty Bondage Hotel"......
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01-12-2013, 09:48 PM
LOL, wow... well this is more like. Sound proof hotel, big rooms with hot tubs and stuff like that... not creepy motels like that!! XDD
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01-12-2013, 09:49 PM
Omg that sex hotel (the nice one with the hot tub) sounds lush
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01-12-2013, 09:52 PM
Yeah, some of them even have like, the big martini glass looking hot tub type deals... lol, some of those places do just seem silly to me. But idk...
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