When the fear of death is gone from the mind, the fear of most disappears with it.

Originally Posted by ElysiumFate

That shit right there gives me heart attacks. Not the stairs themselves, but being able to see through them. I am also afraid of walking on really rickety looking things. That could entail old bridges, two story malls with bridges from one side to the other. Basically anything that creaks, wobbles, or looks like it has no support. I don't remember who said it, but like them I'm afraid of falling from high places, but I'm not afraid of heights.

I also don't like elevators. If I ever go to New York I'm probably screwed. I can't go up more than four floors or so in an elevator without wanting to puke. And along that line, I've always been deathly afraid of getting stuck in an elevator.

Cancers also scare me. Either having it, or someone else having it.

I was really comforted to see that I'm not the only one paranoid about marriage. I wouldn't call myself afraid of it, it's more a lack of faith that I could trust anyone else to be faithful to me in it and not come up to me out of the blue with divorce papers that they want me to sign. I also don't like the idea of splitting half of my hard earned stuff with an asshole who I decide it wasn't worth to marry, or they decide I wasn't worth marrying, etc.

I guess in general I'm just tired/afraid of being left alone in a relationship without any forewarning or reason. I have had it happen before and I'd rather be single than deal with that ever again.

Oh lol I mentioned the whole falling thing. I too am afraid of tripping domn stairs (I especially can't stand long staircases with narrow skinny stairs I always feel like I'm going to fall. ), or malls with REALLY long escalators and multiple floors, high decks or platforms and bridges that seem rickety and unstable. I absolutely DESPISE hiking on narrow paths next to a big drop...I actually got stuck on a log trying to get over it. I did fine on the way down, but coming back I felt like I had no stable footing and that I was going to fall. LOL My boyfriend was so patient with me the whole time. xD
So sweet. I love that man.
He just calmly tried to coach me through it while my vertigo took over and gave me the fattest panic attack I have ever had in my life! Screaming, crying, shouting obscenities, stiff as a board with all my muscles tense as all hell clung to that fallen tree for dear life (All the while somehow still managing to shake like a miniature chihuahua in a snowstorm. ), then seeing black spots and almost passing out. I FINALLY faced my fears and got over the log, but I've never been more terrified in my life. xD
The boyfriend then realized the severity of my vertigo, and never doubted me on how bad my fear was ever again. lol
He gave me a lot of respect for getting over that situation and pushing past my fear, and I'm damn proud of myself too! ^_^ <3
Haha yeah, craziness.
...and I HATE flying. Everytime I get on a plane my mom has to give me a few of her xanax, and I have to drink like a total alcoholic to get through it.

Originally Posted by Souless Ginger Kid

Ah yes, stupid people get to me too, mainly because of the apathy and general lack of independant thought, easily manipulated. Freaks me out, I feel as if I am surrounded by programed zombie robots! D;

Exactly! And in a job like mine where you can be killed by the simplest or stupidest things...things you wouldn't ever think were dangerous even.

Originally Posted by rebeccarave

Exactly! And in a job like mine where you can be killed by the simplest or stupidest things...things you wouldn't ever think were dangerous even.

Oh yeah, my ex almost cut my toe off with garden sheers when we had landscaping jobs. He was such a damn idiot! D;

@Ginger: I probably couldn't do what you described. If I was going to get over that log I'd have to wrap my arms and legs around it and inch across it like a sloth.

I went with some friends once to one of their properties in the mountains, and they had this bridge that went across a river. I don't know if I can explain this, and I don't have any pictures, but basically it was a bridge that was meant for cars and not people. It was composed of metal bars that were about three or so inches apart from each other with nothing inbetween. They made me walk over it. I got stuck on the other side absolutely fudging terrified staring like a deer in the headlights through the gaps in between the bars. They kept walking and were about a quarter mile ahead of me while I was stuck at the other side freaking out. I eventually had to pick my way across it one heart attack at the time while they didn't even wait for me or notice I was missing.

I realized they weren't very good friends at that point.

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Oh, and can I add that job searching absolutely terrifies me? Least favorite pass time.

