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07-11-2016, 06:22 PM
Ava, that is more for when two women marry the same man. In this case we would be sisters-in-law.
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07-11-2016, 06:39 PM
two woman can marry the same man?
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07-11-2016, 07:39 PM
Polygamy is the name for that and I am pretty sure it's not totally legal in all states, or countries for that matter. There are sects of certain religions that allow a man to marry more than one woman. Typically though the other wife(ves) have to agree to the other party joining their group. At least, I believe that's how it goes...not entirely sure. Never been big on the idea of polygamy. Not very good with sharing what is mine.
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07-12-2016, 03:33 AM
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Woo! Have fun in Ireland, Storm!
I bet you're going to have so much fun there!
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Thank you Ava. I am greatly looking forward to it and so excited. I have even been seriously considering moving there. Probably do a year and then decide if I want to move everything and the animals there and call Ireland home or return to the states.
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Silver, if he has a twin brother, all the better! We could be sisters.
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I will see what I can do. There is a handsome Irish actor there that I would be happy to snag. {;)] He is not a twin though.
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07-12-2016, 12:39 PM
I think we'll see a mass exidous if Trump gets elected
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07-12-2016, 05:35 PM
Yeah. I think we will. Though that isn't the reason for me and moving to Ireland. Just feel like its time for a fresh start.
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07-12-2016, 08:31 PM
I was thinking the same thing, Storm. Finland is a possibility, or even Germany. Wouldn't mind Germany to much, my heritage after all on my mom's side of the family. Can't be hard to learn the German language either.
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07-12-2016, 10:15 PM
*comes in and lurks in the thread*
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07-13-2016, 02:44 AM
I'd move to either Sweden or Norway. Those are my big two in my heritage. Though I would miss the people and places here. But if it were for the right reason I would.
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07-13-2016, 09:40 PM
Germany just seems like the right place for me. Plenty of culture, good food, close to everything via train. Now to convince the husband. And get a degree in something that I can use over there.
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07-13-2016, 10:07 PM
I would totally love to move to Germany too!
The goth scene is really thriving over there!
Also my grandfather lived in Germany for a long time. He grew up and went to school there. My uncle lived in Germany too for some time.
If we're going by heritage, I think the only places available to me would be somewhere in Africa.... And well, Germany. My aunt says there is French in our family, like some great-great grandparent on her mother's side was French, but I don't count that as a major heritage when it is so far back.
I'd love to go to England too. I'm sure I have some family in England as well since I have an English last name, but it could always be a slave name too....
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07-13-2016, 10:12 PM
Very possible. My husband's last name and by marriage default my last name, is Norton. Pretty sure that was probably a slave name.
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07-13-2016, 11:55 PM
It's interesting how much slavery impacted African Americans even today.
I'm betting on my last name having been a slave name.
It's quite sad, really. I don't know about my dad, I still wonder where he got his freckles... It's funny, both of my parents are ethnically.... diverse? I can't think of any other word to describe it. My mom knows about there being Native American, Mexican, African American, and German (white) in her family but she always swears up and down that she's just black. Then my dad has African American, Jewish, Native American and Indian in his family but he doesn't put a label on himself.
I usually identify with being white and black myself. I haven't told anyone here on Mene, but the truth is, I am adopted. But, it's complicated, I was adopted by my own family so I am related to my parents still. All I know is that my egg donor was black and my sperm donor was white. I always claim German because that is my mother's family and I believe through and through that I am whatever my family is.
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07-14-2016, 12:14 AM
Oh a trip to Ireland sounds like fun!! :D
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07-14-2016, 01:58 PM
Ava, my younger sister is adopted as well. She is my cousin, the fourth child of my mom's older sister. Brenda has some mental issues, mostly Bipolar with a touch of Schizophrenia. Had a few children, not all of them has she raised herself. In fact, the oldest was twelve or thirteen when CPS stepped in to take custody. The two younger ones were adopted by other families, Jason, the oldest went to live with his biological dad's older brother since dad didn't want him. Messed up family on that side too, from what I hear.
Amanda, my younger sister, came to live with us when she was thirteen months old. Basically we are her family and yet she likes to yell at us that we are horrible people, not really her family and that are constantly hoping that she will fail in life. Not sure where Amanda gets all that, but hey, nothing we can say or do has changed her mind in the least.
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07-14-2016, 03:05 PM
That's too bad, Queenie!