Originally Posted by ElysiumFate

@Ginger: I probably couldn't do what you described. If I was going to get over that log I'd have to wrap my arms and legs around it and inch across it like a sloth.

I went with some friends once to one of their properties in the mountains, and they had this bridge that went across a river. I don't know if I can explain this, and I don't have any pictures, but basically it was a bridge that was meant for cars and not people. It was composed of metal bars that were about three or so inches apart from each other with nothing inbetween. They made me walk over it. I got stuck on the other side absolutely fudging terrified staring like a deer in the headlights through the gaps in between the bars. They kept walking and were about a quarter mile ahead of me while I was stuck at the other side freaking out. I eventually had to pick my way across it one heart attack at the time while they didn't even wait for me or notice I was missing.

I realized they weren't very good friends at that point.

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Oh, and can I add that job searching absolutely terrifies me? Least favorite pass time.

Oh I did. xD
Holy crap. I would have pissed myself. lol Yeah, those "friends" were total assholes.
/:
I really hoped you stopped hanging out with those people. They suck. :P

I got stuck on a train bridge before, there were like two foot gaps between each beam and it was high above this big river. I had to turn back. lol Luckily my friend was cool enough to turn back with me. :]

OMFG, I hate searching for jobs too! I have HORRIBLE phone anxiety and I end up studdering, tripping over my words, and forgetting what I was going to say.
Then I just sound like a total idiot.
I can't talk to people on the phone that I'm not familiar with, it's just not okay. lol
I'm super socially awkward in general until I get to know someone or feel comfortable around them.

In their defense I do think they didn't notice me at first, but they did look back and didn't even slow down when they realized how far back I was. But they did a lot of stuff other than that that made me stop hanging with them eventually. Not too long after that experience, actually.

Oh jeez. Yeah, that's bad. I dunno if I could do that or not. Probably not. The bridge I had trouble crossing scared me because the bars were about 1.5 inches in diameter, so you were basically balancing your feet on these tiny bars to get across.

YES. The phone anxiety is so bad! And I'm always afraid that when I go into interviews that I'm like transparent and they can see my flaws.

Originally Posted by ElysiumFate

In their defense I do think they didn't notice me at first, but they did look back and didn't even slow down when they realized how far back I was. But they did a lot of stuff other than that that made me stop hanging with them eventually. Not too long after that experience, actually.

Oh jeez. Yeah, that's bad. I dunno if I could do that or not. Probably not. The bridge I had trouble crossing scared me because the bars were about 1.5 inches in diameter, so you were basically balancing your feet on these tiny bars to get across.

YES. The phone anxiety is so bad! And I'm always afraid that when I go into interviews that I'm like transparent and they can see my flaws.

Holy crap! That sounds scarier then the train bridge.
:o
I'd pee myself, you're brave! xD

No kidding, I feel like that in general when I'm in public.
I'm not really self conscience, but for some reason it feels like everyone's staring, and analyzing me, and talking about me. D; <\3
I know they're not, but I'm still really uncomfortable by myself. It's not a big deal if I'm out with someone I know though. xD
Really weird. lol

@Ginger: Hahaha, I doubt it was as bad as I made it sound. I wish I could find a picture of it but I have never seen anything like it and don't know the actual name for that kind of bridge. XP But the balancing was as bad as I made it out to be. You could've easily taken a misstep and broken an ankle, or twisted it if your foot didn't hit the bar just right. My fear probably made it way worse than it had to be, though.

I totally get that. I think I feel that way a lot because I KNOW how bad people are behind others backs. I've seen it, I've grown up with it, hell, I've done it when I'm in a bad mood or feeling insecure. So it's like...what are these people going to say the second I'm not staring them down. Just gotta say Goosfraba and try to calm down in those situations.

Originally Posted by ElysiumFate

@Ginger: Hahaha, I doubt it was as bad as I made it sound. I wish I could find a picture of it but I have never seen anything like it and don't know the actual name for that kind of bridge. XP But the balancing was as bad as I made it out to be. You could've easily taken a misstep and broken an ankle, or twisted it if your foot didn't hit the bar just right. My fear probably made it way worse than it had to be, though.