I am glad that my parents took me in, my egg donor would have been a horrible mother! She was very young when I was born, not that young people are automatically horrible mothers, but I know for a fact that my egg donor would have been horrible. She is very immature and even today, hasn't completely grown up.
She has other children that are also immature. I am ever so thankful that my parents are my parents because who knows what would have become of me if they weren't! I'm sure I've gotten mad at my parents sometimes and did the whole, "You're not my family!" or "You aren't my real parents!" thing before, I know I've done it, but I've never really meant it, I only said it because I wanted to hurt my parents because I was angry.
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07-14-2016, 03:33 PM
Amanda used to yell at them when she was a teenager that they weren't here parents and she started calling them Aunt Rhonda and Uncle Kevin. Honestly don't care how people take this but, I truly believe she is the reason that our family had so many issues. Especially where mom and dad almost divorced because one was super strict and the other one would give Amanda what she wanted so she would leave them alone.
Amanda played us all, most of the time. She'd act all sweet and nice when she wanted something from you and as soon as she got it, the things she would say were astounding. Broke me down to tears more than a few times when I was younger. There was also the stealing of our stuff, eating food like it would go bad tomorrow. Sadly the lying hasn't changed. Amanda definitely has her own perception of reality and it's not always the true reality.
I can only imagine how bad Amanda would have been if she had grown up in a different home.
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07-14-2016, 04:12 PM
That is very sad.
I think I turned out pretty well since my parents raised me, but I know for a fact I'd be way worse off had my egg donor raised me.
I am sorry that she's done that to your family, I can't imagine how awful that must be.  My egg donor wasn't all that stable either. When I was a baby my egg donor tried to take me from my parents to "show her friends". She went to my daycare center and asked if she could take me. The daycare obviously said no and they contacted my parents and they were all like, "WTF. Seriously?"
I'm glad my parents adopted me though I think I inherited my mental health issues from either my sperm donor or my egg donor and in our family mental illness is frowned upon because it isn't understood. My parents understand, but are the black sheep of my mom's family, so it kind of works out.
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07-14-2016, 04:46 PM
Mental disorder is definitely not taboo in my family. My Aunt obviously, three of the four kids we know about have bipolar, or schizophrenia, or some combination of both. My Uncle, (mom's older brother) has PTSD from Vietnam and there was the brain tumor as well. We're pretty sure it runs in my mom's family.
Dad's family, well, I have to worry about the Alzheimer disease. My dad's brother has full blown dementia courtesy of Alzheimer and my dad is a genetic carrier. Been meaning to get tested for it to see if I am a carrier as well. Oh joy.
So hungry right now! We are talking about getting Jersey Mike's for lunch since one of the ladies here has never had and we are finally close to one at this new office.
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07-14-2016, 05:26 PM
I think it's good when a family is more open about mental health issues.
My family doesn't have very much mental health history, but I don't know if that's because really no one in my family has mental illness or if it's because they get shut up when they try to talk about it.
I think it's a combination of both. I am diagnosed with schizophrenia but it's so misunderstood in my family because no one in my family has that diagnosis and no one really understands it very much because I guess it doesn't run in my family.
Ooh! What kind of food do they serve at Jersey Mike's? We got a Jersey Mike's recently in my town and I've been curious about what it is.
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07-14-2016, 05:43 PM
Sandwiches, very yummy sandwiches. They are an East Coast sandwich shop that has moved west. They are a bit expensive, so worth it though. Everything is sliced right in front of you as far as the meat and cheese goes. They even do hot sandwiches, steak and hoagie type stuff. Yum.
Now I am even hungrier and my abs hurt from the gym today. Dying.
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07-14-2016, 05:50 PM
I don't think anyone in my family has a mental disorder but my significant other's grandmother who is over the age of 90 does have dementia. But I don't know if that is just because of old age or if it is genetic
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07-14-2016, 05:54 PM
Possible a combination of both, Symphony.
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07-14-2016, 05:58 PM
That makes sense *nods* I read somewhere that a decent percentage of people develop dementia when they get really old, and maybe there is a greater chance of it if someone already has family members who have dementia
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07-14-2016, 06:31 PM
Much like any other organ in the body time does a number on how they function. Not sure why we don't look at brains the same way we look at the liver, lungs, or any other organ for that matter. They all have the potential for going screwy on us.
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