I totally get that. I think I feel that way a lot because I KNOW how bad people are behind others backs. I've seen it, I've grown up with it, hell, I've done it when I'm in a bad mood or feeling insecure. So it's like...what are these people going to say the second I'm not staring them down. Just gotta say Goosfraba and try to calm down in those situations.

lol Situations and descriptions tend to be a lot bigger if you have an intense fear of them. xD

Yeah, no kidding. I hate listening to people gossip and judge. /:
Only time I talk shit is if someone really pissed me off and I'm venting.
But I'm not afraid to say it directly to their face aswell. :P
I only judge (But really they're educated guesses. lolololol) when it comes to people who seem fake or "plastic" or clone like...and they usually are so I just avoid them or call them out.
lol One thing I think is stupid is when people say crap like "You hate me 'cuz you ain't me!"
No, first of all I don't hate you, you just piss me off...and secondly I can't really be jealous of something/someone I'm either:
A. not attracted to
B. pissed off by
C. annoyed by
D. who's making themselves look like a complete idiot. xD
F. is a complete conceited narcissist.

I get that a lot of people dislike people over insecurity, but why does it always have to be for that reason?
lol I just genuinely find the majority of the human race to be completely fucked off and derf.

Anyways, strayed from the subject a bit. lolololol
Not a people person. I really shouldn't be let out into public. I speak my mind too much.

Ho boy... let me count the ways I'm afraid.

- Being home alone, while I certainly appreciated the independence from my family when I was a tween-teenager, now that I'm older and have experienced living on my own, is actually a very frightening experience for me. I have quite the overactive imagination and I think up the worst possible scenario's ever. For all my bravado when I talk about "what if", I'm not really sure how I'd react if one of those "what if" scenario's became a real life situation. This fear (and anxiety) triples if I have to take a shower while at home by myself. Because it's harder for me to hear and react, plus the fact at that moment I am at my most vulnerable.

- Being bitten/eaten. I could have said Zombies but that wouldn't be 100% accurate. Because to be honest I'm actually a little bit of a fan of zombies. When I was a kid and saw George A. Romero's Night of the Living Dead it scared the absolute shit out of me. It wasn't the zombies themselves necessarily, they are stumbling corpses, it was the being eaten alive bit that did me in. There are many horrible ways to die but having the flesh torn from your bones while you are still aware, rotting hands ripping into you.... uuuuugh.

- Spiders. This phobia didn't actually develop till I was probably 12. I had always been an adventurous kid and I was never really afraid of anything that I found in nature. I was smart enough to not go poking at certain things like snakes or spiders but I always just observed from a fair distance. During the summer I'd go down to visit with my Grandparents, who had a pool (awesome), and it somehow became my sworn duty to try and save all the insects, spiders, sometimes even birds and rats that were unlucky enough to wind up in the water. It wasn't until a spider that I thought was dead, cupped in the palm of my hand, scurried down my arm and bit me that I developed a fear. It didn't help that a few years later I watched the movie Arachnophobia.

- Social Interaction. I should probably mention that this applies outside my job since I have to do quite a bit of interacting with what I do. In my personal life I could probably be described as a modern day hermit. My beau has to handle anything that requires talking over the phone. I can't do it. The last time he tried to force me onto the phone I started getting teary-eyed and my hands were shaking and my heart rate went through the roof. When we go out in public I can never actually look anyone eye to eye, I always keep my eyes down and to the side just a fraction. And it's been a recent development that I can even order for myself, I use to tell my beau my order and he would order for me.

Those are my major fears. There are quite a few more (like losing my beau- I prefer that I go first) but if I went into every single thing that frightened me I'd probably write a book.

Originally Posted by Souless Ginger Kid

lol Situations and descriptions tend to be a lot bigger if you have an intense fear of them. xD

Yeah, no kidding. I hate listening to people gossip and judge. /:
Only time I talk shit is if someone really pissed me off and I'm venting.
But I'm not afraid to say it directly to their face aswell. :P
I only judge (But really they're educated guesses. lolololol) when it comes to people who seem fake or "plastic" or clone like...and they usually are so I just avoid them or call them out.
lol One thing I think is stupid is when people say crap like "You hate me 'cuz you ain't me!"
No, first of all I don't hate you, you just piss me off...and secondly I can't really be jealous of something/someone I'm either:
A. not attracted to
B. pissed off by
C. annoyed by
D. who's making themselves look like a complete idiot. xD
F. is a complete conceited narcissist.

I get that a lot of people dislike people over insecurity, but why does it always have to be for that reason?
lol I just genuinely find the majority of the human race to be completely fucked off and derf.

Anyways, strayed from the subject a bit. lolololol
Not a people person. I really shouldn't be let out into public. I speak my mind too much.

I've gotten to the point that I can't gossip about people anymore. I'll usually just be like: "hey, I dunno their side of the story, sure that stuff may have happened, but I dunno. Not gonna talk about it anymore." Or I'll say my opinion on the subject but make sure that people know that I'm not sure. Don't quote me. It's just how the sitch appears to me.

Insecurity is the worst, and I will let people get away with being a shit because they're insecure a couple of times, but I will call them on it eventually. It just gets to a point where it's been enough and they need to grow as a person before they can continue talking about someone else.

Or high falootin' people. That bugs me. You know, the people who say stuff like: "she is a, b, and c, but I can be a rude shit to them behind their backs because I am neither a, b, nor c." That really gets me.

Okay. I'll stop being off topic now.

My biggest fear is that I fall off a cliff and die. O_O
Or get shot.. or.. i dunno, just die. ;-;
Maybe not die, but dying painfully.*
AND HEIGHTS.
OMG, WAI.

Originally Posted by Lady Vengeance

My biggest fear is that I fall off a cliff and die. O_O
Or get shot.. or.. i dunno, just die. ;-;
Maybe not die, but dying painfully.*
AND HEIGHTS.
OMG, WAI.

Those seem to be pretty common for a few of us. xD lol

Spiders, Dying too soon, being alone, loveless and no children and not being able to have a roof over my head!

Is a fear and being scared the same things? I have no idea.. Anyway, I'm scared of being electrocuted or shocked, some gas masks and the thought of tight underwater spaces just makes me panic. I also get very nervous and on edge in public and before going out because I think something bad is going to happen like someones going to kidnap me or kill me etc so I guess that's a fear. I am also scared of rejection and some social situations which is why I avoid them!

I am extremely phobic when it comes to dentists. If I hear sounds that are similar to dentistry tools, I instantly cover my mouth and start gagging.

I am also not a fan of boats, flying, or solitude/isolation. That's not to say that I can't do those things, though. I can be on my own just fine. It's like, being locked away in a room where no one can find me... that's terrifying.

Demons and negative spirits (I am okay with ghosts if they are not out to harm anyone)
The darkness
Food
Gaining weight
My family finding out I have a problem
Hurting anyone
My fiance getting worse mentally

Any child I have in the future.....
-growing up to hate me because I am not their biological mother.
-running away
-being bullied
-being abused in any form
-growing up feeling as if he/she can't talk to me
-being kidnapped
-being badly injured
-having an eating disorder because they copied my behaviors
-being suicidal
-overdosing
-cutting/burning/bruising on purpose
-getting deathly ill
-feeling pain in any way; physically or emotionally
-growing up in this violent and terrifying world

And also...

- war
- the direction of the economy
- the direction of the violence in our world

My biggest fears are:
-Not being successful in life
-Falling off a roller coaster
-Getting into a fatal car accident
-Dying in an air plane crash
-The world ending
-Haints(evil spirits)
-Dying in my sleep
-Rapists and murderers
-House being broken into while I'm sleeping
-House catching on fire while I'm sleeping
-Hurricanes
-Tornadoes
-Family members dying
-Getting shot or stabbed to death
-Committing suicide due to depression
-Scorpions
-Centipides
-Spiders
-Snakes
-Bees

Not all of everything, but:

-Being alone
-never finding someone who'll love me more than a friend
-heights
-spiders
-Failing at school